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Posted: 3/27/2007 7:06:09 PM | Unfortunately, I've succumbed to the stupid sites that have paid memberships. A couple of years ago I was on Yahoo, but cancelled right away, and last year joined Match and have now cancelled that one too. What a WASTE of money!!! I sure got my eyes opened. I have a mind to write Dr. Phil and tell him his stamp of approval on Match is for the birds. I will never fork out money for a dating site EVER again.  | |
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| Poll: Are you currently a paying member of another dating site?
Posted: 3/27/2007 7:20:40 PM | Too many people have the illusion that if they're on a pay-site, they're going to meet a better quality person. That old adage of "You get what you pay for" still has deep roots in people's buying psyche. (This holds better when getting a hair-cut!)
This is also EXACTLY what the pay sites hope you will keep a mentally tenacious grip on. Personally, I think it is crap. I think that people have more opportunity to meet here than anywhere else since it is free. Also, consider all the people who are members here as well as on paying elsewhere. I was on a pay site myself until I heard about POF. I cancelled my paying membership immediately.
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Posted: 3/27/2007 8:10:40 PM | No, thank you. I spoke to a great many people who taught me exactly what happens on the pay sites. I'm not about to give over money so that I can get scammed. One of my good friends down home subscribed to eHarmony. Not one "match" was in her city, or even her state, for that matter, until she was canceling her membership. THEN she received several "matches" that were allegedly local but which never panned out.
Thanks Markus for giving us this place to come ~ I've met some terrific people and the forums are wonderful | |
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Posted: 3/27/2007 8:11:11 PM | Nope, not since...well not in years. It just wasn't worth it....an old hag like me got 260 emails in 3 days....AKK! And it didn't take a rocket scientists to figure out what a lot of the paid sites do...was born at night but it wasn't last night! 
For whatever it's worth...the features this site offers for free (even more since I first originally joined in '05) is much more than many of the pay sites. Many people's frustrations is they either don't know how to use the features or find some inherent fault in them. For some Godunkown reason...still the best dating site on the internet, from someone who's no longer dating...thanks to THIS site!
Signed,
A very happy member! | |
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Posted: 3/27/2007 8:28:53 PM | | Joined match.com for six months and sometimes look at craigslist. Any more dating sites would just be too much of a distraction. Some rather amusing results on match (still getting the hang of this) and some correspondence here. | |
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Posted: 8/12/2007 11:43:59 PM | | I have been on paid sites but there is always a rush for people to find people, delete them and move on. I believe a lot of this has to do with "getting ones money worth". Every month that goes by is another buck. This forum allows people to actually take time to get to know others without a rush. People still rush because they think they will lose out, but this way more people have a choice to really find compatibility by taking their time. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 3:04:51 AM | I have profiles on a few different sites and occasionally pay on different ones to write people. The free sites just don't have that many people in my area. Just a basic search on this site in my area comes back with "Not enough local matches, defaulting to a state level search." If I search here with the parameters I typically use on most sites, I get back 4 people, 10 on another free site (with the same people, never changing over the past year). The ones I chose to write after reading their profiles didn't reply (OK, one did reply and freak me out with her overly religious first reply). On the major pay sites, searches return 40-50 compatible people in my area with at least a few new people coming and others leaving each week/month. If I relied on this site alone, the site may be free, but I'd need to look into moving.
Then again, as was said above, "I'd rather get no replies for free." Seems like a few years ago, at least half the women I contacted would at least reply, now it's 1 in 10 at best. It makes you really think twice about paying to sign up for a site just to contact someone. I have been trying out eHarmony recently and seem to be having some better luck there (at least women there are willing to communicate). Each of the sites seem to have their own positives and negatives. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 3:21:09 AM | | No, I am not a paying member of another dating site. Initially I considered joining E.Harmony, but my friend Esther who is the same age as me (54) said that all of the men she met not only posted pictures that were as much as 20 years old, but also lied about their professions. Then I thought about Match.com, but another friend Linda, who is also in my age range, is on that site and voiced the same complaints Esther did about E.Harmony. Consequently, I joined P of F. To be honest I am experiencing the same problems Esther and Linda did on the pay sites, but at least it isn't costing me any money to meet a bunch of liars. I am staying on P of F, because I realize that all the men over 50 cannot be of the same ilk as the ones that I met. Hopefully, I will meet a guy who looks like his posted picture and is what he claims to be in his profile. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 3:30:09 AM | I was on a pay site at one time and paying until I figured out that I didn't have to pay... the guys who really wanted to contact me gave me an email addy to contact them...
