Derps
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Joined: 2/23/2006
Msg: 76 | |
| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/18/2007 8:08:54 PM | | it would depend on the situation, if i wasnt lied to or cheated on then i would have no problem,human decency would still be there and i would help | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/18/2007 8:33:11 PM | | It would depend on my what ex it was, and what the situation might be. If I could justify the need of help, then perhaps I would. | |
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Tirkus
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Joined: 10/19/2006
Msg: 78 | |
| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/18/2007 9:32:57 PM | Hmmm If my ex said she was stranded by the side of the road in a secluded, dark and lonely area. Sure, I would race right down there ....
and splatter that witch all over the road. Then I would back up and slowly crush her skull. After that I would get out and piss on her bleeding corpse.
So that would be a no from me.
If I did do all that we still wouldn't be close to even. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/18/2007 9:46:55 PM | Yes, I have helped my X. I helped the first one move her stuff into her new place. The second I spent 6 hours of driving and working to repair her broken down car. And no, I got nothing in return, nor did I expect anything.
I prefer to stay on good terms, if possible. I can understand how some people couldn't, given the circumstances of their breakups. Both of mine have been amicable. We rarely talk to each other, but we can talk without animosity. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 80 | |
| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/18/2007 10:08:43 PM | Tirkus: ouch! I don't know if many women will be writing to you now...lol.
As for this:
No woman should have sex, unless she plans to be a single mom. Contraceptives are not fool-proof, and statistics reinforce these likely events Huh? What does this have to do with the OP's question? Us damn women should be more careful, guys can go do whatever they want...I missed where the OP said anything about being a single parent. You do know that men make babies too, right?
Anyway...if my ex was in the same predicament, I would help him out...but I would ask him if he has the money that he owes me, first. I wouldn't help him out unless there was a chance his life was in danger. Of course, the man didn't give me much consideration when he cheated on me, so....
As for the $20.00 thing...wow, if I wanted my ex to think I was a big loser and be glad he left my sorry, broke ass, sure. Money management can save you some shame. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/18/2007 10:26:53 PM | I would help an ex in need. I have done so in the past, & am currently doing it now. My ex just found out he has cancer. I am helping him through the the process. Even though he wasn't there for me when I went through my cancer scare or the surgery. If you have been a part of my life in some way I can't say no, unless you have stabbed me in the back. I believe in what comes around goes around. I try to be the best person I can, of course we all fall down at times. Just because someone doesn't help you doesn't mean you shouldn't help others. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/18/2007 10:38:20 PM | MUCH appreciation!
Just for the record.. someone made a comment about 'maybe he didn't remember the call'.... he does. *L* He called today wanting to know if we were still 'good'.
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/18/2007 10:54:06 PM | | If they really needed you.............as long as it wasnt a ploy to get me back, then of course I would. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/18/2007 11:02:00 PM | For my X........hmmmmmmm I have had to keep erasing this post because it sounded way 2 nasty, but basically the ONLY thing i would do for my X ughhhhhhhhhhh errrrrrrrrr the answer is NOTHING! We are X;s for a reason, I wouldn't Pee in his ear if his brain was on fire, so the old saying goes! I would NEVER EVER ask for ANYTHING at all from him either.....except that he stay as far away from me and my life as humanly possible! My 2 cents, have a great day everyone!  | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/18/2007 11:32:41 PM | | I not only would help my ex even after all she did wrong. but have helped pay her car off just this year to help her out .even though she has a man in her life. you all should let go of your bitterness.it only eats you up | |
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Tirkus
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Joined: 10/19/2006
Msg: 87 | |
| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/18/2007 11:40:55 PM |
Tirkus: ouch! I don't know if many women will be writing to you now...lol.
Not many women wrote to me before. lol
A lot of posters suggested they wouldn't piss on their ex. But I certainly would. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/19/2007 12:42:40 AM | OK then, at the risk of sounding bitter................
i would love to help him out....... "HOW DID HE GET IN"   | |
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| RE: Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/19/2007 12:45:49 AM | Waking me up to drive them somewhere? Bwahahah. Not even if we were on good terms.
Nah. Depends on how big of scum they are/were.
I have actually gave rides to Xs before. Many times. I can't recall turning down any chances to help. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/19/2007 12:46:39 AM | I'd have gone got the 'phone book for you and given you a list of taxi/break down company numbers.
If you had no money for the taxi I guess I'd have had to come to the rescue, because I'd not see anyone stranded and refuse their help unless I was afraid for my own safety.
