| What makes someone a potential F>ck Buddy & Not Relationship Matieral?
Posted: 2/4/2007 3:43:50 AM |
UniqueLady from Msg 2, a phuck buddy is meant to be a good friend as well as a phuck partner. I wonder if any of your good friends last long enough to be a phuck buddy.
Silly woman!! ...Who are you to make judgement on me !!
Jesus act your age!
By the way ... and you are *snob* !!
And where is this rule wrote that a fcuk buddy needs to be a good friend !!! HaHaHa ..
I DONT THINK SO HUNNIE ... that may be how you treat your good friends!
But personally i wouldnt like to fcuk about with my best male friends as that would totally ruin the logic of them being a best friend Dont ya reckon !!
WOW some people on here really get on my nerves!!!
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| What makes someone a potential F>ck Buddy & Not Relationship Matieral?
Posted: 2/4/2007 3:46:06 AM | There is evidence that some of the pre-Christian Europeans - thinking that pregnancy was a gift from their gods - used to treat sex in the same way as we treat tea and coffee; nipping round each others houses for a quick sh.ag now and again. As they saw no connection between sex and babies.
I don't think there's any evidence that it affected them adversely (there's not much evidence of how it affected them at all ) . I can't help wondering though, what their version of the GoldBlend advert would have been like ; "Hi, I just moved into the hut next door and I was wondering if you had any..... daughters?"
I suppose nowadays though, we have dozens of STDs and no common cultural values. It would be a world of confusion and crimes of passon if we carried on like that (hence the 60's ending with the Manson Family perhaps...)
I've never had a Buck Fuddie, surely it nearly always gets complicated though?
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| What makes someone a potential F>ck Buddy & Not Relationship Matieral?
Posted: 2/4/2007 4:13:07 AM | Sound like fcuk buddies are a taboo subject..!! yet most of us have tried.. be it in an affair, or a little treat to the genitals... but its still seperating our emotional state from our sexual needs.. how many on this site have actually fcuked a first date, and live in denile of it ever happening.. or just meet up every 4 weeks for a drink and hot session.. its a buddie!!! part of todays society, and our needs as a living human.. in sexual desire, needs and wants..
It's not shameful, or hurtful.. its an understanding between two people who know the score, that a relationship is not possible,or fanciable, but their playful company is acceptable..
And yes.. i have done it many times.. keeps you young, makes you smile, and reminds me im human afterall..
but what makes them a potential buddy and not a partner i believe is sircumstances made by our ability to seperate the attraction, of lust from love. | |
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| What makes someone a potential F>ck Buddy & Not Relationship Matieral?
Posted: 2/4/2007 5:38:54 AM | I always thought that fcuk buddy was someone who you met up with just for sex, and nothing else.
I'm not sure if such a relationship is always planned (indeed, I don't plan relationships): I think they just become fcuk buddies when you realise that is how the relationship developed.
True, I'm sure that there will be a little chit-chat at the meetings out of politeness, but you would never dream of taking them out, would you? | |
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| What makes someone a potential F>ck Buddy & Not Relationship Matieral?
Posted: 2/6/2007 6:11:42 AM | The reason I could never go for it is that for me, the female genitalia, is the most awe inspiring creation I've ever come across. Oral sex is - to me - like worshipping at th alter of all meaning and creation. The shape, the feeling, the way the contours of the body seem to flow toward it are all far to important to me to simply use as a feature in an (albeit very enjoyable ) romp around.
I know this sounds like a big old corny cliche, but once expeienced in any given female it is impossible for me to just make love for an hour or two and then forget about all the, almost supernatural elements, of the female form and then say, give us a ring sometime....
I want to drink from the fountain, not pee down the well... | |
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| What makes someone a potential F>ck Buddy & Not Relationship Matieral?
Posted: 2/6/2007 6:27:12 AM | I had an 8 month relationship with someone until he went to live abroad, on the occasions he returned back to the UK for family visits etc and I wasnt seeing anyone at the time we met up for dinner, nights out etc whilst he was here..
On more than one occasion we slept together, is that a fcuk buddy or not..
If it is, then yes I have had one..
We couldnt carry on the relationship we once had as he no longer lived in this country, but we still had feelings for each other.. | |
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| What makes someone a potential F>ck Buddy & Not Relationship Matieral?
