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| I know I am being a shallow jerk, but going out w/ her anyway.
Posted: 2/2/2007 12:12:59 PM | Well to all of those interesting replies...We are going out on Saturday night. I have been talking to her on the phone all week. I was merely asking if others experienced something simililar. Of course a person did not choose their name, I am not particularly fond of mine. If you want to know what my name is. Watch Subway commercials.
Never the less we have hit it off on the phone. It seems to have been enough to close her account out on the other site. She told me about a couple of other guys she had been talking too, and how one of them became totally infatiuated with her, sending her 15 emails a day, then found her home address from her IM's, and Yahoo email, so she flipped out. The other guy turned out to be a pushy jerk. She told me I was the only one who didn't seem like a wierdo, and didn't push her. If it works out, I will be outta of all these places too. In a heartbeat. My issue now is what do I do with the 2 others I am talking with, should it work out. I am not the type to date more then one person (I know some of you think I am full of shit). Thats been what has prevented me from going forward with some others after a while, I was unwilling to continue w/o a committed of somekind. A committment is not a marriage proposal; however I am not willing to sleep with someone who is doing it with others. I am not talking about a committment after a couple of dates, but after a few months then the person should make a decision. Now, she is already talking about sex with me, which I thought was kinda fast, seeing we have not met in person. We both exchanged several pics. To the person who mentioned I probably dont have a pic here b/c of my looks? Thats hardly the reason. I have my share of insecurities but its not my looks. Am I Brad Pitt, NO, but who here is? I have received enough responses, compared to other guys, considering my lack of height, and have gone out with enough above average looking woman to know its not my looks. My issue is making someone stick, I probably do suffer from the "nice guy syndrome", so its going to take someone who will appreciate me for who I am, and vice-versa. No one can be something they are not. Am I a "doormat"? F-NO, I wouldn't be sitting in this chair, and made it to the top if I was. Where I work is a very political company, and if you are not firm, or allow people to "roll you" you will not succeed. Its about being able to walk that line. Being fair, and treating others right, but knowing where to draw the line. For whatever the reason I have not been able to translate my professional success into longterm dating success, but could be on the brink of it. I am always adjusting, and adapting b/c I do regret waisting time when i was younger by blowing off things like relationships, marriage & children. I know at age 40, and in the best physical, and professional shape of my adult life, I have one last shot at getting all of it without settling for something that is not right, so while I may have gotten a late start, its not too late.
To some of those who write posts about giving up, or are very depressed b/c they continually struggle, they need to hang in there. If something isn't working, fix it, keep fixing it, eventually you will succeed if you have the determination. Nothing good in life comes easy. I am constantly telling myself that. God knows I have been down enough to know. If anyone saw the recent Rocky movie what Sly said was absolutely true..."its not how hard you hit, but its all about being able to take the big hits, and being able to get back up".
You have to be able to outlast your opponents, deliver under pressure. The ones who can, are the ones who are successful in life.
Yes, I am long winded, but who cares, you dont know me from a hole in the wall. You take all of this with a grain of salt, and think to yourself "this guy is a real nutcase" maybe so. Or someone out there, especially some of the younger people who write in and say they are giving up, and its all over, can listen or make use of some of things I talk about to re-motivate themselves. If this makes only ONE person who is all depressed, and thinking of giving up feel better about themselves, then it was worth the time I spent writing it!
The bottom line is, I don't care about her name anymore, I am past that. As the post was titled...I was just being a shallow jerk at first.
Thanks to all!!
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| I know I am being a shallow jerk, but going out w/ her anyway.
Posted: 2/2/2007 4:19:53 PM | 4 pages of advice, I hope I didn't miss anything but how about
calling her Lilly..........and think of the beautiful flower. Go buy a bouquet and say to her....
"a beautiful bouquet of flowers for my Lilly" Then she will remember where the nik came from.
My name is "Bylle" pronounced Billie or lilly with a B. I had never crossed my mind that a man wouldn't like me for my name! | |
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| I know I am being a shallow jerk, but going out w/ her anyway.
Posted: 2/3/2007 11:14:49 AM | In my case, and I am over the name issue totally, it wasn't that I didn't like her b/c of her name, as others mentioned it can remind a person of someone else.
I am meeting her in person for the 1st time tonite. We talked several times on the phone last night.
We seemed to be very comfortable talking about many subjects, like ex's, they always say not to. In her case, her ex husband was in the military and did 3 tours in Iraq. The whole thing in general is sad (not just with her), she mentioned how 80% relationships with people serving in military, or more specifically experienced combat breakup since the person has a hard time intergrating back into society. She said he was not the same person when he came back and grew more distant each time.
This speaks to how damaging this war is. If a person isn't physically injured there, then more then likely they are emotionally injured in some way. This has nothing to with broken hearts or her name, but if it were up to me, I would get our troops out of there right this second! Its not worth another drop of blood, or another penny of American tax dollars. Theres nothing more we can do there. Its a totally different culture, we don't understand them, they dont understand us. The problem is the people who we think are friends or allies....during the day they are with us, at night they are shooting at us...so to speak. I would bet a vast majority of them play both sides of the fence, b/c they have to.
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| I know I am being a shallow jerk, but going out w/ her anyway.
Posted: 3/13/2007 4:43:54 PM | Gee go figure. A jerk like you, has no picture posted. Probably because, you dont even like yourself!
You don't like her name! With any luck ,you wont like it enough.So you won't waste her time, and go out with her.What she should've done.Was send you a picture of her ass.Then tell you to kiss it!
Joe
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