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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/29/2007 2:05:49 PM | All this over a guy?
Who cares? it's not like women don't do it.
People act the way they do because it could be quite possible that they are not happy or bored or get treated like shit and want something new. Some people do it so they can feel like their wanted. I know a guy who flirts with everyone just so he can feel wanted. Now he has a g/f and thats not going to stop him from doing it.
About the whole pregnant thing and guys. I say **** 'em if they can't stand to be friends with you and automatically think your looking for more then to bad for them. Your an awesome person and ya don't need any man to realize that. | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/29/2007 6:15:59 PM | | ^^^exactly...........just have fun watching people.........you have lots of time!!!! are you just watching guys your age?? Most at 20 aren't too serious about anything. | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/29/2007 7:56:14 PM | | Men will be men and Women will be women. Get to know them and find-out how "deep" they just might really be. Part of the first impression scenario. One of the wonders of E-getting to know someone,don't have to wait till you meet to find-out what you might consider shallow or cold-hearted. Isn't the whole world just a little shallow. | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/30/2007 12:08:36 AM | Young lady you do what you feel like doing....it is your life.....and congrats with the little one too....:))
Please remember...there are men that understand so you just keep on looking young lady...
Don't worry about the grrrr.....let it gooooo...... breeeeathe.....breathe....wooops....0:)
Wishing you the best!!
0:)
PS catch and release... | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/30/2007 4:00:06 PM | If you got a bad fish on the line...throw em back!!!
Then rebait, throw out the line...sit back and relax!!!!
Oh, also, don't forget that ice cold 6 pack of beer, and while your rebaiting, ya may want to give that new bait some beer flavour too, before re-casting it.    | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/30/2007 6:41:04 PM | Women are just as bad, one of my best friends in Ireland just broke up with his wife, 4 years of marriage, and a kid, and that didn't stop her from f@#$ing around on him,
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/30/2007 9:20:23 PM | Ahhhhhh, man!
Sure a little controversity makes things a little interesting, instead of boring.
Yet, it gets a little tiring after while, of this thing of finding fault, and whats wrong with the opposite sex, of why they do such things.
No wonder we have trouble finding love for the other.
Time to lighten it up, and find something much better to talk about the opposite sex.
I will start.
How about she has a nice, beautiful smile.
I like the way she styles her hair to enhance her appearence.
She has a pleasant personality, and she is so nice to be around to talk to.
He is such a gentleman, who thinks of kind thoughts about her, and treats her like a lady.
He gives her kisses and hugs, that helps her feel special.
You can call it being a wuss.
I call it, being human, cuz both woman and men ARE EQUAL, yes, I said ARE EQUAL human beings of the opposite sex, who need to be treated fairly.
Time to put an end to the bashing, and finding fault with each other, and treat each other as humans. | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/30/2007 10:21:47 PM | WOW!!!...i am quite suprised that there are so many replys on my forum...lol but yeah i know i watch all ages of men and trust me if men can't deal with prego then screw them...lol...not literaly  but yeah...i am not getting to bent out of shape about it it was jsut bugging me at the time...lol  | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/30/2007 10:23:13 PM | men are dogs and women are ****es. get over it.
and from what i read so far, it seems to me you just jumped to conclusions based on 'seeing' a couple of situations. | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/30/2007 11:12:07 PM | | I'm going to be bold and say that woman and men especially on this site in particular are both cold AND shallow. Now obviously I only look at men on here and only email them so I can't say for sure what the percentage is but so far about 99% of the guys I've emailed and met off of this site have been the biggest a-holes I've ever encountered in 21 years. | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/31/2007 1:00:49 AM | "so far about 99% of the guys I've emailed and met off of this site have been the biggest a-holes I've ever encountered in 21 years. " - TattoosAreAddictive
CORRECTION: ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
I am all for others peoples opinions and whatnot, but this was not something that I really wanted to see here! This is not a slam, but just a .. aww come on now...
