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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 1/20/2007 10:47:06 PM | | SITYKITTY7, I'm guessing he decided that you didn't like him enough to meet him. You didn't mention meeting the guy in person, but it seems like you didn't meet him. Online dating sites are meant for just that: online *dating*. Not online pen-pals, not online chatting, but dating, which means seeing each other in person. So when he was talking to you for a month, he was hoping you two could arrange a meeting, even something like a simple coffee date. When he realized that you weren't willing to meet him, he moved on to someone who was. So while I don't agree with his disappearing act, I don't blame him either. | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 1/20/2007 11:14:11 PM | Trust me, I know exactly how you feel. I have been on this site for over a year, and I have had several people email me first, then we would chat back and forth for days, weeks or even over a month or so then they would disappear out of thin air! And I do not care what ANYONE says, it is rude, inconsiderate and disrespectful to simply ignore someone, especially when you initiated the first contact with them. Like I mentioned, that has happened to me several times and it really chaffs my a$$ when people do that! If you no longer have an interest in who you are talking to, BE AN ADULT and tell them so. I know I respect people more when they tell me up front than just merely ignore my emails. So if you no longer have an interest in me, fine. If you have someone better that you want to devote your time to, fine. But be a frickin' mature adult like you claim in your profile and tell me so! I wish that people would realize that when they do things like that, they are acting like an immature jacka$$. I have already posted at least a couple of names on my profile of those who did that to me, and from now on when someone does that to me, then their name will be posted as well. It's called etiquette and manners and it's time that people started using them. If only the people that run this site would give warnings out to people who do things like that and if they did it repetitively then their profile could be dropped from the site. I know if I am no longer interested in someone I will email them and tell them so because I would expect the same from them. I hope that you find that someone and they will be respectful and mannerful to you. If people would act with manners and respect like they are supposed to then things would work out better for them on sites like this. | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 1/20/2007 11:26:45 PM | subboy77, I think I may try buying credits on that site. I've had the smile thing too. I see a guy and don't have credits so I smile at him, he smiles back but no email. I like how that site has different sections for dating and more intimate encounters so when I search I find non players.
Back to the topic being discussed. I knew a guy on here that I talked to for years, yes years, who suddenly disappeared on me when I mentioned meeting. And I wasn't even trying to date him either! Can you say married?.... | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 1/21/2007 10:51:11 AM | I agree that good manners, whether online or in person are classy and never go out of style.
A person who pulls a disappearing act after some time without even the courtesy of a seeya or no thanks is not worth worrying over. Move on to a more considerate person, be it for friendship or love.
~Boots~ | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 1/21/2007 11:09:38 AM | | An age old query when it comes to online people. Why they do what they do... is anyone's guess. I know it sucks and it is mind boggling, but look at it this way - why waste time worrying about something you can't change? Obviously he was not honest in his talks with you, and you're likely much better off that he simply disappeared before you wasted anymore time investing your feelings in him. Best of luck to you. | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 1/21/2007 11:32:31 AM | its just the internet, you people take this stuff way too seriously. 
If he was really into you darling and didn't have anything to hide he would of been wineing and dining your beautiful self by now. a month talking to someone just online, whata waste of time. you deserve better. | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 1/21/2007 1:30:40 PM | | Sorry to hear what happened hun it seem that it happens I was starting to think I had two heads or something because it happend to me so much till a really nice lady from the pond wrote to me.. I have changed my profile to not looking untill I see where things go with her.. there are some nice fallas out here hun.. you are welcome to drop me a line but till I know where life is taking me .. did I hook here or did she hook me ... I am not looking for dates.. Stephen | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 2/1/2007 8:57:37 PM | I SAY........LET THEM POOF!!! IT'S BETTER OFF THAT WAY.. BETTER YOU KNOW NOW THEN IF YOU MET THEM AND GOT ALL SERIOUS AND STUFF.. LOL*** THAT WAY THE ONE'S WHO ARE TRIED AND TRUE WILL SHINE AND STAY AROUND.. FOR ME......I HAVE TO TAKE THAT FISH OFF MY HOOK AND THROW EM BACK...... I'M LOOKING FOR THE ONE THAT WANTS TO STAY , THRU THE UPS AND DOWNS THE GOOD AND NOT SO GOOD AND THE EMOTIONAL BOND THAT 2 PEOPLE HAVE....... SO START POOFING,,, I'M JUST GOING TO WIPE THE DIRT OFF OF MY SHOULDERS AND COME UP OUT OF THE ASHES........ONCE AGAIN A VICTORY FOR ME.. SO SHOW YER TRUE COLORS......... CAUSE MINE DON'T RUN.
