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 missmyablue
Joined: 7/28/2006
Msg: 76
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 aliven28
Joined: 11/28/2006
Msg: 77
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/3/2007 10:40:16 AM
went to the awesome pof party last night and noticed that alot of people do not look like there profile pics! my whole thing is though unless it was drastic change u really cant judge someone on looks alone!
 NickG29
Joined: 12/24/2005
Msg: 78
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/3/2007 10:50:07 AM
I have to agree unfortunately, I have met a few women from here, and most do not accurately portray their body type for the most part. The pics are either old, or don't reveal enough to make a judgement.
The women that were completely honest were a pleasant surprise.
 JazzyGurl
Joined: 1/24/2007
Msg: 79
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Posted: 2/3/2007 11:00:00 AM
my pictures are all recent... but i also only tend to take pics when i go out, get prettied up, do different poses, etc... so I don't always look exactly like my pictures, especially if its more layed back and casual but... i can, cause it's me... in any case I don't think anyone would find me unrecognizable if they only base it on my pics... but honestly, i tend to only put up the ones I feel I look okay in... the ones I prefer... not to give an unfair view but simply becuase I'm more comfortable with people seeing good pictures, I'm photogenic but i can also take bad ones lol! I don't post those
I don't think that's bad though... they are all still me... this one from a few days ago
 phanie
Joined: 12/20/2006
Msg: 80
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/3/2007 2:04:53 PM
Yeap i have indeed two times, which is too many...I remember i was talking to this one guy for about 5 months then we desided to meet up, i was expecting this really cute, attractive tall, sexy, smooth talking guy...when i saw him he was about 5'4, im 5'6, a total ass hole, had no respect in person, and was full of HUGE zits...I was just a lil disapointed cause in his picx he was sexy, and on the fone he was amazing...meh w.e, thats why i put up all sorts of picx...i think thats the best way to prevent that from happening, put up full body, real colour non webcam picx, head shots, and then put up some funky ones...and put up some good and some alright, then you know that they're expecting what u really are :)

Phanie**
 SuzieSnakes
Joined: 10/8/2006
Msg: 81
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/3/2007 3:33:14 PM
I think perhaps women are more guilty of this than men. Most of the females I know have very attractive pictures of themselves on their profiles. Now I'm not saying theres anything wrong with this, after all, it is them, and it is recent. A popular technique is to take pictures from more flattering angles, which is usually from above, rids you of a blasted double chin. I admit I do this, after all, pretty pictures are what catches peoples eye in the first place. I however, DON'T LIE about what I look like. I'm a bigger girl, and it says so in my profile. What really bothers me is when people who DO care about someones body type, dont care to check what someone put their body type as before they message them. If its so important then why dont you check before hand?

As for men though, I don't think many of them care enough to go through the effort to throw on a pound of makeup (except for one guy whos picture has a 6 pack drown on with makeup... I'm a makeup artist, i can tell, and you look silly :P), or take pictures in prime lighting at exaggerated angles. All of the men I met have been easily recognizable, except one fellow recently whos pictures were a BIT older, and WOW he was far better looking than I could have hoped.
 Tigress
Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 82
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Posted: 2/3/2007 7:02:42 PM
It even pisses me off when I am rating people! Every once in a while, today actually, I'm scanning through pics of men and I see this great looking young guy and then noticed that it says he's 43, and I'm thinking, "There is no way this guy is 43!" so I click on his profile. Guess, what! That photo was taken about 20 years ago, and in the rest of the photos, he actually looks 43! Now, I don't even think it was right for him to post that 'young' photo as the one to be rated. Everyone that clicks on the profile is going to feel an instant let down. Why would anyone want to do that?
 FallenAngel01
Joined: 1/22/2007
Msg: 83
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/3/2007 7:54:35 PM
I just had this conversation with my friends the other day... what a coincidence.

I would say most of the men I have met on the internet, do not look as good as their pics. I have met a few who looked better though.

I always get told I look better in person and think that is a major compliment, since they liked my pic to begin with. I always thought people should look better in person than pics because most aren't photogenic or hate getting their pic taken.

