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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/9/2007 3:42:49 PM | I agree that no one is "too busy" to call. I dated a man once that promised to call a certain night of the week, at a certain time, while away on business for a week (he was the one who brought up calling and the time btw). I can understand getting caught up in business and calling late, even a day late but he didnt bother to call the entire week. When he got back , I asked him why he didn't call. He was actually very put off, and angry that I,d even mention it saying he was busy, didn't have time.
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/9/2007 3:44:33 PM | I feel that in the dating dance the excitement and interest levels dictate whether a guy will call. And once again, I state that I believe in Man chase woman. Just as, my interest levels will dictate whether I would return that call. But, I certainly cant call back to see where this is going if a guy is lagging, or not showing me what it is to stay interested. Like a dance...say like the Tango, if a guy just sat down on the floor, or stood still, would the dance keep the same momentum, the passion level? Wouldn't your partner take your dragging feet as a non verbal Que that it may be time to get off the floor or seek a new partner. We want passion, attention, tenderness, and well if you are too busy, you are either giving your attention in another direction, or you dont have the passion, or maybe just not for me. I want passion in this life. I dont settle for the too busies-I'll get as bored as you are and wander off, but I most certainly will not stop Dancing. Dancing is fun, and if I have to dance by myself I will till someone can match that passion, and will Love to engage in the dance in tempo.
I'm sure you all get the point.
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/9/2007 3:44:41 PM | YES: I can be too busy for 8 hours (during work).
NO: Nobody is too busy for multiple days in a row. (my opinion)
However, don't forget that some people say "Too Busy" when they mean "Not Available". For two days after my divorce, I was "not available". When my brother died from drinking, I was "not available". If you find out you're going to lose your job of 15 years, you'll probably be "not available" for a few days. | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/9/2007 6:34:01 PM | | No not ever, it's a cop out! If I truly am crazy about that person, a team of wild horses couldn't keep me away from making the call. Of course some guys, me included ,can get wrapped up in something they are passionate about and lose track of time. | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/9/2007 7:46:47 PM | anenigma if a guy doesn't call HE's Just Not That Into You.
There's an interesting book recently published called "He's just not that into you" by Greg Behrendt.
I believe not calling is right there at the top of the list along with not asking out despite showing interest.
It's something i have always suspected/known but it's nice to get that validation (especially with all the games being played) and thus realization that i am not being paranoid 
Here's an excerpt:
"Many women have said to me, "Greg, men run the world." Wow. That makes us sound pretty capable. So tell me, why would you think we could be incapable of something as simple as picking up the phone and asking you out? You seem to think at times that we're "too shy" or we "just got out of something." Let me remind you: Men find it very satisfying to get what they want. (Particularly after a difficult day of running the world.) If we want you, we will find you. If you don't think you gave him enough time to notice you, take the time it took you to notice him and divide it by half."
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/11/2007 10:51:04 PM | Actually, it's not a different topic. If a guy doesn't call all that often (or at all) and gives you the "I'm busy" excuse, he could be trying to make it seem like he has a lot going on. That he has a life outside of trying to make you happy. Many women don't like men who "seem" to make them their entire world. If a woman says "call me" and the guy immediately says "okay!", and then does, that tells her that he jumps when she says jump - and that turns her off.
You said it yourself "I'm busy is an excuse".. If I ask a man to call me and he does that does not turn Me off..I can't speak for anyone esle here. If I ask a man to call and he is calling several days later bcz he is "so busy" I'm mostly likely already thinking it won't be going anywhere bcz he seem doesn't all that interested or jazzed.
If someone doesn't call bcz they feel it is "jumping" to show they like me and want to talk to me and I can sense that I 100% know it's going nowhere. If acting like it matters to you is a stretch..ugh..who wants a tug of war..Not me.
You opened your first comment with "tough" but I think if you disregard what all the ladies say here, instead of taking it under advisement, I think you will sabotage yourself. JMO | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/11/2007 11:15:36 PM | honest & simple answer?
Unless youre in Emergency type of work, there isnt any valid reason that youre "too busy" to call. EVERYONE can spare 4-5 mins from 8am to 10pm day to make a phone call, (not email, not text, not msn, whatever) phone and say "hi, was just thinking about you" to that special someone... otherwise they arent worth your time.
Ya, I know sounds harsh... oh well. | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/12/2007 10:22:28 AM |
anenigma if a guy doesn't call HE's Just Not That Into You.
There's an interesting book recently published called "He's just not that into you" by Greg Behrendt.
Thanks for the info, but I already read the book. I saw it in a bookstore, a woman was talking about how 'everyone' was buying it, and I thought to myself "do I need a book to tell me when a guy is into me" and answered to myself "Of course not" BUT I bought the book for amusement after reading an excerpt. I thought it was humorous, and light easy reading, BUT none of the content was new to me. Nonetheless, I enjoyed reading it and do still sometimes when I want a laugh!
You opened your first comment with "tough" but I think if you disregard what all the ladies say here, instead of taking it under advisement, I think you will sabotage yourself
Huh? You lost me?
