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Hi Luv Summer2000. Years ago I met a man who looked nothing like the photo he posted.
The photo he posted was of a naturally short dark haired man about 30 years old with a rounded face . The man "I met" had long blonde hair, glasses...slim, and a very long and wiry face...but looked about 32-35. The photo was definitely not him. It was a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT MAN. EEEEeeeKKKKkkk!
Imagine my disgust when he said it was a photo he pulled out of his place. I left pretty much immediately..after travelling a fair way to meet him.
Thankfully nothing like that has happened. People always look a little different. But everyone I have come across has a my(place) page with lots and lots of photos. You get a little better idea than the crummy resized ones on this site.
I find it adventurous. If a person looks normal, great. If they are a goblin, then you have good stories for your friends.
First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
I run into that a lot. They have one picture that makes them look good, and the rest show that the person is much heavier and less attractive than the one "glamor shot" picture that they want everyone to see.
I really think that people are attracted to different things. I think regardless of what one looks like in size or shape that at the very least you should be upfront about what you look like. I always find it funny when I read female profiles hearing women talking about how they just "find themselves attracted to fit/athletic guys" like they are some type of rare breed. I mean "a few extra pounds" means many different things to many people. The first time I came on this site I was about 40lbs heavier and I actually put on my profile that I was athletic! Once I realized that I was full of shit I changed it and in the ensuing years have lost quite a bit of weight. I have been told by the women I have met in person that I look better then my pictures and that is nice to hear. The reason most of my pics just show my face is because I think my best asset is my smile and I want people to see that. But even if I was in the best shape of my life with a rippling six pack, I would still be like 230 lbs 6'2ft with huge shoulders, and some women just are not into that and I except it. I think the most important thing is to be as forth coming as possible. I don't take very good pictures but I do have one body shot of me on the site so people know what I mean when I say I'm a few extra pounds I'm sure there are some people that will look at me and say he's more then a few extra pounds, like I said that term means different things to different people . I met someone a few weeks ago on here and we talked on POF and msn and facebook and as I got to know her and came to like her online, I found it quite frustrating that every picture of her on any of the sites mentioned were just a head shot or she was conveniently standing behind a crowd of people or some big object and you couldn't see her full body in even one of the hundreds of pictures she had posted. She told me she was over weight and her profile said "a few extra pounds" and I was totally fine with meeting her. So we met and I found her pictures to be incredibly misleading and I can't tell you how disappointing that was. The last thing I would ever want is to meet up with someone and for them to feel that I have mislead them with my pictures. That was not the first time that has happened to me and it's very disappointing when you are talking to someone online thinking about how much you like them and you're really clicking with them and then you meet them in person and they're not the person you have expected because they look nothing you like you imagined based on the pictures you have seen and what they have told you.
When it comes to this topic I think the biggest thing we're talking about is size and being bigger? I just think regardless of your size you should be forthcoming with who you meet up with. When it comes to being ft and athletic or skinny most people are pretty open with that general look. But when it comes to being over weight people are more specific about how the person actually looks , because being 5/4 and over weight and being 6'2 and over weight are 2 very different looks. So for a person to say "I'm a BBW/BBM so just except that" I think is kind of not fair. The key is is to be FORTHCOMING. Having someone know what you look like, finding you attractive and letting you know that is a great experience and can make the first date experience better.
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