| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 5/31/2007 7:56:33 AM | It depends on the ex., but if I was on good enough terms with them to answer the phone and they were in real trouble, I'd probably come help out.
Now, if I've decided to cut myself off from them completely, and don't answer e-mails or phone calls, then they're SOL because even if they are in trouble I'll never find out. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 5/31/2007 7:58:05 AM |
I would help out with bad luck but not lack of planning. Poor planning is forgivable but no planning doesn't mean I need to rescue.
I think thats close to what I would say. I'm not going to 'rescue' an ex who ran up her credit cards buying crap. On the flip side, if she was in a serious car accident and was in the hospital, and asked me to stop over and feed the pets, I probably would (wouldn't want them to starve), and would probably send flowers and a get-well card to the hospital. The first is more being 'used', the 2nd is just compassion. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 5/31/2007 8:26:13 AM | I've stayed on speaking terms with my ex, and have helped her out a bit, lent her money, gone to the shop for her when she was ill, been a sympathetic ear when she was down and offered advice.
But I have also been on the other side of the coin, where I just wasn't in the mood for any of her crap (she has a habit of over dramatising things and gets herself worked up into a real state over nothing), and just ignored her constant phone calls (7 or 8 at a time, one after the other - every time the answer phone came on she just hung up and tried again, and if it wasn't the house phone, it was my mobile) because I wasn't feeling too well and just couldn't handle her.
It's a tricky question. There are times when yes, I would, but also times when no, I wouldn't. Depends on the situation. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 5/31/2007 6:00:23 PM | | I have manys the time. Theres only a couple who can burn in hell. Most, I would and do help. Why be an angry creep? The relationship isn't working, but there's no reason to wish them run over by a Mack truck. I really often wish with a little more enlightemnet, one out of several of them would see the love and come back, but they don't usually. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 5/31/2007 6:04:17 PM | Yes I do. I only have one ex that truly irritates me, all the time, even 10 years later. :)
But the others I would and actually have recently. They help me out too. Life is more peaceful this way. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 5/31/2007 6:05:48 PM | | I make sure that I am still there in time of need for my Ex if it arises. The reason I look at it this way is that she is the mother of my children. So, if she is in need then without question I will help so it doesn't affect them in any negative way. We have maintained a strong bond as parents and friends so I know she would be there for me too if the situations came about. | |
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Joined: 9/27/2006
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 5/31/2007 6:44:27 PM | | I've always been on good terms with my ex's... I still talk to them on a regular basis we've become friends. I've even lent them money. I guess it depends who burned the bridge. I mean if you cheated on them would you really expect them to help you? | |
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Joined: 5/28/2007
Msg: 235 | |
| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 5/31/2007 6:49:19 PM | Yes, I would.........
Just because a relationship doesn't work out doesn't mean that there was once LOVE there.......My ex and I help each other all the time........
We Love each other, but we are not IN LOVE with each other.......
there is a bigggggggg difference.......
And he DOES get on my last nerve sometimes, but still, if he needed my help or vice versa, we would be there.....
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 5/31/2007 11:38:41 PM | | Well i know for a fact that I would, because I was put in that situation, and he and i were on okay speaking terms as well untill he posted a blog that really hurt my feelings and 2 days later he called crying with no place to stay and I instantly let him stay here for a night or so untill he could get a perminant place. To me it was instinct this is a person you use to love, and if it was truly ever love you'd never want to see harm come to that person,anger,pain,all that goes away when you realize that they need your help. Sorry to say it but sounds like you were dating a total scum bag! | |
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Joined: 12/4/2006
Msg: 237 | |
| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 6/1/2007 12:58:57 AM | i help my ex all the time. and i know its cause i still have love for her
i helped her so much that i geve her a ride to her new bfs house the other day
do i need help? | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 6/1/2007 2:29:00 AM | | Yes, absolutely! Remember, your ex was your friend once and just because things didn't work out doesn't mean you should be left to fend for yourself if you need help. Anyway, I would help. You'ld probably have to hear me grumble,..but I would help. We owe it to each other. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 6/9/2007 6:27:15 AM | There is a reason shes an ex.
Its not healthy to hang around and be there for her when she chose the highway, when I needed her most to help me get through with my brain tumour.
I did that alone, she can do the rest alone.
If it was a serious medical emergency or some other disaster, sure.
For everyday stuff, get lost.
Been used, abused and dumped so not until hell freezes over for at least a week and God declares himself to be a Gay Landlord just laughing his little rocks off at us down here.
Would that be clear enough to anybody about my intents regarding my ex. wife?
Mick. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 6/9/2007 7:54:54 AM | | If he had of called you at 1am in the morning stranded what would your reaction have been? For me it would probably depend on the situation. If she got a flat somewhere then possibly. If she ran out of cab money from drinking in the bar all night say, then no. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 6/9/2007 8:08:32 AM | | You know what? As many times as I've been put through the wringer, hung out to dry and pushed under the Mack truck by her...I still rescue her irresponsible butt from time to time. But, ONLY when the help she needs could directly impact my kids' lives in some way. Usually, she needs help with her vehicle; either she runs out of gas, or requires a jumpstart. I simply have a much larger sense of compassion than I should. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 6/9/2007 8:40:17 AM | | i personnaly might help my ex depending on which ex it is. i mean one time i dated a person who ignored me and left the scene whenever i came and this went on for the two days we dated till they AIM me saying they want to see other people. a month later the same person AIMs me asking for sex. if that person needed my help then i would only help if it's life threatening. for my other ex's i would be easier on. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 6/9/2007 8:49:10 AM | | Ok first I did not read all the thread...but I have been divorced for 14 years from my sons dad...we have been enemies and friends all this time, but he has also helped me when I have needed help for various reasons and have also helped him...this is with monetary, advice or just a friendly talk...I have been in jams where thank god he was my friend..and hell no i would never get back with him...in fact we are now sharing a home for the time being(yes all separate rooms, no way for that kind of relationship, lol...ooh yuck) | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 6/9/2007 10:13:31 AM | | My first ex wife, I probably would depending on the circumstances. My last ex wife I wouldn't. There is no point helping someone that can't or won't help themselves. | |
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Joined: 3/5/2006
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 6/9/2007 4:29:44 PM | | Ive had one ask me for help and I just ignored him rather than tell him no. No way in hell i would help him with anything. But there are some that i would definitely help | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 6/9/2007 5:06:11 PM | I do it all the time. One of them is always needing something. Usually accounting/legal help for one, a listening ear for one and a corporate function arm-piece for the other. I haven't heard from door #1 lately, but tax season is over. LOL  | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 6/9/2007 5:12:22 PM | Helped my ex out: he and his girlfriend lived in an apt. bldg that got burned out. They lost ppretty much everything and I gave him my old car. He was VERY grateful since he was starting a job which needed a car.
Don't look back,
Was glad to help.
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