| | Partners who hate your petsPage 3 of 4 (1, 2, 3, 4) | lol, well i have 3 cats, love them to bits!
my cats seem to know who likes them and who does not! not had anyone that they have attacked yet !
I wouldn`t get rid of my pets for anyone, they were here first simple as! and they don`t run off , upset me , ok maybe when they scratch the chair to bits!!!
and i can hug them without them complaining lol.
Pets love their owners, they are my babies along with my son!
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Posted: 2/28/2007 3:30:25 AM | Look it all comes down to compatability
Pets are a part of your life. If the person doesnt like them or cant stand them, doesnt make them a bad person, [ unless they start talking about getting rid of them without good medical reason, thats just cruel] but the fact is - you are going to be incompatible
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Posted: 2/28/2007 3:41:52 AM | | I agree with to_sassy, My collie is my baby boy, I am not interested in kids of my own, I have him, He gives me unconditional love. If you want to love me, you must love and accept him. If a guy does not accept my dog, who is essentialy part of me, then they are not the one for me. period. The guy would feel my footprints on his ass, and he would be out the door, my dogs 4 now, he's staying, when the horriable day comes when i lose my robbie, then eventually there will be another collie in my life.. accept or beat it guys | |
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Posted: 2/28/2007 4:46:11 AM | I don't have a pet right now but I am getting a dog when I graduate- I've even spoken to a breeder,have my hopes up and a picture of my future puppy (actually a 6 year old dog) and everything. I was planning to move to Ottawa Canada to be close to my ex (who is in Montreal- but I can't practice in Quebec with my American degree) when we were togethers and he kept trying to convince me not to get a dog. I was going to move to a city where I knew NOONE and have only been once, very briefly, in order to be near him and he has the gaul to tell me that I shouldn't get a dog to keep me company during the week because then I couldn't visit him as easily on the weekend because his mommy wouldn't let me bring the dog to her house where he lives if I were to visit him.
Well, since he kept saying he was FINALLY going to move out (at 26 when he already had a job), this was a BAD sign. Just another one of the reasons I ended it. In the future if I find a man I love in every aspect who is severely allergic and there's nothing we can do, I guess I would have to give the dog back to the breeder. But someone who just doesn't want me to have someone other than him (which is what the ex's big problem was)- can take a hike :) | |
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Posted: 2/28/2007 7:42:27 AM | | I would never be with someone that didn't like my dogs. I have 9 Boxers and will probably have more down the world. They are my 'babies'. There are a few people on here that know me and my 'kids' very well and they will tell you that they are part of me. I wouldn't break up with someone if my dogs didn't like them....but activities would be limited b/c I like to do things (dog parks, PetSmart, etc) where some of my dogs can tag along. How likes sitting at the house all day anyways??? | |
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Mia828
| | Joined: 1/26/2007
Msg: 57 | |
| Partners who hate your pets
Posted: 2/28/2007 8:39:14 AM | Would you ever stop seeing someone because they didn't like your pets?
Yes I would stop seeing them.
What if you were serious about the person and they asked you to get rid of your pets
I'm not going to give up my cats because this person doesn't like them. My cats has been around before him and they'll be there after him.  I have a theory about people that don't like cats [pets] They tend not to be nice people.
Sorry No S/O is worth giving up a pet you love just because they don't like your pet. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2007 11:19:42 AM | | i've been in this situation before... it is a hard one. lots of people consider their pet as family member with all the same rights. so what can you do? the problem that i had myself was of the behaviour of the animal. I don't know how many times i literally fell on the floor because of the dog was always at my feet. followed me everywhere ALL THE TIME and it drove me nuts. i really hurt myself bad one time and it could have been worst if it wouldn't have been for a little knee wall that i was able to grab before falling. if your partner has a problem with the pet i think its your job to ask what the problem is and if it is a behaviour problem than I suggest you work with it in order to make everyone happy. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2007 9:47:25 PM | | If someone I was dating ever told me it was him or my dog, I'd choose my dog. He's my baby! No question about it. Love me, love my dog. : ) | |
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Posted: 2/28/2007 10:12:08 PM | I live on a farm and have dogs and cats, donkeys, horse, cattle, outside, and a parrot inside. Once in while I will let a dog inside but in general my dogs live outside because in my old age I am lazy about cleaning up muddy paw prints, etc. But, nope, animals are beings that I enjoy and am not going to get rid of one because some man doesn't like them. If he doesn't like them, he wouldn't like me anyway.
I did date a guy once that had THE most obnoxious dog in his house and I could NOT have lived with that dog. It was a half miniture dashound and half pit bull--it weighed 49 pounds and looked like a pit, only with short legs. It had NO manners and he thought it was CUTE  for that monster to jump onto your shoulders, clawing your face with it's feet and drawing blood.
