| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 2/23/2007 5:41:02 PM | | i prefer shy guys over overly-extroverted guys. i think most people are only shy at first. After some time. they become more open. | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 7/10/2007 9:45:36 PM | Shy varies with the setting, for me. I love to meet and break the ice at casual parties like some POF gatherings... we are all there to meet each other, chat, get to know, maybe getr a number or make a date....
... but in the rest of the "official dating world" I'm a little gunshy ... isn't asking someone to dance or to join them supposed to be a compliment? I've had a few too many flamethrower responses to just approach someone anymore | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 7/10/2007 10:23:28 PM | Well, I'm not what you call a self-starter. If I walk into a room full of strangers, I'll go over to my friends if they are there. I've asked out 4 women in 8 months. But I'm working on it.
But if I've been going to the same place for a month, I'll normally know at least half the people in the room: their names, their marital status, their job, favourite food, or song, how old they are. Heck, by that point, I know who's straight, gay and bi. I can also tell who likes who. And I have yet to go anywhere, even a bar, more than twice, where I'm not known.
Went out clubbing it about a week and a half ago, I'm on some guys camera. Hung out with him and his mates on the dance floor. Danced with 3 or 4 women. Didn't know a soul.
Point is: I probably won't approach a woman, but if she talks to me, she'll get a conversation going all night long. I doubt I'd ask for her number, but if she gives me hers, or takes mine, I will call, I will answer, and she can expect an hour-long phone call. I've had some calls for 4 1/2 hours. I probably won't take her hand, but if she takes mine, I'll hold her every time we're together, and not just her hand, too. I probably won't start the kiss, but if we start, I'll want to keep going for at least 2 hours, and every date after that. So, no, I probably won't start anything, but if you will, you'll get it continually, every date.
If we go out, don't be surprised if I meet someone I know. Don't be surprised if we go to my local, and I get greeted like we're in Cheers. Or a lot of places I go to. Also, don't be surprised if you get killer looks from other women, or snide comments. It's quite possible they were waiting for me to ask them out, and I was too shy to ask, or I wasn't interested.
My policy is to give more back than I got in the first place. Works for me. Works for you. | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 7/10/2007 10:42:53 PM | I ,on the other hand, like shy guys.Becuase their shy it makes them mysterious to me. Makes me want to find out more about them.
If i were to go out with a shy guy and he was too shy to kiss me i would of course intiate the firts kiss.
SHy boys can be fun too, you just have to give them a little nudge every now and then | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 8/16/2007 2:42:43 PM | | Re message 10 from wambotap. I fully agree with what you said.Women these days have equality ,equal pay ect yet I find most women expect the man to make the first move when it comes to dating.I understand women liked to be asked out but come on ladies its a new millenium(don't know if thats spelt right).Lots of men including my self are scared of rejection often caused by childhood issues and such.I try to read body language before asking a girl out as nearly 70% of what we actually say is non-verbal but that's not much of a guarantee if you don't recognise the signs such as dialated pupils ect. | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 8/16/2007 2:51:27 PM | | I do agree, theres different types of shy, I'm relatively quiet and keep my distance until I get to know someone better, I dont mind if the guy is a bit hesitant but being a pushover is a big turnoff, at least have a spine for crying out loud. But I'd pick nice, shy guy over a loud and obnoxious prick on any day. Gotta find a happy medium. | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 5:54:16 PM | I kinda like men who are shy. Am I the only one? :) Not painfully shy where I'm embarassed to bring them to functions, family and friends. Shy men are usually good listeners for the most part, sensitive, caring, down to earth, loyal to a fault and enjoy my story telling because I am comfortable with myself and speak the language of emotions that they long to speak for themselves. And, I DO want a guy who thinks I'm wonderful. Not a guy who will upstage me.
I think it was Edith Wharton who wrote: "he was at ease in the shadow of my conspicuousness.". Now make him around 5'11", broad shoulders, "manly enough" body, nice face and I'll marry him! | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 10/28/2007 10:48:08 PM | I think that the guys that are laying back a bit are most likely the "gems". They are not on their "game' and not being overbearing and obnoxious like the majority of men out looking. If I see someone hanging back but looking at me, I may give a little smile
and start the conversation. After the initial approach they always open right up and then you can have an awesome interchange. I personally think that alot of time the shy guys are the good guys and the keepers. I really don`t like the testosterone peacocks. But to each their own! | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 11/3/2007 2:35:12 PM | As long as they are normal...and would tell you if they are interested...
no one likes to guess all the time...if you are so shy that you don't even give a vibe...that's gonna be hard. | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 11/3/2007 4:53:45 PM | A shy/quiet guy is the mystery. He is the one not calling attention to himself, which displays a strength in his character. The quiet ones are normally more observant, more sincere in their words. Still waters run deep.
