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| When pictures in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 11/16/2011 5:52:24 AM | I have it stated on my profile to have or at lease reply with a recent pic that represents you now! Not what you were 10 years ago!
That was added after I met someone that had gained about 50-100lbs hair was no longer the same color... bla bla bla
Needless to say the meeting ws over in less than 15 minutes...... | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 11/17/2011 3:35:47 PM |
It happened to me not too long ago - and now I always feel compelled to ask anyone I am going to talk to if their pic is real or recent, looks are not the most important draw for me, but I do feel I have the right to know if I am being jerked around or not. I was really freaked out by that and I really do not like the thought of it happening again...any similar stories or opinions??
It has happened to me so many times that now I will always exchange cell phone pictures taken on the spot. When I exchange numbers with someone we start texting and I ask him to take a pic of himself, and I take a pic of myself, and sometimes I will make a video on the spot and send it to him, and ask him to do the same.
I also have Skype and I ask them to video chat with me. That way you can see each other at home in their PJ's, in bad lighting, and if you still are attracted to them, then go ahead and meet in person.
If a person says they don't have Skype (or don't have a web cam) it's a bad sign. Anyone can download Skype software, and every computer comes with a web cam from the manufacturer, so you know they don't want to show their face! | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 11/17/2011 3:42:22 PM |
If a person says they don't have Skype (or don't have a web cam) it's a bad sign. Anyone can download Skype software, and every computer comes with a web cam from the manufacturer, so you know they don't want to show their face!
I don't have Skype or a webcam. My computer is 6 years old and did not come with a webcam, and I've never felt inclined to purchase one. However, the pictures on my profile are current and look like me. | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 11/17/2011 3:44:49 PM | If a person says they don't have Skype (or don't have a web cam) it's a bad sign. Anyone can download Skype software, and every computer comes with a web cam from the manufacturer, so you know they don't want to show their face!
I don't have skype or a web cam, because I don't use windows or any of the other platforms skype supports. If using a Silicon Graphics workstation is a bad sign, then I guess I have a character flaw that I don't want to change.
so you know they don't want to show their face!
If it came down to that, well, c'est la vie. I was never so desperate that I was going to cater to someone who wanted a guarantee. It wasn't costing her any money, so I was taking all of the risk. If she couldn't show up, eat dinner and be pleasant regardless of how the meeting went, her social graces were somewhat lacking. I met several women who looked nothing like their photos and I still managed to do that AND pay for dinner without being traumatized. | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 11/18/2011 3:53:49 PM | Not every computer comes with a web cam, I have purchased several for guys at work and I don't get that feature.
Webcams are so late '90's lol
If it came down to that, well, c'est la vie. I was never so desperate that I was going to cater to someone who wanted a guarantee. It wasn't costing her any money, so I was taking all of the risk. If she couldn't show up, eat dinner and be pleasant regardless of how the meeting went, her social graces were somewhat lacking. I met several women who looked nothing like their photos and I still managed to do that AND pay for dinner without being traumatized.
If you're really that uptight about seeing how accurate the look by trying to get them to send you a picture on the spot or somehow arranging a method of seeing that person BEFORE meeting them, that's kinda a bit out there if you ask me.
Why analyze how someone looks, just meet them in person, and find out THEN....if they don't look like you expect, then move on. No big deal. | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 11/18/2011 6:08:26 PM | Every pic featured on my profile are recent, take via my phone or webcam.
These days, there is little excuse for people not have current photos featured on their profiles as most people I see tote around a modern mobile phone with camera.
I find it suspicious when I see users featuring Polaroid-esk photos from 2009 (or what have you). A lot of those photos are timed stamped. (eek!)
I'm not one to ask someone for a more recent photo. If I want to see them, I'll just ask her out for a "meet n greet". No harm in asking a woman out for 20 or so minutes. You may be surprised in what develops during the date.
On another note, I'm not very photogenic and on many occasions have been told I look much better in person. So, I usually take user photos with a grain of salt in knowing that a lot of use will look more attractive in person than some pic posted on their profile. In addition, a "meet n greet" will also give me a glimpse into a person's personality, which could make her all the more attractive. | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 11/18/2011 11:08:15 PM | "Anyone can download Skype software, and every computer comes with a web cam from the manufacturer, so you know they don't want to show their face!"
i'm not sure who posted that, but they are grossly misinformed. not all computers come with a webcam, in fact, not even most laptops do. not every operating systems supports skype, as another poster mentioned.
i do have skype installed on my android phone, and i use that quite a bit with friends in europe, etc, but for some reason, meeting someone in person for the first time doesn't bother me, but video chatting with someone i don't know does. i wouldn't be interested in that until after i met them.
my pictures are all recent in that they are 1 - 2 years old, and main pictures are more recent.
using older pictures were one looks "better" is such a ridiculous thing to do, especially when they are trying to hide their weight.
some people like women/men who are bigger, some do not. all using a picture that disguises this will get you is one very uncomfortable, possibly embarrassing date you wish you never went on, for both parties. utter nonsense, and yet it does happen with some regularity. i just cannot imagine what one thinks they are going to accomplish with this "strategy." i've had this happen once, and it was awkward to a degree i never want to repeat. | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 11/19/2011 9:39:43 AM | | I have experienced the "you look nothing like your picture" meeting. It can be very disappointing and since then has also made me quite cautious about seeing a few pics of somebody . Or perhaps a cam chat just quickly to determine whether there would be any attraction, or just to decide if you are the person in your pics. Now days it makes me laugh when a guy says, "My computer won't let me upload pics" or "I dunno how" or "I don't have a cam" ...1.every computer will let you upload pics, google it and you will get a lesson. 2.again google it 3.a cam is cheap and can be purchased to quickly take some recent pictures. If you plan on meeting for real, he or she will find out what you really look like anyway so why lie? Be honest-and if you get rejected just look at it as-They weren't right for me anyway. And move on! | |
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| First date: when the picture in the profile look nothing like the person in person.
Posted: 11/19/2011 10:00:11 AM | | I think such behavior is contemptible. I've heard so many such stories I'm very wary when I look at the pictures. My own pictures are recent and real. I honestly can't understand why someone would post great pictures of someone else, then show up looking 10 years older and 80 pounds heavier. I mean, do you LIKE to see the looks of disappointment and anger on people's faces?? If I went to meet someone and they had clearly lied on their pictures I'd turn around and walk out. They're clearly liars and don't care that you're going to realize it. That means you can't trust anything they say about anything. | |
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