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Posted: 5/18/2005 4:08:54 PM | Hey everyone, just wanted to see how you guys are holding up. kinda
having a bad day, but thought of all of you. Just remember I'm here for
any of you that need me......my thoughts are with everyone....
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Posted: 5/18/2005 4:12:45 PM | | well devil woman sorry to hear your having a bad day. just remember we're here for you too. hope that made you feel better. take care and God bless. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2005 7:22:18 AM | Does anyone know how much I am dreading this fathers day. It will be the first one since my dad passed away last oct and the closer the actual day gets, the more i hate it. blah...what a way to spend the weekend
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Posted: 6/17/2005 9:37:26 AM | Hi Smitten, so sorry your feeling pain as its been 5 yrs you already know time heals or fades at least. I have lost a younger sister also five yrs ago and a yr after my other younger sister suicided i lost my aunty a yr after and dad the next yr and mum last yr and i stop worrying about dates i never had remembered there birthdays when they were alive. My mother and sister died on eachothers birthdays and Debbie who died of cancer has left a twin so its a shitty day for her,also shelley who suiceded shares a birthday with carole who is also haveing a shitty birthday because now its the day her mum died too.this helps me
to grieve to long for those you love is self indulgent,
but to honor their memory with a prpomise to live a little better for having know them
gives their life some meaning and their death some purpose. Left in a will of a my mother | |
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Posted: 6/17/2005 10:10:26 AM | Devil & Romantic: I know certain times of the years everyone can feel the memory of a particular someone in their life and fathers day has brought emotions forward for the both of you & many others. Sending all of you hugs, take each day as it comes and support isn't too far away.
To Woman: Sorry to hear about your many loses and sharing your thoughts, especially having to experience mothers and fathers day without your parents. I hope you have found some comfort over time and have a valuable support system at home. I agree it does fade, and depending on anyone time of year, the memories can surface and each one of us can feel the emotion at that present time. As everyone know's, you happiness, the smile and your mood does return, it all about going through it and learning how to cope with it at the time. Big hugs to you too Woman and everyone. | |
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Posted: 6/17/2005 10:51:18 AM | | my 2 yr old grandson is my saviour i take him to their hill at the beach and my mum is the only one who saw him we shared that precious moment together she wanted to see me become a grandma as she remembered how mind blowingly beautiful it is to love a little child as much as your own and they love you more than your own did its the best fun and i wouldnt swap him for all my family back that thought keeps me going a lot | |
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Posted: 6/17/2005 11:14:09 AM | | @romantic...I hear you girl and am with you on THAT one...My own father passed away MANY years ago and I have a stepfather who is a wonderful man...But even NOW, so MANY years later...I still think of my Daddy on Father's day...It hurts less...but I've learned that some wounds just NEVER heal....Good luck and if you need to talk, please don't hesitate to drop me a line... Dee | |
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Posted: 6/17/2005 1:27:55 PM | i give my best to all of you I have been there so ease into it and let it run its course.
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Posted: 6/17/2005 1:54:41 PM | Maybe it would help if you knew that your brother is in a beautiful place...and knows everything about you, and is most likely with you every single day of your life. He has moved on, to another dimension and is safe, and at peace. Your brother does not want you to be sad, and to live your life in misery becasue of his death. He would want you to be happy knowing that he is ok, and will eventually see you when that time comes. He will have much to tell you.
My father died when I was 13 years old...it took me a lonnnnng time to come to terms with it. I know now that he is in the hands of our maker, and all is well. He as well, would not want me to suffer everyday for his death.
I hope you do not mind my input, or my belielfs on the matter. I can only hope that it helped a little. Live your life...and some day you will be reunited with your brother.