I actually was just reading thru these post's and was a little perturb by some of the responses namely the negative ones from some of the guys whom stated stuff like " get over it or Shut Up and quit your whining " and the post up there ^^^^^^^^^ .
Everything in life is not Black and White its not Open and Close, you have to risk a little to gain or lose something, by doing nothing you get nothing.
I can't speak for every MAN or any Woman, but there a good apples and bad apples, sometimes they are fairly evident and sometimes you have no clue until you bite into one.
I just want to say - don't belittle this site because you had a bad experience or SEVERAL bad experiences and don't judge others simply because of those experiences. Some people have had very positive experiences because of this site and have met many wonderful people and made wonderful friends, ( You know where I'm going with this )
I've met many people in my young but eventful life, and I've been fortunate to make some incredible friends, but I met some really bad apples too, and you know what, I never blamed anyone else for that.
as for you mizz, life is a journey, and what makes it worth living, is whom your sharing that journey with, family and friends and somewhere along the line a good apple, make your life what you want it, and for every shallow or coldhearted man that you encounter, remember there are others with whom are incredibly interesting and caring.
Damn.. another essay I've written.. and to think I thought of this all my self..
Good Luck!! Happy Fishing.
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/31/2007 10:01:18 AM | I feel that one of the biggest obstacles that we can face, after being hurt, is to NOT paint everyone with the same brush. This is typical to both sexes and can't be exclusive.
After a big heartache, most people have a tendency to not trust others when it comes to sharing a big part of themselves, and that isn't a bad thing when your on the mend. But when you feel like bringing someone into your life and entering into someone elses, you have one of two choices, you can start in the negative or on the positive.
I'm sure that most of us have said or heard someone say, "You have to earn my trust and respect." Well I feel that that is starting out in the negative, it's like saying you have a bad record without my knowing you and I've painted you with the same brush as the person that hurt me.
But if you want to start out on the positive, say to person, "You have my trust and my respect. Please don't abuse them." Because after having suffered a big hurt, you should know what to look for or will feel if something is wrong. Then you have the responsibility to yourself to ask the questions that need to be asked. If the answers you get are not satisfying then you can turn and walk away. | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/31/2007 2:14:35 PM | I really dislike generalizations like men must be cold hearted OR shallow. Some are--yes. But so are some women. Some men are generous, loving and giving--dare I even say MANY!
As the mom to all boys I have really come to appreciate just how different males and females are. We're not the same in how we think or look at life. Viva la difference! When we don't expect men to behave like masculine women and let them be themselves without instilling our boundries on them--you can really get to know some pretty neat qualities about them!
When I see men (or women) acting badly it's time for me to look around and evaluate where I am and why I am with such a crowd. I chose whom to be around--if I don't like how a particular group behaves it behooves me well to move on. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2007 6:44:10 PM | COUNTRYPEACH.. I just have to say.. thats one of the nicest posts I've seen in this thread.. wtg...i totally agreee with Icicool and DTC and BK2..(even though BK2 tried ruining my cappy list on another thread) Pang you have great responses too..Fishfancy.. Couldn't have said it better myself...There really is no need for criticizing ppl's opinions.. Personally I have met my fair share of losers on this site.. It seems that alot of the nicer guys are on the forums.,... But saying that why the hell aren't you out there dating than just talking about it??? The 1/2 hawaiian dude should take a chill pill.. Every post I've seen is a .. negative one.. POF has many to choose from good and bad.. But the majority.. Not all.. That I have the displeasure to meet have had major ego issues or were losers.. I hate generalizing every1 cuz of a few bad eggs (heads) I say continue on and take it for what it was worth and learn from these expieriances..In other words.. get to know the guy better b4 accepting an offer to meet...Chances are you just might find a great person....Male or Female...And if any loser left me while on a date.. hes just a LOSER no other way to put it.. No need to be disrespectful of your date..And to the OP... Wishing you lots of luck with your baby and congrats...One last thing to JMTJ...I disagree.. Trust and Respect "are" earned.. You just can't be going around trusting e1 and Respect "Is" earned.. That's not to say you should consider every person you meet to be the same as a loser you met...We DO learn from our mistakes hopefully  Believe it or not I've had some awesome dates and there are some great guys on here.... to the great guys I've had the pleasure to meet..Sorry to the losers.. your still losers and always will be...
