| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/21/2007 8:20:39 PM |
Either way, he is a liar.
An awfully judgmental statement there, Michelle. I have known wealthy people who tended to live modestly and whom you wouldn't think were wealthy by looking. No way to tell unless you were involved in their financials. I don't know if this particular scenario is accurate or not, but it isn't impossible and doesn't mean the person is a liar.
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/21/2007 9:29:20 PM | I'm having a hard time believing this as well. But if he is that rich and is in love with you, tell him to make up for lying to you, he will have to deposite a small sum of say... $50,000 in your account. He will undoubtedly say that his cash is all tied up in investments. If he asks you for a short term loan for any reason then you know you are being scammed.
An inexpensive private investigator search of the man's name should tell a lot... if he is using his real name. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/21/2007 9:36:11 PM | | I understand completely why he did that. You were able to see him for the person he is inside and not for his money. He did come clean with you about having money, so that shows he now trusts you. If I were him I would have done the same thing. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/21/2007 9:43:42 PM | Seems this guy is damned if he does, and damned if he doesn't.
He doesn't come forward with the information immediately... he's labeled a liar
He does come forward with it... likely the same. I mean seriously, you're sitting down on your first date discussing what you do for a living, and he pipes up he's a billionaire?!?!
I don't blame him for waiting to discuss it... I'd do it too. No matter how noble someone is, things like money change things, and having money like that would definitely make people look at your differently.
He wasn't doing it out of malice, and as far as things to be mislead about goes, this one definitely isn't going to hurt you. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 3:31:18 AM | Well if he is one of the most wealthiest in America it shouldnt be that hard to find out if he is serious or not !!!!
Either way I dont see how he was dishonest or how he lied, unless you asked him how much money he has or makes, how did he lie ?? why is it a problem that he has money ?? why does he have to broadcast to the world and yes you that he is rich ??
He or anyone with that much money has no obligation to disclose what there net worth is
I dont think he did anything wrong, I would do the same thing, There are too many gold diggers out there, all he was doing was protecting himself and what he has and is worth
The President wears a body armour to protect himself from firearms does that make him dishonest to the world because he isnt on the news telling everyone the specs of it ??
I think he did the right thing !!! | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 3:43:48 AM | As the many men and women on this site who are insecure about sharing their appearance with the world (for whatever reason) and thus hide their pictures, would rather want you to get to know them through their words, and action before revealing their physical attributes.
This I believe was the motive behind the person who decided not to share their true income with you.
I can understand his/her situation, and I would back them 100%, because to tell you the truth, if I won the lotto - I would want as few people to know I had made it, as possible. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 3:47:22 AM | | Yep it weeds out the plenty of gold diggers doesn't it? After all, which is worse? Lying that you love someone just because he has money or not disclosing you are rich because you want to find someone that loves you for YOU? In a way he is turning the tables...smart man. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 4:56:25 AM | | Walk a mile in his shoes people! He did the right thing, wanting to find a woman who takes the time to get to know him without the bank account being an issue. Now that he knows she cares about him as a man, he disclosed the facts. He obviously has feelings for you or he wouldn't have told you the truth. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:16:40 AM | Interesting question: However
Now that you know the truth, even know he told you "a little white lie"
Can you still remember the first kiss, the first time he said "i love you", the first embrace,
your first date, etc.....
Do you still tingle at the sound of his voice ??
And ultmately, if he never told you he would have continued a "lie"...so my point is, what has changed???
The fact that he doesn't have to work, or that it makes you feel uncomfortable ?
One thing i've learned in my life is not everything is black and white, the gray areas make life interesting sometimes....if he played santa for kids, yet really is not santa, does that make him a liar....No!!
If it were me, I would give him the chance he wants and think he deserves, now that you have the information, it's just a simple choice....
How much do I really love him ??