Actually, I mostly agree with the ladies on here BUT more so the men, as I think men and women have different phone preferences, as a general rule. Men are more likely to use the phone for a purpose, women use it as a way to chat with friends.....GENERALLY SPEAKING, OF COURSE..
when I am into someone, no matter how busy in my insanely busy day, I will make the time to call them (I'm not a huge phone person, and I rarely initiate the calls with a guy, especially someone I'm just getting to know) BUT....no matter how busy I am, I will call someone I'm interested in. I just don't buy the 'Sorry, babe, but I've been working 80 since last week' excuse. That's just another way of saying 'I haven't had time to call you because YOU ARE NOT ON MY PRIORITY LIST, and I"M NOT THINKING "BOUT YOU" !!
that's my two cents!!
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/12/2007 12:12:28 PM | Hi..
the think about the "tough" was directed to the posters who's words I quoted..
He said he gets home from work tired and if he dsn't call "tough"
I agree with what you say,,,when dsn't call you it's cz you arent on thier mind, you aren't
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/12/2007 5:47:19 PM | I am a business owner and I am VERY BUSY....to say the least; however, if I am really interested in getting to know someone, I will call or send a text message just to say hello and wish them well during the day. There are times wherein I will just be too busy for anything and I will wait until the dust has cleared to call or return a telephone call.
I do try to put the man in my life first when it comes to communication. I believe once you two get to know each other, you kind of establish when it might be appropriate or a better time during the day to communicate. It's all about working together in paying attention to the subtle hints or requests of the other party and respecting boundaries. | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/12/2007 6:11:55 PM | I just gave a guy on here my number last night and he hasn't called yet. He's emailed back and forth a few times, but no call so far. If he doesn't call by tonight then I'm going to assume that he's not interested.
I don't waste my time with men who are not interested, no matter how interesting they may be to me. A huge attraction point for me is their interest in me. If that's not there then I'm out | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/12/2007 6:22:53 PM | | Sometimes I get very busy and may not be able to get back with someone right away...but generally within a day or two I can at least touch base with a quick thought. Many times I will let them know when i can talk and then keep my word by contacting them when i said. | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/16/2007 2:19:43 AM | WOW, I was pleasantly surprised to see how many of you guys say you wouldn't think of "not calling", if only for a couple of minutes to say "i'll call later when i'm not so busy". I personally have always had an issue with men who say they'll call and never do, yet they profess to be very interested in getting to know me. As we all know, the internet limits our capacity to really get to know someone thru email and messaging so it stands to reason we would want to talk on the phone instead of sending numerous emails. Thanks Black Knight for being one of those who "keeps his word"....we ladies appreciate it  | |
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Joined: 1/23/2007
Msg: 94 | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/17/2007 5:08:47 AM | He said he gets home from work tired and if he dsn't call "tough"
No, what I said was, "if you don't think being exhausted is a valid excuse, tough. It is."
There's a difference.
I agree with what you say,,,when dsn't call you it's cz you arent on thier mind, you aren't a priority.
And here you are assigning what you think is the truth to someone else's statements, when they are in fact telling you the truth. You're just choosing not to believe it.
When I'm dating someone, she is on my mind. All the time. Even when I'm vegetating on the sofa with my cat, fighting consciousness at 11pm because I got home from work an hour ago and still need to cook dinner but I'm too tired to move and kitty's already curled up. (Cats exhude a gravitational force that pins one to the sofa. It's a scientific fact.) My last conscious thought is usually "I should call X... damn, I still need to cook, too."
Next thing I know it's 2am and I'm waking up with a stiff neck - and I've neither called *nor* had dinner.
Thing is, I've told you my reason for not calling. You simply discard it and assign your own reason. In other words, you know me better than I do. And if you can read my mind like that, you need to be in Vegas working the poker tables, not poking around in my dusty ol' nog.
And yes, I have been chewed out for trying to call a woman one too many times. Speaking from experience, I'd rather lose a woman because I didn't call often enough than be handed my head because I called one too many times and now I'm an axe murderer.
And yes, I called it an excuse, when it's said in an effort to be. Sometimes it's an excuse, sometimes it's a reason - but excuses are valid, sometimes. They're meant to excuse an action by providing insight into what caused that action. That's why we call them excuses. The fact that you won't accept it (or even believe it) doesn't make it any less true. | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/17/2007 6:29:08 AM | Ya know..........it's a little hard to be 60 feet up on a scaffold carrying a 300 lb slab of concrete on your shoulder and to call MY DATE with my free hand,although I have already done that in the past.
Game ON BRUDDER.........................and
I'M Baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaackkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkkk IN da Houuuuuuuuuusssssssssse!LOL | |
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Joined: 1/12/2007
Msg: 98 | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 2/19/2007 4:12:37 PM | And the BS slinging gets old after awhile ... nobody is that busy that they can't take five minutes to say hello.
And I have to agree with previous posters who said, if he's interested, he'll call. If he isn't, he won't bother! | |
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