Just my opinion.. and hell ya..If you catch a bad fish.. Throw him back and keep fishing with an attitude that they are all "not" the same.. There just has to be some great fish in this pond and other ponds.. 
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/31/2007 6:54:59 PM | | Are we cold hearted and shallow, of course we are, and i would gladly give my coat to a woman if she was freezing, and i would hoarde anything and be selfish to hang onto something, then gladly give that object to my woman partner if she needed it...no offense to the OP by my means of twisting the orgin of this thread, just a different slant... | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/31/2007 8:19:02 PM | After all the ****ing in this forum, I'm starting to think being shallow and cold-hearted is a benefit.
Oohh yeah, I'm cranky. Life happens, deal with it and move on. What has happened in the past, is there. You can't change it, you can't fix it so leave it where it belongs. Told you I was cranky!! | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 1/31/2007 8:23:22 PM | | The site be so approiprately name.Just like every body of water be different.So's every enviroment to meet people.Coffee shops are friendlier,Pubs are funner,Nightclubs are slews.Meet,be as "friendly" as you both please.Shallow water contains smaller fish.Deeper water contain bigger fish.Some people don't like to learn,life be a school. | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 2/1/2007 2:46:22 AM | Ok... first of all... men can be SHALLOW... and COLD HEARTED.
BUT.. so can women!
I BELIEVE relationships are all about communication. If you can talk about anything with your partner then you'll be just fine! Its when ppl ARENT truthful... or 'bottle things up'... thats when trouble starts!
To me its so simple.. I just dont understand why ppl cant communicate.
Honesty is the best policy. It sounds cheesy... but its true if you want a lasting relationship. | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 2/1/2007 5:59:05 AM | What has happened in the past, is there. You can't change it, you can't fix it so leave it where it belongs.
The past stays in the past, where it belongs, so that you can move forward.
Told you I was cranky!!
Naaaaa, just having an off day.
We are humans, and we are entitled to have an off day, every once in awhile.
Just put a brave new face on, and things will look and feel a lot more brighter for you. | |
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| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 2/1/2007 9:50:02 AM | The biggest mistake you could make at your young age is to assume all men are shallow or cold hearted. If you were to talk to those two ladies seperately and ask them how they feel about what went on am sure they would have talked with you and told you what just happened. Your assuming from a distance of how they might have felt.
To put it gently, you need to isolate and seperate the events you've witnessed and realize the impacts they have had on you...ask yourself what it is that makes it easy for you to justify their behaviors of being shallow or coldhearted. What other events might have crossed your mind when you observed the traits you mentionsed? I would hate to see you branding all men with the same brush you've painted the two you've mentioned. | |
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JMTJ
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Joined: 9/6/2006
Msg: 48 | |
| Are men shallow or just cold hearted?
Posted: 2/1/2007 10:49:25 AM | To STARR1999...you obviously did not fully read what I had written, I did mention conditions and that it is the responsibility of the individual to keep there eyes open.
One last thing to JMTJ...I disagree.. Trust and Respect "are" earned.. You just can't be going around trusting e1 and Respect "Is" earned
But if you want to start out on the positive, say to person, "You have my trust and my respect. Please don't abuse them." Because after having suffered a big hurt, you should know what to look for or will feel if something is wrong. Then you have the responsibility to yourself to ask the questions that need to be asked. If the answers you get are not satisfying then you can turn and walk away. | |
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