| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/26/2007 8:45:01 AM | Woww, I have read all 104 posts and it seems to have gone full circle with a few side trips but the general opion being we are here for the friendships we have developed over the years and the discussion boards and comments.
I will be on here well after we get married or until the Big Fish, the Creater of POF, Marcus changes the policy as to whom may participate on this site.
Lets not be critical and narrow minded and allow everyone to use this site as they see fit.
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/26/2007 8:56:11 AM | I just checked in the mirror and...yep, that's me alright. I know I don't look my age, neither do you come to think of it.
Marco or whoever wouldn't be able to block or ban them, they would just lie anyway.
To quote one woman who recently emailed me:
"Why are all the men on this site Married?"
You will find this same question in a million female profiles.
Guess.
The married men are looking for a little action on the side and don't want to risk being seen at a club or bar hitting on women. This is safe/r and anonymous, so they employ the scattergun technique to approach (annoy) as many women as possible till they get a nibble.
You don't have to be as smart as me to figure out how this f##ks it up for the rest of us.
But of course you are right.
I won't be on this site for long.
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/26/2007 9:21:23 AM | SWO, we can throw him a Going Away and Don't Come Back Party!!! Don't let the door hit you where the good lawd fit you!!! Asta La Fuego!!! Oh ummm sorry,
So yes the consensus is that most would stick around after hooking up with someone because of friendships. Here is a question, should people who are couples stop going out to places that are considered meat markets because they are unavailable?
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/26/2007 9:33:44 AM | To quote my own pervious post...
Is it really necessary to make an entire group of people feel completely unwelcomed to something that we've all really enjoyed being a part of?
@Dante:
SWO, we can throw him a Going Away and Don't Come Back Party!!! Don't let the door hit you where the good lawd fit you!!! Asta La Fuego!!! Oh ummm sorry,
I think this is equally uncalled as the orignal posts earlier... to single out a single person, and give the same point of view as the thread originally implied, that many of us are trying to change the views of... | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/26/2007 9:49:07 AM | Yes, well.
Oddly enough, I heard about this site from some married guys who told me this site was AWESOME! I know them to be players.
So, I asked some of the young chaps at the University who are much more adept at this online business than I, and they laughed at me and siad don't waste your time.
It seems both views are correct.
Enjoy your social club or whatever... | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/26/2007 10:08:34 AM |
I think this is equally uncalled as the orignal posts earlier... to single out a single person, and give the same point of view as the thread originally implied, that many of us are trying to change the views of...
^^^ @justastudent, you are one of the few, that when u post i am usually in agreement with what u are saying, this time however it makes me sad in the pants, to have to disagree.
this poster that we are talking about comes accross as the most arrogent, insulting induvidual i have ever had the misfortune to read. having said that, i have sat back and chose to ignore his posts, until this point, and let me tell ya, they are all the same. looking down on us from mount intelligence, posting like we are a school of dumbasses, well at some point enough is enough. and yes i probably should email him privately, but i dont want to taint my mailbox. besides i highly doubt he would even accept emails from an idiot like me.
so count me in when he starts his goodbye thread, i will be the first in line to wish him nothing but tons of happiness, as it is obvious from all his posts that at heart he is a very unhappy man.
One chap shows rudeness so we have to as well???????Let him be in his world. We can live harmoniously in ours !!!
^^@ kitkat, when he is insulting our entire pond the answer would be yes.
you can spank me in brantfor k ? 
like i said before i stay here, because it is the social outlet i choose to be in, i could go out, and meet people, but this place is way more entertaining.  | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/26/2007 10:37:31 AM |
they have friends still on the site and still partake in the forums or events ... thats about it ... anything after that , who cares
That is my reason, I didnt meet my boyfriend here, but he knows that I am still on here, I have a couple friends here and love reading and commenting on the forums.  | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/26/2007 10:40:02 AM | K. My turn.
This is a Dating Site. Last time I checked the whine on here is, you are Dating, go away.
Basically some people want less work for more sack time, and would really appreciate not having to compete with the success of others when they are being judged on thier own merits.
Hmmm... Not self serving at all. Nope, nope, nope.
So, it sounds like some people want PoF to be a hook-up site. If that's the case, they need to join Lava Life and get laid. Otherwise just adjust to the fact that some of us are Dating. Hmmm, that would be the point of the site. Can you imagine a site for Singles, where the point was to stay single? How long would that last??? Now, if people were in a monogamous relationship and still on here, whithout benefit of a trip to the Testimonials Thread, that might be valid grounds for complaint.
But while I'm DATING I have no problem being on a DATING site. The reasons are irrelevant. Perhaps I just like clicking on the ads and earning revenue for the people that make this site possible. Certainly a little gratitude would not be out of order. | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/26/2007 11:46:54 AM | OK... deep breath.....
After reading aalhazzred's latest post, in which he's provided a more detailed definition of who he feels doesn't belong on this site, I'm going to agree with him.... those players who are here for a bit on the side, and are not truthful in their profile or their conversations with others, are a detriment to the site... those who set out to manipulate and deceive often destroy someone's ability to trust.... that makes it much more difficult for those who are here for the right reasons.
As to the people who have met their mate here, and are open about that in their profiles and posts, I don't think these are the people he's talking about when he suggests they don't belong here....