Posted: 2/6/2007 8:12:45 AM | Been there and done this, nothing wrong with having a buddy who on occasion satisfies your physical needs. Most of my F>ck buddies have been perfectly good relationship material. I was the one who wasn't capable of maintaining a relationship and I had the good sense to realise I wasn't a good bet and couldn't offer anyone a proper relationship at that time! I was honest with my f>ck buddies and they were honest with me. Why have one at a time? Well because for one thing it's just good manners... better that you know that the person you are sleeping with isn't going around dipping their wick in every puddle and vice versa.
I've remained good friends with the guys that have been my f>ck buddies and we've all moved on an held onto the friendships because we were honest on both sides.
The relationship served a purpose whilst it was underway and suited both parties. When it stops suiting both parties or if someone's feeling change then you talk about it like adults and make decisions from there. No one is to say that a f>ck buddy cannot become a partner, they can if the feelings are there for both. But most of the time that's not the case because either one or the other is not emotionally ready or available.
Now I am in a relationship and it's different, I'm different! I'm able to give of myself and commit myself to the relationship and have no need for F>ck buddies anymore.
We're all human, we have needs, I admire the courage of people who admit that they aren't really ready to commit to relationships. Much better than stringing someone along hoping you will feel something when you just aren't ready. At least you're not going to build someone up with false hope and expectations, just to crush them because you lied to yourself that you could offer them emotions that you're just not able to. | |
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| What makes someone a potential F>ck Buddy & Not Relationship Matieral?
Posted: 2/6/2007 10:22:07 AM | | been in this situation on and off, i used to be totally in love with the girl, but she was and still is too interested in her career for a relationship, so whenever i was single she would ring and we would have a day once or twice a week to go shopping, get a dvd for the evening cuddle up give massages and lots of affection and kissing which usually resulted in her staying the night, i think she is young enough (15 yrs younger than me) and pretty enough (stunning) to have anyone, but the alternative to a relationship would possibly been a lot of one nights stands and she is not that type of person, if youre both adults i cant see a problem with it as long as rules are laid down at the start and you both understand them, and the minute either of you starts seeing someone it has to stop, but you have to be in control of your emotions and the rules, it worked well for us and if i was dating we would only ever talk on the phone as when we saw each other the connection was usualy too much for us both. we dont see each other any more that way but we still stop and chat when we see each other and shes doing great in her career which is all she ever wanted and she is totally happy so it never did us any harm. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 12:25:23 PM | | My experience of what everyone is terming (quite derogitary imo) f**k buddy was so much different to everyone elses. In my case it was a dear friend. We were there for each other at all times and sometimes one thing led to another, no awkwardness was felt but I also dont think it was out of any subconcious desire to be together either. I think we were just there for each others physical as well as emotional needs. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2007 1:32:20 PM | | Because if you have been in a relationship for years and its finished then its good to have a f**k buddy where theres no strings.No one to ring you up 24/7 asking what your doing etc etc.Its great.I class it has seeing someone.Not just the physical side.I have one ,but not just sex,we get on get,although hes moaning coz theres no commitment.But hay who wants that! | |
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| What makes someone a potential F>ck Buddy & Not Relationship Matieral?
Posted: 2/8/2007 2:05:09 AM | One problem with f**k-buddyhood, as I see it.
There's always the chance that one of the parties doesn't really believe in the concept, for whatever reason. Whether it be a hidden agenda, naivety or emotional vulnerability.
One girl I know (no, really!) fell into the position of someone's (in)significant other, because she really liked the guy and if f**k-buddy was the best she could hope for, she was going to take it. All ended a bit messily when she professed her true feelings and he was off like a shot.
Similarly, I was somewhat guilty of misrepresentation on the subject when I was younger. I was living/working in the US and found myself mixing with some polyamorous types for the first time in my life. Anyway, there was one girl who I liked, we "got together" but I was told I was her f**k-buddy, no more, no less. I was alright with that, or so I kidded myself. In reality, I thought I would win her over with my charm, not to mention my, ahem, abilities. When I finally realised that was not the case, I bailed. Better to hurt a little than wait around and hurt more later.
Of course, as I said, I liked the girl, which may have coloured the experience. Perhaps it's not always that way. But I would assume that I would have to like a girl (at the very least) if I were to engage in a little jiggery-pokery ;¬) | |
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Posted: 2/8/2007 2:35:01 AM | Just a quickie to say good for you for standing your ground on your views on "**** buddies"
I have indulged before,though its not something that i want to get involved with now.