My friend said it is because sometimes pictures don't show the flaws you would see up close or in person. Plus with the age of technology, guess one could touch up their picture. I agree some use old pics. I met this one guy once (1 1/2yrs ago) and in his pic he had hair etc. Met in person and he was almost bald. It made a total difference on how he looked. I saw his profile recently... and he is still using that same pic. I think it is deceiving or just being lazy, not to use a recent pic. Of course, it is better than no pic.. then you never know what you are getting at all. I don't do the no pic profiles.
 Whataday
Joined: 5/6/2006
Msg: 84
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Posted: 2/3/2007 8:08:16 PM
I met a woman online, on another site, we chated for about a month and got along great, we agreed to meet......Well to go back alittle, on her profile she said she was 5ft9 145..... let me add this, I believe beauty is from within...Well we met and I knocked on her door and low and behold she was 5ft3 300 lbs....We went out to dinner and had a great time, when the night was over I bid farewell and told her you lied to me and that I can't handle
 DAVE632
Joined: 6/17/2006
Msg: 85
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Posted: 2/3/2007 10:38:21 PM
A lot of people won't respond unless the person sending the msg includes a photo. It may be fickle BUT the fact is we are all attracted to different types. Some people like BIG and others like skinny. I'm looking for a compatible age so why would I even look at 25 yr olds? I see a photo and guess 35 or 37 and the posted age sez they're 49. The opposite of that is a photo that looks like she's late 50's and she states she's 39. HUH??? WHY bother meeting somebody if there isn't even the slightest possibility of an attraction based just on ones prefs, right? Why post pics or state your age when it simply does NOT match your profile age.

I've met several women off this site. Over 50% have lied about their age/weight and their posted photos have obviously been from 15 or 20 years ago. Average seems to mean just shy of morbidly obese for some. Others post several photos that start off around their high school graduation shot and end sometime in their late 40's or 50's. With some the progression just gets better and better with age and sadly for others it doesn't. I just think it is totally dishonest not to mention dumb and insulting to portray yourself - both written and through some ancient photo - as one person and end up being somebody else. Don't you think the person you're meeting is going to notice?

To be fair I've also met several very nice ladies whose photos didn't do them justice either. No sparks yet but then sometimes we forget that it may not produce sparks that first few times meeting. There may just be a smoldering interest and given time the flames appear. Like one guy above stated though. If you LIE from the start don't expect any follow up. From my standpoint it can oly get worse from there so my advice is bail immediately. Be polite but ... Go. Go NOW!!
 trip007
Joined: 9/28/2006
Msg: 86
First date: picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/3/2007 10:50:24 PM
I have been lucky...The men I have met looked just like their pics...and some even better.
My pics are all within 5 months.....And not all dressed up. Im in my work clothes.
 pornstarben
Joined: 1/8/2007
Msg: 87
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/20/2007 6:43:29 AM
hey hows it goin im ben 25 from orillia wanna chat on msn pornstar_ben6969@hotmail.com
 oceandreamer67
Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 88
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/20/2007 7:50:11 AM
Wow, I've heard about all the horror stories, but I have been fortunate. All but 1 guy looked like their pics in person. I tend to have a bigger problem with people not being who they say they are...lots of weirdos, lol! Although, a few e-mails and phone calls pretty much weed them out.

I agree with the glamour shot pics, bad idea. I went with pics that are who I am... I don't go around all dolled up when I am hanging at the house...and I also have a goofy side which I posted, lol!
 Bwitching_Bella
Joined: 12/11/2006
Msg: 89
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/20/2007 8:12:53 AM
If I'm gonna meet someone online....
I will want to see more than a profile picture and I would have to see them on cam to know that it's really them in the picture

Too many Looney Tunes out there not to make sure who your meeting from a site > irl
Proving I'm real is easy I'm on IMDb

Bella
 bittentwice
Joined: 12/23/2006
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Posted: 2/28/2007 6:00:14 PM
I have never met anyone from online yet. But from reading this post, I would walk away. I hate being lied too and mindgamed. The picture would be the defenite *first* lie. Not trying to be calous or shallow. Just real. If a person can't post a decent, recent pic.... then there is no sense in continuing. It is the first lie so to speak.

