| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/21/2007 6:07:27 PM | Sweeping stereotypes...
All women want sex
All men want sex
All men/women with a degree of emotional intelligence give some thought to what they will be doing with their partner when they are not having sex (the majority of the time).
Men mostly consider this more after securing sex, women mostly consider this more before having sex. Men/Women who don't express that they consider both aspects have issues.
Instant trust from little bitty photos and a bunch of "prefer not to say"?  | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/21/2007 6:16:34 PM |
I'm surprisingly impressed with this. So true. Your juvenile top secret photo is a complete front for someone that is quite deep
I'll take that as a compliment......I guess 
But I'm not deep at all. I've just lived a little and rely on what i've soaked up along the way. | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/21/2007 7:42:11 PM | | Well I don't know but I would guess women think of sex half the time men do. Hey guys we are only humans. Women have to feel (most women)something for the guy. Us guys feel with are eyes. I must be a strange dude because I have turn it down.I have been with out for a few years and found out that sex is a small part of life.Sure it will feel great but really think about it,whats next.Can you two get along,Does he or she do things that gets your blood a little hot?Could be,but the sex is great. hey guys ,how long will that last?I bet everyone has been there.So us guys should start feeling with are hearts and not with are eyes. | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/21/2007 10:05:08 PM | | I would say to all the guys that are in search for sex here in the internet, go to a strip club and fufill all your desire there. If you want true love, try being yourself. Love is a beautiful thing but its something you have to invest of yourself into. Make sure you have the time and desire to have someone. I believe, all of us, maybe some more serious than others are on a website like this to fufill something. As for myself, I'm really not getting my hopes up about nailing someone but more of knowing diff. people. But I do encounter this issue so often "men only want sex", my responce to that is yes, we want sex but its not the only thing. To have someone who loves you and cares about you along with all other benefits of love is all that matters. | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 8:52:04 AM | There is a big difference between not trusting strangers on a website and being paranoid that everyone is trying to 'F' you over in some way. Trust is defined as "Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing". By definition, it can't exist between strangers. In reality, we are lucky when we have people in our lives that we can truly trust. Alot of us have some family members and friends where true trust isn't there.
As far as strangers meeting on a site like this, the only thing we know is that we are all open to meeting people. Thats why you need to develop some dialogue, learn a little about the other person, and meet if you like what you have learned to that point. After that, trust is something that you cultivate as you get to know each other. There is nothing wrong with having sex early in a relationship, just as there is nothing wrong with moving slowly if you are not sure about the other person yet.
Ladies...don't be paranoid about us men and sex...and don't give it up on the first date and then accuse us of only wanting IT! Some of us actually like your bodies AND your brains! | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 9:02:42 AM |
Love is a beautiful thing but its something you have to invest of yourself into.
bane_aconite, actions speak louder than words. I hope that you are one of the few who have the courage to still believe in love and be the love you desire yourself. I have noticed the tendency of quick to judgement and lack of open and honest communication in dating nowadays. People have placed too much expectation on other people instead of asking themselves what they could have learned from previous experiences and be healed. | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 9:47:33 AM | It is because men LIE!!! Men wanting sex is the human condition so it is hard to go against nature but it is all the lines, lies and total garbage some (not all) spew in order to get "it".
For example Shyboy2 is not who he says he is. From personal experience of this person I know him to be 1. not in the military 2. not at all shy 3. still lives with dad in a trailer park and the real hum dinger!!! he is bi/gay whatever and is looking for a chick to join him in his yuckky sex life (I did some research and found his pic on lots of gay websites. He has been kicked off this site 2 times but just keeps signing up with new emails....so with all that going on with just 1 guy on this site how can we possible TRUST MEN!!!.
I must add though that I have had some great chats with some "nice" guys but gee really who knows now day.
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 11:31:37 AM | I will stand up for the men here 
Not "ALL" men want sex from the start...there are some very decent men in this world and they need the chance to prove to you before they are judged that they are decent men...
