| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/18/2007 9:01:25 AM | | ^^ I have to second that thought. In my experience I want to say in reply to this:"Guys, when you dig a woman..when you are into her...are you ever too busy to call her?" NO WAY.. well, when a guy WANTS a woman, he is NEVER too busy to call. Doesn't seem to matter what he is doing at the time. | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/18/2007 9:08:28 AM | There isnt much practical justification for it...lol..but, stereotyping away...women arent nearly as practical as men, and they almost always will put realtionship issues ahead of anything else...for men, its usually their job...ive fallen into the trap of assuming that he must not like me much because he doesnt take the time to call/e-mail, ive learned that that two arent related in most mens heads, women see it as reaffirmation, men as a chore?...lol...and they are so focused on their jobs most of the time, and are great single processors, where women are better multitaskers?...
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/18/2007 9:09:46 AM | Honestly? No. There is never a day when I'm SO busy that I would not or could not call.
In the morning whe I'm having coffee, lunch time, dinner time, before bed...
Alway a few minutes here and there.
Of course, I may just not WANT to. | |
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B.Ann
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Joined: 5/23/2006
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/18/2007 9:47:04 AM | Too busy to call? Well, between 8AM-5PM, *possibly* yes - I do have a job, and they do pay me to work... At night, probably not (although, admittedly I have just 'crashed and burned' a couple of times on a bad 'on-call' week after being woken up all night long and then having to work all day).
Now on the flip side, IM's during the day... I've learned to be cautious when I'm in meetings. Last thing I need while in a conference room hooked up to a projector putting my laptop screen up on the wall is to have an IM pop up "I can't wait to make love tonight", when everyone in the room can see it.  | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/18/2007 11:14:56 AM |
Now on the flip side, IM's during the day... I've learned to be cautious when I'm in meetings. Last thing I need while in a conference room hooked up to a projector putting my laptop screen up on the wall is to have an IM pop up "I can't wait to make love tonight", when everyone in the room can see it.
hahahahaha
This actually happened to me before (i was the one in the meeting and got that type of msg)
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/18/2007 11:19:39 AM | I was supposed to go out for a first meeting tomorrow night with a guy I've been IMing with for a month (on and off). We didn't set a time or place. Last heard from him a week ago online. He's got my number, I don't have his. I emailed him last night "Haven't heard from you. Cancelled the sitter." Got back "Not sure why you cancelled, but okay." Replied with my reasons (sitter, no set time/place).
I'm positive it's a Mars/Venus communication thing. He's probably thinking everything's fine and would have called tonight/tomorrow and I'm going "Eh, he's moved on." Will I meet him? With my recent luck - probably not.  | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/18/2007 12:45:16 PM | ^Dbell, thats just wrong... especially given kids/sitter, one should know you can't leave it until the "day of" with no plans and expect someone to drop everything (I know I wouldn't). Especially someone with children. For me, unless someone literally is here in my town and its an impromptu "I'm going to Starbucks for coffee, if you want to meet now", I would think *myself* inconsiderate to not have something setup a few days in advance (ie, on Monday or Tuesday firming up plans to meet on Friday).
My first POF date we talked every day, we planned on Monday for Friday night... and yes, as it happens I got caught in a late (4:30PM) meeting, so I let her know (we were to meet at 6PM, close to her place - 30 mins from mine) I was going to be maybe 30 mins late (as it was I was only 15 mins late, and I was waiting for her when she got there). | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/26/2007 6:45:02 PM | Small update - Heard from him, he apologized, made plans to meet tonight. Gave me a time, said he'd get back to me Monday with the location.  Still waiting for that Monday thing. Cross that one off the list & back into the pond I go...  | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/26/2007 7:00:59 PM | I have been too busy to call or to return a call. For example, this week right now my boss is on holidays so I got stuck doing all my work plus his, so I've got the whole 14-16 hour days going on. If I'm really that into a girl, she's worth waiting until the weekend to call because some days, I don't even get to take a lunch break. If she absolutely must get a call at least once every day then I'm probably not that interested in her because I think that's too clingy, even if you've been together a long time.
