| | Inside the heart or good looking?Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | After you know someone for awhile their looks become secondary. I would look for a good heart. Looks change but the heart always stays the same. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2007 11:25:11 PM | It is not what you show on the exterior
that makes you superior
It's about your soul
in yourself, are you whole?
People are like stained glass windows --
the true beauty can be seen only when
there is light from within.
It's not the way you look
but the way I look at you... | |
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Posted: 2/14/2007 11:52:26 PM |  Haha No offence but even some people who say they care more about the inside and not looks are talking bsolute bullsh*t!
They say it just so they don't look shallow and that is sad as they are.
Ask a girl who they would prefer, (a) a guy with a great personality, but below average looks, or (b) a guy who looks great, but with a below average personality. I'd bet the majority of them would say (a), but if they faced that scenario in real life, they would undoubtedly go for (b).
I myself care more about personality but i have to tell ya it's hard finding a nice girl with the kind of personality i like.
looks can only satisfy me for so long.
So i go for what's in the heart and most important, intelligence with a good personality and someone who has a lot in common with me. | |
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Posted: 2/14/2007 11:58:25 PM | Goodlooking or "believe" they're goodlooking? Sorry I'm on a role.
I used to believe I was a godsend untill a quarterback said "You gotta be the ugliest man on earth". After that I pretty much started writing my own bible for the quiet types. I still remember of course, the key to the city, it haunts my horrizons. I talk to bankers and generals like neighbors, criminals and musicians like cousins. Profundity escapes me. Let love happen. It will.
Russ | |
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Posted: 2/15/2007 12:05:14 AM | A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. The conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.
Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups - porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain-looking, some expensive and some exquisite-telling them to help themselves to the coffee.
After all the students had a cup of coffee in hand, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the plain and cheap ones. While it is but normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress." "Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases, it's just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups...and then began eyeing each other's cups.
Now consider this: Life is the coffee, and the jobs, houses, cars, things, money and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain life, and the type of cup we have does not define nor change the quality of life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us. God brews the coffee, not the cups . . . Enjoy your coffee.
"Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect, it means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections"
Don't be the vessel, be the warm, hot substance inside.....Strong and rich in body and soul... | |
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Posted: 2/15/2007 12:12:58 AM | Very well said splendid. Far too often we are too busy looking at the aesthetics and external factors and overlook the essence of the "vessel" and it's soul.
"Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect, it means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections"
Don't be the vessel, be the warm, hot substance inside.....Strong and rich in body and soul... | |
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Posted: 2/15/2007 11:43:17 AM | Man I'd have an easier time shovelling if I still lived in Upstate NY than getting through all the bs in this thread.
There seems to be the old myth that those who are good on the inside will show it on the outside. I think this comes from tales like Cinderalla, where the good is beautiful both inside and out, and the ugly inside show it outwardly. Even though I believe how we look has a significant impact on our view towards the world, having known a lot of different people, I have yet to notice trends on someone being goodlooking or not giving them a better or worse inside.
A lot of people post things like "Of course looks matter, but I could have the most handsome man in the world, but if he didn't have a decent personality I wouldn't be attracted or interested in him at all." What people seem to fail to consider is that if he or she wasn't decent looking they wouldn't consider that person at all.
Think about something, if you were shopping for a used computer, and you saw two computers, one on which the plastic was cracking and faded and was $400 and another that was $500 that looked almost new with the same specs, which one would you chose? Would you trust the proprietor that "it's what's on the inside that counts," and the hardware was in exactly the same condition? You'd probably even think that you don't what your friends to come to your house and see that cracking plastic of your new computer, even if it was a slightly better deal. How much more so would looks affect your decision with someone whom you will be around all the time, kiss, and have sex with? Last I checked you don't have sex with someone's personality. Yes, that can affect your feelings, but their body is still there and what you kiss and touch.
I want to make one more point on something that's almost never addressed. You can easily tell if someone is attractive or not. It's a little harder to tell if they truly have a good personality. People are capable of putting on a nice act for a long time to get what they want. I know I myself have thought this. "Well she seems nice, but she's not that good looking, and God only knows if she really is nice, so I better just move along..." Maybe I'm just twisted, but I bet people think this a lot. | |
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Posted: 2/15/2007 5:17:53 PM | wonderful said Splendid! Just to support his comment would like to tell you the following true proverb:
A Theosophist saw a very handsome man who was very bad tempered and nasty!!! That theosophist submitted:
“the home is very beautiful and indescribable, but the home owner is awful, ugly and ill-favored”.