But I don't think you should have asked him... take emergency money and break down company phone numbers unless you are going to be within walking distance of home... | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/19/2007 6:38:59 AM | Lovely2Bme,
I didn't see the reason why you found yourself stranded at 1am? This was the "whole story" I was referring to before, not the specifics of your relationship with the ex...
I have a hard time understanding how you could have access to a phone and not be able to call a taxi or tripleA? Even with no cash, surely you have a credit card.
Calling an ex instead of handling your situation sounds like you were looking for attention from him. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/19/2007 7:04:20 AM |
Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Sure...as long as it's not something that would entangle me in their lives. Nothing involving loaning money.
Stranded on the highway...sure.
Need a ride to the Dr.'s...sure.
Child is hurt...absolutely (no problem here. chances are I like the kid more than the ex  )
Want me to give love advice...bite me.
Needs money...get a job.
Dead body in the trunk....oops...I've said too much.
I can't complain...After me and one of my ex's had a horrible split up, I got sicker than a dog and I had just moved into my new place, so I called her up to get the number to my Dr.
Ultimately though, I would encourage my ex to go elsewhere. I'm not saying I'd leave her in the cold, but I'd ask her if she needed the number for a cab or something.
There is very little an ex can offer that isn't available from a complete stranger.
I think the best thing to do is take your ex out of your phone directory and learn how to handle situations without them. Once or twice is understandable, but after that, then I'd start questioning motives.
Now I have had ex's where we stay friends, and we discuss everything from career advice, money tips and love advice. Again though, both of us have long since moved on with our lives and we're rekindling our former friendship...not love interest. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/19/2007 7:07:25 AM | Yes I would and I have and vice versa.
As for the comment "No one should be without $20.00 in Canada" - Give me a break. Bit of an elitist?? Too bad not everyone is as lucky or as you would probably say 'good with their money' as you. I'm a single mom and it's hard and there are times when no I DON'T have twenty dollars on me. Shit happens.
As for the other comment about 'surely you have a credit card.' Geez is this place full of elitists?? I don't have a credit card and I certainly don't want one.
And to top it off, after refusing to help her he calls and asks her if they're still 'good'. Yep, there's a keeper.
It doesn't matter WHY she was stranded - the fact is she WAS and he was closest and he could have helped her. THAT is human decency, not doing something because it's easy or convenient, but because it's the right thing to do.
And this bit about 'surely there was someone else she could call'. Maybe not. I've recently moved back to Toronto and none of my family lives here and most of my close friends are FAR.
Sorry people, not everyone lives in Eden. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/19/2007 7:16:13 AM | I believe that the answer to that question, begs another question, are you happy with the person that you are?
Do not forget the past, learn from it, and learn to forgive.
If you have the resources, you have an obligation to yourself to try and help others, even if all you can offer is a kind word, a smile or a hug, do it, you will feel better for it.
My first ex and I are friends, introduced her to her husband 20 years ago.
Anger, jealousy and hate are all useless emotions, they drain you not the other person, smile at them instead, be nice to them, it will drive them nuts. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/19/2007 7:22:21 AM |
I don't have a credit card and I certainly don't want one.
There's nothing wrong with having a credit card for "emergencies". This is a responsible attitude, not that of an elitist.
If you don't want one, that certainly is your choice -- but when you find yourself stranded you may realize that Eden is not such a bad place. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/19/2007 8:03:54 AM | Had I been the ex you called, I would have said get a taxi or walk. So what if there is ice on the ground, I have had to walk home through Ice and snow on many ocasions. Why should I spend my money on perol to pick you up when you could just phone a taxi? Even if you have no money, almost all taxi drivers will happily take you to a cash machine or hold an object of value untill you can pay them. My local taxi firm will let me leave my Jacket with them untill the morning when I can get some cash.
I would not go out of my way to help an ex unless it was a dire situation (or they were offering me one last fling! lol ) just as I would not go out of my way to help a stranger unless it was a dire situation. | |
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| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/19/2007 9:53:32 AM | darn you, crackedhalo, you cracked me up.
OK then, at the risk of sounding bitter................
i would love to help him out....... "HOW DID HE GET IN | |
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Naboo
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Joined: 1/15/2007
Msg: 100 | |
| Would You Help An Ex In Need?
Posted: 1/19/2007 10:33:49 AM | | I would help an ex out if I could because that is the type of person I am but by helping them out it does NOT mean we will be getting back together or having any type of intimate contact together. | |
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