| why dont men want a bbw who is a damn good woman?
Posted: 4/5/2007 12:35:09 AM | I think that Atlanta hit the nail on the head. I do not believe that it is particularly that men do not like bbw women, I think it is that some bbw women as well as men do not like themselves. This is coming from my own personal experience. I am currently in a downward spiral from my weight gain and I can tell you I can tell a difference in the people around me. I feel good about myself and what I am doing for me so I notice more approaches than when I was gaining weight and filling really low on myself. I tested this one night when I went out, I decided before I left the house that hey I looked good and people that generally I would not think would approach me did. So now everytime that I leave the house i make sure that I look good to me so that i can look good to everyone else. It is all attitude in my opinion. It is just like this, every day when I wake I have a choice to make either I am going to have a good day and enjoy myself or I can have a bad day and possibly damage relationships around me.
We are all beautiful in our own way, see your own beauty and others will see it to.
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Posted: 4/7/2007 3:20:49 AM | | I want a good woman . The op made negative nasty comments . Positivity is the key and a lady that smiles . Personally I am not attracted to bbws . That is my right . I do not mind a few extra lbs on a woman but I want someone that I believe will be around awhile. You can make the argument that if a person lets themself go that way they do not love themself and you must love yourself before you can love others . | |
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Posted: 5/20/2007 12:47:47 PM | | I sure agree with you. I am a little heavy too. I have trouble finding a man. Men do "Judge a book by it's cover". That is truly sad. I feel like I'm a good person to be around and like yourself I'm a clean person and I do dress nice too. I wish you all the luck in trying to find a man that doesn't do that. Kathy | |
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| why dont men want a bbw who is a damn good woman?
Posted: 6/14/2007 5:21:28 AM | Okay if i happen to double post I apologise... I initially had a pretty long response typed but something went amuck and well it didn't reach it's destination....
BBWs, what's the big deal, so what if some guys aren't attracted to, some guys ARE and some guys well it's neither here nor there... It doesn't make a person shallow... And in response to whoever said "it's not easy to lose weight" I wave the BS flag... 8 months ago I was 327 pounds... WITH a thyroid issue, and here I am way way WAY under that, still dropping weight like a bad habbit, know what it was... I got off my lazy butt, quit eating junk food, drinking soda and wa-la, magic? I think not... Put my mind to it and stayed consistant...
Now, women are just as guilty, myself included, I don't like real big guys, but i don't like real skinny guys' either, I don't like a man shorter than myself, I don't like scruff, and if he has funky teeth well that's a death wish for a 2nd date altogether... LOL... Am I shallow? Nah, I just have PERSONAL preferences along with the rest of society, so some's standards may be DIFFERENT, but everyone has a level of standards for someone their dating... Chemistry is about personality and looks, I don't care who you are... You are shallow if you're with someone just because of their looks, or just because of their intelligence, it doesn't matter...
Some kind of divine power comes from above and sends you "perfection" well perfection to you is imperfect to someone else... The key in love is to love someone for both their perfections AND imperfections... But you can't do that with just ANYONE.
So what yea rejection hurts, and it may knock your ego down some, is that necessarily a bad thing? No, take it as a learning lesson, make a negative a positive... Get over it... We've all been rejected, hot guys, hot girls, the not so hot guys and girls... It doesn't matter we all go through it...
If I have offended or hurt your feelings with this post, well, don't really know what to say, should I apologise for being honest? Hmmm food for thought...
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Posted: 8/15/2007 11:49:37 AM | Hi
I am a 53 and a true romantic and have found someone on this site. she is from Tennessee. I am a man that doesn't care about a women sizes. For me its what is in her heart..Most guy just think with there third leg..And you are correct that they do judge a book by its cover. its to bad since there is a lot of beautiful women out there just want to be loved and not hurt again... | |
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Posted: 8/21/2007 5:04:16 AM | I stay away from the "skinny" men. I was married to a BIG guy he was 6' 3" about 350#. I felt so comfortable around him it was unreal.
Ever notice that even the men that post in the forum about BBWs hardly any of them mention BBW in their profiles... | |
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| why dont men want a bbw who is a damn good woman?
Posted: 8/29/2007 10:51:50 AM | | The only thing that would be a problem is that most guys are interested in small women,in which I don't understand,no matter what the size is,your still a woman.Most guys don't understand that a big woman shows affection easier than a small woman,in which should give the big women the advantage.All you can do is try and communicate to guys who is interested in big women. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2007 2:14:19 PM | it goes the same way for men - deary
I'm a great guy (not to toot my own horn)
but women don't see me for who I am
see my my sp ace page (www. my sp ace . com/bigstevehixson) NO SPACES
you'll get a kick outta my ABOUT ME!!!!!
later
Steve | |
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Posted: 9/12/2007 3:00:29 PM |
Hi there, I am 41 years old and I dont understand just because a woman is big most guys turn away from them. Not all of us are nast and trashy.Myself I dress nice and I'm clean.I have a great personality and I'm a well loved person.But to find a guy that I kike is hard to do
Put the bag of chips down and learn to take care of yourself.