Now, I can understand your point of view, but some times you get so focused on something, you forget to call... or sometimes making that 5 minute call can set you back by an hour because you can't focus afterwards... In my opinion, its as simple as this. If I'm interested, I'll call. If I'm too busy today, I might call tomorrow or the next day, but I will call. | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/26/2007 7:03:04 PM |
translated: too busy to call really means not interested enough to call - if he's still seeing you, he's interested in stringing you along for booty call, but no true/real interest
YEP....I totally agree! | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/26/2007 10:41:24 PM | I'm not a guy but I work in an environment that sometimes takes up a lotta time. I make sure not to forget things by taking breaks and putting things on my calendar so they will pop up and remind me to do things.
So, if you aren't stepping away from your tasks during the day, just to get a breather, try that. And I bet you will find you have a moment to send a text message or a hi how are you message or something.
I am not a phone person either but at work I have to be. Regardless, for the right man I could be his phone person.
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Joined: 9/9/2007
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/26/2007 11:15:45 PM | tell me this plse, i have been on 3 dates with ladies from here and the first 2 crashed and burned and the last first meeting date went well ..no i txt her str8 after date saying is was a pleasure to meet her and and i said i call her over weekend which i did but got answering machine.
then i got txt back saying she was away on buisiness for 3 weeks when i knw she just got back from trip as well, i am very keen on her and would like to go futher but now i don't knw wether i should call her to see how she is ..or let it go until she calls me ???
what is the best thing to do here ?? its driving me crazy ..
who calls who now hey thats the problem ..
alan | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/26/2007 11:18:31 PM | | There are some times where I just dont get a chance. Take yesterday for example, I got up at 8:00, had a shower and went to work. I didnt stop for lunch as I had a huge computer lab rollout and re-cable job that took all day. When that was finished I went straight into trying to get all my normal work for that day done so Im not swamped the following day. I finally left work at 1:15am and didn't take a break at all throughout that. I had literally no time to do anything I wanted. | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/26/2007 11:25:55 PM | | Depends on the time frame and the relationship. I have been under intense pressure at work where I shut the world out to concentrate and move forward. This is reserved for real emergencies. As a general rule, I call because I want to. Feeling obligated to do so is folly. A problem that can only get worse. | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/27/2007 7:33:18 AM |
I make sure not to forget things by taking breaks and putting things on my calendar so they will pop up and remind me to do things.
I'm thinking, Sherry, if I need to put my GF on my calendar to remind me (other than maybe a birthday or anniversary reminder - LOL), on a daily basis, then there's something wrong.
However, I will quote Zangie here:
women aren't nearly as practical as men, and they almost always will put relationship issues ahead of anything else...for men, its usually their job...i've fallen into the trap of assuming that he must not like me much because he doesn't take the time to call/e-mail, i've learned that that two aren't related in most mens heads, women see it as reaffirmation, men as a chore?
I'm not sure its necessarily a *chore*, but I think she's right in a lot of respects there... I mean, there were a few times in my last relationship, well... I'm on call every 5 weeks, and sometimes I *do* get woken up "umpteen" times a night, and if I don't get very good sleep a few nights in a row... there were a few times I just walked into my bedroom after work, jumped on the bed - and the next thing I knew was waking up at 2AM on top of my bed, still fully dressed...
... and then to talk to the GF the next day and feel, um... "accused" of not caring, didn't "think about her", etc, "because if you cared you'd call every day"... well, I'll just say that 'laying on a guilt trip' doesn't lend itself to healthy discussion or feelings. And I will say, it *really* makes me wonder when a situation like that, my "total exhaustion, passed out in 5 minutes fully clothed I was so tired" -- suddenly becomes about *her*, and how I obviously "don't care about *her*", etc.
