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Posted: 5/5/2005 8:54:57 AM | sorry to hear about your mom Sandi and your dad Hotmama. Have lost both of mine already and with in three years of each other. Like you said mama they are with you. It was about a month after my mom passed and I had a doctors appointment and I had to be there early. I had over slept and didn't hear my clock. I was awakened by my mom calling to me. I sat up and looked out the bedroom door waiting for her to come to the door. As I had started to sit up I called out I am up. When it hit me she was gone I just looked around and landed on the clock with my eyes. well needless to say I was in a rush then. Not sure if it was me or her actually calling out to me but I know it was strange since the appointment was very important that morning concerning an operation I was scheduled for. She had known of this since the doc and I wanted to wait to see if what was going on was going to improve or not. Funny part of it was I went to the doc and after the appointment I didn't have to have the operatin that just two weeks before was a go ahead. Haven't had any signs of it since. Oh and I may sound crazy but I still talk with my mom and she with me. I am usually asleep when she talks but I remember everything she says when she visits. Have had my dad visit a couple of times and just not as agressive as mom is I guess. Take care ladies sorry about your mom and dad.
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Posted: 5/5/2005 9:02:13 AM | This will be my first Mother's Day without my mom, followed closely after by my birthday without her - Hugs needed guys
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Posted: 5/5/2005 9:58:59 AM | @ Missy,
It is hard when your mom is not around to share things with. I lost mine
4 yrs ago and just hate to see mother's day come around. I too talk with
her as if she was still here and I know what she would be telling me if she
could.
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Msg: 154 | |
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Posted: 5/5/2005 10:07:30 AM | | yes , it gets easier with time, my wife died two years ago , and it is still hard but it is getting easier to bear , still get depressed during special days though . | |
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Posted: 5/5/2005 10:30:55 AM | | Hey all....here's some hugs.... ....Dee (especially for you Missy...) | |
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Posted: 5/5/2005 10:39:22 AM | | Thanks to all that sent me hugs this morning. These are tough days. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2005 7:36:52 PM | HUGS to all...I want to thank everyone for being here. Hugs from here mean more than words can say.
Hugs, prayers, thoughts, and just know a special hug straight from my heart........
Sincerely,
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Posted: 5/5/2005 7:54:14 PM | ^^^ To all the above who have lost someone close ^^^ xoxoxo
Me too. My boyfriend has helped in ways he doesn't even know- to work through the loss of my husband. He unknowingly keeps my spirits up and helps me concentrate on the Now.
My sister stayed with me two weeks while my husband was passing and now she is in the hospital. They are sending her home tomorrow if she does well tonight. Losing her will be
right up there with losing my dad and husband.
Dad because he was my favorite and I his and I lost him when I was just barely 10. My husband because he was a wonderful man and we only had 4 1/2 years of which two were in and out of hospitals.
Rough times, loss of loved ones makes me grateful now for so many things.
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Posted: 5/5/2005 7:57:29 PM | Ashley1861
I will pray for recovery for your sister. I do hope she will be ok.
HUGS
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Posted: 5/5/2005 11:33:25 PM | | I know how you feel, not something you wan tin common with people, hugs dear, muah | |
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Posted: 5/5/2005 11:39:07 PM | I lost my mom 5 years ago this month, and my dad a year ago feb,
I'm glad I found this site, I have things to share,
my heart goes out to all of you who have lost someone or are supporting someone who has.
muah
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Posted: 5/5/2005 11:55:54 PM | | there is nothing wrong with grieving the loss of a loved one. the process is different for every person. it will be 3 years in june since my dad passed. i take time to think of all the good times we had and don't focus on the fact that he is gone. i don't believe there is a way to prepare yourself. i've caught myself trying to prepare for the day my mom passes and i have come to realize that you can't. it's best to just enjoy the time you have together and when they go, there will be a morning period and then you get on with your life. we all know that it is a fact of life and we try to deal with it the best we can. having close family and friends also helps us to get through these trying times. some how we always manage to move on in time. don't try to rush it, it will happen on it's own. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2005 12:49:30 AM |
For all of you that offered support to me and to others in this thread, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Keep in mind that Sunday and Wednesday will be tough ones for me. I might come lQQking for more 's LOL
Bless you all
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Posted: 5/6/2005 1:02:49 AM | Missy, feel free to email me anytime you would like to talk. I do understand...