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Posted: 6/17/2005 2:18:06 PM | | gosh...i had forgotten about this thread..just happened to see it......i lost a great nephew last tuesday......an i started a thread in broken hearts........my baby sister lost a grandson today...........tha online friends and support system really helped me get thru this time.......keep my sister and her daughter in yer prayers tho.....they are really havin a rough time of it......... | |
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Posted: 6/17/2005 8:49:58 PM | Msjanuary & Dee welcome to this thread, your thoughts & support are allways welcome. Ladydi, sorry to hear about your family loss, and my thoughts are prayers are with your family during this difficult time. Mound I hope you have days that are better then others, but like all of us, its one day at a time, and many shoulders are here for one another...
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Posted: 6/25/2005 12:56:53 AM | Here I am again my heart going out to everyone that has lost someone
that is dear to them. Seems to be never ending, I ask myself all the time
what have I done that was so bad to keep taking the ones that I love so
much. I am ashamed to say that I avoided this thread for along time, but
I am very greatfull that it is here. I faced alot of demons here and have
many of you to thank for being there and supporting me. Some may have
noticed that I have been missing for awhile, I found out recently that a man
that I thought the world of and loved with all my heart had passed away and
it was another slap in the face that I have now lost another loved one. I wasn't
even going to post but was reading through some of the forums tonight and came
across one where a young girl lost her best friend to suicide and that made alot of
feeling come rushing back. I knew the best place for me was right here where I
have people that care and understand. So keep me in you thoughts and prayers.
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Posted: 6/25/2005 1:03:55 AM | | devil woman i would be more than happy to keep you in my prayers. i pray for all of my pof friends. i believe you have made a good decision to stay with us. it is very sad to lose people who are very close to you. it just makes it a little easier knowing there really are people here that do care. | |
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Posted: 6/25/2005 1:18:00 AM | Devilwoman, My thoughts and prayers are with you. Losing someone you love is something that is forever embedded in your heart. Like you, I find sharing with others who have lost loved ones also gives me a sense of peace. Even though no one can truly understand the depth of how you feel, we can relate to that feeling of loss of a loved one. For me, I cherish the memories. Memories will never leave you. The greatest treasure in life is loving someone. Even though they die and are no longer with us, we cannot lose that treasure for it remains forever in our heart and soul. When my mom died I felt like a part of me died with her. As time went by I found if I touch my heart, she is with me always. People we love become a part of us. They touch our lives in so many ways. When they do leave us, our life is forever changed yet forever bound to cherish the love once shared. Embrace it with a gentle grace..
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Posted: 6/25/2005 9:38:16 PM | | Devil my heart goes out to you and thank you for sharing your feelings. Passing you hugs and support along the way. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2005 12:14:47 AM | | Mopegunz: That is so sweet. To be loved so much by your brother. Your sister is and was a very lucky person to have been so loved by you. | |
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Posted: 6/26/2005 1:09:58 AM | | I always plant something so whenever I look at it I can focus and think about the beautiful person it represents | |
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Posted: 7/12/2005 10:15:58 AM | Wanted to thank everyone for keeping me in their thought and prayers,
still having a hard time dealing with this at times, due to the family for
some reason has put the blame on me as to how he wound up in the
condition that he was in before passing away. Coming back here and
knowing that I have this support has helped a great deal and I thank God
everyday for my friends here. So please continue to keep me in your
prayers.
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Posted: 7/12/2005 11:32:44 AM | | Devil consider it done ...sending you hugs ... | |
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Posted: 1/23/2006 6:12:56 PM | Hi Everyone
I thought i would check in with the regulars and to anyone who didn't know this thread existed, in how we are all doing out there.
Christmas and New Years has passed us by and some of you new at grieving may have found it a hard time of year and your head spinning with new or old emotions. I had answered a thread that made me remember my post and knew how wonderful people are when you want to reach out and touch someone...its sounds like a commercial.
I hope everyone is doing well with all the new experiences and found support when we all need a bit of shoulder in grieving.
Hugs to all out there in the pond, and my thoughts are with everyone who need a prayer.
