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vhdc
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Joined: 7/18/2006
Msg: 152 | |
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| What do you do when someone better comes along?
Posted: 8/18/2007 8:05:10 PM | | Yes, and eventually the cursing karma works and the one that keeps catching and releasing no longer gets any nibbles. The relationship gods are not amused when they find partners and the partners keep getting released whenever another fish swims by!! | |
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| What do you do when someone better comes along?
Posted: 8/18/2007 8:16:49 PM | | Above all be true to yourself. If you know that the first man is not the one for you then you owe it to him to be honest about your feelings towards him so that he is then free to pursue others who will value and cherish him for who he is. There is absolutely no benefit to him or to yourself to string him along because you are afraid you will hurt his feelings. You are "burning daylight" by not being honest with yourself. Trust me, this man will get over you. The greatest gift you can give him right now is his freedom. | |
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| What do you do when someone better comes along?
Posted: 8/20/2007 10:00:59 PM | Dating is much like going to an apple orchard to find the best apple you can find. The reason we go there is to find the right apple but just like dating where we should be looking for the right soul mate, we chose to continue our search even though we have the best lady for us in town. We need to evaluate ourselves and become cogitate of the fact that maybe we also have some defects and the lady has agreed within herself to accept those downfalls and fight for the existance of a marriage between man and woman.  | |
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| What do you do when someone better comes along?
Posted: 8/20/2007 10:17:15 PM | That ones pretty easy (for me atleast!) I would continue to correspond with both of them. It's a free world & it's not like we're married. Plus, theres a good chance that she's doing the same thing!!!
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| What do you do when someone better comes along?
Posted: 8/21/2007 4:40:35 AM | Everyone has their problems. The thing you have to realise is "are they better for YOU?"
Chemistry means that you *click*. So if you *click*, that means that they are good for YOU, not for everyone. So the likelihood of another person being better for YOU is very low indeed.
If someone else is really better for YOU, then the current person is probably not good for YOU AT ALL!
Either you are with the best person for YOU ALREADY, or the current person is NOT GOOD FOR YOU AT ALL. Simple as that.
That's how I see it. | |
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| What do you do when someone better comes along?
Posted: 8/21/2007 5:03:08 AM |
You've just described the basic problem with internet dating. It's the "grass is always greener" syndrome. Too much distraction; no one can concentrate on one person because someone better MIGHT come along. So you ditch the first person and move on to the second with whom you think you have more chemistry only to find out that you should have kept the first one. We've all done it. And we're all still alone.....
I say if you find someone that you like, you click with, and enjoy then step away from the keyboard, PUT THE MOUSE down and stop clicking!!!
Tiny Dancer is 100% correct.... some are here for marathon dating. lol HOW DO THEY keep up? | |
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| What do you do when someone better comes along?
Posted: 8/21/2007 10:19:13 AM | Don't be a player, date one person at a time. Alow the first relationship to run its course. Invest part of yourself and commit to being a good date, friend, partner and possibly life long companion. | |
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| What do you do when someone better comes along?
Posted: 8/21/2007 10:39:03 AM | | This only happens, you realize, because you are trying to force people, who you've never met in person, into a boyfriend/girlfriend role without really knowing them. That's crazy! If you're "clicking" with both, meet both. You never know what might become of it, but it's gotta start as friends and you can have as many friends as you can handle. When you decide to actually start dating one (and meeting a stranger for the first time, who you've only been emailing or IM'ing should not be considered a date), then you'll have to make it clear to the other one that you are only friends. If they want something more, you may have to let it go. | |
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| What do you do when someone better comes along?
Posted: 8/26/2007 11:44:50 AM | There mus be at least 50 ways to loose your lover, even its's only an online lover.
So many excuses, so little time....anyone who's spent any length of time on a online datng site's done it.
I tihink it goes without saying- Don't do anything to someone, you wouldn't want done to you. | |
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B.Ann
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Joined: 5/23/2006
Msg: 168 | |
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| What do you do when someone better comes along?
Posted: 8/26/2007 12:50:43 PM | | Reach a certain point or articulated commitment and hide my profile. Trying to make choices beased on first impressions is like choosing between books based on the introduction. You can certain weed through the pulp, but you never know what good book is fantastic until you read it cover to cover. | |
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| What do you do when someone better comes along?
Posted: 9/13/2007 9:51:01 PM | | I guess my question would be...how did you know someone better was out there? I think if you found someone better you were not happy in the first place. I have to agree with alot of the people on here though. It seems some people just think others are disposable without even a cya later..lol... It makes for alot of cynical people. It also leads to all those profiles out there that state they are looking for honesty and no games...funny thing about that...those are the ones playing the games and being somewhat dishonest. Thats my humble opinion...lol | |
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| What do you do when someone better comes along?
Posted: 9/13/2007 10:47:46 PM | | Your on a dating site. It's great if you've found a couple of girls that sound like a great match for you. Keep talking to both of them and just be honest with them. Don't throw it in their face but find a casual way to fit in that you're talking to other nice women. | |
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