So long as each person is clear on what they want from the off,then nobody should get hurt or dissapointed.Its when someone lies,and says they are looking for a relationship when quite obviously thats bull just to get someone in bed,there the problems begin.
I am very curious though as to what kind of lady a bloke see's as relationship material and what makes **** buddy material. | |
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Posted: 2/8/2007 4:24:14 AM | *Holding hand up.*
Personally, I wouldn't say a person I had a convienent arrangement with was a "friend". An aquaintence to call on when & if, for bit of company & sex. 
There was never any doubt I would develop emotional feelings for him, we had one date & I knew this, I didn't find his personality particuarly engaging, but he was pleasant & physically attractive to me. Both of us were single, I wasn't ready for a serious relationship, nor interested in casual sex with virtual strangers for one night.
We didn't do things that "friends" do, such a chat on the phone, or go out. We simply texted each other about once a week on average: "Hi, how are you"..."fine, & you?"..."Good thanks, fancy catching up this week?"..."Yes/No"..."OK".... End of, until next time.
He would come round with a bottle of wine, I'd get A DVD. He'd leave in the morning. It wasn't clinical, nor was it affectionate sex like in a "relationship". Simply a means to an end.
This went on for about a year, until I decided it was boring me & I wanted something more. Called it a day, & don't have contact with him, no point, he wasn't "friend" material for me.
That's what I class as a "F*ck buddy".
I wouldn't have sex with my friends. Or have a f*eck buddy that there were a possibility I could develop "feelings" for.
Nothing wrong with it in my book, I'm not abstaining from sex just because I'm single!!!  | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 4:57:29 PM | A **** Buddy is pleasure,lust and infatuation while a Relationship Material is Fact and Reality!
A **** buddy does not have to know if you lost your mortgage or you are in a crisis.The mutual relationship holds because of the ****ing and nothing else.You do not even have to talk with a **** buddy all that matters is chewing the C***K and digging the P***Y.
So please fellas draw the dichotomy. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2008 5:26:41 PM |
A **** Buddy is pleasure,lust and infatuation while a Relationship Material is Fact and Reality!
A **** buddy does not have to know if you lost your mortgage or you are in a crisis.The mutual relationship holds because of the ****ing and nothing else.You do not even have to talk with a **** buddy all that matters is chewing the C***K and digging the P***Y.
But surely the word buddy implies Friend? Kinda p!55es on your argument.  | |
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| What makes someone a potential F>ck Buddy & Not Relationship Matieral?
Posted: 7/29/2008 3:27:13 AM | I think there are always different levels.
Relationship is the best which is what we're all searching for at the end of the day. Friendship is another need around us. Fukbuddies? I guess maybe that's a one off thing that happens with a friend where you're both sexually frustrated and are there for one another. Then there's just the give a girl a call because you're horny and she'll spread em for you.
I personally want to keep my friends friends and have a deep meaningful relationship with someone. I'm not judging those who have fukbuddies at all as what others do with their lives and bodies is their own and I suppose they have reason for choosing this over a relationship.
If it's something you want, go for it, otherwise don't judge others for having them and don't get involved in it yourself. I don't think there's a difference between the genders on this one.. takes two to tango so they both know what they're getting themselves into. Hopefully no one gets hurt at the end of it. | |
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| What makes someone a potential F>ck Buddy & Not Relationship Matieral?
Posted: 7/29/2008 3:37:18 AM | My first fookbuddie turned into a 5 year relationship with two lil' girls......
I have another where none of us developed any feelings what so ever and we both just drifted off onto new things.....
A fookbuddie to me is a stop gap so to speak when i know i dont want anything serious but i still have my needs that i want seeing to ( only so many times u can use a toy in a week before it bores you ), and some male company.....
Fookbuddies can develope into more if its what you both want so for me its not a case of oh i'd fook him but i wouldt date him.... Take it as it comes but i think maybe fookbuddies should have a time limit a sone may develope feelings that arent mutual.
Also i dont fook good male friends its just wrong.....you cross a line there that you can never go back over. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2008 3:58:53 AM | A close family member was with her man for 25 years.As her man worked away for extended periods she had a fook buddy.He was married and was 20 years older.They both considered it an emotionally detatched arrangement.Hubby new nothing about it.
But when she decided to divorce she allso decided to end the relationship with her bud.
Both men where devestated.
However she was and is blissfully happy with her new girlfriend and is about to marry her.
True!
Whatever floats your boat i say. | |
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