My dogs are very obedient and well trained and are not obnoxious. I frequently take my Border Collie with me to living history events and don't use a leash because he is so obedient. Everyone there, whether they particularly like dogs or not, fall in love with my dog because he is NOT obnoxious. I would no more get rid of my dogs than I would have gotten rid of my children, but I taught my children not to be obnoxious either. | |
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Posted: 2/28/2007 10:18:59 PM | WELL TO THE PERSON WHO STARTED THIS GOOD ONE
THE WORD HATE THAT IS BIG
SOOO NO WAY A GUY HATES PETS TOO BAD MY PET CAT WAS HERE FIRST
I ALSO THINK IT IS NOT NORMAL TO HATE ANIMALS OR TO SAY THAT NICER I GUESS I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND ANYONE WHO HATES PETS
BOTTOM LINE FOR ME
MY BEAUTIFUL CAT AGAIN WAS HERE FIRST AND LOVE IS UNCONDITIONAL SO EVEN IF A GUY DOES NOT WANT ME TO HAVE MY CAT HE GOES SHE STAYS
IF WHEN DATING A GUY THEY DON'T HATE BUT ARE NOT CRAZY BOUT CATS WELL DIFFERENT AS LONG AS THEY ARE GOOD TO HER AND TOLERATE HER AT LEAST
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Posted: 3/1/2007 3:53:51 PM | Many pets, especially cats, take time and an investment on the part of the S/O to be accepted. Think Pack mentality or Territoriality.
And, if your kids hated your s/o, would you ditch them? OK animals are slightly down the responsibility scale from kids, but You do have an obligation as a pet owner to not treat them as disposeable, and if you do maybe you ought not be a pet owner in the first place.
Ok this doesnt cover all situations I admit, but Im sick of collecting strays / abandoneds and finding them new homes. These poor creatures dont know why mommy and daddy are gone or why they are starving and wet.
I acknowlege there are legitimate reasons why a pet may have to leave a household and God Bless the owners who safely see thier pets to a new home. But please please work on the problem of acceptance of the new S/O long and hard before giving up. The Humane Society and many animal clubs / trainers will have useful advice. And remember, the training is for the HUMAN as well as the animal... consistency is the key... Good Luck to all in this situation !! | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 4:03:09 PM | Why would anyone hate such a sweet, innocent cat as my Iffy? If a man hates her, he obviously possesses multiple character flaws.
Animals are often very discerning. If a cat or dog hates specific people instead of everyone (as one lady said about her dog), I would reassess the person closely. | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 4:20:27 PM | this goes under the catergory * oooh a delicious pun* of if people showed all their cards in the beginning there'd be no problems, some people love animals, myself included and I respect that not everyone likes animals for whatever reason. If you have pets, be open to potential dates about them like you would a child or a smoking habit. If you don't like animals be up front about that. Don't expect people to change their socks let alone their lifestyle for you. Unforunately people have the habit of saying things are ok when they aren't.
I would never get rid of a pet for someone else,short of an allergy, just like I wouldn't give a kid away ( I don't have any) someone that wants to you change for them has control issues, and should be avoided.
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Posted: 3/1/2007 5:32:04 PM | If my Animals dont like someone I wont continue to see them, Animals can sense a persons true Character. I also wont date a man who doesnt think Animals are as Important as humans and part of the family. We are all just Animals and none have a right to be here more than others. My ex just married a woman who wouldnt let him take his cat as she refuses Animals Inside and told him the Cat could live In cage at the bottom of the garden - so he asked me to keep the Cat ( which I happily did ). Hes going to have a very very unhappy marriage with someone who hes totally unsuited to and that I must have perfection will wear off on him. You need to find someone who holds the same values as you - not show up on your exes doorstep crying with a Cat In your arms as some control freak wants to rule your life  | |
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Posted: 3/1/2007 5:47:52 PM | Hey I cannot imagine some of these situations make me so angry and nervous. I do not understand what is wrong with some peoples hearts and heads? My ex knew I had two small dogs and three friendly sweet lovable cats when I moved in he actually came up to me one day when I got home from work and said he found a ten yr. old boy who wanted my dog she was only a year old and I had been taking care of her since she was seven weeks old. Turned out the boy was too young and irresponsible and the parents were never home and not even interested. He tells me to get rid of her. He thinks she is too hyper. He says he likes animals but every time my dogs wag their tales and come around him he jumps back and squirms like a scared two year old child being frightened. I dont get it? What is his problem? Why cant he respect my love for my pets? Why doesnt he love animals? They are so sweet and affectionate and they are loyal and love you no matter what. So what kind of a person has a problem with that? Plus they are so cute. They look like little stuffed animals come to life. I think it is a reflection of their inner beauty. Basically if they dont love animals then they are an extremely ugly individual and their gene pool should be erased. Sorry but this just makes me so upset and I cant understand these cold hearted freaks! | |
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smyllz
| | Joined: 11/1/2006
Msg: 67 | |
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Posted: 3/2/2007 8:34:16 AM | I absolutely understand that not everyone likes animals. I don't usually like big dogs (I was attacked by one) but if I was dating someone and they had one, I wouldn't write them off because of it. I think it's something that needs to be discussed from the get-go. Its the same as having kids. You'd discuss that right away and if the person sticks around, then you discuss any behavioural issues and any other issues that might come up. Why wouldn't/can't you do the same for animals. They're your "kids" too.