Perhaps I'm misreading, but I think what he's said in his last post is that the players in here are making it more difficult for the genuine... and I'll agree with him on that point. | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/26/2007 12:12:11 PM | @OP
Yes this is a dating site. Some of us are dating, while others are are in the 'just meeting' stage and yet others are 'still looking'. Even if some of us have found a mate, we have also found friends, both male and female. We enjoy their posts in the threads and look forward to seeing them at PoF functions.
@aalhazzred. This is a site for married folk? You signed on cause your 'married friends who are players' told you to? Wow- you are a player? You b!tch at us because we are not players? I imagine you might find what you are looking for off of this site because you certainly seem very frustrated that you are not dating.
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/26/2007 5:28:37 PM | But no, you have to hang out on a DATING site to bore us and waste our time.
Thanks so much for your selfishness.
So are you suggesting that we should restrict the forums to JUST single people looking for a mate? Well that would be against the rules.
And now a quote from the "Ontario Forum Rules"
Posting:
A) No *Thread may exist designated exclusively for Response from a specific Gender, Ethnicity, Orientation, Religion, Public, etc. Such a Thread will be deleted. The entire Concept of a *Forum is for anyone to post their Opinions and Thoughts, providing they are On-Topic, on any Threads he or she sees fit.
As an Example:
...This is a Question ONLY for the Men to... = No Good!!!
...This is a Question for the Men to... = Is OK!!!
Further, any Threads or *Topics that cause a similar Type of Polarization may also come under Review on a Case by Case Basis .
Ok, well then maybe you are excluding the forums and focusing on the "profile" side of the site. Under options for what we are looking for, we have " Long Term, Short Term, Dating, and Intimate Encounter", 4 "dating" definitions. BUT we also have "Hang Out, Photo Exchange, Talk / Email, Friends, Other Relationship (which could go both ways) and Activity Partner (tennis, anyone?) or 6 options.
So out of our available options 60% are for non-dating. But besides that, why, on a public forum, would you want to exclude anybody's opinion?
dating site?
don't be silly, this is for married folk to plan card parties.
Or it's a site for people to meet other people, electronically or in real life, for whatever reason.
see if you can guess why the men outnumber the women 10 to 1 on this site?
Guessing because there are more men looking to hook up with women than women looking to hook up with men?
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/26/2007 8:21:35 PM | Really enjoyed reading this thread!! Debate is what forums are for after all.
My own .02 cents is this. Married people hang out with married people and singles with singles. The "birds of a feather" concept.
Since that isn't likely to happen, I will say that I really appreciate those profiles that put up a picture of themselves as a couple. I need to look no further unless I am simply interested in a bit of backround on a particular person as opposed to their relationship status. I see it as the internet equivalent of someone wearing a wedding band or engagement ring.
Where I find this really handy is for POF parties. I've been to a few POF events to hopefully meet a couple of ladies only to find out that they were already taken. A little discouraging when one goes to one only to find out that quite a number are not single at all. This would have been easily avoided if there was a visual clue on the site signifying their current relationship status. I read a lot of profiles and can't remember what each one said but a picture of a couple is much easier to remember.
As a single, one of the reasons I frequent a dating site is that I avoid the potential problems of hitting on someone's girlfriend or wife.
Do us singles a favour by signifying your unavailabity through a picture with your SO. | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/27/2007 5:14:12 AM | | ^^^^ even if there is no photo with your SO.....there is the spot where you state whether you are married, single, not single/not looking etc. If someone is clear in this area and in their profile that they are taken, then I would think that should be enough. Sure, a picture with your SO is very clear...if you choose to do that....but surely when someone is interested in a photo they see of someone....with meeting them and perhaps dating in mind......they also look at the person's profile..... | |
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| why do some people stay on a dating site when they have met a mate ??
Posted: 1/27/2007 3:38:41 PM |
Sorry , but is that a girl boat or a boy boat ? I'm a single male and didn't want to look any further and if your a female , will you be wearing that boat suit to the next POF party ??
The picture was posted to specifically weed out those who (1) don't know that boat's are usually a "she" (2) no longer can see that I am sitting in the tiller position.
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Posted: 1/27/2007 4:03:43 PM | It would be a lot easier if your name started with TAKENGIRL123 or NOTLOOKING- GIRL123
It is getting a little tough to weed through the masses to find single people, and I do get the point of some of the posters here. A lot of the people attending POF parties now, more than a year ago, are couples, which means it's not really a singles event, right? I get that people have formed "friendships" off the site, and the forums can be fun, but at the end of the day it is a singles dating site, not a cliquey social club where a group can join together and really abuse someone en masse (it happens - a lot). If you are single here, what is fun about attending a POF event with couples and and an on-line clique that excludes everyone from their little group? And for the record I do attend a lot of POF events, but usually end up dancing with the girls I came with because of reasons stated above. At the last event, I approached 3 men and ALL were with someone. So much for a singles event! I was so embarrassed by that time I left. I'm happy for those who have met someone, but there is no reason to attend singles events whose sole purpose if for singles to meet other singles. Post on the forums, meet off-line for dinner, but leave the singles events to the singles please! Just remember when you were single and how it felt, andput yourself in the shoes of current singles and respect their feelings on the topic, is all anyne asks. | |
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