Have a great day, and good luck to both of you | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:18:15 AM | If had the money I'd do it too...it's like a filter.  It was advised to me to do that some years ago. Playboy's empire is built upon women that will spread for a buck. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2007 5:23:52 AM | | I would not have lied about the money. I just never would have brought it up. There are so many women out there that think they deserve to be kept. Why? Because they sleep with somebody? If that were all I cared about and had money, I would keep a few concubines. If you want to impress me, help me clean house or work on my car! "The main difference between free sex and paid sex is that free sex costs more." Are you sure this guy isn't conning you? It should be easy enough to check out. If he lied about one thing, how hard would it be to lie about another? Rich people act rich. Rich people hang out with other rich people. When is the last time Paris or Nicole called you up to go out for drinks? You might be living in "Fairy Tale" land. Just be careful. If he turns out to be what he claims, perhaps you just got lucky. Personally, as foolish as it sounds, I will take love over money any time. Money can buy some really nice things, but only true love can make you feel like you are walking on air... | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:47:36 AM | OK, let's just say this scenario is more than a forum fantasy...
So the guy didn't tell you he was super rich, and everyone thinks that very noble.
what if the true story is just a bit different?
He lives in a modest house, everything seems fine... come to find out the guy has no job, no personal ambitions, owns absolutely nothing and lives off a small allowance his daddy sends him?
While I don't believe people need to open their bank accounts for public review, at six months time you would more than likely meet his family, friends, business acquaintenances, something?
What is ok to hide from people to make sure that they fall in love with you -- for you only?
Children? Health issues? Criminal Backgrounds? Mental disorders? | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 6:06:58 AM | I agree with previous posts. If he's in the top 100 Richest, SOMEBODYy knows about him. Where are his friends who know? Where are his employees? I don't know of anyone (in my town) that is worth over $10 million who DOESN'T employee house staff, so I'm thinking this guy is using reverse psychology.
You should be able to google his name and find specifics on his business. Ask him for the name of his corporation. Where are his offices? Since he "trusts" you now, he shouldn't have a problem with you visiting headquarters and being introduced to his staff. What? He doesn't have an office or staff? Hmmm....
I'm NOT rich. Oh yes I am! I'm NOT rich. Wait... yes I am
He isn't being true to himself so how will he be true to you?
and a big P.S. Folks! GoldDiggers come in both sexes. "Friends" hang on cause they want to help you spend your cash and benefit from it just as much as the hungry girls do, so don't narrow your focus to women only. Your best friend may not be s**king your d**k, but he's certainly willing to prostitute himself to help you open that fat wallet.
Run, Little Hailey, run! | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 8:31:41 AM | > Money can buy some really nice things, but only true love can make
> you feel like you are walking on air...
Sorry to disagree with you here, Decemberman. One can feel like you're walking on air just by stepping out a tenth floor window. Elation is not restricted to matters of the heart and groin.
> Rich people act rich. Rich people hang out with other rich people.
I disagree with you here, too. The idea of the super-rich was invented by Hollywood during the 1930's Depression, and to this day people think the rich live in mansions, have servants, drive expensive cars, and lounge about at the country club playing polo. Many people still believe this, and to be sure there are those who aspire to the stereotype, become wealthy, and then live the stereotype.
But many just wish to live their pretty typical lives well below the radar screen so they can be free to do whatever the heck they please without anyone making a big deal of it. There are some books by an author whose name I can't remember called "The Millionaire Next Door" and "The Millionaire Mind" which develops this point of view. Only a tiny percentage live the cliche of "Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous". In fact, most people who appear to be highrollers are poseurs in debt up to their eyeballs.
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 8:34:21 AM | Boy are you naive. There is no way that his story is credible. Has he asked you for a $20,000 loan yet? It may be true that he doesn't work, but that's probably because he's a scammer, on welfare or receiving an allowance from his mommy. Anybody who is worth a lot of money, especially somebody who is in the top 100 wealthiest people in America will display their wealth like a peacock.
I'm wondering the same thing. There are very few people who aren't like over 50, who are not married and do not have a job (aka got their money from inheritance) in the Fortune 400. There are the ziff brothers (from NY) and the hearst brothers (from CA). There is also Calvin Ayre from Calgary who runs bodog.ca, but he works (as opposed to the original post).
