| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 2/1/2007 6:31:59 PM | as to the validity of the story all i can say is this, has nobody ever heard of a personal asistant. they can handle of your personal affiars. and as far as a broker...... please with a net worth of a 1,000,000,000.00 do you honestly believe a single broker handles these accounts. try a board of investors. one man handeling a multi billion dollar account
and if it was me i would hide it as much as i could. a lot easier to pull off than you realize.
besides placed in the same situation wouldnt you like to know wither its you or your bank account that they desire.
please dont pass judgement till youve walked a mile in their shoes.
seems as tho many have a variety of responses to this post, ( likley reason why op is no longer on here in her old profile )
just my opinion. you can twist, bend and contort it however you like to suit you own personal views.
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 2/1/2007 7:10:24 PM | I have to repond to a post a read in this thread which is soooo true. "if you don't mind being 'kept'. That is what you are in for. It's not fun. I was in that type of relationship before. He wasn't there for me when my dad died. He said sorry but he has to work. He never called me while he was working out of state. I had to call him. All he wanted to know was did I sweep the garage. When he came back home he wasn't interested in taking me out. It was very lonely. He always acted like I owed him something. Probably because he was the only one who could afford that mortgage. Didn't matter that I was paying the bills. He said I wasn't appreciative because his end of the deal was more expensive. Suppose this meant don't ask for this to be a real relationship.
I own my own home again and it's not the great house like he owns but who cares. I am not living under his house rules.
From there how are you so sure this guy is in the Fortune 500? That could nothing but a line. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 2/1/2007 7:23:08 PM | [Driving around in a beatup pickup is charming, but I bet Sam Walton had a Bentley in his garage.]
No he didn't, he didn't spend his money like that. I worked for WalMart while going to college. He used his money to help his employees. Not to blow it on material objects like Bentley's.
I am a paralegal now, you can't just "Google" people's name and such. I have "googled" my name, apparently I invented something. NO I didn't someone with the same name did. If you don't want your personal information known, it won't be on the internet. There are a lot of people who are very wealthy and keep it to themselves, their family and maybe closest friends. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 2/1/2007 7:41:45 PM | He's used to his money comfortable with it.. now he's got to figure out what you'll do with it and the knowledge of it!!!!
That should be the question!
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 2/1/2007 8:23:27 PM | | I guess I would be wondering how much of the relationship is going to stay the same and how much of it is going to change. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 2/1/2007 11:19:32 PM | Now I wonder what would happen if I somehow let it slip that I was a very well off person and didn't even have to work? I have the strangest feeling I might get a few emails from that, don't you?
Now if I really was super wealthy like this guy, I wouldn't want to date a girl knowing she might only like me for my money either. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 2/1/2007 11:42:16 PM | | If he actually lied and said he was working, I don't think that's cool, but from your description , he hasn't actually lied, but misled, and for a reason.I think his money is his own business, up until you are engaged, at that point I think he has an obligation to be forthcoming at that time, and either can opt for standard marriage or state he wants pre-nuptual agreement.I wouldn't want someone just interested in my money, but on the other hand, many guys try to pretend they are richer than they are, when really they are steeped in debt, and are expecting the rich woman to bail them out! It's a tough thing! I would love to puton my profile "Rich Guy Wanted" because I could definitly use financial help with my son, but guys would think that crass, I'd never hear from anyone!But how do you politely say"sorry , you're too poor! I can't afford you!"(I was in a relationship where I had to support a guy for a long time. If I was rich , it would have been fine, but eventually I had to say"listen, you've got to get a job!!Because I was not able to carry him anymore. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 2/2/2007 7:56:48 AM | I read some of the responses on this thread and I think most are really off base. Why would people feel they're lied to? Look at the original question...you dated this wealthy person for six months. In this time I imagine you shared an experience that would befit a person of a modest economic level. In other words, they live in a MODEST home and drive MODEST vehicles. Ever think that is really what their lifestyle is, regardless of their station?
Wouldn't it be a little arrogant on your part to think, once you found out that this other person is worth eight or nine figures, that all of a sudden six packs and pepperoni slices were all just a sham? And that they had an OBLIGATION to live up to whatever their true means were?
I laff @ that idea. I might be wrong on this, but that's ok, I only allow myself to be once a year.
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 3/15/2007 4:32:09 PM | I can believe this happened as I know alot of unassuming wealthy men that are down to earth and by the way they dress and act you would never know they are millionares.
My friend happens to be in the same business as these people so I have met quite a few. These people are usually really intelligent and they know how to make money from money.
They are really hardworking people and do not look down on others
When he told you that he was wealthy it would have been like the icing on the cake !!
I am so happy for you that you have found the best of both worlds.....LOVE and MONEY.  | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 3/15/2007 4:44:14 PM | It sounds to me like he's a smart man.
Although I don't advocate for lying, I don't see what he did as being morally wrong. He was being wise and I find it commendable that he didn't use his financial wealth as a bolstering device.
