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Posted: 12/23/2007 11:27:26 AM | I defy definition but wiccan, pagan, new age, buddhist, new age, spiritual, all of those things I embrace so this question applies.
I go on a few dates and see if its going somewhere and see how open they are towards me before I drop the "bomb." Because it may not even be worth discussing if its not going to go anywhere. However, it isn't something I tend to outwardly advertise, I think the "one" will know who I am and I won't have to explain much and he won't freak out about it. But advertising it may scare away anyone who may want to meet me and decides not to - and I think the more people I meet in life the better, despite the fact they might not be the "one."
Being a natural medium, not everyone is going to "get" me, and I can understand that, I am not a person who can be loved and appreciated by everyone. I will not be with someone who doesn't, been there, done that, it doesn't end well.
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Posted: 1/26/2008 6:35:27 PM | I have to say, I've been dating a guy that's not really any religion. Known him forever. At first, he was a little weirded out by me having an alter in my home etc. As he's come to see that it hasn't changed anything about me, just reafermed (sp) the beliefs I had before, he's come to be comfortable with it. After he saw some stuff happen that I had done spells for, now he's asking to join me!
I don't think it's about 'converting' anyone, just respecting their beliefs for theirs, and you for yours. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 7:30:06 PM | Sounds like me...I just call myself "Eclectic Buffet" when asked because some aspects of all the religions appeal to me. Although I am a practioner of the old ways I still like so many aspects of other religions.
I do wear a (small ) pentacle necklace and tiny ring as much for drawing out others with the same beliefs as anything else.
As for the dating thing I usually wait for the question about my necklace and then bring it up. Have dated Christians but most time that doesnt go very far. Too many of the ones I have met are so closed minded.A few arent tho and those few still are a joy in my life. | |
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Posted: 1/26/2008 7:58:03 PM | Same for me. I'm open to anything out there, and have no time to judge anyone, but as for this website i have described clearly that if they are not at ease with the whole spiritual thing, and such freeks them out, move on pass go and collect 200$ .I have no time to waste pretending or hidding who i am, but I'm more then willing on spending time with anyone who can respect the path i have chosen, It is not a reason not to exchange, and grow from our diffrences. Most of the time diffrent views bring alot of insigth, being diffrent, and will not judge or force any of my belief on to them, but grow from the experience.
Best of luck to you all
Shine on
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Posted: 1/27/2008 7:13:15 AM | Wiccans and dating...
Posted: 12/23/2007 11 26 AM
I defy definition but wiccan, pagan, new age, buddhist, new age, spiritual, all of those things I embrace so this question applies.
I go on a few dates and see if its going somewhere and see how open they are towards me before I drop the "bomb." Because it may not even be worth discussing if its not going to go anywhere. However, it isn't something I tend to outwardly advertise, I think the "one" will know who I am and I won't have to explain much and he won't freak out about it. But advertising it may scare away anyone who may want to meet me and decides not to - and I think the more people I meet in life the better, despite the fact they might not be the "one."
Being a natural medium, not everyone is going to "get" me, and I can understand that, I am not a person who can be loved and appreciated by everyone. I will not be with someone who doesn't, been there, done that, it doesn't end well.
peace and love
[I personally would rather know about a person's general views on religion before a few dates. I think I am rather open-minded as long as a person is not an extreme New Age freespirit that eschews tradition, a Christian fundamentalist, Orthodox Jew.
If you asked me many years ago, if I would date someone who called themselves a Wicca, I would have said definitely not, and that I thought it was strange to be one.
However, as of some years ago, I really don't care as long as their spirituality is healthy and balanced. If a woman is a medium or says she is, as long as she is balanced, passionate, has personality characteristics I want in a woman, I don't really care, but I can understand many traditional males would find it weird to be with someone from an "alternative" faith. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 8:26:06 AM | I think I am rather open-minded as long as a person is not an extreme New Age freespirit that eschews tradition....... If a woman is a medium or says she is, as long as she is balanced, passionate, has personality characteristics I want in a woman, I don't really care
In my opinion, that is a contradiction - if someone is a medium, and is using those gifts, they have most likely travelled the path to understand the gift.... which, from what I know, will go into "extreme New Age" philosophies. I have many friends who are psychic, Wiccan, mediums, assorted Pagan belief systems, etc.... and those who have gifts of any kind in this realm are usually considered to be "extreme New Age".... maybe your definition of "extreme" includes this, but most people's does not, unfortunately....... that is why so many people of "non-traditional" belief systems find it so very hard to find a partner. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 10:13:39 PM | | Im not wiccan strictly more Asatru than anything. I just go on a couple dates with people and weasle it in some how if i havent added them to face book. It says right in my face book Im Asatru so when i get comfortable enough they go on my face book soem ask questions others dont care I met a few pagan or spiritual men on here whom I like to talk to. | |
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Posted: 1/28/2008 5:17:46 AM | | I'm a generic wiccan/pagan. I'd like to think I approach dating like everyone else. I don't bang people over the head with my religion. I'm not tattooed. I do wear a pentacle but being an attorney I mostly wear a shirt and tie every day so it's not apparently obvious. I try not to be very zealous about my beliefs. They're mostly not anyone else's business, but if asked I hide who I am either. I would hope that someone likes or dislikes me because of who I am and not specifically because of what my spirituality is. I have had someone on POF say they were not comfortable with my spirituality (since I do mention it on my profile), but that's after she said that it was apparent we had nothing else in common so I respected her honest response. | |
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Posted: 2/1/2008 8:45:32 PM | | I dated a girl who was Wiccan for about 8 months... I foolishly gave her a large sume of money and I thought she actually loved me... I was wrong and she's long gone... I'm not prejudice against Wiccans because of her, but I must say, she gives you all a bad name... | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 7:28:07 AM | Never had a problem myself dating wise.