Thank God we all aren't judged by everyone before we actually meet that special someone otherwise *shrugs* where would we be? O thats right alone! 
Take the time to get to know someone before you judge them and what they are about...
Because someone could be totally wrong for me but is definately right for someone else...
Just my thoughts...
VaL | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 11:32:02 AM | | I would say women shouldn't trust men because men instinctively have different priorities and values than women have. The problem is that despite our differences, women still unfairly expect men to observe the same priorities and values that they have once they are in a relationship. What I mean is we men don't see the idea of having multiple lovers as wrong or unnatural. Sorry ladies, but that's just how it is. Most women (if they are in love) would never think about cheating. The problem is that women expect men to magically abandon our biological imperative (to want to have sex with more than one woman) because women don't share this imperative. Thus, we men have to lie/pretend that we only want one woman, or women don't want to be romantically involved with us. Men will always fail if you classify our need to have sex with more than one person as a trust issue and don't realize or come to terms with the fact that we just have different needs. Wanting to have sex with only one person does not make someone morally superior to someone that doesn't feel this way. | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 11:39:23 AM | Men like sex. Women like sex. Sometimes with each other, and sometimes by themselves. Why do we have to make these incredibly biased assumptions about everyone's character on here?
Everybody here should just get some, and the world would be a happy place.....ok maybe not, but it's gotta beat sitting around and whining about not getting any, right? | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 12:02:45 PM | "Not "ALL" men want sex from the start...there are some very decent men in this world and they need the chance to prove to you before they are judged that they are decent men..."
YES, WE MEN MOSTLY DO WANT SEX FROM THE START. Have you seen the results of studies investigating this? Behavioral study conducted by Clarke & Hatfield in 1989: On a college campus, attractive women (total strangers) approached men at random saying "Hi I've been noticing you around campus and I find you very attractive. Would you have sex with me?" 75% of the respondents said yes. In a similar scenario where men approached women and asked them to have sex, 0% of women said yes. It's just biological differences that make men and women different. | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 12:55:59 PM |
It's just biological differences that make men and women different. So, men can't help it, they are just made that way? Arguing for nature specifically vs. nurture is a tough row to hoe... Particularly in view of the 1993 Hatfield and Rapson Cross cultural study, using college students from individualist and collectivist cultures and their views on love and well being.
The thing I find disturbing in using this as a argument basis, is that it's difficult to be sure what side it is coming from.... Should we forgive men and trust them because they are testosterone poisoned and cannot help it? Or is it that we should distrust all men for the same reason? Either way the picture is not so rosy. | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 2:05:04 PM | "The thing I find disturbing in using this as a argument basis, is that it's difficult to be sure what side it is coming from.... Should we forgive men and trust them because they are testosterone poisoned and cannot help it? Or is it that we should distrust all men for the same reason? Either way the picture is not so rosy."
The picture is not so rosy if one insists on judging whether or not a man is "good" by whether or not he only has sex with one woman, (in other words, by repressing his strong natural sexual urge). Sexual repression in that sense is not right for a man. A woman who is happily in love with a man usually does not want to have sex with another man, and she does not feel repressed.
I think more women could relate to what I am saying if I talk about a woman's strong desire to have children. I think most women would agree that having children is an extremely important part of their lives. If a woman wants to have kids and her boyfriend doesn't she would feel no guilt whatsoever in ending the current relationship and finding a guy who says he wants kids. You would probably agree that she is entitled to have kids, that this is her natural desire. She shouldn't repress her natural desire for children (ie by not having kids) because her boyfriend doesn't want them, right? That would be absurd. (And you wouldn't judge her as immoral for leaving her boyfriend to have children because of this).
Well, the equivalent natural desire for sexual variety is as strong in men as is the desire in most women to have children. | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 2:06:42 PM | some times you sound so bitter, mominatrix, and some times you sound smart
what have guys done that makes you so defensive about us?
is it that we cheat?
or we lie? (supposedly)
cause the way i see it is girls can be f*cked up as well, but that doesnt keep me from trusting them or opening up to them.
