| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/11/2007 12:29:58 PM | | I have had this happen on many occassions. To me it is a garunteed way to ensure there will be no second date. Not because of how the person looks but because the person was so willing to use deception. I make a point of updating my pictures at least every couple of months. I have had people say..wow you look just like your pictures and be uterly surprised by that so this must be a pretty common problem... | |
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| When pictures in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:05:25 AM | Yes, I also have had the dissapointment of this experience..lol
I met someone here on POF about a half year ago. We were both very attracted to each others picture, so we began to talk, alot.
We talked every night on the phone , ..for hours, and he lived out of town so we couldn't meet up rigt away. ...anyway, the time came to meet and he flew me to where he was.
When he walked up to me at the airport, I honestly did not know who he was, I didn't recognize him, .. at all, he was literally about a 100 pounds heavier than his picture.
I got there friday and was suppose to stay for a week, but came home on sunday.
People, there is no need to lie about your appearance....
*For one, there is someone out there for everyone.
* Also, you are starting the friendship off by lieing and decieving.
* Show some respect for the other person and allow them to decide for themselves wheather or not they are attracted to the "real" you.
...and last but not least, if you're are that unhappy with the way you look that you have to lie about it, ..then do something about it.
*BE REAL*
Just my two cents worth...Ruralblondie | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/12/2007 9:19:24 AM | As I've yet to meet anyone from this site, I get the feeling from this post and some new 'friends' here that I may not care to any time soon, but I've yet to meet more than one woman who looked better in person than her on-line photo showed for herself.
It was her words and smile that attracted me to her. Too bad that she proved to be less than true to these. | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/12/2007 11:05:52 AM | See this is why I'm worried about meeting people on the internet. With cyberspace, you can actually make yourself out to be who whoever you want people to see you as. With pictures, it's hard because alot of people don't look like their pictures for one thing unless taken with a really good camera. Then people can do a whole bunch of things to make themselves look better in pictures. I've taken webcam pics & with programs like Adobe Photoshop, you can touch up the lighting and you can actually make yourself turn out to look like some supermodel.I'm vary wary of people who post glamorous shots like that because mostly, they won't look as good in person. Even if you see someone on a live webcam, it can still hide flaws, specifically if you have the cam placed at a nice angle.
I'm very self conscious so I don't like to meet people off the internet. I always think I look better in my pics or in person and I don't want to throw people off. I'm worried that the person might not find me as attractive as they did on the webcam.
I met one guy who I found very attractive on myspace. In his picture he portrayed himself to be this very macho muscular guy with light brown eyes. I was so mesmerized by his eyes, that I asked him, are those your real eyes and he replied with a yeah! So we met in person and how about he was more on the chubby side & I later found out that those were not his real eyes but he was wearing colored contacts instead. He was still cute and I actually began to like him, but I later found out he had even more skeletons in his closet that really began to freak me out so I left him alone. As I began to know him more, I began to see his true side.
That's why I don't like meeting people on the internet, you can hide so much stuff about yourself and there are really crazy people out there so you gotta be careful. I rather just talk to someone I see at the mall or at the club or something. That way, you can see each other for who they really are and there are no disappointments. You really can't hide much when actually meeting someone face to face. | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/12/2007 5:30:43 PM | | i guess i have been pretty lucky here most did look like their pic and some looked abit different and if they lie about themselfs on that note i wont talk to them again cuz if they lie about themself looking like that what else are they lieing about and if they say they are good looking to me i have ? cuz why say that when it could be flase and have enough selfstem and thats what is. dishonsetly is the worst and wont go to far when meeting somebody my thing. | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/12/2007 8:30:53 PM |
i guess i have been pretty lucky here most did look like their pic
I must look like my pic. At a POF even last weekend one woman shouted "eeek!" as soon as she saw me. 
dishonsetly is the worst and wont go to far when meeting somebody my thing.