HAPPY FISHING EVERYONE..        | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 2/1/2007 9:01:18 PM | IT'S EASY TO WALK AWAY RIGHT? YOU ARE ONLY ONLINE AND DON'T HAVE THAT FAR TO WALK , JUST CLICK THE MOUSE AND SHUT ER DOWN........END OF STORY..........TOMORROW IS ANOTHER DAY OF PRIDE , SELF WORTH AND DIGNITY TO HAVE IT AN HONOR FOR SOMEONE TO JUST KNOW WHAT A WONDERFUL PERSON YOU TRULY ARE..
THE HEAVENS ARE SMILING DOWN ON ME.......
OK MOM........I LISTENED TO YA THIS TIME .........LOL  | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 2/1/2007 9:15:32 PM | sitykitty,
A month is a long time to talk to someone. Even over the phone and through e-mail you can become emotionally involved. I had my own share of weirdness and so I don't date on here anymore. But I will say this. Some people such as yourself are on here to really meet and get to know someone. But there are many who use this place for their own selfish reasons.
When you do meet someone, the trick is to find out as soon as possible who this person really is. Ok, talk for a week, it's important not to put too much time energy and especially emotions into someone who we have no idea about.
Are they actually married, livinging with someone, or just totally not who they pretend to be all for the sake of emotionally screwing with someone just to build themselves up for a while. I know it's sad, but there's a lot of that existing in this arena. | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 2/2/2007 2:00:04 AM |
If its got tires or testicles, it's gonna give you trouble!
The difference being ... you can always take your vehicle to a shop and get the tires replaced, lol. Okay, no flames, please! Just a joke! | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 2/2/2007 2:38:20 AM | We guys know about that all too much. Its a reality of online dating I think and besides whats the ratio of men vs women? gotta be atleast 20 to 1! So with odds like that maybe he met someone who was willing to move forward and give it a try. Like the name says plenty of fish. Another one of my beliefs is that we are here to meet and date other with the hopes of a future possibly, a month is a long time to email before meeting, if a women is talking about a future with me in emails we should have already met by then. I have invested valuable email time with someone only to meet them and feel no connection.
I tend to get bored and question thier true desire to move forward in meeting me. Some women actually just like all the attention and emails to come home to (present company excluded obviously). Just meet after theres an obvious interest and save time and heartache.
Just my take on it! Best of luck | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 2/2/2007 3:09:08 AM | I have invested valuable email time with someone only to meet them and feel no connection.
Okay, I don't get it ... valuable e-mail time? Does it really take that much time to e-mail someone? And I don't understand why it all has to happen so quickly. How long have most of us been single? Me? Four years. I don't intend on meeting someone I intend on spending the rest of my life with in the next week. I am willing to invest some time to get to know someone.
*sigh* if that's the attitude of most men on here
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 2/2/2007 7:22:29 AM | Is this the ONLY means you folks use to meet other people? The way you all talk, it seems that you think POF sets up the rules for the world and society.
Maybe the guy got tired of talking after a month to someone who made it sound like there would never be any action. Maybe while you were just talking, someone else was doing. | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 2/2/2007 10:17:56 AM | I know exactly how you feel. I was talking with someone for about 1 month. We got alone, had many things in common. I thought we were starting a good friendship. But then one day, he just disappeared. No email and no phone calls. Just like that gone. I tried to get intouch with him a couple of times, but nothing. So I moved on. But I can surely understand how frustrating it can be. No reason as to why they stop communicating. You start to wonder if it was something you did. But as I look at it now, it's their loss, not mine. He found someone else more interesting to talk to and life goes on.
Those are the chances we take. | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 2/2/2007 11:18:57 AM |
But as I look at it now, it's their loss, not mine.
Well, he didn't want you.
You wanted him.
You don't have him.
So how is it HIS loss?
You don't have a guy you wanted. It's your loss.
Face the reality that it likely wasn't a good match to start with if he found someone he considers more interesting.
There's like 17 bazillion guys out here. Find one that's a better fit. You'll be happier. | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 6:18:18 AM | Maybe he's a footbal fan. How long ago did you say that happened? I suspect a lot of people, (men or women) would find something better to do with their time after a month of speaking to someone without meeting.  | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 6:24:06 AM | | OP: Both genders do this. Welcome to the convenience of online meeting. It is a matter of feeling anonymous for most it seems as they can just"disappear" when they are bored. There are many that pass time with one until a new opportunity comes along. Pathetic but true. | |
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| So you talk to him for a month straight then POOF!!
Posted: 9/13/2007 11:45:13 AM | Yes this has happened to me. We talked for 2 months and all our phone conversations were at least 3 hours long. We also met and had plans to see each other for the weekend, but when the weekend got here - he no longer responded to my text messages, phone calls or e-mails.
Oh well - guess it was his loss and I'm in the pond again.
Happy fishing
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