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Posted: 1/19/2007 3:57:54 AM | | Personally I wouldn't stay with this man at all. As soon as I was to find out he was doing that, he would be out of my life completely, I think I deserve better then that. As for this person and why they might want to stay with this person feels they cannot do better, maybe they are very blinded by it all and think he can change somehow. Either way, its their choice but I am sure its one that they will regret as she knows he is going to be constantly cheating. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 4:11:46 AM | | Wow I'd be gone in a heartbeat. Love is supposed to be between one man and one woman not a trio. When I am in a relationship he has my complete and total attention and loyalty....and I would hope for the same back. All I can see ahead for this lady is tons of heartache....RUNNNNNN | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 4:41:02 AM | First of all, the guy and his ex-girlfriend deserve each other. Any woman who willingly sleeps with a man who's in a relationship with someone else is the lowest of low-lifes - she's a woman without conscience or character. I think the term is C*NT. Women like that should be with men like that.
Advice? Get out of this relationship immediately and never look back. Do whatever it takes. Move 1,000 miles away, get a new job, get a new life. And get some counseling. Anyone who would tolerate this man and thinks they deserve this lifestyle has serious problems. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 8:16:40 AM | Forget dumping him!!!
I think that all three should move to a state where polygamy is acceptable and live happily ever after is a poly-amorous relationship.... since both women have been putting up with it for so long... OBVIOUSLY they are ok with it!!!
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Posted: 1/19/2007 8:26:51 AM | i would dump him and try to see how much i could get for the ring. Hopefully a vacation in vegas is possible...
vacation, wild sex with some annonymous man in vegas... lose a bunch of money which of course would be on the man who bought the ring and not me. fun times ahead until i meet someone new.
If you know someone like this, maybe you should suggest therapy. Anyone who willingly agrees to marry a man who is cheating on her, and even went so far as to say get out of my life, needs to seek help.
or better yet needs to read the book i saw in passing "I hate you! Don't leave me" | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 8:31:43 AM | | run and dont look back. who needs a cheater in their lives ?, once an ass, always an ass. who marrys him will never have him as her own , and hope she can get use of sharing him . both women should runnnnnnnnnn .>>>>>>>>> one way | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 8:43:39 AM | | Why would anyone even ask a stupi question like this? If you love someone else enough to marry them that means you dont want any other woman. | |
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Posted: 1/19/2007 7:45:32 PM | | i agree with kicking him to the curb... my ex cheated on me ... i was with him for 18 years not once did i ever cheat.. but he did.. and out he went | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 2:57:17 AM |
thanks for your responses...my head was aching, too and i had to share.
by the way, the guy is my friend, and oh, the things I have heard
Hopefully he really is a friend...
I'm a firm believer in people being responsible for what happens "to" them but this guy sounds almost sociopathic to me, he doesn't seem to have any concept of behaving in an ethical manner. Can someone like that be a true friend? | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 8:39:53 AM | Wow....well the new girlfriend should have dumped his sorry a** the first time he was HONEST enough to tell her he was seeing the ex ! Why would someone even want to be with someone they KNOW is cheating on them? This went on for 14 months of her knowing what he was like and she agreed to marry him anyway? Now they are engaged and he has been caught twice more AND he tells her he dreams of her and CAN he go see her? (I am still laughing)...Did she say "ok Honey"...?? OF COURSE she should break it off....They both should!! People only do to you what you let them do ......remember that!! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 9:08:25 AM |
Can you think of any reason to stay engaged to this man?
Absolutely. Marriage is the ultimate revenge.
Make babies, go in debt, get fat, refuse him sex, nag daily... | |
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| would you marry this man
Posted: 1/20/2007 9:18:41 AM | if a girl had low self esteem and very few prospects in the horizon, i can see
why she would marry him. these women are a players wet dream and they
can be found in most clubs on any weekend. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 9:26:08 AM | First off: If the OP is actually serious in asking this...then she is either one of the women in the story, or as seriously dysfunctional as they are.
The man in this account is a sociopath. Both women are pathologically co-dependent..among other things. the fact that the OP addmitts the man in this scenerio is her 'friend' is disturbing and revealing in itself! this little story could serve as the class sylabus for basic relationship dysfunction 101.
The fact that some people actually try and answer this in a serious way is even more crazy!!
OP: you look like a handsome woman. Get the hell away from people like these!!! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 9:36:35 AM |
Happy days ahead, right?
Given the history up to that point, it's incredible anyone would think anything like that. And considering that not only was that his pattern while dating, but also his pattern while engaged, how could it even be a question of whether or not to break off the engagement, unless you're looking forward to making a post sometime in the future about how he's now doing this during the marriage too. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 1:18:51 PM | | OP, both women should dump this guy...he's a loser...and don't you think they both deserve better than that? He's having his cake and eating it too, while the two women are letting him get away with cheating on both of them. I hard to say who's being dumber, them or him...but at least he's getting what he wants...what are they getting out of this? Nothing good, or healthy, that I can see. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 1:42:48 PM | | WHAT!!? ok im sorry this is going to sound harsh but she deserves the disrespect he has given her. She should have kicked him to the curb along time ago when she first found out he was seeing his ex behind her back!!!!!!! Tell "her" to give her head a shake!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 1:46:43 PM | | no wedding. Send him to the ex and let her have him. good riddance! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 1:48:08 PM | | LMAO!! loved your comment as to what to do with this guy...hmmm...I'll keep that in mind in case I ever need to try it! :) | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 1:51:22 PM | | The question I have here is why either one the fiancee or the ex would want anything to do with this man??? There is nothing there to have any type of exclusive relationship with let alone marriage. | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 8:53:20 PM | It is apparent that there are still strong feelings between the two. And while it is too late to kick her in the butt for going back...However, now is the time to do the following:
1. Think about the respect they BOTH are not showing her.
2. Remind her that she is putting herself at risk for an STD or pregnancy with a man who most likely won't bet there.
3. She is fortunate to see the patterns and to hear it from his own mouth. He is not going to change that habit anytime soon.
So unless she is into sharing and don't mind having an open relationship. Slap her around a bit and then tell her to RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRUUUUUUUUUUUUNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you are that woman, unless you are into sharing and don't mind having an open relationship. Slap yourself around a bit and then RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRUUUUUUUUUUUUNNNNNNNNNNN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 10:55:45 PM | | Egads, these are the guys we catch cheating on us, then divorce - we sure don't marry them on purpose!! | |
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Posted: 1/20/2007 11:02:55 PM | | any woman with 1/2 a brain even would run...not walk..if they ever see that ******** again...these 2 women obviously have no pride or self respect..if they allow this man..todo this to them both over..and over..and over..and...... | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 6:15:31 AM | | I think you 3 freaks deserve each other. You should move far away, like fantasy land, which is where your brains is at. You'll all be happy......... you two because your too stupid to know what day it is, and him because during sex he can mix up your names and pretend hes cheating, which obviously excites him. | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 4:06:30 PM | | you really have to ask????? He's definitely not worthy enough, trustworthy enough.....and both of those women are seriousely stupid to put up with that shiiit | |
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Posted: 1/21/2007 4:21:45 PM | | i'm thinking these 3 pathetic souls should call jerry springer and have him sort it out. man this is soooooo freaking trailer park trash to me. this is one hell of a bizzare love triangle. | |
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