There is no rich bachelors in OP's original home area of Michigan as well.
And none of these guys are considered top richest 100 in US, as per OP.
That puts the validity of the whole post in question IMHO.
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 9:13:56 AM | if the story is true, I can totally understand why he'd withhold that information, for all of the same reasons that have already been mentioned. you can't be too sure of anyone's intentions in the span of a few dates, and 6 months seems an acceptable amount of time to keep that info on a need-to-know basis. he obviously cares enough now about you to know that you're the type of woman that he wants in his life ~ there's no other reason to ever tell you....
but I'd also be cautious as to whether he's now telling the truth or not ~ google him ~ if he's that rich, a search should pull up something to confirm the truth | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 9:14:45 AM | Sam Walton (the guy who started Walmart) used to drive from store to store in an old beat up pickup truck.
You never know who has money.
My question is WHO CARES? Money can't buy love. Old cliche but very true. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 10:25:26 AM | Driving around in a beatup pickup is charming, but I bet Sam Walton had a Bentley in his garage.
I don't believe this guy could get away with hiding his extreme wealth. He is either living on a paultry stipend from dear old Dad, is a sociopathic liar or is paranoid.
I bet if you gave me his name I could google him and figure this out in 5 minutes, but I question the veracity of this story. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 11:21:29 AM | Who ever said the guy had a business or he worked ?? I didnt seen in the OP stating that he owned business's or anything for that matter ??
He could have won a lottery ?? landed inherit, made money on ebay who knows, and who really cares ??
As for googling him what does that solve ?? he could have all the money in the world and still not be listed on the internet as a multi billionare !!! When you have that kinda money things can be covered up very easily !!!!!!!!
As for no bacholers in her area with extensive amounts of loot ?? who says when he signs a check that his status says single ?? he could have just said he was in a relationship to avoid what he wasnt disclosing in the first place !!!
He lives the everyday life of everyone else thats how he chooses to live, which is why she said he doesnt have the big fancy house or the big fancy cars etc etc He is living under the radar for a reason !!
Now he is labelled a liar for telling her somthing willingly ?? how is that a lie ?? unless she asked him in the first place ??
or he is a scammer because there are no bachelors in her area with money ?? or he isnt listed on google ??
This is clearly why this guy has chosen to live under the radar so people dont go snooping about trying to gain information about him !!
Thats all i gotta say | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 11:30:49 AM | | I would not consider this situation to be deceitful. It was self protection on his part. The wolves would descend if he advertised his wealth. If I were in a situation like that, and everything looked bright for the future already, I would count that as a bonus! | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 11:36:15 AM | I'll just say be careful, OP, as hopefully you would be with anybody else, and do not lend him one dime, even if he says he has just bought himself a chateau in France and that is why he doesn't have any money at the moment and it is just until his next dividend cheque comes through.
If the story is legit and he is legit then I hope you live happily ever after. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 11:52:13 AM | I am just amazed there are so many people believing this story....
now it answers why there are so many of those stupid lottery winner emails I keep getting. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 12:01:52 PM | I forgot to mention that I have this lovely bridge for sale in (place name of your hometown here). It was just painted, but I will let it go real cheap because my fairy godmother just brought me another pot of gold from the end of the rainbow....just email me your Visa number and we can get down to business.
Something feels really wrong about all this. Of course I have this basic mistrust for anyone from this planet...
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 12:22:28 PM | LOL, this is pretty funny. I'd guess that someone has been reading too many Harlequin Romance stories.
The OP, who is supposedly dating one of the most wealthy people in America, joins a dating site and starts a thread about her rich sweetie. Uh huh
I can't see the profile to see where she's from or her age. Too bad, then we could find the poor little rich guy. But these people are not invisible. Google any one of their names and you'll get hits. Forbes has a list of the top 400 richest in America. You can sort the list by rank, marital status, etc. Most are married. Of the men that are widowed, single, or divorced, they're all over 50. | |
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