HUGS,
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Posted: 5/6/2005 8:51:13 AM | | tons of hugs to everyone, my heart goes out to each one of you. | |
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Posted: 5/6/2005 2:07:19 PM | ashley I kow I am late on replying but I send my best to you. And to everyone else here as well.
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Posted: 5/8/2005 2:11:13 PM | My heart goes out to each and everyone on this thread. You all
will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Posted: 5/11/2005 2:06:37 PM | Just wanted to say Hi and to see how everyone was doing....
my thoughts are with everyone here... | |
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Posted: 5/12/2005 1:29:09 AM | missy,I almost lost my mom
to breast cancer,and I thank GOD I still have her!!!!!! | |
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Posted: 5/12/2005 5:17:51 AM | Death is never easy. I lost my grandfather to Lung Cancer when I was 11, my grandmother to Breast Cancer at 14, and recently, My dad passed away last Oct to Lung Cancer. It gets easier with time, but I still remember my grandfather whenever I go to Dunkin Donuts (he was addicted to their coffee), my grandmother whenever I go home to Florida and have to dust her old china, and my dad. I miss my dad all the time. Its still so fresh for me. I sometimes have a hard problem with not being able to call him whenever I need someone to talk to.
So because of my lose, I lead my life knowing that this could be my last day, or this could be someone I care about last day. Carpe Deim ppl.
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Posted: 5/12/2005 11:27:27 PM | Devil, Knight and Romantic many hugs for all of you ...and glad to know your mom survived cancer knight...
I've had many email lately sharing with me that time is what we all have and the memories of our loved ones. I like to think everyone memories can be held forever in our hearts and minds and cherish forever. All of us has shared the sudden death of our loved one, leaving before our time to say good bye and when we're not prepared for it, when will be ready to say good bye to anyone ..its such a final exit. I shared just recently with a friend that death no matter how cruel that person their exit can be, it leaves the survivors to deal with emotions to asking, "why...If we only knew..or the famous "what if's" We can discuss endlessly what we could have change and many times we come up with the same answer, we couldnt change the outcome. As you know my older brother died of addiction and allways thought he would be around for a long time to "annoy the heck out of me" since i was so fed up with his addictive behaviour. To remember how annoyed i was & the things he said he wasn't doing, and catching him, left me angry & frustrated by his lies. If I have learned anything from his death, I learned how important talking to others, to tell people how you feel, never walkng away saying nothing, like I did and that lesson i truly learned to well. I believe after all the emails and with time, that death no matter how our loved one die, that in time comes forgiveness. I may never like how my brother lived, but a few years ago, I forgave him and at times get a gentle reminder that in my early years, he was a good brother before his life changed from drugs. | |
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Posted: 5/12/2005 11:29:45 PM | | HUGS....As he soars with the angels..he knows you forgave him.. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2005 12:51:02 AM | | yes he does and that is the most important thing you could have ever done for him was to forgive him. now you will be able to put your mind at ease and just remember the good times you and your brother had. | |
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Posted: 5/13/2005 4:45:28 PM | hey smitten, you know where I have been in the last four weeks and why. Most in here does. Now my sister was addicted to drugs and boose. She couldn't go a day with out having one or both of them in her hand. We all know where it led her. She passed from sorocis of the liver. She pasted the same way my cousin did and the two of them were running buddies for the longest time. no one can tell how things will work out. we all face our own judgement in the long run. All we can do is be there for the ones at the time and hope that what we do for them is of some comfort to them. as long as they know you cared and you know that you loved them all else is immaterial to say the least. Like my sister all she wanted was to have her son and daughter together before she passed and my brother and i made sure that it happened. it served to accomplish two things for sure. it got the two kids together and they know of family that they didn't know they had because of my brother and I. and the two of them are closer now. But above all this. My sister passed away in her sleep with a smile on her face. and the last ones she talked to were her son and daughter. So just remember that as long as the love was there nothing else matters. Not family, friends, or anyone just peace of mind knowing that you were there when the time arose. You made it known and they knew it. All else in muldane.
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