There's no point in being dishonest in your profile if you ever expect to meet someone in person. | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:07:20 AM | I wouldnt know...Im half way around the ass end of the planet and not looking to meet anyone online (unless they meet my profile requirements) yay for informal messaging mediums imo! That being said...theres times when you wish you were Nightcrawler and could teleport lol.
At least I have a webcam...so picture validation problems dont happen...i still find it hard to believe that everyone doesnt one in this day and age. O_O | |
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BigB.
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Joined: 3/4/2007
Msg: 110 | |
| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/13/2007 11:34:44 AM | I'm bored, so I thought I would reply...
I typically just use this site for forums anyway, hence you see no pic of me on here or any other site. I'm a believer that most of these dating sites hire girls to post pictures and make up good profiles to take money out of our pockets. I have talked and met a couple of women from these sites, and for the most part are nothing like they present themselves by pic or profile. I've just given up on even trying to date, no luck on dating for me lately...
Maybe she'll come knocking on my door someday. | |
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BigB.
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Joined: 3/4/2007
Msg: 112 | |
| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/13/2007 12:12:58 PM | Looks are decieving as well as what is being typed back and forth. I've even gone so far to have a lady call my cell phone number and explained to her how to block her number from being displayed on my phone if she was worried...
I got an email the next day with her telling me I was weird and not to contact her again. I didn't...
So much for trying to get to know someone... | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/13/2007 12:37:27 PM | Before I became an internet dating 'expert' I spent time and energy chatting with guys with no pics. And then I got wise IMO... ANYONE who says looks aren't important is full of crap. What you consider attractive to YOU and I what I consider attractive to ME might be two different things... but it is still an attraction and I still want the option of knowing who I'm talking to before I talk.
It's got nothing to do with being shallow and everything to do with being burned one too many times by people misrepresenting themselves! Get over it you non-pic posters  | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/13/2007 1:01:00 PM | i have had it happen to me many times.... i dont tolerate it any more.. i dont accept any picture less than 3 months if they are serious about meeting... and not one of these glamour shots either.
If i dont see pics in their profile i just get suspicious... its a dating site... and whether people like it or not, the physical attraction is an important element in relationships.... just like in the real world... you look over and say.. damn... that person is attractive...
we all know great people... doesnt mean we'll date them. why.. because we may not find them attractive... if most people we straight up.. there would be so much less BS in online dating. | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/13/2007 2:30:38 PM | Ok, i'm ugly so i can say this.
Alot of you that are ****ing about the OP not looking like the pic are ALSO dog ass ugly, be quiet and be happy someone wants you, sheese!!!
a 52 year old that looks 65 and very overweight should not complain about the guy not being just like she ordered, be happy he wanted to meet you and be happy he was skinny
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/13/2007 2:35:35 PM | | good point i have to say. what one finds to be good looking one might not thats life. but if somebody inst my type it save alot of greif for everyone. only people would do this and stop wasteing time theirs and others.it would be better word but sad but true people lie and reay it gets them nowhere fast and i like to see whom i talking too and i like to have somebody who im attacted to . and many ways such as looks and mind samethings i like to do . cuz really thats how you find the one you want. looks are important to have as well as other things. | |
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Mia828
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Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 118 | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/13/2007 6:45:32 PM | I've meet a few- and sorry to say- all have been a disappointment to say the least- one girl I had web cam talks with- for three months- when I met her I hardly recognized her- she said sorry but her cam makes her look thin- still had a good time and she was nice but I felt lied too so we left it at that.
So beware and don't get your hopes up until you meet. Even web cams are not perfect.