I trust everyone unless they give me a reason not to, and if they do then they have no business around me.
I do not think that pre-judging girls is a good idea, there are bad there are good and then there are some that just act on "impulse" it would seem not TRYING to be hurtful, though they are. | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 2:23:01 PM | | No, devil's advocate, we women are not delusional about men's biological imperatives. But I'm wondering who has more trust issues, men or women? Even if a man has several sexual partners, he fears the most that his women will cheat on him and run away with another man. I'm just wondering what kind of biological imperative would explain away men's trust issues/insecurity? Please enlighten me! | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 2:47:28 PM | PLEEEEAAAAASSSSSEEEEEEEEE..
You know how many times I have had women, in the first message or email to me, JUST WANT SEX from me... You know how many females i have turned down in the last year because they turn out to be just phiening for sex??? ALL of them... except one...... So Id say that, with my encounters, women are more mentally sexually active than guys are... No doubt about it... Women are just wild peices of ass running around with thier titties hanging out.. I mean seriously.. even look at the profile pics on this damn site... whos are more explicid and provacative?WWHHHHOOOOO'SS??? The lasies thank you very much... tittioes and ass in every shot...
thats all i got to say..... P.S. There is no real ladies left in this damn planet. | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 3:29:14 PM | | well I am a born again Virgin if that counts.. I am not looking for sex but seems every guy is and thats all they want all I want is to get to know someone and thats it | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 3:53:45 PM | | What’s the big deal here? I’m sure everyone has heard about sex. In this country everyone seems to be categorized in two areas, the 1st: the “holder of the precious” and 2nd: the “dog”. Personally I don’t care for either of those categories. Life’s too short to try and break down the wall of the “Prude” or the “feigned prude”. Just because you are a woman doesn’t mean I want to have sex with you…especially if you are inhibited or trying to pretend to be that way….been there done that….left to do something more interesting, like get a pizza! Let’s face it! “guys” like sex “gals” like sex too! The key here “IS” are you gonna be fake about it and miss a potential “good thing”? And even worse is THAT the way you’re gonna live your life ALL the time? Me? I’m looking for someone who isn’t gonna stereotype me and wants to have a good time….with certain restrictions pertaining to cognizant rules of conduct of course. Personally, I don’t have a problem talking about sex, just like I don’t mind talking about the tooth I chipped today or the dog crap I stepped in yesterday. Maybe I’m too clinical for most, but if you got a good story, “I’m down” to listen, it doesn’t mean I’m gonna stalk you just to get laid. You can go to any bar and do that. I’m here for something a little more personal……a little open communication would be a good start! | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 5:50:14 PM | "No, devil's advocate, we women are not delusional about men's biological imperatives. But I'm wondering who has more trust issues, men or women? Even if a man has several sexual partners, he fears the most that his women will cheat on him and run away with another man. I'm just wondering what kind of biological imperative would explain away men's trust issues/insecurity? Please enlighten me"
Well, nobody, man or woman, is happy when someone cheats...it's just that it is natural for men to want to have sex with more than one woman. But, if a woman cheats it usually means that she wants out of the relationship anyway and wants to be with another (ONE ONLY) guy. An average looking man is usually worried about a girlfriend's infidelity because he is worried that he will not be able to get sex on a consistent basis if she leaves. Even a good looking stud-muffin guy can't maintain a casual sexual relationship over a long period of time, because eventually the woman will get bored with 'just sex'. I guess it is a blow even to the stud-muffin guy's sexual ego if a woman leaves him, haha.  | |
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| Women don't trust men in this website because...
Posted: 1/23/2007 6:02:28 PM |
Women are just wild peices of ass running around with thier titties hanging out..
I can't believe you've already figured this out about us... and you're only 23!
There is no real ladies left in this damn planet.
Washboard... you're obviously a highly intelligent guy... | |
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