| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 12:48:46 PM | I've often thought about this very situation... and the conclusion I've drawn is that he'd be well within his rights to perpetrate that one, relatively-small, white lie.
It's hurting absolutely no one and would actually benefit the one he ends up with.
And as one prior poster has legitimately said: Any man with a decent amount of wealth never knows if the women he meets are after his money or genuinely like/love him. This ruse would be an innocent, effective way of determining that. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 1:28:13 PM | Okay, but I think I would start off with "by the way, honey, I'm actually pretty wealthy in spite of living like the rest of you (peons)." or some such thing, rather than "I'm one of the 100th richest men in America. That just wouldn't be very smart.
bogus post or bogus story. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 2:32:28 PM |
I know where he is coming from... I've had women interested in me because of my money, so I too, now down-play my worth.
Be careful, you just told every gold digger on here that you have money... | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 3:33:33 PM | Um, I would be jumping up and down in my room that a man that I honestly love and who loves me and feels secure about my feelings for him just told me I will never have to work again. If he is normal and you live your life beside him, why would you suddenly go whacko over money? You are in control of whether your values change.
Be realistic. If he had met you and lived in a huge house and drove fancy cars there may always have been a little part of him that was not sure that you really loved him for him and not what he could provide for you. It may feel like a lie but the kind of relationship you want to have with him made it sort of unavoidable.
His modest living style was also not a lie. There are many wealthy people in America that live in the same manner and also many extremely wealthy people that would not be recognized if seen on the street. He did tell you before you married him so that if it really did bother you you have the ability to walk away, that took some guts and there were probably many times that he wanted to tell you but felt he needed to wait a little longer to be sure. If it was me, it would have driven me nuts to keep it under wraps that long. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 3:51:36 PM | I notice in here a lot of Women calling this Guy a Liar....nowhere in the OP'S post does it say that he actually said he worked etc, Just that he lived a modest life and gave the Impression of having a modest Job/Income etc ....NOTICE the Gave the Impression bit... and the only thing he didn't do was to tell her of his real worth till later on.....That is hardly a Lie !!!
As stated by many on here, the guy was clearly looking out for himself making sure he wasn't going to get bitten by a Gold-Digger and who can blame him. He obviously felt the time was right to open up when he told the OP....up until then the relationship had obviously been fine and probably still is.......probably more to the benefit of the OP as there are no financial worries at all. The guy has been sensible with his money so far and thats what really counts...he has got his head screwed on.
Having been out with a Gold-Digger myself, I can understand this guy's sense of self preservation. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:10:51 PM |
^^^ and I bet he planned it that way.
There's more than one way to skin a cat, I s'pose.
That would not only be desperate but pathetic as well. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/22/2007 5:28:15 PM | I'm going to call BULLSHIT on this thread. The OP has retired her profile. Maybe she's off jetting to the Netherlands Antilles on his Leer Jet!  | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/23/2007 5:00:36 AM | i'm with you on that one bike man...she lives in british columbia but is dating a guy in america caught my attention right off the bat...but to say the guy is among the top 100 wealthiest men in america?...if i had that kind of cash i wouldnt waste my time on a homely little mutt like her in the first place...but they say beauty is in the eye of the beerholder...
too bad she yanked her profile tho...i was gonna get her to ask this guy if he had a sister...dammit | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/23/2007 11:59:04 AM |
I am just amazed there are so many people believing this story....
now it answers why there are so many of those stupid lottery winner emails I keep getting.
From the perspective of con men, liars and scoundrels the greatest resources in the universe are greed, stupidity and gullibility. There is an infinite supply. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/25/2007 5:14:18 AM | | I guess I just don't have an honest face. I have tried the "I'm a billionare" story on women before and it never works. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/25/2007 12:09:57 PM | This is a problem ALOT of people are just waiking up to...
Get burned once by a girl over money, and you realize that you have to be carefull.
Now all I admit to is working stupid crazy hours, and that I do ok. Im not ritch, but Im sure not going to admit what my bank-book looks like. Too many golddiggers out there, and I want to be sure of the girl that I have. I want her to want me for me, not my paycheck.
Love it, Hate it, its not something im doing for you. Its something I do for me.