I mean, taken to the extreme, if the guy was in a car accident and rushed to the emergency room, etc... wouldn't one think it would be pretty self-centered to have her accusing him of 'not caring' when he called the next day? Now, mindless, thats an extreme example... but, where does that line get drawn where if he doesn't call its about "you" vs. its just "life" catching up with all of us eventually now and then? | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/27/2007 7:45:32 AM | | day after day is an excuse but I have been stuck in situations where I have been too busy for a day or so... cause you are in ER or meeting gets pushed out and out...this does happen but happening repeatedly just means that you do not have time for that person in your life which could be viewed as a BS excuse... sound about right??? | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/27/2007 9:46:22 AM | | Does being too stressed count? Those times when you avoid calling becasue pressures, where ever they come from will make you sound despondant on the phone and project an image of not caring or making it seem like the call was another have-to and the ensuing low grade "discussion" about her importance in my life. So, sometimes the ability (time) to sit back and be focused for the call so it goes well . . . it's just not there. Sometimes it's easier - all the way around - to put it off until my head is clear and start the call with a sincere apology and then have a meaningful conversation. | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/27/2007 10:11:48 AM |
day after day is an excuse but I have been stuck in situations where I have been too busy for a day or so... cause you are in ER or meeting gets pushed out and out...this does happen but happening repeatedly just means that you do not have time for that person in your life which could be viewed as a BS excuse... sound about right???
Very true. I mean, life is full of "s**t happens" moments on occasion, but it certainly shouldn't be an often occurring thing.
I mean, a couple months ago some moron in our data center hit the "big red panic button" (the do not press unless its a 'dire emergency' button) on the wall, powered the whole damn place off at 3:30PM... our whole crew was pretty much on one big conference call until almost 2AM by the time everything was powered back up, fixing issues from things not being shut down properly, etc. (oh yeah, and that contractor that pushed the button "will never be allowed in any company facility ever again"!! ). Now, wasn't in a relationship at the time, and even if I was I would have emailed/IM'd her (or called on my cell) to say my day (and all night) hit *major suck* mode, LOL, but... there was a lot of time there "waiting" for them to power machines on too, so we could get on.
There have been times though where its just been no break, and while few and far between I would hope that there would be some understanding of the situation. I mean, one would hardly expect that a trauma surgeon thats in the O.R. for umpteen hours trying to save lives from a major pileup/accident to "drop everything" to suddenly walk away from a critical patient to call his SO because "she expects him to call every night".
There's reasonable reasons why one might not be able to call... if its a consistent thing though, yes, I would say its probably a lack of interest. | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/27/2007 6:51:41 PM | Here's what I think.... lol
If you are stressed out and in a relationship why isn't calling that person up to come over and snuggle you a way of de-stressing? Even if its a true sleep and cuddle date? Might get a nice foot rub or massage out of it.
I take my breaks but if you don't you are burning yourself out and not much good to anyone after enough of that. Take your damn breaks. And so what if you put, "call my honey" on your calendar? Make her your special little pink or blue post it note.
Reminds me of all the time I spent as a passenger when a man got lost and wouldn't stop for directions....
I worked for fifteen years without even getting bathroom breaks as a ortho nurse. Eventually you make time to pee cuz you don't want to burst your bladder or wet yourself. Your body reminds you.
Even so, I would insist on getting my breaks (in a closet if necessary) because the other folks who didn't weren't thinking clear without them.
There is always time for stuff. If you really want it.
pffft!
Sherry | |
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| A question for the Guys...Ever been TOO BUSY TO CALL?
Posted: 9/27/2007 6:57:42 PM | Yes but I only have a cell phone and I have no service at the present location
so i must make all my calls away from home and that time must be sandwiched between other things. But if it pertains to a date or something that I will be late or ??\
yes I DO CALL
and at times I do call while driving so | |
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