| Define clingy
Posted: 1/27/2007 12:00:25 PM | Define clingy?
Well I looked the word up in the dictionary and this is what I found:
Clingy=players move on.
I am clingy. If I like someone I want to be there for me and for him. I want to spend as much time as possible with each other. I would like to talk on the phone (if it's a long distance relationship) as much as possible. The bad part about being clingy is if you have a jealousy streak (in which I have as well). Clingy and jealousy. OMG!!! But that being said. I do believe in alone time for each other. Not everybody is the same or has the same interest. Let each other broaden their horizons. Meet new friends (of any sex). Hang out with friends (of any sex). I know myself in my last relationship I wished he would have gone out with the boys (even to a strip club). Go out and hang with the boys. Where does my jealousy come into play?? If talking to another girl and he doesn't mention me. Other than that my clingliness and jealousy doesn't show the bad side of the two.
Is it so wrong to want to show and be with the one you like (love)?? | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/27/2007 5:08:35 PM | For me clingy is when the one wants contact more than the other full stop. I have been the clingy one and I have had clingy ones that have freaked me out. It all comes down to equality of feeling. I think maybe there are not many more difficult things in life than trying to control yourself when you know you want more than the other person, and don't you just feel like the biggest heel when the other one wants to contact you more than you do them?
It's a problem - I'm not sure I have ever had an equal relationship!! | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/28/2007 9:04:34 AM | Hi upallnite,
I think you misunderstood.
There is a time and place for "clingy". All men/women are different.
I am myself at all times. Let me say I have his attention all the time. When your dating, until a special something is established between two people, "clingy" should be backed off.
Like I said, we are all different. I see him out of the corner of my eye watching me...that is "clingy" without touching.GL | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 11/27/2007 12:07:54 PM | | Sometimes "clingy" can be misinterpreted. To me clingy is when someone is constantly pressurising you, wanting to know where you are, what you are doing, who are you with etc etc and always ringing to check up on you. Ringing or texting/emailing someone quite often does not necessarily mean they are clingy,they can be friendly and interested in you without being defined as needy and clingy. It depends in what style they do it, you can always tell how they behave and how they present themselves if they are clingy needy or just interested in you. My friends contact me every day and its nice to have that contact. I like to speak with my man as much as possible but there is a balance and sometimes i appreciate that he needs his space too just as i need mine. There needs to be that balance for both of you. Contact as much as you feel is right between you but dont over do it. Let a bit of space in between sometimes so that you can appreciate each other more. Then treasure the times you spend together and enjoy! | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 11/27/2007 1:47:15 PM | clingy, you spend 8 hrs together on a date, you **** like bunnies for three hrs, you leave, and you get six phone calls in 15 minutes after your gone. All needing assurance.
Clingy, and single soon after | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 11/27/2007 4:51:58 PM | | to some guys, a gal calling him twice within a week is clingy. Trouble is you can't tell and they dont tell you. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 11/27/2007 7:05:18 PM | | Okay but could it be that she was spending so much more time with you Cause she wanted a relationship that was more serious then you were ready for?? | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 11/27/2007 7:41:52 PM | | To clingy.... A woman that has to be with you 24/7 (24 hours a day, 7 days a week). Even with you have to go to the bathroom. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 11/27/2007 7:59:25 PM | clingy's like: time to change my name. my number. my email. my address. ...and act out a death just in case in front of five or ten witnesses that she knows.
a hint is he'll stop calling you back within a minute or so. if you text, call or stop by more than once a day you're pushing your limits unless you're having sex daily. there's some kinda weird formula or ratio pertaining to this. but if you're pogo stickin' it daily, clingy becomes grayer and grayer. remember: playing with his dingy means more allowable clingy. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 11/27/2007 9:34:42 PM | | At first I was going to say "clingy" is when she wants more contact (physical, emotional, communication) than I do. But really, an earlier poster was on the right track -- it's when she's demanding those things as reassurance that "We're OK". At that point, she's making me feel bad for not giving enough of myself, and you know what? I don't like being with someone who makes me feel bad. I can be comfortable being with someone 24/7, and I have been for years on end (literally 24/7, working from home together), but if I went out grocery shopping and she had to call to make sure I wasn't doing something I shouldn't be -- that's clingy. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2008 5:58:23 PM |
For me clingy is when the one wants contact more than the other
That's my view of what "clingy" is too. Some women use the term "clingy" to describe men who are more interested in a relationship than they are. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2008 6:40:44 PM | Clingy:
The absolute need to be insinuate yourself into every single aspect of your bf/gf's life, leaving room for nothing else but you. Clingy often travels with its best friend needy, together they pretty much remove any chance for a normal, stable relationship where both people can be happy, as well retain their identity. Will usually progress to the next stage, also known as controlling.
Symptoms include:
- Constant calling/e-mailing/text messaging.
- Constant questioning of your bf/gf's where abouts
- The need to gradually (or not so gradually) ween your bf/gf off of their hobbies, friends, and family so as to limit amount of time they waste on activities not centering around you.
The are plenty of others of symptoms but the above are a few of the obvious red flags. | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2008 7:29:03 PM | | Clingy is someone who never has anything new to bring into the relationship because they spend ALL of their time IN the relationship... It is ridiculous to expect one person to fulfill all of your needs for emotional, intellectual, and physical stimulation... (For example: Do not drag your guy along to help you pick out a new pair of shoes if he hates shopping... Take a girlfriend that might actually enjoy it...) | |
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| Define clingy
Posted: 1/17/2008 7:44:00 PM | original poster,
in my view the only absolute definition of clingy that can be made, is emotional neediness that oversteps the tacit boundaries of the partner's comfort zone. for all of us this is different; but for most of us, work is not to be interrupted except in case of emergency. some are quite happy to be with their partner at all other times, but many others find a loss of personal identity if they have to forsake their normal activities to satisfy their partner.
when choosing a potential partner, i find it is wise to gauge their time committments outside of work, and match these committments to your own. if you both immensely enjoy each others' company, then the normal frivolities we all engage in can be dispensed with to allott for more time together. but since most of us find hobbies when we are single, and many of them stick once we have found a partner, i think it is safe to assume that if you are more or less as busy as the person you are considering, you wont stifle each other. hope this helps. | |
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