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| Males disapproving of women having male friends
Posted: 10/10/2009 1:01:09 PM | | What business has a woman adding so many friends to her facebook friends list when she is already attached? I'll not respond to the idiot who told me to remove myself from the gene pool. If you're with someone you have no business adding complete strangers to your facebook account, end of story. | |
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| Males disapproving of women having male friends
Posted: 10/10/2009 1:45:05 PM | Yea, some guys who think nothing else but having sex with as many woman as possible...would! think that, wouldn't they....
But you know what? As crazy as it sounds? Some women are actually capable of having "true" male friends.
Firstly, I think gay male friends are the best in my opinion. Love 'em, love 'em. But also, I have a really good friend who has always been there for me....aaaand, for either of us to even think we could be together romantically makes both of us cringe. We might as well have come out the same womb because that is how tight we are. And as far as boyfriends expecting me to dump lifelong friends for them to feel secure about the relationship? You can forget it. That is just ridiculous. However, I would compromise in terms of maybe not spending so much time with my friend, which I don't anyway. But I wouldn't drop my friends which is what happened to me some years ago when one of my best girlfriends shut everyone out of her life to be with this guy (very much like the Lauren and Heidi from The Hills, scenario).
If a boyfriend (or girlfriend) feels that insecure? then they need to work it out. Get to know your partner's friend. But if you still have problems and your intuition tells you something's up? Then don't wait on anybody to convince you that the relationship is not for you ;) | |
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| Males disapproving of women having male friends
Posted: 10/10/2009 3:07:40 PM | | In a civilized world men are friends with other men and women are friends with other women. Men and women date. IF they F*#k they are together and not to date others but can still see their friends. If they break up they do not become friends but may go back into the dating community. | |
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| Males disapproving of women having male friends
Posted: 10/10/2009 10:17:40 PM |
What business has a woman adding so many friends to her facebook friends list when she is already attached? I'll not respond to the idiot who told me to remove myself from the gene pool. If you're with someone you have no business adding complete strangers to your facebook account, end of story.
Are they really "strangers" or people she actually has met in real life from work/school/etc?? Hahahaha you think that by adding people as "friends" to a worthless website she is somehow demeaning your relationship? Facebook could go away tomorrow and most of us wouldnt even remember a lot of the people we had friended over the years. The "friend" concept on there is faaaarrrr from what real friends are, but friend sounded better than "acquaintance" which is what 95% of them are.
You are a loser, and stop stalking her friend list trying to figure out if she is cheating on you with every new added friend. If she has any common sense, she will get tired of your BS and drop you on your ass, and then you will come back here and ask why! There's your answer, stop being so insecure. | |
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| Males disapproving of women having male friends
Posted: 10/11/2009 2:07:32 AM | I have a few close male friends and 1 female best friend.
I will not give up my friends, male or female for a man who says he doesnt' feel comfortable with our friendship. He is the one who has inseucrites and issues, not me and not my friend. We know what are friendship is and where it is not going, as most men like to think they know what the hidden agenda is of the male friend.
Of course I have heard double standards with opposite sex friendships.
The woman will keep her male friends, because she knows it will not go any further, if it was in question at one point of the relationship, she stated her wishes and he abided by them, and they do not cross that line what so ever, and the man respects his lady friend and will not jeoperdize their friendship by trying to pursue it any further. Her male friends are just that with no sexual interest what so ever.
Men with women friendships, where his girlfriend/wife wants him to stop all contact with his lady friends, is because, she feels insecure, but she also knows, if one of them has an interest of more than friendship, that lady friend will still pursue it at all costs, and putting her male friend in jeoperdy with his wife/gf.
I have seen both happen to people, where their opposite sex friends have tried to break up their relationships because they did have a hidden agenda.
But a majority of us, we have friends that will not do that or pursue anything more than just a friendship. Most women will end a friendship with a man if he tries to do that, men on the other hand will keep their female friend because in the back of their mind, they know if anything happens in their current relationship, they will turn to that one who wants more than a friendship.
I for one feel that both people need to keep their circle of friends, be it male or female.