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Posted: 2/16/2007 11:22:54 PM | I think we've probably mostly all done some 'horrible' things in our past to people. I don't think that's restricted to men and ex-loves. And those do not define us forever. We can learn from them. Our regrets can make us wiser and better people.
As far as looks go, 7's should be with 7's, 8's with 8's etc...within a range of about 1, unless you're a very rich old man, pro athlete or rock star, then you can date several points above your grade. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2007 1:50:12 AM | | Why does it have to be an either/or? Honestly, most people are attracted first by the outward appearance and then they may look to the inside. Right? | |
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Posted: 2/17/2007 1:51:11 AM | | Why does it have to be an either/or? Honestly, most people are attracted first by the outward appearance and then they may look to the inside. Right? | |
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Posted: 2/17/2007 1:54:50 AM | This is along the same lines as asking a girl if she would rather have sex or chocolate....clearly, she would want the best of both worlds!  | |
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Posted: 2/26/2007 8:14:43 PM | | to msg 35: hmm...i'd go for a cute rock star in a heart beat, but forget the old guy (old is ugly no matter which way you slice it .... until you hit that age)...athlete?...highly doubt it, but possible. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2007 8:18:50 PM |
(old is ugly no matter which way you slice it .... until you hit that age)...
All age is relative to your own age. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2007 9:33:05 PM | | Well, there's gotta be something about the looks that turns me on or sex just will never happen, no matter how much love is there. I think we'd all like a partner who is physically perfect to us, but that just rarely happens. Skinny with nice long hair is about all that counts for me (although tall would be nice; with short girls my gait sort of resembles frankenstein when I walk holding hands with them). Personality wise, good natured is the requirment. Smart or dumb, rich or poor, pretty or plain, none of that really matters all that much. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2007 10:41:17 PM | Being a man ,my member has a lot to say about this.Its far easier to want to mend things after a fight if the woman is smoking hot and great in bed.If she's ugly and can't phuc worth beans,staying mad will seem like a far more inviting option.These thoughts aren't solely those of my member and are just my opinion at the moment and or until I get hassled about it.  | |
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Posted: 3/4/2007 1:37:44 PM | | answering based soley on the thread title: both plus some. in my case, looks and personality are starters, but people have to be well-educated, have a certain outlook on life, and decent careers. i want to meet people who are similar to me. everyone is different and we all prefer people who are similar to ourselves. | |
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Posted: 3/4/2007 1:58:04 PM | Hmmm.... Honestly seriously..Do ppl really look for a good heart..
Sometimes i think i am in the right church but wrong pew at times.. cause i have met a few very decent, men on here.
I always look for the heart of a person, how they treat ppl and how close they are to there families, Looks heck I am in my 40"s not everything falls into place anymore, so ya the looks they do fade, but i would rather spend my time with a good heart and soul then . with I'm so pretty yes so pretty lol...when you look into there eyes you can at times see to there soul..
I happen to think i have a big heart and have always treated ppl with respect, and i have a great attitude on life..
The things i hear from ppl are wow your so down to earth your great yada yada,you have a fabulous personality and a good heart...
But i am a bit over weight not much i said a bit 20 pounds to be exact.
I have lost alot of weight and have done it one my own. And i think i am not bad looking, i take good care of myself..
But the ones i have met, i think want the Barbie dolls..
So if i hear i have a great attitude one more time and so easy to be with BUT!!!
then i give up lol...
Thats my story and I'm stickin to it lol...
So the ones that are looking for the great heart and soul, could you email me...please
LOL... | |
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Posted: 3/4/2007 2:00:11 PM | I would say whats in the heart but really thats not the case...Ive been going thru some kinda depression about wtf life is even bout.There is a good friend of mine n he has a heart of gold sometimes but I cant get into him due to hes like 6'3 n weighs about 145.Its disgusting too.Hes good to lean on and I dont lead him on and Ive actually told him that I cant ever see him like that.Theres something wrong with him.I do think that whats in the heart is more important tho and Id rather some1 be 3 pounds n treat me good than some1 who just looked good n treated me like I was insignificant... | |
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Posted: 3/4/2007 11:45:36 PM | | I told some one recently that the inside of a person is the most important thing. It's nice if you can find good hearted and good looking or beautiful. However beauty queens won't hang around long and Barbie dolls are plastic. | |
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