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/25/2007 2:23:35 PM | if i was dating someone for six months and he tells me that he's one of the top 100 wealthiest men in america i would have to ask for some kind of proof that he's not playing with me. if the proof that he shows me to be correct then i would have to simply tell him, that's cool...i've never dated a man with money before. i would also have to reassure him that the test that he put me through was never an act either...i am who i say i am. i don't care if the guy has millions of dollars, nor do i care if he only has hundreds of dollars. it's not money that makes the person. it's inside that counts.
now, if there's a wealthy man here in the site and he wants to give me a shot to see how real i am, the ball's in your court. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/25/2007 2:38:18 PM |
now, if there's a wealthy man here in the site and he wants to give me a shot to see how real i am, the ball's in your court.
and so back to the original point that was made earlier, that Guy kept it quiet for 6 months to avoid Gold-Diggers so what makes you think a guy is gonna be daft enough to shout it out up front now...??? | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/25/2007 2:58:30 PM | the thing is sky, i don't care if he has money or not. he doesn't have to be wealthy in the top 100, he doesn't have to be a gq man either. anyone that's just himself, honest with himself and those around him would be fine. money can't buy my love and it sure as hell can't buy me either. i'm not a gold digger, never was and never will be.
if and when i finally start dating someone, do you think i'm going to say anything about his finances? i would never say anything about anyone's finances but my own unless they willingly talk about it...i'm not the one that's gonna do the talking.
about what you quoted....i just thought that i would throw a curve ball in to see who would say anything about that. my friends know that i do joke around and they know how i joke as well. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/25/2007 3:23:04 PM | I apologize if this has already been said...
I would neither believe or disbelieve the guy, but I'd want to have some kind of substantiation of his alleged financial status. And it's NOT about the money, it's about not getting pulled into a big ass GAME.
Don't get me wrong, I don't blame anybody for downplaying a high degree of material wealth when seeking to date/form a relationship.
Here's the other thought...he's TESTING her. If she all of a sudden starts being extra nice, trying harder to please, etc...
Personally, if a guy pulled this on me, I'd get really sad and say that I wasn't totally comfortable about dating a wealthy person because I'm so poor it would look bad...and see if he stuck to the story...
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/25/2007 4:25:04 PM | You know what at first I was going to comment that its really not all that bad...a little white lie....but really....if the situation was reversed and he told you he was indebt for millions due to tax evasion most of us wouldn't be so accepting of it. But because it turns out he's rich sadly my first instinct was to say .....don't give up and see what comes of the situation. Well my first instinct was wrong. He was dishonest.......bottom line about a major aspect of his life.......I can see maybe in the first month..but 6 months of lies......no matter if the truth is better than the fiction its still dishonest and a major deal breaker.
All of that is assuming that any of this post is true as I'm inclined to also side with those in this thread that think its a pile of crap. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/25/2007 5:29:14 PM | the thing is sky, i don't care if he has money or not. he doesn't have to be wealthy in the top 100, he doesn't have to be a gq man either. anyone that's just himself, honest with himself and those around him would be fine. money can't buy my love and it sure as hell can't buy me either. i'm not a gold digger, never was and never will be.
Well that is such a nice change to hear from the usual, my ex chased after me when she saw I was driving a BMW around although she didn't know me, she only asked about me through people after a works do came up where we all met.
Ok it took a little while after before things took off (she phoned me to go for a drink and not vice versa, I had been single a few years so wasn't looking anyway)
Then when it came to being comfortable in the relationship...asking me why I spent so much on alloy wheels and tyres on my car a full 3 years before I had even met her and giving me a hard time about it...??? Excuse me I didn't know you then and that money was mine to spend as I pleased. For most people that would be exit doors wide open -- > OUT.
No I hung on in there but it got worse and eventually I was glad I was out
I remember looking in a jewellers shop window and she had her eye on a £1800 diamond engagement ring....I remember saying that was a bit steep for what it was and she got the hump. (she didn't know how much I had by then)
I still bought her a nice £800 ring one xmas...gold with 3 diamonds in it too...that ended up thrown away in a coke can somewhere.
The Last straw really came when she was doing sneaky visits to my sisters house and my parents house trying to find out where I had my bank books hidden so's she could see how much I had. Fortunately they didn't know where the books were, I did, but I knew she couldn't reach them too.
She was Gold - Digging and fortunately I got the warning !!! End Of Relationship !!!
Needless to say it will be a long time before anyone gets a ring off me again and if they do get it, it will be on the phone and nothing else !!!
and as for the BMW, yes I am still driving one of those but a new one now thanks. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 1/25/2007 9:46:11 PM | Before my disability I was making pretty good money, but I wasn't flashy with it. In fact, I lived beneath my means. That means I lived in an apartment costing $450 a month when I could have afforded one for twice that much. I didn't dress flashy either. Just jeans, t-shirts, and tennis shoes. Maybe that's why I'm still single!  I even had a female co-worker tell me that clothes make the man, but I didn't want to wind up with a high-maintenance gold digger either.  | |
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