Why deceive- you'll only disappoint someone and yourself in the end | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/13/2007 6:52:21 PM | OK people think about this, if you go to a bar and meet someone and start dating them, what advantage do you have because you've seen them in person already? Just because you already know what they look like doesn't mean that they are going to be the same person when the alcohol wears off! Day by day, you're going to find out more things about them that you don't like! If you're lucky, and few of us are judging by the number of people on this site, you aren't disappointed. So just because someone may send you a false description of themselves, doesn't mean that they've done anything worse than the person in the bar! Dating is as much of a gamble as anything else in life and if you don't like the way a person looks, move on! Don't take offense to it! I'm sure they just enjoyed talking to someone of your calibar! At least that's what I always tell myself when it has happened to me! LOL, it has happened!
Now, before I get attacked for not having a picture on here, I'm going to defend myself and say that I do have one on my computer of myself that I send out when asked. And it's recent! This online dating stuff is very similar to a job interview, in my opinion. I'd rather have the person reading my profile to get to know me from the things I've written than judge me by the way I look! It's similar to sending out a resume' before getting the interview!
There are good things and bad things with everything you do in life, internet dating isn't any more safe or dangerous than going to the bar and meeting someone! The only difference is that at the bar, or wherever it may be, you have the benefit of checking out the goods first. The meat may look good on the outside but that doesn't mean that it isn't spoiled once it's opened.
My advice, be open minded going into it! You never know, that person may be even better in other ways and worth the time and effort! You may find that you can get past imperfections! After all, don't you have a few of your own? I know I do! | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 3/13/2007 7:10:37 PM | I went to meet a man I read his whole profile
He is tall just the way I like aman over 6 feet 6'4
He 'Said he weighed just over 275lb.s the last time he checked
well let me just say if you's are talking about recent pictures to show what the person looks like recently
this guy has no clue
he was not even 6 feet
not 275
no hair yes bald (I love bald men remember Telly Salvas sorry if I am not spelling his name right)
for his true size
PLEASE SIT DOWN FOR THIS ONE
TRY 475 LBS
NOW that is lying about your picture for sure
I was lady like to him and just no thank you sir
and Good night | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 6/17/2008 12:27:01 AM | | Frankly, I feel it's cheating. Call me shallow or cold hearted or hypocritical, but looks factor into the equation. From pictures you can start to tell certain things about people and frankly, it's nice to have a face to put to the whole thing. I don't bother with no-photo profiles, and often skim over the 1 photo profiles unless I read something that really catches my attention. It's hard to believe that in this day and age people don't have a decent number of pictures they can post, so why not do so? | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 6/17/2008 2:19:12 AM | I agree, this happens way too much, its dishonest and wrong, if your are liked by someone for who you are then that has to be better than being liked based on a lie.
I think people believe its easier to send a younger, prettier, more toned picture to grab the att of the person they want, you get noticed but then what???
you buy dinner, drinks for someone that is only waiting for a excuse to leave because they feel wronged by your lies, why both?
Be honest, be yourself, be direct and you will meet all the people wort meeting! | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 6/17/2008 5:28:32 AM | Here, Here!!!
Can't tell you how many times this has happened to me from the time I first started on here.
My whole thought on it is...if you lie about the small stuff...what makes me think you don't lie about the big stuff? Never a good way to start trying to connect with someone.
And if you do email someone and talk on the phone and have alot in common, hit it off, and want to meet, do they seriously think that the other person is going to overlook that? Because maybe they wouldn't have cared what you looked like at all if you had a real picture up, just that you really were compatable. But the fact that you couldn't come forward with honesty is what broke it for them....
Just my thought. | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 6/17/2008 5:51:01 AM | | I haven't even had to meet them to see this. Most men I have talked to on here send me an updated photo after a few chats - and it's usually showing that he used a photo from 10 or 20 years earlier on his profile. Or a photo when he was thinner or had hair. It's deceptive and annoying, as usually the real photo is unattractive and then it's an awkward parting. Women need to be physically attracted to someone as well, if you expect to have sex in the relationship one day. The worst are men with no pic who insist on saying how attractive they are and that you won't be disappointed. Well, I've been disappointed every single time I've chatted to one of those and they sent me their photo. | |
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