But that is just my 2 cents. I am a realist and a bit of a****when it comes to the opposite sex.
 honestoriginalguy
Joined: 2/23/2007
Msg: 91
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/28/2007 6:04:45 PM
So far, fortunately, the people i've met online did look like how they looked in their pics. The one of me in the goatee, that IS what I look like. And yes, you can't judge a book by its cover.
 chilady07
Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 92
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/28/2007 7:54:12 PM
Digital cameras are less than $100 these days and even cheaper around the holidays. Disposables are dirt cheap and photo processing costs $4. Nine times out of ten, you know someone with a digicam who can take your pic for you. There is almost no reason for someone who is seeking a relationship online not to have a recent picture.

Anyway, the last guy I met from here was gorgeous in person. His pics did not do him justice. Such a shame we didn't click. Another guy was a cutie but he was guilty of posting older pictures as well. However, the pics weren't too far off to make me call him a liar.

I just don't understand the whole deception thing, either.
 Sigi
Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 93
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 2/28/2007 8:13:27 PM

First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.


Therefor I communicate first through/with a web cam...and yesss....with our clothes on!
 p911gt10
Joined: 11/17/2006
Msg: 94
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/1/2007 7:16:56 AM
It's called having "Angles". The term was coined on MySpace when people, mostly women, would post pics of themselves either from the chest up, looking down from overhead, laying on their stomachs...anything to hide certain characteristics of their bodies. The unfortunate part came when they met up with someone in real life and *poof*, the illusion is blown. So the term got out there and it was said "She had Angles!". It's since gone worldwide and now both men and women do it daily.

and yes, I've met up with a few girls that had Angles and I was disappointed.
 L.B DUB
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 95
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Posted: 3/1/2007 12:30:16 PM
hey if u cant change the pic' u can change the frame
 WarmingTheColdest
Joined: 3/4/2007
Msg: 96
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/10/2007 10:51:07 PM
This is why nothing compares to attraction in person. Like it or not, visual attraction is the starting point of attraction. The foundation is personality. I love getting those butterflies in my stomach when I first glimpse the women I like. Nothing compares to the first encounter face to face.
 blast3r
Joined: 9/17/2006
Msg: 97
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/11/2007 6:06:41 AM
I think women do this more than men as someone else stated. What really bugs me is how some women will take photos and crop 30 lbs of fat off. I met one woman from match once and was pretty pissed when I saw her. For some reason people think once they meet you they will just fall in love and not care. I went looking for a sword to throw myself on.

And another thing that REALLY bugs the crap out of me is women that contact me that don't have a photo and they try and play stupid about their computer hates them and won't allow them to upload a photo. Total BS. I know the real reason. They are saving up to buy photoshop so they can crop it. :)
 JulietJuliet
Joined: 10/22/2006
Msg: 98
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/11/2007 6:52:05 AM
I met two guys that looked much older than their pic's, when I was dating (the drunk one looked 20 years older), and I met two guys that looked better than thier pic, so I guess it's a lucky dip scenerio
My pic's are ALL recent, so I don't feel guilty about misleading anyone. If I have a drastic change (ie: recently I changed my hair colour), then I make sure it reflects on my profile. We have a tendancy to put our best pic forward, and in a lot of cases it's the only pic, so I find this can be misleading. Pictures in the dark, pictures with a sexy part of the body that don't show the entire body etc etc......
 RomeoK20
Joined: 1/16/2007
Msg: 99
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/11/2007 8:41:14 AM
......Now, you see .... if Id sent a picture of a fly......lol
 FistnCuffs
Joined: 10/13/2006
Msg: 100
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/11/2007 9:26:00 AM
this aint exactly rocket surgery...of course a female is going to post her best pics...duh...but if you do meet someone from the site face to face they should bear some semblance to their profile pics...(and most do)...any discrepancies...outside of blatantly obvious ones...should be overlooked...
i would suggest going to a pof function such as a dance or something and meet some of the ppl in person...i dont photograph well so obviously i posted what seemed to me my most flattering pics...i have been told that i do look pretty much like my thumbnail pic...
for some ppl the camera adds pounds...and years...no big deal...
for me...what a person is like on the inside is far more important than how they look anyway...i know a lot of really evil good looking women and a lot of very nice "plain janes"...
just my 2 cents worth...
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