I like keep an open mind when it comes to religion as long as you respect what other people believe in there should be no problem.
I have had a few people treat me funny about it but usally people who no nothing about it away and can not think outside the box.
We all need something to believe in and its that what gets you through all that life as to throw at you, keep the faith  | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 7:30:19 AM | Never had a problem myself dating wise.
I like to keep an open mind when it comes to religion as long as you respect what other people believe in there should be no problem.
I have had a few people treat me funny about it but usally people who no nothing about it anyway and can not think outside the box.
We all need something to believe in and its that what gets you through all that life as to throw at you, keep the faith | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 2:46:51 PM |
I dated a girl who was Wiccan for about 8 months... I foolishly gave her a large sume of money and I thought she actually loved me... I was wrong and she's long gone... I'm not prejudice against Wiccans because of her, but I must say, she gives you all a bad name...
She gives us a bad name? Com'on man. I got screwed over big time by an ex who was half japanease... therefore anyone japanease is bad? (Or white for that matter... he was half white too!)
Using your logic: she screwed you over, so she's bad. She's a woman, so we're all bad. So you turn to men.
I have no control or say over what your ex did, so don't judge me by her.
Isn't the definition of prejudice judging others by something one person did? That is exactly what you are. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2008 10:57:19 PM | I always mention Wicca, spirituality and my faith in the first few conversations because of how much a part of my life it is. Just like I bet lots of women ask about income, my curiosity leads me to inquire into the guys soul and how he nourishes it. I do not care how much he earns but do care if he is willing to go to the mat for what he believes.
Plus it will be very obvious I am wiccan if he ever gets to come to my home.  | |
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Posted: 2/3/2008 6:53:23 AM | I dont have any problem dating pagans .. I've dated about a whole coven full I guess. But as my grandad used to say .. 'Date a witch and you've always got something to burn'
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Posted: 2/3/2008 6:53:51 AM | I dont have any problem dating pagans .. I've dated about a whole coven full I guess. But as my grandad used to say .. 'Date a witch and you've always got something to burn'
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Posted: 2/3/2008 9:14:23 AM | When I first began to read about alternative religious choices, I called myself Wiccan, then Pagan, and now Im at a standstill as to what to call my belief system. Its more of a mix of other religions, something that I like to think is the belief of the higher self.
Anyway!!! I feel I cannot even begin to discuss my personal beliefs with anyone Ive been dating. The looks I get from people when I mention a small part of what I do makes me realize the people of the world just arent ready for the truth. I'd hate to ruin something really good with someone because they dont agree with what I think life is all about. Mind you, I wouldnt want to be with someone who didnt understand my point of view.
Im not wanting to change anyones own personal belief. Id love to find someone who follows my same views, and if not, at least someone who can tollerate it and not try to change me. I can admit that dating a radical christian is totaly out of the question!!!
Reanne
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Posted: 5/4/2008 9:30:59 AM | I am a witch who has been searching for her soul mate...I find it very difficult because
i am looking for a man who practises wicca who has a common belief system and who
i am atracted to. It is not an easy thing to find. I have been told when you least expect it
thats when you will meet someone...well i have not expected it now for 3 years. I am
wondering if the right person is out there for me.
Like i say it makes sense to date someone with common beliefs so that we can go through
lifes esbats and sabbats and festivals and cast circle together etc. and be on the same page. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 10:53:51 AM |
wines wrote: I am a witch who has been searching for her soul mate...I find it very difficult because i am looking for a man who practises wicca who has a common belief system and who i am atracted to. It is not an easy thing to find. I have been told when you least expect it thats when you will meet someone...well i have not expected it now for 3 years. I am wondering if the right person is out there for me. Like i say it makes sense to date someone with common beliefs so that we can go through lifes esbats and sabbats and festivals and cast circle together etc. and be on the same page.
