ukyoss
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Joined: 2/20/2005
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Posted: 7/23/2007 10:42:46 AM | | I have always been very open minded toward others religions. I myself do not belive there is one perfect correct religion and i follow ideas and thoughts from many of them. My main goal is more self understanding and helping others than telling them what to belive in. I am some what wiccan in the idea of the things that i value. BUT, i also think that others faiths and ideas hold just as much truth and strength as my own. I hope one day i can find someone who is able to understand that all religions are valuable when you us them to make yourself stronger and help others not as a tool to judge people and create a devide among them. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 5:21:18 PM | I spray-painted a pirate-fish on my dump truck. I let it be known. I like beer like a heathen, and I'm of Scottish descent.
My lovers' beliefs regarding the supernatural (a.k.a. the occult, spirits) are of paramount importance.
I respect many more tenets of Wicca and Buddhism (not calling it a religion) than of most other religions, especially monotheisms. I respect people who have policies like the three-fold rule, karma, responsibility and connectedness to nature, ritual as a social experience, and others.
If I found that my lover held a belief in any supernatural character(s) or felt convinced of unsupportable assertions of any kind I would involuntarily conclude she is capable of abandoning reason in some of the most critical points in her path to enlightenment. The relationship would end there and I wouldn't post my surreptitiously obtained photos. I have morals. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2007 9:31:40 PM |
I would involuntarily conclude she is capable of abandoning reason in some of the most critical points in her path to enlightenment. The relationship would end there
But what if she had big boobs, full lips, and pretty feet?? | |
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Posted: 7/24/2007 1:20:33 PM |
But what if she had big boobs, full lips, and pretty feet??
Moot point: in that case, she'd never have the first date with an atheist loser like me, would she? | |
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Posted: 8/14/2007 9:46:20 AM | While not Wiccan per se I'm very Metaphysically oriented and the decor of my place is such that you cannot come in and not notice.
I've found the average person is competent enough AND more importantly Spiritually Mature enough to accept my beliefs without fear or prejuidice. However when I bump into that rare Spiritually IMMATURE individual, I just let her go and tell her good luck with finding someone else.
I've actually had a harder time finding a woman who's okay with indulging me in my fetishes than accepting my Spiritual beliefs. lol Go figure... | |
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Posted: 8/16/2007 8:32:15 PM | | Hell just check out my profile it states it right at the top. Pagan gaming geek looking for love. Everything about me is right there lol. I wont hide my religion from anyone. Im proud to be pagan. Even have a bumper sticker to prove it :D, though its on my wall not my car lol. Mainly because well ive never had much good luck with my cars so dont want to have that on it and then get rid of the car. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2007 3:58:59 PM | | I like your attitude. Others here have voiced views about expressing one's own spirituality, and being able to have a relationship with someone who does not follow a spiritual path. Yes. It's possible. But I'm sick of it. I want to meet someone with similar views. | |
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Posted: 9/28/2007 4:52:27 PM | I am very open about being a pagan. I would think anyone who was interested in me would get that idea...and that it is very important to me fairly quickly. I haven't really had a problem with it.
Of course as a pagan I'm not particularly evengelical, but if someone doesn't recycle or litters...watch out! | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 3:56:47 AM | I cant date 'mainstream' people for long. The differences are too vast. And I need to be able to be alone 'with' someone. And most mainstream people talk too much, and dont listen to whats going on around them. Its very egocentric.
And (apologises in advance) boring?
I need someone who is also connected and understands who they are.
Having said that though, I have met slef proclaimed pagans and wikkens and druids who pretty much do the same shite as the other religions. They just follow a set of rules and hope they are pleasing someone or get the the mark.
I am so way different. So I tend to avoid religious followers of any pursuasion.
And the Norse side of me scares some people. One of the grandfathers who walks with me has been known to speak when necessary and....and I have Nissa in my house sometimes, and I talk with the ancestors and I know when someone/something has walked into an area, and I speak with animals. All perfectly normal to me. But some people (although they have never questioned the validity of it) simply dont understand it.
Me dating a mainstream person? It wouldnt last long I dont think. Not his fault or mine. Just incompatible. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 7:12:08 AM | I guess many people have an awareness of "the other side" in greater or lesser measure. It would seem prudent that those "of the craft" try to choose partners who are like minded rather than total unbelievers. Unless of course they can be very convincing, such as going out of body to see him on surprise visits.
Hopefully they won't drop by one day to catch him in bed with another mate. If so, don't be too hard on him with that voodoo doll, please.. ...that hurts like hell. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2007 9:17:52 AM | | In my opinion spiritual growth in an on going learning experience just when you think you are getting close you realize there is oh so much more to learn. I stopped dating christians. I look at everyones profile when they write me to see what it says about religious beliefs. It's a very important aspect of my life. I read their posts to see if they are open minded are dyed in the wool on their belief system. I've found that people that are not open minded and do not want to continue learning stiffle my spiritual side. They hinder my growth. Something I'm not prepared to let anyone do. I'll listen to your ideas but that does not mean I have to except them or you except mine but to respect each others ideas and encourage them to continue on their path of enlightenment. I do stay away from any religion that says you have to be of like mind. Spiritual growth is never the same for any two people. So how can you be of like mind with 10 people or more and want to grow when they say no stop your growing is getting you out of the mind set? Living in the Bible belt of America I'm pretty open and up front about it. Even your pagans can be closed minded so I guess I would have to say its all about how open minded and excepting of someone a person is. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2007 8:09:38 PM | | Yes. I understand your sentiments. I frequently meet "nice" people on POF who are probably wonderful, but not for me. They lack an edge. They lack some level of interest that makes me want to look at them and scream. I cannot understand why anyone would chose to be so boring. And I'm not suggesting that I'm an exciting person. It's just that I can be entertained in the forest, by myself, looking at rocks. I would find that more interesting than to be sitting with someone who has no specific interests. Someone dull. Someone without a sense of feeling beyond the cliches of routine life. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2007 8:15:21 PM | I let it be known first hand in my profile that I am wiccan, not neo-pagan but wiccan, I follow the old ways, not the new ways.