That person was brought into your life for a reason, and your friendship is hard to come by. True friends are only a handful during your lifetime, so why would you want your significant other to give them up because of your jealousy and insecurities?
My one friend is a man, his girlfriend had studying to do this weekend and told him to just go out, I could not go, but we are all friends, and she knows there is and never will be anything more than just friendship between me and him. Their level of trust, and being secure in their relationship tells alot about them.
When you get into a relationship, your friends becomes your partners friends, if they have a problem with that then maybe you need to end it and find someone who won't.
If you tell your partner to stop talking and or seeing her male friends, then you are the one who has the insecurity and trust issues, and if you feel you can't trust her, then why be with her? If you are jealous, then take a step back and look at yourself and realize that jealousy is ugly and it consumes your every day thoughts and actions, and turns you into this crazy over assuming and accusing person. | |
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| Males disapproving of women having male friends
Posted: 10/11/2009 2:16:49 AM | Just because you are dating someone means you have to stop being or making friends?
What is so wrong with adding people to your facebook and making new friends?
Really, what is the purpose of your post?
To show your own insecurites, jealousy?
I know many people use myspace, facebook and twitter for networking, business, family, friends, old school friends, college friends etc...
If I had my own business and wanted to network, I would use facebook, and if the man I was with had a problem with that, then it would be his problem not mine.
If you feel she is adding MEN to start her search for a "better speciman", than maybe your insecurities, jealousy and lack of maturity is showing and she doesn't like it and wants out, but will keep you around until that better speciman comes along.
Are you that insecure of yourself, your relationship and trust that you feel she should not be talking to people or adding new friends especially if they are male?
If so, you need to work on your issues then. If you are that way now it will only get worse by your own thinking and actions. Have you just tried to talk to her like a mature rational man and maybe you two can work it out so she can understand your way of thinking and how you feel about it, and you can understand her and why she does it? That would be the only rational mature way of handling things, communication, honesty and trust, if you do not have that, you have nothing but an empty relationship that is doomed from the start. | |
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| Males disapproving of women having male friends
Posted: 10/11/2009 3:25:44 AM | | I agree with Tarika completely. I appreciate the male opinion very much. Male friends tend to be more honest and open moreso than females. There is no "threat" there whatsoever. If I were ever to have a "significant other" again in my life, I'll accept his friends regardless and he should do the same with mine. My partner will be my top priority, but I won't give up my friends, regardless of their sex. | |
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| Males disapproving of women having male friends
Posted: 10/11/2009 3:27:08 AM | | Now, I agree with you on this issue. If you've got a significant other, you don't need to expand your friendship circle with members of the opposite sex. Quit looking! You wrote: What business has a woman adding so many friends to her facebook friends list when she is already attached? I'll not respond to the idiot who told me to remove myself from the gene pool. If you're with someone you have no business adding complete strangers to your facebook account, end of story. | |
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| Males disapproving of women having male friends
Posted: 10/11/2009 4:04:00 AM | | As a guy I have both men and women friends. I can also say that some(both men and women) can take a position of wanting you to end friendships for thier sake. I had a girlfriend that attempted bad mouthing my friends in an attempt to shorten my leash(so to speak). It doesnt work regardless of men or women. It is an invasion of your personal rights as a human being and your supporting group of people in this walk of life. I realize she/he does this for selfish, self serving reasons which could be control issues, low self esteem, ect. I have cultivated good freinds, and have had them longer than anyother type of relationship. It is unreasonable for anyone to make a request to diminish this freindship. | |
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| Males disapproving of women having male friends
Posted: 10/11/2009 10:38:49 AM | My EXs always had problems with my female friends, yet always had the excuse, 'that's different' when I asked about her male friends.
I don't disapprove of my SO having male friends, I only disapprove of inappropriate behavior with their male friends. A rule I have is if the other person in the relationship did this and it would upset you then it's wrong for you to do it also. The, 'that's different' excuse does not apply and it is NOT different.
One reason so many men and women disapprove of their SOs having opposite sex friends is that so many times something eventually does happen between. It might be a moment of weakness, vulnerability, or spite, but no matter what the excuse, it doesn't change the outcome. | |
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