I have more "Fat" or "Obeast" friends than I do skinny... its all in the attitude.
I'm not going to settle for some old ugly man
But the man is supposed to settle for some over weight ugly hag ?
How two faced can you be... ?
Dont judge a book by its cover,read the pages first.And if your looking to just get laid then crawl up a chickens ass...
Nothing like getting in the first punch ... 
Lady, its not your size that is the problem, but rather you attitude...
I think your pretty, but have a ugly attitude.
I don't think you are going to catch much fish around here telling guys to crawl up a chickens ass...  | |
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Posted: 9/19/2007 6:38:16 PM | Sorry but I have had some personal things going on in my life and havent been able to get on here and post replies..so thank you all for your replies good or bad..we all have our own views about people and looks...but shallow I am not..I did make a mistake by saying in my forurm tha I wont settle for an ugly guy, hell I have dated handsom and ugly men..so I had no right to say that..but to me men are different just as we women are...if we were all the same what would this world be like...BOARD ASS PEOPLE...thats what we would be, am I right? hell yea..
And I have been seeing a man I met on here and he isnt the cutest man that I have dated, but he is nice to me..and I dont know what the out come will be, but I have tried to listen to people who have said its not whats on the outside that matters its whats on the inside that counts...and let me be the first to say, all that have met me all liked me..I dont know anyone who doesnt like me, and I do hold my head up, not hanging like some lost kid......and I will admit a handsome man is very pleasing to look at just as men like to look at a beautiful lady....I have also learned that looks doesnt mean your a great person (man/woman) ITS all in your heart...I am and will remember what people have said to me on here, so again thank you all...... | |
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Posted: 10/4/2007 11:00:33 AM | | I have been wondering the same question. Men will put they want a good woman, but if you are a bit overweight or they dont' think you are pretty enough, they don't contact you or reply. So I hate when they say that in their profile because if they were truly looking for a good woman, then slight imperfections shouldn't matter. | |
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Posted: 10/4/2007 11:12:29 PM | This won't be a particularly popular post..  But what can ya do? It's honest and candid, and that's the main thing.
It really is almost exactly the same both ways, in general. We can't expect other folks to have standards that are wildly different from our own. Appearance matters more often than it doesn't, with the majority of both men and women. We can only do the best we can with what we have going for us, or with what is possible for us to achieve. And guess what? It might surprise some of us what actually is possible.
It's incredibly easy to become overweight, and it's very difficult to stay slim and trim. But for most of us, both are possible..
Then comes the big question: Is it worth it to me? Or not? Perhaps. Perhaps not. But one can only judge that for themselves. Asking people to overlook the same imperfections in us that we ourselves usually avoid in others, just isn't reasonable.
Men are visual, and so are women. Believe me, you find that out quickly in a place like this.  Perhaps it would be better if human nature were not that way, but we are all imperfect creatures. And the bottom line is we can't change human nature in either gender no matter how hard we may try. .
So the onus is on us personally, to evaluate the situation at hand and adjust to it the best way we possibly can, and govern ourselves accordingly, based on the strength of our own convictions and desires.
In other words, we make our own bed. Hopefully it's a place we are comfortable.
-Suthn_Boy 
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Posted: 10/7/2007 11:28:53 PM | I have been an overweight person most my life and know the ins and outs of how people in general can be extremely cruel and doubting of big people.
I do agree that it is not what you look like but what you do with it. I could be 500 pounds and yet have one of the best attitudes in the world and be more attractive than a 115 pound person with a piss poor attitude. Positivness has a whole lot to do with it. No body likes negative people.
No matter how much people say that they don't judge others it is never true. Everyone judges in one form or another.
Attractiveness is a key factor as well. Just because I am not attracted to bigger men does not mean I am shallow it just means I prefer small men. I think the reason is because I try to offset things because I am a bigger gal. Who knows.
I will say this it is not easy to lose weight. I have been trying for years. I have gotten off my ass, stopped drinking soda, stopped eating junk food, and because of my dibetes stopped eating a whole lot of things, and still have not lost it. My final try is surgery and if it doesn't work then thats okay to because I am happy with my self. I may not be thin but I have many other great qualities that I can give.