I don't care what religion my partner is as long as they respect me and my beliefs, that's all that really matters...people are seemingly too concerned with having someone to believe in what they do...why lose someone over something so miniscule? | |
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Posted: 10/4/2007 9:34:43 AM |
I don't care what religion my partner is as long as they respect me and my beliefs, that's all that really matters
that's about the most relevant single sentence I've read on these forums in ages. It really is all about respect, isn't it?
Well done, laserz. | |
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Nergal
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Joined: 4/29/2007
Msg: 65 | |
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Posted: 10/4/2007 12:23:11 PM | | It is all about respect at the end of the day .. Luckily my interests generally lead me into meeting others of similar mind .. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 4:12:33 PM | | I’m not Wiccan, pagan or of any other persuasion per se, but I do respect other opinions. However, and here’s the problem…believing something and allowing it to rule your life are two different things. I would want to know what the prospective other's principles are; if they would resonate with mine or tear them apart... and no, I cannot compromise them. Agreeing to disagree with your partner can only hold out for so long. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 6:28:16 PM |
that's about the most relevant single sentence I've read on these forums in ages. It really is all about respect, isn't it?
Well done, laserz.
haha, thanks...
Yeah it really is, when I see someone on here with a profile that specifically states they want to be with someone of ONE religion and that religion only, do you know what that tells me? They're close minded, don't necessarily want to say bible thumpers, but maaaaaan, do I want to. lol.
People really need to spend less time living in a book...Yeah I sound like a jackass now, but that's just how I feel=]. It's very possible to be with someone of a different religion.
I look at it in the way of "why lose a potential life partner over a miniscule reasoning" kinda way... | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 7:00:05 PM | Sure, it's possible to be with someone of a different religion. I know someone, a Catholic, who married a Jewish woman, and they've been happily married for a long time. I would not rule out someone who worships differently than I. That is not as crucial as what the man's core values are. Being politically liberal I would rather date someone of a different religion who was also politically liberal rather than someone of the same religion who was a conservative. There are liberals and conservatives in just about any religion. The stereotype of the conservative Mormon is not true because Sen. Harry Reid is a Democrat and a Mormon. Not all people of a given religion think the same way. Thank GOD!!
In a nutshell, the person's character, values, and personality are more important to me than what church, synagogue, mosque he attends. I never had the opportunity to date a Wiccan but I would not close my mind to it. Being open minded about spiritual beliefs is a good thing.<img src=http://www.plentyoffish.com/smiles/icon_201.gif border=0> | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 7:20:53 PM | designingwoman, thank yoooooooooou, it's funny that RIGHT after I posted what I said, someone I tried messaging said "I dont think we would be compatible because of my extreme relationship with christ, but I'll be your friend if you want to chat."
You know what that tells me? If one isnt good enough for a potential partner due to something such as religion, how the blue hell are you going to consider them as a friend? Stuff like that really irks me :|. | |
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Posted: 10/5/2007 7:45:37 PM | | I often wonder if the fact that I am open about being a Wiccan is a reason that some women don't contact me. It can't be my looks, because I am a cutie. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2007 4:22:46 AM | When it comes to plowing the fertile and non fertile fields, I am a man. At least I am honest in I like a little moisture on the dip stick.
If you dont like moisture, what are you, packing grease in that sh*t shoot?
Hell if I'm going to pack grease I might as well be a Republican. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2007 6:03:18 AM | From my perspective, it has nothing to do with whether or not my partner believes in what I do. I would simply enjoy being with a partner with similar interests. Someone who would not only respect or tolerate me, but would have similar -- or complimentary -- interests.
Hey, if I were travelling through Scotland during a full moon, I'd probably go to some hill and do an impromptu ritual. It bare minimum, my partner would respect my desire to do so. But it would certainly be my preference to be with someone who would be on that hill top with me.
That said, I don't shun the idea of dating men with other religions. However, my last partner had no spirituality, and it was eventually part of what drove us apart. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2007 6:21:05 AM | Out of curiosity, I checked your profile. As a result, it is my guess that being a Wiccan has anything to do with the lack of contact. Your profile gives a woman the impression that you're looking for someone who would enjoy a three hour bike ride while listening to music.
Rework your profile. Make it sound less like: "I'm completely on my own and I have no friends."
Have some fun. Share the interesting side of yourself.
(Just my opinion.) | |
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Posted: 10/6/2007 6:21:32 AM | | Full moon, half moon, Hell if its cloudy I can make up som stories about Venus and Mars and we really need to be on that hill top just for The ENERGY to flow oh I could go on. But in the mean time let stop here and have an ale. | |
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Posted: 12/22/2007 7:38:26 PM | Hmmm. Interesting thread, and the first time I've posted on these forums...
I think being up front with who you are is absolutely essential. At this stage of my life, I wouldn't even consider becoming seriously involved with someone who wasn't of like mind. I mean, how are you going to relate? What are you going to talk about? How are you going to communicate? What would be the point? Aside from family relationships, virtually all of my friends and close acquaintances are of like mind. Period. Everyone I know is either a Spiritualist medium, an energy healer, or a similar type of practitioner, like Wiccan for example. We all speak a common dialogue. I think it's also fair to say that other people wouldn't really understand us anyway. Like attracts like, wouldn't you say? That's my 2 cents worth! | |
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