Attraction is, of course, a 2-way street. If you're a Wiccan looking for a Wiccan soulmate, then there are a few avenues available to you: w-i-t-c-h-v-o-x[dot]com, y-a-h-o-o-g-r-o-u-p-s, and the obvious Pagan Pride Days, Ren Fairs, and regional gatherings. Nowadays, when someone says they're "Wiccan", you might have to get some clarification. Are they British Traditional Wiccan (Gardnerian, Alexandrian)? Are they Dianic Wiccans (mostly women there)? Are they solitaries who more or less follow their own path? I'd ask them who their favorite Wiccan authors are in order to get an idea of what kind of Wicca they practice. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 6:58:32 PM | | how come you guys dont just hail a watch tower or two? i swear i saw that on that craft once? | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 7:00:24 PM |
how come you guys dont just hail a watch tower or two? i swear i saw that on that craft once?
Getting information on Wicca from "The Craft" would be like getting information on Christianity solely from Jack Chick tracts. | |
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Posted: 5/4/2008 7:40:52 PM |
Getting information on Wicca from "The Craft" would be like getting information on Christianity solely from Jack Chick tracts.
About Jack Chick......I thought you were using Jack Chick as a euphemism for jack sh!t. That was until I looked at a Jack Chick tract. I see what you mean.....none too subtle....or convincing are they! 
http://www.chick.com/reading/tracts/0004/0004_01.asp | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 12:42:52 AM |
About Jack Chick......I thought you were using Jack Chick as a euphemism for jack sh!t. That was until I looked at a Jack Chick tract. I see what you mean.....none too subtle....or convincing are they!
What a convenient twist of phrase...heheh...I'd have to say six of one, half dozen of the other on that one  | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 5:05:20 AM | I am not a Wiccan myself but always had interest in Wicca. It's actually the only religion that truly respects gender equality. Wiccans tend to be more open minded and intellectual.  | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 7:31:02 AM | I have alternative beliefs that dont fit any real category and I have found its best to just not talk about it!
I agree with this also... an i dont think when your in a relationship it should be an issue, its all about compromise, and being unconditional. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2008 7:25:40 PM |
Ishtar38 wrote: I am not a Wiccan myself but always had interest in Wicca. It's actually the only religion that truly respects gender equality. Wiccans tend to be more open minded and intellectual.
Wicca gets the most press because it's the largest Neopagan 'denomination', if you will. A lot of men feel that High Priestesses in Wicca tend to "run the show" as opposed to equal duties between High Priests and High Priestesses. That's one reason why you generally see more women than men in Wicca. On the other hand, Druidry tends to be more egalitarian between the sexes. Historically, Druidry was a men-only religion/philosophy. Nowadays, OBOD, ADF, and the Henge of Keltria are split about halfway in their membership between both genders.
As for "more intellectual", I would have to argue for the Druids. Aside from British Traditional Wicca (Gardnerian, Alexandrian), I've read some things in Wicca books which would make a historian sigh. From Starhawk to Raven Silverwolf. Anyone who wants an accurate history on Wicca should read Ronald Hutton's "Triumph of the Moon" or Isaac Bonewits' "Bonewits' Essential Guide to Wicca and Witchcraft". Also, Aidan Kelly's "Crafting the Art of Magic". As for publishers, generally speaking, Reiser good, Llewellyn bad. You have to be careful with some books on "Druidry" as well, especially if the author also has written books on Wicca. Wiccan authors (deservedly!) get a bad rap when they write about what they really don't know that much about. Examples: Ed Fitch with "Rites of Odin", Amber Wolfe with "Druid Power", etc. The ritual tools and practices outlined in Sirona Knight's "Exploring Celtic Druidism" are much more Wiccan than Druidic. Druids for the most part don't use athames in ritual.
Druids are split into 2 main camps: British Revival Druidry which began in the 1700s, and Neopagan Druidry, which had its origins with the Reformed Druids of North America (RDNA).
I would say that Wicca is split into about 4 different camps: British Traditional Wicca which began with Gerald Gardner and Alex Sanders, Dianic Wicca (feminist), eclectic Wicca, and solitary Wicca. However, a lot of solitary Wiccans are quite eclectic in their practice; nevertheless, not all eclectics are solitary and not all solitaries are eclectic.
Asatru and other forms of Heathenry are more conservative than Neopagan Druidry. Most Druids are encouraged to learn a Celtic language like Irish Gaelic or Welsh, but in several Heathen organizations members are required to study a Germanic language (with the exceptions of Middle English and Modern English): Old Norse or Icelandic, Anglo-Saxon (aka Old English), a Scandinavian language (Swedish, Norwegian, Danish), Dutch, or High German. | |
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