l i k e t h i s @ dot c o m
so the site would not see it as an email addy and I would get it unblocked.
so why pay ? | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 11:59:05 AM | smellyoozingfungalfeet,
Encoded email addresses is a scammer trick. I'm surprised you found any real men trying to contact you that way. If a woman contacts me that way, there had better be one impressive message behind it or I will assume scam. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 12:02:19 PM | msg 280... a scammmers trick?
so all the guys I met, were scammers?
even the guy I met and married?
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I was only interested in local people and met them shortly after
some phone conversations.
I never was stood up.
maybe I dont know what a scammer is?
what is it exactly? if scammers are rude, obnoxious or married people, then yes I met them. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 1:13:00 PM | Scammers aren't real people at all. They are trying to con you out of your money, convince to you sign up for a porn site, etc. The classic identifying pattern is a generic message and "out of band" contact information. Frequency varies from time to time and site to site but any guy who has been doing online dating for any time at all will have received at least one such scam attempt. I find it astonishing that any guy would use a method that they know is likely to be confused with a scam, at least today.
Just how far back in time did you get these messages? | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 1:21:16 PM | I never got any email like that except on POF.. one time, not the pay sites which I used for dating.
fall 2004- 2005 is when I mostly used a pay site.
GUys would mostly send me phone number to call or an email addy to chat. I got email from all over the world but only responded to local guys and one guy in NYC... and I met many of them in person...
One guy I met wanted to go eat and then forgot his wallet and I did meet 2 who told me they were convicted child molesters.. but after that I started using county public records and the appraisal district tax records to verify who they were and where they lived before meeting.
Lots of guys wanting sex... or a gf... or a wife....
lots of free dinners... gifts... flowers... some jewlery... bottles of wine, perfume...
I dont think I met any scammers like the ones you are talking about.
Only 2 guys I later found out lived with parents... when they asked if I wanted a room mate I just said no and ditched them.
In 2006 I met my now husband and he is a legit eye doctor. We did background checks on each other and also before we married, credit checks... he is a legit person.
On POF only once I got some email from a nigerian guy looking for help and I just deleted it.
maybe like me... many women dont know scam mail from real mail? or we can tell whats real better than guys can and delete it right away ?
I think all mine were real people... except that one from nigeria. That was in late 2005.
I never responded to any cut and paste mail but did get a few emails like that. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 1:41:36 PM | Technically....yes, but forgot about it when a friend convinced me to look at POF.
Every few months I get a message from lavalife to let me know that I still have credits, so I take a peek. There here is....same guy for the last 3 years, swearing that he will be married in Tuscany (romantic huh?) before the end of the summer. But summers have come & gone.....and he's still there (sans credits, poor soul), like the lavalife mascot
Interestingly, when I joined, the terms were that if I didn't log on in a 60 day period, I would forfeit my credits. I have certainly gone longer than that, but my credits are still there. POF must be hitting them hard. Any of the men that I met through lava, are now here.
Not a bad experience...but no forums.....where's the fun in that?
Pay again? Never.
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Posted: 8/13/2007 1:53:37 PM | Tried eharmony, but the men they "presented" as matches weren't even close to what I was looking for in a "match."
I love POF and have recommended it to several of my single friends. I have made several friends here from around the world: Australia, western Canada, Britain, and all over the U.S. | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 1:55:21 PM | | POF is a lot of fun - reading the forums and flirting with people....however, I find that the sites that you pay for have a more serious and upscale inventory of potential dates. Since people are not paying for this they don't seem to be taking it very seriously - which is fine for fun and amusement...but I really would like to meet someone. And to answer the poll, I am currently on TWO dating sites that I pay for!! | |
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Posted: 8/13/2007 2:39:25 PM | | I've made a few friends on this and another free site, but back in my dating days the free sites (this one didn't exist) were rather poorly designed. Back then, I used match dot com, and it worked amazingly well for me. I did get a few dates from other sites, but over 90% were from match. Now, since I'm not seeking dates, I'm not paying for any site memberships. | |
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