I like the quiet guys, in part because I like to figure them out. Once they open up, and they are comfortable with you, there is no stopping them. | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 11/3/2007 7:58:43 PM | Jewelsy2,
I think shy and quiet are two completely different things. I like quiet - not much into those who talk to hear the sound of their own voice, that's a major turn off. A shy guy who can't initiate touching, flirting, kissing is a turn off - reeks of non confidence. An evolving relationship goes through a lot of stages, I don't want to be the one initiating everything because he's shy.
Jewlsey | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 11/5/2007 5:32:37 PM | | Well put, Jewlsey. I think the two traits do go hand and hand, very often. The shy guy you described, would be a no for me also. | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 11/7/2007 6:34:56 PM | I also agree with Jewelsy2. A more quiet man is one thing. A real shy guy/person probably has major self esteem issues and who needs that?
As far as preference, I believe that opposites attract as long as you have similar values. My mom and dad thought alike and got along like best friends but he was quiet and she is more talkative and peppy like everyday is a holiday. I think it lifted his spirits to be around her and she needed someone like him to ground her. Not only that but 2 quiet people have a hard time with conversation and 2 outgoing people stand the chance of upstaging one another.
I like somewhat quiet men since I am a bit more like my mom. I need a calming, steady guy who is at ease in the shadow of my conspicousness. If you're a quiet woman, you may prefer a more assertive or talkative guy so it all depends on your personality. People are different for a reason. Outgoing men are fine too. There's a difference between flashy arrogance (like the testosterone Peacock) and a genuine, people person, assertive kind of a guy.  | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 1/24/2008 10:49:01 AM | shy guys are very attractive to me. i'm too shy for my own good. even going to school i can't flirt with a guy. on the net i can't flirt so i'm screwed either way. i need a shy boy cause i don't have confidence in myself so being with someone confident makes me feel insecure in the relationship. i've dated confident guys and i always ended up being unhappy because they were confident and i wasn't. i now know i need someone who suffers in silence also someone who is just as shy as me to be truly happy. witch prob will never happen so more than likely i'll be the crazy old cat lady  | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 1/24/2008 6:36:10 PM | | Shyness in itself isn't a bad thing. Being a shy person myself, I can hardly complain if a man feels the same way. The only thing that makes it a problem is if it stops someone from doing what anyone normally would do in a situation. I have experienced a situation where the man was very shy and didn't initiate any form of physical contact, although he asked me out (and I went) a few times. In the end, I found it confusing and thought he was probably only interested in me as a friend, so I just gave up on it. | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 1/26/2008 3:20:15 AM | Women seem to think that shy guys=no confindence=loser = no way! Often a rather unfair assumption unless you know the person well. Im pretty shy early on but when i come out of my shell am very different the trouble is that im afraid to speak because im afraid that a girl will think my conversations are boring or too weird and freaky so i feel uncomfortable talking and that goes to girls and guys really. Ironically im NOT shy when it comes to initiation of romantic gestures which is quite a paradox really (unless your referring to initating sex which id be dead shy as ive never done it beffore)
But no once i find common ground with someone i can talk forever given half a chance! its finding that "common ground" which i struggle to do can take days, weeks even years! | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 2/6/2008 11:50:42 AM | well im shy, but not shy shy, and im proud of it. an extrovert will reveal too much about themself in a unreasonable amount of time sometimes, and they may not do it on purpose, by what they conversate about. a shy person leaves more to be curious about.
i do most of my dating by meeting people online and it does build up a comfort level, i like it. im kinda offended alittle by the responses here, i can definately hold a convo on the phone, i just happend to be alittle shy the first couple of times we meet but ive always made the first move. and i dont believe being shy means u have no confidence,
maybe in some minds it could be no motivation | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 2/6/2008 1:25:51 PM | | i'm with you on that one kitten....come out super shy guys please!!! i don't want to meet another stuck up guy... | |
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| What do women think of shy guys ?
Posted: 2/6/2008 3:19:26 PM | | lol sparkyir ..all men say dumb things lol its expected of them lol. im just kidding with ya. i jsut had to say somethign to ur comment. lol u stay sweet and be safe | |
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