| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/7/2007 6:15:51 PM | It sounds like either he lost interest or something may have occurred to take him away from the relationship. IF he has broken with the pattern of test messges and phone calls....and he won't return your phone call..then it may be best to move on and find someone else. I've had it happen to me more than once too.....usually I call and get the voice machine..and never get a response back..not so much as a "Kiss my A55"....
Since you last saw him..was there a change in his behavior to you..a little more formal or a littel less intimate....Hindsight is 20/20 and that may be where you have to look to find your answer.
Of course, you could take a trip by his house and check to see if someone else's little red sports car is parked in the driveway....but be preapared for the worst if you do. | |
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| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/7/2007 6:34:00 PM | I KEEP on going through the same thing! Problem is when I am with these guys they tell you everything you want to hear - and you figure they are genuine. Then all of a sudden - texts and phone calls dwindle. It doesnt matter what the age either - I consider most of these men Players! Funny thing is that there is someone here on this site that I "dated" if you could even call it that - lets just say reading his forums he has posted - has made everything all so clear now!
I say MOVE ON ... dont waste your time or positive energy on him!
It may hurt - but in the long run you are going to come out the bigger and stronger person!
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND YOUR HEART! | |
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| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/7/2007 6:44:01 PM | | Don''t hate the player hate the game. Alot of these relationships become intimate before you have achieved true intimacey. In other words to be so quick to "sleep" together before you really know the other person . Besides why do people call it sleeping? Next time look for quality you may just find it. Put the brakes on the libido and maybe you won't feel so empty when it turns out like this. Peace and be safe . sailor Jerry | |
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| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/7/2007 7:08:14 PM | And all the responsibility of putting the breaks on the libido falls on you, no matter how unfair and strange that seems. Sorry, that is just the way it is. It has something to do with the male psyche. You have to make them work for it and create a longing. But, it is not only that...you do need to take the time to get to know someone. It is an important step. You will find if you take your time you can avoid this type of thing from happening again.
Watch, I am not going to get anyone who wants to date me anymore. That's okay I am sick of dating anyways. I would rather speak my mind. | |
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| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/7/2007 7:57:59 PM | | Sorry Diamond but call it a day before you get hurt even more. He probably will call you back again for another meeting but please resist because it will only bring you more pain. Unfortunately I know this scenario all too well. I know it hurts but let it go now or you will be in for a much longer emotional rollercoaster ride. Love yourself more than you think you love him. (And I do know easier said than done but do it anyway) | |
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| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/8/2007 10:46:34 AM | Call it a day. He said hed call four times for four days in a row and hasnt bothered to call you back? I would say hes just not that into you right now..and before you go into a long winded drawn out relationship with someone who is unreliable and erratic and who is going to blow hot and then blow cold the next day give him up. I would..after my last relationship I know that you cant change them..and if hes suppose to be on his best behavior in the first six montsh and hes already acting like this you have a problem. In my opinion you might really care for him..but think about how you really want to be treated..and when someone is really into you they dont forget to call for four days after saying they would. Move on you can do better.
Oh sorry I see you did end it..good for you. Dont waste your time..and the less time you invest in him the better. | |
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| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/8/2007 12:02:04 PM | No contact from him even the next day to say he had a good day,,,,,,,well hun time to pull up the sidewalks,,,,the day is done,,,,, | |
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| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/8/2007 12:13:59 PM | Well it's been a week now and I did receive a text from him but it was sent to my house phone (my network reads the msgs out) and it didn't make any sense. It's my thought that he was testing my reaction to see if I would get in contact.......I DIDN'T and I feel much better for not giving him the benefit.
I've had a great week and strangely I've received lots of compliments from friends and colleagues (both male and female) about how I'm looking. Being happy inside clearly shows on the outside! | |
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| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/8/2007 3:46:01 PM | | Good for you! I'm happy to hear you moved on and yes it certainly does show when you're no longer feeling miserable. I love the song irreplaceable by Beyonce.....its my motto and now its yours too! | |
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daisie
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Joined: 9/22/2004
Msg: 85 | |
| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/8/2007 4:03:58 PM | DAMNBABYROB....Msg 15....
I agree with damnbabyrob. He kinda sums it all up for ya. except for this teeny tiny tidbit that was over looked.......
YOU AGREED TO BE EXCLUSIVE 1 WEEK AFTER MEETING???!!!
HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAAAAAAA......How on earth did that seem like a good idea????
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| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/8/2007 6:34:05 PM | | Glad to hear you are doing so well. Sounds like you really have it together. Don't be surprised when he calls to hook up again. Be prepared most likely he will. Just remember the pain you are feeling now and do your best to resist. Message #82 is so typical and there is some very good advise. | |
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laus
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Joined: 12/23/2006
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| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/20/2007 10:42:07 PM | | Call it a day. Either he got what he wanted or he didn't. Either way: long gone. On the other hand, four days absence after knowing him for a month, really, give your head a shake. | |
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| Am I being played????
Posted: 2/21/2007 12:21:48 AM | | Men are very determined creatures in general. When they are determined about spending time with a woman, they do so. They will find a way. You experienced that with him when you spent time with him and a flood of e-mails and calls. Common sense : He lives an hour away from you, the calls and msgs have trickled to almost nothing.......his attention is obviously elsewhere. | |
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