| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/18/2007 11:52:10 AM | I originally came in here looking for a drummer . What better place to look for a musician than in a singles site ? lol So far I've had a few hits , but I've also become addicted to these forums ..lol I think that those of us who have partners , may have a different perspective on various topics presented here , and we can add to the fire. I see the forums section , not so much as a dating area , but more of a social area where people express opinions on various topics, and responses ensue. It's interesting to see how people think of what other people think . As the world turns ! lol I'm also selfish .. it makes ME feel good if I can help someone through their problems.   | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/18/2007 12:16:49 PM | Here is a new "twist" for you folks! Should the day ever come that I have found my "longterm" fishy, I would most likely remove myself from the pond! The friends that I have made know who they are and we know how to get in touch with each other outside of POF. Please don't get me wrong. I just would like to be too busy living life to be behind my puter as much as I is!  | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/18/2007 12:20:35 PM | | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^ i like that reply kitkat ,i would probally do the same and try to spend as much time with my new fishie as i possibly could and talk to my friends via other ways but hey that is just how i feel and has no bearing on what others choose to do . | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/18/2007 12:22:40 PM | | I come for the forums and to check on some of the meets & greets that I like to attend to stay connected with some friends. I found great advice in some of the Health forums as I'm going through some medical issues at the moment, learned alot so it's very helpful. It is stated in my profile, very clearly that I'm with someone so I'm not hiding it. All in all, it's just a form of entertainment, just like any other chat room on the internet I guess? | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/23/2007 1:26:07 PM | I agree with GCG...except I am not going through any medical issues but I really like the information you can find in the forums....
I have also clearly stated I am Not Single/Not Looking and that I met my fishie and also, I think its a good thing to let people know, as well, single people, that this site can and does work.
And I wish everyone who is looking on here finds their mate and happiness in a great relationship!!!! | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/23/2007 3:28:30 PM | I stay becuase I am addicted to the forums. Not to post, but to read what all of my friends post. Well sometimes I post.
It is fun to look at the thoughts of others, especially if you know them really well and can actually 'hear' them talking.
My little thrill I guess.
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/23/2007 3:36:19 PM |
The friends that I have made know who they are and we know how to get in touch with each other outside of POF.
Heh, that's another reason... yes, my friends I've made here can easily chat with me on the phone or through email... when I'm not at work.
While I'm stuck here "working" though, I can't access email, or most sites, but PoF works fine. So it's a handy way to chat when there's nothing to do. | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/23/2007 7:04:01 PM | Because I can .... sounds smarta$$ but that is the reality.
My partner took his profile off because he did not feel the need to have one anymore, but continues to read the forums ...
He trusts me, I have hidden my profile so I don't show up on searches ... and I have another 3 months at home and the forums are my friends when I am stuck for days at a time with a two year old as my only company ...
I crave adults and conversations and information outside of Dora, Diego, Blues Clues, Toopy and Binoo, Bob the Builder .... I could seriously go on ... | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/23/2007 8:21:18 PM | Probably to annoy the rest of us with their Dr Phil advice and those awful sappy self congratulatory posts to announce their unholy union.
Now you have a "DATING" site full of 'married/not looking' people who waste our time reading their drivel and profiles.
Makes sense to me.
Sort of like married women who go out to the bars just to get a little attention, or married men who hang out at strip clubs just to see what they're missing.
Ban them all, I say! | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/23/2007 8:43:04 PM | Me and my boyfriend actually met on this website and I am now mainly on here to keep in touch with some people and to post in the forums. To us POF is now jsut another way to meet new people. Ex. We went to the POF New Years Eve party in our area jsut cuz we could and thought ti would be fun. WE may have had each other but it's still a good way to meet new people.
And we both love the forums! | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/23/2007 10:05:28 PM |
Now you have a "DATING" site full of 'married/not looking' people who waste our time reading their drivel and profiles.
Well, if someone's searching for someone special, I'd assume they wouldn't be searching for marriage/taken people. So that's not really a problem.
As for "reading their drivel"... if you mean the forums, didn't one of the mods say that only something like 2% of members actually use the forums? :p | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/23/2007 10:59:11 PM |
Well, if someone's searching for someone special, I'd assume they wouldn't be searching for marriage/taken people. So that's not really a problem.
True...they wouldn't be. It is a problem because it wastes our time looking at profiles for people that turn out to be married or in a relationship. You don't expect to find that on a SINGLES site.
As for "reading their drivel"... if you mean the forums, didn't one of the mods say that only something like 2% of members actually use the forums? :p
Yes they did.... 2% of the overall membership uses the forums.... and people that are married/in relationships/pals have perverted the SINGLES site forums to their own uses in some cases...and those of us that want to use the SINGLES site forums to communicate with other SINGLES end up having to read a lot of drivel from judgemental, holier-than-thou married/not looking people.
It is a problem because it interferes with the purposes of people that ARE looking.
Heh, that's another reason... yes, my friends I've made here can easily chat with me on the phone or through email... when I'm not at work.
While I'm stuck here "working" though, I can't access email, or most sites, but PoF works fine. So it's a handy way to chat when there's nothing to do.
Then you get apparently "not looking" people bored at work who choose to misuse a SINGLES site for their own personal communications media. I assume most SINGLE people are here to talk to other SINGLE people, and not for the entertainment value someone "not looking" and bored at work might get from it. Lots of people can't get online to entertain themselves at work. Get over it. | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/23/2007 11:17:44 PM | REALITY sets in ..... face it ur on the forums to sh!t disturb but not willing to admit it
if u were happy with ur S/O what r earth u doing on here get out do something with each other and as for the more friends u have in here dammmmm i have my friends phone numbers ... pick up phone and call each other or is that not enough entertainment for ya ... what ever!!!!!!! truth hurts alot dont it | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/23/2007 11:52:47 PM | I'm going to have to agree with JeepRennie on this one. It is a MAJOR PITA to want to contact someone you think is single yet when you look at his profile you find out he is taken.
This NEVER happens on the paid sites...only this one and ONLY because it is free.
When the time comes and I do find my SO I will be taking myself off this website and I hope he does the same. My friends know where I live and my phone number and they can contact me that way. I don't need a forum to *stay in touch* with others. | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/24/2007 4:06:19 AM | REALITY sets in ..... face it ur on the forums to sh!t disturb but not willing to admit it
if u were happy with ur S/O what r earth u doing on here get out do something with each other and as for the more friends u have in here dammmmm i have my friends phone numbers ... pick up phone and call each other or is that not enough entertainment for ya ... what ever!!!!!!! truth hurts alot dont it
This may finally show your ignorance at an all new level ... there are three pages of reasons from people why they are still here .... my S/O lives in a different city, so on the weekdays I cannot "get out and do something" with him. The world is a large place ... and each persons circumstances are different. The truth does not have the capability hurt those who live truthfully, without malice. It does seem to have vindicatory placement in bitterbus riders lives ...
I am happy with my SO and baby I am still here ... and I am not going anywhere in the near future ... at no point in my post did I talk about being here for friends, my reasons were entirely different, but I believe fully in, to each their own. So I will let you think what you want and I hope one day you can see the world for the entirely large place it is, not the tiny petty place you seem to live in.
Also I have never ever ever sh!t disturbed on any forum ever, I have added thoughts where I think I could, and in other forums called out the sh!t disturbers and told them to take it elsewhere. This may be the meanest or rudest post I ever have ever wrote but with reason. You seriously need to think before you post some of this stuff Joy.
Edited to add: It's a free site ... such is life ... but man what a way to wake up this morning ... | |
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