Good for him! And Good luck in your relationship! | |
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Joined: 2/25/2007
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 3/15/2007 4:57:26 PM | http://www.forbes.com/lists/2006/54/biz_06rich400_The-400-Richest-Americans_Rank_2.html
America's top 400. Anyone wanna bet that this guy isn't on the list? | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 3/15/2007 6:09:03 PM | | yes i would totally understand him not wanting everyone to know about how much money he has. he would always have to be wondering if someone really liked him for himself or if they liked the money enough to do a very good job of faking . he did tell you after all . he just waited until you were in an actuall relationship with . i would not look at this as a lie because he never did tell you he was not rich you just assumed it . he has good reasons to be cautious. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 4/12/2007 12:33:13 PM | "is in the top 100 of the wealthyest people in america" ??????????
This is so absurd!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
There is no way someone in the top 100 of the "wealthyest" (sic) people in america (sic) could keep such a low profile.
Oh yeah, Cinderella is a true story.
Dream on honey!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 4/12/2007 12:39:09 PM | | Sounds like my experiences. Any millionaire that I have met, never led on to his or her financial value. They don't learn how to handle money extremely well by flashing money around! LOL | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 4/12/2007 4:21:49 PM | Yep - I get this deal - and you have to accept it. Far too many gold-diggers out there who'd want him just for the cash they'd get from the divorce.
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 4/12/2007 9:07:52 PM | Well, if it was only money he would have lied about then I don't see a problem.. I wouldn't tell someone I had millions in my bank account the first date....
Eventhough I always say that lying is never good and you should dump that person, he probably didn't tell you he was rich because he wanted to know if you would like him for him and not like him for his money.
But did he actually lie about the money or just never brought it up? In the first case I think if he lied then he did it for a purpose and in the 2nd case it should not even be an issue.. Lying about money (especially when you've got tons of it) is one of my legitimate reasons not to RUN too fast! 
All he wanted to do is make sure you love him for him and not love him for his money. Lying on any other subject you have to start wondering though.. But I can see why he didn't bring it up or didn't want you to know that he had loads of money..
Stick it out for a bit and see if there's anything else he'd been lying about. If not then stick to him.. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 4/12/2007 9:17:16 PM | | If his story is actually true, you can't really blame him for waiting to tell you, I personally have had similiar things told to me but of course the guy had a crisis and disappeared so I tend to remain a bit weary, but if his story actually adds up, you can't blame him for being cautious in the world these days. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 4/12/2007 9:57:06 PM | Based on the concept that this is a 'Hypothetical ' situation that the OP
has posted.....at least that's how I read it.
I say......as long he's a superb lover.....i would forgive him.....hypothetically speaking
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 4/12/2007 10:25:55 PM | Hi OP: Two possibilities. Number one: I have cousins with money and you would never know it. They keep their marriage together (I think)
My experience with a guy who "showed" me his money one day, was that he was looking for a "built-in-maid" His possessions are the only important thing in his life. He always wants to have someone living in his house. I told him to get renters. (this was before I moved in with him) He was strongly against that. I found out after I moved in with him that I was the built-in-housekeeper. Even though I was paying my fair share of bills. He said he had the edge because he payed a larger portion towards the mortgage. Funny that he didn't mention these terms before he bought "our" house. I would have stayed in my own home if I had known his twists.
I gotta point out that he started out with a modest home & car. He went
"bigger" when he bought "our home" .
Things went sour when he was out of work for a year. At the same time my son's father died and boyfriend couldn't tolerate what the boy was going through. He kicked us out.
But, things previously went sour. I was getting brow-beat by him over things I had no control over. Such as the plastic strap the previous owner strapped around the swag lamp chain in kitchen to keep the chain slack from sagging down. He demanded to know what it was doing there. After we lived there for 6 months or more...
From there, he trusted his best friend to tile the floor in kitchen and family room. I tried to tell him that this guy isn't his friend, he is simply a customer. He ranted and got in my face about that. Well, turned out that his friend subcontracts the work out. The subcontractors were young adults that blast music all day and leave their garbage behind. Boyfriend was paying for his friend's 30 years of experience. Boyfriend was afraid to tell these subcontractors to remove their fast-food garbage off counters, yet he wasn't afraid to brow-beat me to clean up their mess.
Boyfriend got weirder by telling me that I'm wrong about the leaking pipe. He didn't get it fixed because he had to be right. The water was pouring out of the leaking pipe, and gushing into the basement. He was so weird that I didn't mention the leak in the pantry closet, or other smaller leaks. I was afraid of how he'd beat me up emotionally about it.
I gotta say that not all people with money are like this.... but too many are. You owe them something for their "good deed" of taking you in. Like you were rotting in a gutter when they met you.
My ex dismissed the fact that I owned a house when we met. He said that I couldn't afford my house much longer. That is his opinion. I made the payments for 11 years.
I believe what happened is he didn't want a street person living in his home, he wanted a responsible home owner that he could trust and could kick out at any time. | |
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| Has money, but you wouldn't know it.
Posted: 4/12/2007 11:23:42 PM | You have to be careful these days. You never know what the other person is thinking and what they may have up the sleve when they say "I Do".
My last wife  was taking money out of my checking and savings accounts and she was moving my money into a secret joint accounts that was shared with her daughter. I didn't catch on to this until I was going through the checking account statements and cancelled checks during the divorce  .
I never divulge my financial status to anyone I date for this reason. There are many sharks lurking in the pond. 
I don't blame the guy for holding back his financial information. Then again if I had as much money as he say's he has, I think I would be swimming  with a different school of fish.
If someone is going to like you for being you, sometimes you need to keep the bling out of sight.
You know how some fish, as well as sharks, are attacted to shiny things. | |
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