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Posted: 10/16/2007 10:40:10 PM | Well, I'm a BBW and I don't have any problem picking up men or having them pick me up. If you hold yourself up and know you're a hot tamale, Then the men will sense that as well. I have been a skinny chick (before kids) and a BBW (after kids) So I can speak from both sides. I'm no different. Just older and wiser. Yeah, OK and a lot lazier,
But it's all good . I can rock your world as good as any skinny chick.
Well, I say I can.. But, Oh well. I say big girls rock!!!!
I must say. I don't normally find myself attracted to skinny guys.
I like tallll guys w/ meat on their bones who are nice/attractive
and look good naked... Hey, I like a trophy BF toooooo.
I'm a pig... I know.... I know!!!!!
Ps... You have to love yourself, B4 anyone else will love you.
Be happy w/ who you are. It's the inside that matters most of all.
MUAH............... SMOOOOOOCHES  | |
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Posted: 10/20/2007 12:07:50 PM | I totally agree with you! I myself am a bbw..not sbbw but Im a large woman.. But my heart is as large as I am.. it beats just like a thin persons.. it loves ,it trusts it feels pain and it can be broken just like anyone elses..
We are NOT in High School where the best lookin are the only ones with friends.. we are adults!! but the sad part is that those who arent "into" bbws and feel that only the *little* people matter are shallow..and they dont give anyone a chance because of their packjage.. They dont realize that one bbw can rock their world and they will never know it. But they will feel the pain when "Barbie" breaks their heart!.. Good Luck ya all in your searches... BBW here and Proud of it..
Chris
PS.. Ive seen more BBW's with hearts and more comapssion and warmth & love in their little finger then 10 "thin" people have in their whole body.. | |
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| why dont men want a bbw who is a damn good woman?
Posted: 11/7/2007 3:16:26 PM |
but the sad part is that those who arent "into" bbws and feel that only the *little* people matter are shallow..and they dont give anyone a chance because of their packjage.. They dont realize that one bbw can rock their world and they will never know it. But they will feel the pain when "Barbie" breaks their heart!.. Good Luck ya all in your searches... BBW here and Proud of it..
Chris
PS.. Ive seen more BBW's with hearts and more comapssion and warmth & love in their little finger then 10 "thin" people have in their whole body..
This is BS. A person isn't shallow because he isn't attracted to BBWs. Personality has NOTHING to do with body size. I know some BBWs that are very nice. I also know some BBWs that are very rude. That applies to every body type. | |
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Posted: 11/18/2007 5:31:44 PM | My 2 cents worth...
I am a 39 year old guy. I am 5'10" tall and I weigh around 240 lbs currently. This is the heaviest I have ever been in my life and it definitely has an effect on getting women's attention when you are overweight. I can only speak for myself. I do not like really large women myself, I am simply not attracted to them. I wasn't when I weighed 175 lbs and I'm not now. Physical attraction is very important for men AND women, and anyone that says it's not is lying in my opinion. Now, that being said. I don't like really skinny women either. I prefer women with a little meat on their bones. I would say somewhere between a size 8 and a size 12 if I had to guess. Now does that mean a size 6 or 7, or maybe a size 13 or 14 wouldn't catch my attention? No. What no one seems to be touching on is that it isn't just the size of someone that dictates a physical attraction. I look at eyes, teeth, smile, breasts, and truth be told, I am a butt man. :) Again, just in my opinion, most people need to have a physical attraction first, and then see if there is more there that makes you compatible. I find a very large range of women attractive. For example, everyone in size from Jessica Alba (a hottie) to Biance Knowles (definitely not skinny, but a major hottie). It all comes down to this. If you aren't happy with who you are and what you look like and the type of people you attract, then you should work on changing you, not the way everyone views you, because that won't happen. It's pretty hard to change world views on what's attractive. An old saying goes... "don't try to teach a pig to sing, it won't happen, and it annoys the pig..." I think that pretty much sums it up. lol  | |
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Posted: 11/20/2007 3:31:58 PM | | Room full of presents, some big and some small. Some have the most gorgeous bows and ribbons. Some are emitting the most heavenly aromas. Some are playing the most beautiful tunes. Some are wrapped in newspapers. Some look like they were thrown from the sky during a tornado. You may only choose one and it is the last gift you may ever choose, you also may not ever give it back or throw it away. Choose wisely, my friend. | |
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Posted: 11/20/2007 5:39:57 PM | | The bottom line--we are all too much or not enough something for most people. It is finding the right match. I am a size 10 and curvy, 5'7". The average American woman is somewhere around size 14 and 5'5". I have been called fat because I have junk in the trunk and 1960 Buick headlights--but fat, I am not. It is like ice cream, why do you think there are so many flavors? Because not everyone likes the same thing. | |
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