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Posted: 5/9/2006 12:29:08 PM | | I am so glad to find this thread still here. Most of you know me as the Devil Woman, I left the pond for awhile, but now I am back. To find this thread still here was very heart warming. I just resently went through the 13 ann. of the death of my little brother and taking the advice from everyone here and a really dear friend, I have found that it is getting easier. Don't get me wrong, I will always miss him and feel that part of me was lost that day too. This year I did run away from it so to speak, I took off with a friend to get away from the everyday things that are always before me. I thought the change of scenery and who I was with would help, and it did. Although thoughts of him were with me all the time, I did not find myself running to the bed to hide under the covers as I always have before. So to all my POF friends here thanks for keeping this going, it was always a big help to know that I could come here and find people that understood. So continue to keep me in your thoughts and prayers as I have all of you..... | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 9:19:30 PM | Hi Everyone, glad to see my post has survived a couple of years being on here and I like to think many positive changes have happened to all of us. Its a thread to be shared with everyone who needs support, so if comfort or support is what you're searching for, come on in, share your thoughts with us.
When I started this thread, it was around our birthdays and today, I like to say, that I no longer dread my birthday, or my brothers in April, to the anniversary in October, usually taking holidays in that month, not anymore, and now enjoying December. It took time and found healing when I did a tour to whistler in April 2005, and had such amazing day, its like yesterday I remember it. I had amazing surge of energy with that particular tour and returned many times since that tour to Whistler where my brother and I spent skiing when we where younger. When I went to Whistler a couple of years, I remember my positive memories and was flooded with the time I spent a day skiing with my big brother when I was a teenager. I never expected going up there to find healing, but whatever it was that caused me to dread April, weeks before, left after I went up a couple of years with a great experience and a day I won't forget. I even spent time on the mountain, which was breathtaking beautiful and brought further closer to his death, or more like comfort. Its all about taking little steps in our grieving and in our own time trying to move forward.
To all those that posted, thank you for your imput and I can only hope you're doing well. | |
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Posted: 3/21/2007 10:07:24 PM | Smitten, I'm glad to hear you're healing. You're right it does take time, a long long time and no matter what they live on in us so will always be thought of and missed, but more importantly celebrated. I love your description of your trip to Whistler. Sounded very amazing!
I have a father who's dying of cancer. He just had his 82nd birthday in February. I remember last April getting a phonecall from my sister saying 'you better come visit and say goodbye'... my dad didn't even think he'd make it past the end of May or June. When I saw him I was shocked at how well he was doing. Sure, he'd lost A LOT of weight and looked weak but seemed to have this fire in his soul and a presence I hadn't seen in years. I said 'you're not going anywhere dad... not for a long time yet!'.
Well, this past January, I got another call from my sister as he's declining quickly now. I went to see him in February and got some special time with him. He looks a lot worse but is still somewhat mobile although needs oxygen sometimes and sleeps a whole lot. He's dealing with a heart condition he just developed recently as well. He's on so many meds and he's fighting so hard. He's not afraid to die, he just isn't ready yet and I think his biggest fear is leaving my mom behind... married 56 years and she's the same age with serious health issues too that seem to oddly enough be under control as she cares for him.
I know when the time comes, I'll be horribly sad and mourn him a great deal. He and my mom are my heros in this life and they've endured far more than a lot of people I know over their long lives on this earth. It's amazing he's still living as many with his conditions that are even younger than him don't last that long. They say when you lose both parents you feel orphaned. I can't imagine what it's going to be like to not have the safety net of mom and dad being a phonecall away anymore. For now I will focus on their life and try not to dwell on what's coming, but it can be a challenge.
Anyway ~ it's great to be able to come and share stories. It's part of the healing process even if it's with strangers that know what you're going through and can just offer a cyber hug ... so smitten... here's a hug for you I'm glad you allowed yourself to take the time you needed, work through the process and come out the other end celebrating life... yours, and your loved ones whether her in physical form or in spririt. | |
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