Why I thought of this question is my ex. No need to give me advice, I ditched the guy a long time ago...but he and I started dating with him knowing I had a few cats and him having one as well. We eventually moved in together and immediately he started complaining about my cats. About things he knew about them from when we started dating, about things that he let his own cat do, about stupid things. He was horrible to them. He and I had many arguments about the cats and whether or not we should keep them. I always told him that they were better to me than he was and that I would get rid of him before I would get rid of them. In the end we broke up anyway...not because of the cats....but it really did make me see the kind of person he actually was.
I wouldn't give up my "kids" for all the money in the world, I really wouldn't. And my ex just helped me prove that point. He also helped me see fairly early on (but not soon enough) what kind of an a$$ he actually was. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2007 8:48:39 AM | I agree with most of the other posters pets > new relationship. Of course I love animals, and as much as I hate shots if I developed an allergy to my cat I think I would suffer with the antihistamine shots instead of get rid of him. Anyone that would ask me to get rid of my pets would probbably not like the response they would get from me. On the whole animals are more honest then people. Its pretty obvious if they like you or not. As my great grandfather was known to say "Never trust someone your dog dosen't like." I think thats true, and with cats to some extent as well depending on the cat. Of course currently I am petless my cat is still at my mothers as I don't have a place yet where I can keep him, but I am certainly looking! I can't imagine anyone thinking they could deliver an ultimatum of your pets or me and expect to realistically be the one chosen. Barring some serious medical condition that could not be treated with medication.
Laen
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Posted: 3/2/2007 11:22:03 AM | You're dating someone, it's going well and then you find out that they can't stand your pets.
Long before they even saw my pets I'd have a good idea how they felt about animals, and if they didn't like them I doubt I'd keep dating them.
Would you ever stop seeing someone because they didn't like your pets?
Not unless they understood they'd never spend any time at my house.
What if you were serious about the person and they asked you to get rid of your pets? I'm not talking allergies...I mean they just plain don't like your pets.
Again a non-issue here, long before it got to that point I would know they felt about people having pets and certain animals through conversation. I doubt it would come to that because it would turn me off that they didn't understand the pet thing (they would have to not like pets or certain animals to not like my pets). I'd either never have them over, or I'd stop dating them. Them moving in and my pets going is not an option. | |
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SareeG
| | Joined: 1/11/2007
Msg: 71 | |
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Posted: 3/2/2007 6:11:02 PM | I love my cat and would never get rid of her for a guy. I wouldn't expect my guy to love her, but he would have to accept her and not give me any crap about her. If he asked me to get rid of her he'd be out the door.
I'm not a fan of dogs, really. I don't hate them, and had one when I was a kid (who I loved very much), but I just find them kind of intrusive. I would accept a guy's dog because that dog is his baby just as much as my cat is mine, and I'd do my best to get along with him/her. | |
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Posted: 3/2/2007 8:47:20 PM | | Yes, I have ended dating a gentleman because he was somewhat unaccepting of my Yorkie. I let him know real fast I had known my dog a lot longer than I had known him. Needless to say, that was the last date! | |
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Posted: 3/2/2007 9:27:26 PM | | My dog is here now and still would be after I kick that losers ass to the curb. It shows right in my profile that I have a dog so someone that doesn't like them would not likely contact me. Even if they liked dogs and didn't like mine or mine didn't like her the results would be the same. NEXT ! ! ! | |
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Posted: 3/9/2007 3:58:26 PM | This may be shallow of me but I am just being honest. I had gone out a few times with this one guy back in January and I ended things because he was just way too clingy after not even 2 weeks. Well I am not a cat person and never have been and he had 2 of them. I wasnt sure if I could keep seeing him because of that and I have met some people that feel the same way. I have always had dogs and been around them my whole life, nothing against cats. I just dont care to have one as a pet.
It was him being all clingy that made my decision but I always wondered if I was going to be able to see him knowing the kind pets he had. | |
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