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Posted: 4/13/2005 1:00:31 PM | | It does get easier with time and eventually you will be left with nothing but good memeories that leave you feeling warm and tingly. WHen my mother passed away in May 2002 it was hard at first during her birthday, hers was 12 days after mine, and holiday season. Especailly the holiday season because she was the catalist that keep the far flung memebers of my family together. Hang in there smitten, it does get better. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2005 6:29:17 PM | | Missy...A saying I heard a long time ago, comes to mind now for you...`Though nothing can bring back the hour of splendor in the grass, or the glory of the flower...We will grieve not...Rather, find strength in what remains behind`....Isn`t that soooo comforting and so what your mom would have wanted for you??? redneckgirl133 And you are what you mom left behind..... | |
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Posted: 4/13/2005 6:44:20 PM | Ladies I was asked to come here and tell you that my sisters and brother said to say thx and that they appreciated it very much. I printed each email and let them read them. They said to give eack of you a  so there you are. Now i am going to say thank you and i most definately appreciate it. We leave tomorrow afternoon and wel I am not sure whats going to be waiting but it has to be done. so take care and I will talk to everyone when i return.
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Posted: 4/13/2005 6:49:19 PM | | Moundpuppy...Hugs and kisses from your friends on POF... redneckgirl133 | |
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Posted: 4/13/2005 10:15:22 PM | @ Mound I think its awesome that you shared our heart felt emails to your family, its good to know you're not alone & have your other family supporting you.
I was feeling really great for the pass couple of days, and today, I experience on my way to work, a brother and sister having fun together. I thought they where newlyweds, when I asked, since they were kidding around and joking. They were in my city, to celebrate their birthdays and they were on the same days as mine and my brothers..fluky
It brought out alot of feelings that I haven't felt since my brother died and since I don't usually envy people, I wanted to have what they have and never did when my brother got addicted to drugs. I know that many of you have siblings that have passed on, but i feel robbed of what I lost as teenager and never having it. I am quite taken back with what I am feeling, since I haven't had these emotions since my brother died 5 yrs ago, and its a bit overwhelming. I am again dreading my birthday, and know these feeling will leave but it sure sucks when my easy going personality feels these unwanted emotions at this time of year. | |
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Joined: 1/29/2005
Msg: 57 | |
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Posted: 4/13/2005 10:56:56 PM | Red ty 's again
Smitten :hug:'s....as many as you need my friend
Mound...hugs to your family as well....drive safely. Take care God Speed
~Missy~ | |
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Posted: 4/14/2005 10:37:16 PM | Missy you're great ...I kept her awake late last night on the phone, i wondered if she was tired when she went to work?
Talk about finding your support and your laughter ...missy is all that ...including lady...superlovingman, redneck, moundpuppy .Mopegunz, frrosty .and all the rest ...big hugs to you all...
I have gotten alot of support and others have felt there was a need to create this thread, and if anyone feel's better for sharing, then its worth it ...We are all here to learn and grieving just doesn't end in one year, it sure would be nice if it did, but i have learned that when you hit a rough patch, you can share with the many on the forum...
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Posted: 4/15/2005 8:50:56 AM | Smitten - time flies when you are having fun eh? LOL That was the shortest two hour phone call I ever had :)
Happy day before your birthday my friend I hope the male strippers I ordered for you arrive in time hehehe
I vote this the BEST thread in POF!
Have a blessed day all...Mound, my thoughts are with you and yours as you journey to be with your sister today God bless.
Hugs all
~Missy~<---the funny one (according to Smitten LOL) | |
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Posted: 4/15/2005 7:48:35 PM | Ladies,
I am able to load here so i am going to say something. Just left the hospital and I was not expecting what I came to see. Seems that we have taken and had to take over and get things set for a nursing home but I don't look for it to be long. I said I would let you know and well we have all set in plave and only thing left is time. Thx for your support people i really do appreciate it
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Posted: 4/15/2005 7:55:05 PM | you gals are great!!
mound...words fail me.........i am sooo close to my only sister...i cant even imagine what you are feeling................ but support and prayers come your way from me.....
and if ya want to contact me to talk or vent...ask the gals......my fishmail box and my heart are always open to my pals........... | |
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Posted: 4/15/2005 8:35:39 PM | Hi Missy, time just flew with our 2 hour call..smiles 
Mound...I can only tell you that we are all here for you, when you want to vent..My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. Mound this time you spend with your sister will be healing and with your presence will bring comfort to the both of you...take care ... | |
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Joined: 1/29/2005
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Posted: 4/15/2005 8:41:55 PM | Thank God you live in my city Smitten is all I can say LOL my one hour call this morning was long distance! While were at it, thank him for cheap calling cards too!! 
Mound - I'm here for you too....Take care my friend. We're only a keystroke/dialtone away
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Posted: 4/15/2005 8:50:39 PM | Missy you don't have sprint...i have a great deal when it comes to long distance anywhere in North America and they have local service...no telus...really!!! ...lol
Its so true Mound, we are not far from your heart, a keystroke away, and your thoughts are with us ....pass the kleenex ...only if we could all hug you...this computer screen gets in the way...
Keep up posted Mound..and take care. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2005 9:05:24 PM | | My dad passed away suddenly at work in May of last year,i can't accept it.........I miss you Dad. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2005 9:23:09 PM | | Soft ...My heart goes out for you and its never easy for anyone to accept someone leaving before their time. passing a hug to soft (((soft))) and kleenex... | |
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Posted: 4/15/2005 10:37:31 PM | | mope, I actually do the same thing, but not all night. I had a lieutenant killed in the line of duty a few years ago. His favorite drink was southern comfort. Me and other guys that were working with him that night get together on the anniversary of his death and chat with him. We pour some soco on his grave so he doesnt get thirsty either. We've had the cops stop by wondering what we were doing and when we explain it they leave. It is a kind of therapy although we shed a lot of tears every year. | |
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Joined: 1/29/2005
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Posted: 4/16/2005 7:27:37 AM | @ soft
Soft I know the feeling well. It is a feeling that will actually never leave. it may lessen quite a bit but never goes completely. A person tries to accept it and then move on. All I can advise is take and place your thoughts into something else that requires it. I just went on to work and got back into that. When i found myself thinking on whom ever it was I set my mind back into work until I knew I had healed to a controlable level. It is hard but it will happen. Send my best to you soft and good luck.
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Posted: 4/16/2005 7:42:32 AM | to soft and ladder............join our circle of friends here and vent or cry when ya need to.................we believe in bein kind to one another..........
and mound, check my new pic on profile....picnic lake at tenoroc....22 inch lrg mouth bass.........released cuz she was beddin.........but the thrill is alllllllllllll mine.............. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2005 9:27:00 AM | | @ Ladder ..Thank you for sharing and I bet it brings comfort & Healing to go back on that day for your Lt.. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2005 9:40:09 AM | | moundpuppy...My thoughts and prayers are with you.... redneckgirl133 | |
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Posted: 4/17/2005 10:00:49 PM | Ok people I am back home. Wasn't a good trip. Did do what was needed to be done and have set up what was a have to. We took a small one with us that my sister had never seen and he was only five and he managed to do what we only tried to do. He did get her to laughing so had that she said her sides hurt. She said he was her cohart in crime. He even danced with her and she hummed to where they could dance even tho she was in bed unable to stand. He walked over took her hand and told her to dance. So they danced. Even the nurses of hospice were amazed at the small one. well I am going to run for now been a long trip home and need to work tomorrow so take care and thx everyone. And I will be looking at the new pic.
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Posted: 4/18/2005 12:34:53 AM | it's only been 9 months for me since i lost my brother so i am still dreading the first anniversary. his birthday was right after he died, so was mine, and his daughter was born two weeks after he passed.
thanksgiving we put his picture at the head of the table and set a place for him. chirstmas and ukrainian christmas we got smashed and told funny stories about him, but mostly we are still in the hardcore grieving stage. my mom and i especially.
We did get some small comfort when we found out the organs that he donated were used to save 5 people's lives thus far. Small comfort, but comfort nonetheless. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2005 6:00:09 AM | Evil, its never easy to experience a death, especially the first year, and We all know what its like to experience the first year anniversary. It does get a bit easier each year, but you wouldnt know with with the week I had and its getting better since i have alot of comfort from people. I am still mixed with emotions and today is my brothers birthday, and seeing my folks yesterday and hearing about "how we must all move on", as my mom eyes teared up, didn't make it easier for today. I haven't slept very well, I am taking things a bit personally but not as bad as last week, and still wondering what i could I have done to change things. The answer keeps coming up the same, nothing and that's what can be hard in grieving, each one of us has to process it in our own time.
Your brother donations to save 5 others must bring the comfort, knowing their a piece of him in someone lives. I still don't think its easy and can suck to have mixed emotions, and will pass along the kleenex to you and mound. okay the forum too...
My heart goes out to everyone who has shared, and after the week I've had, the emails, thoughts and phonecalls have brought a sense of comfort and healing. Its all about reaching out when we need a hug.
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