| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/3/2007 6:13:22 PM | | i think it depends on what is meant by a strong woman....if by strong you have some 1 who is so headstrong and opinionated that you cant even have a conversation without getting into an argument...then yes its a turn off i have no use for ppl like that in my life...but being strong independant but sweet and nice without the "i can kick your ass" chip on the shoulder many "strong" women have then its ok. | |
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Tiggee
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Joined: 10/7/2006
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/3/2007 8:35:48 PM | | Sure, some guys are intimidated by strong women. But, so what? We just need to be strong and independent enough to wait for the ones that aren't. I'm not to crazy about men that are easily intimidated anyway. | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/3/2007 10:29:05 PM | Normal with life together and in order = BORING
Fuct up, scary and dramatic = EXCITING and DIFFERENT
I don't know why...
But it seems to work the other way around if you're actually fuct up.
Normal with life together and in order = WOW...I can sponge off that...(mooches)
Fuct up, scary and dramatic = BORING...live that every day... | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/4/2007 4:38:49 AM | Well I can't talk for all guys ... Personally I think its very appealing for a woman to have all those qualities , maybe a reason why guys feel intimidated is because they feel they have no power over the woman. But lets face it if they are those kinda guys chances are you don't want to date them anyway.
Another reason could be because of old fashioned stereotypes maybe the guys feel they have nothing to offer a woman who can/is doing on it her own....
Just my thoughts...... | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/4/2007 5:51:48 AM | [I have my doubts anyone is "intimidated"]
You are absolutely right!!
I don't know any man who doesn't like a woman who can take care of herself, this is the 21st century after all. To me it is a given that women are independant, don't know one who isn't.
As for the children, bang on. That's just how it is, step-families are tough. You are getting involved with not only the kids, but the ex's, depending on the age of the kids. More when they are younger, less so when they are older, buty they are still there. Lots of men have them too, but they may not want to deal with more, just as many women don't.
How about just being human? Down to earth, natural, fun. Accept people for who they are. That doesn't mean every person you meet will be the one, but drop the list and be open. | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/4/2007 11:23:48 AM | SUBOTAI:
Very interesting comment. Very well said, I might add.
I must also agree with SUBOTAI. If you TRULY are confident, strong, independent or may have you, then there's no need for you to say it. Just be humble about it.
I've been thru some tough times once but I set a plan for myself. I said I was going to get thru this...and I did. A friend of mine was talking to me one day and he was experiencing a difficult situation. I gave him my adivce. He then told me 'I'm not as tough as you. You're strong and you have so much strength that you don't even see it yourself'. I realized, at that moment what I had accomplished. That I didn't need to say anything to prove myself that I was this that and the other. I felt it and that was sufficient for me. I felt peace.
Most of the times people who feel the need to say that they're this that and the other, truly don't know who they are or where they came from for that matter. They're looking for it but want to convince the world they are 'this'. You're only fooling yourself.
But coming back to the topic:
I believe that a lot of men are intimidated by a strong and independent woman. I'm convinced it throws their egos off.
Times are different. Women are saying 'NO' to a lot of things and are doing for themselves. A lot of men don't like that....even if most of you out there beg to differ.
The majority of women are looking for equality in a relationship. With this male dominated WORLD, most of you guys shy away from that. Again....MEN FEEL THREATENED BY THAT!!! But PLEASE don't get me wrong, not all of you are like that. To some extent, I think it's natural to feel intimidated. I think it's a natural thing to FEEL LIKE A MAN and be one. Look at the animal kingdom then tell me....What do you think? | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/4/2007 12:39:59 PM | Wow, another "independent" woman thread. I am not at all intimidated by a strong independent woman. Some will say that guys like me are, but I think it is more a matter of wanting a partner and not someone to compete with. If a woman tells me she is independent on her profile I ignore her nine times out of ten. The only reason I wouldn't is if she has something else in the profile that let's me know she's not a **** on power trip.
That said, I don't want the stereotypical needy, whiny type either. Some women who cling to the notion that all men that aren't interested in them are somehow intimidated are limiting their chances and opportunities. | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/4/2007 1:35:12 PM | I think men are TURNED OFF, not intimidated by strong women. Basically the whole 'take it or leave it' attitude leaves this feeling inside men were we wonder "Then why the hell am I dating you if you don't care if I'm around?"
It has nothing to do with intimidation because this portrayed attitude of 'I don't need a man' or 'take it or leave it' or 'you can't hold me down' or 'I'll do whatever I want', leaves the feeling that you don't care about the person your seeing. And in the end I have to ask "Why are you even dating if you don't need someone in your life?" | |
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Tiggee
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Joined: 10/7/2006
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/4/2007 5:44:59 PM |
I think men are TURNED OFF, not intimidated by strong women. Basically the whole 'take it or leave it' attitude leaves this feeling inside men were we wonder "Then why the hell am I dating you if you don't care if I'm around?"
Well, I can see where that would be a turn off. To me, that attitude is not so much strong as it is rude. | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/4/2007 5:51:31 PM |
"The way to describe myself is i'm independent, strong, emotionally stable...I've been dating for about 8 mo.. Haven't found anybody that's really my type..Sometimes I wonder if i'm being too picky or I might come off a certain way that guys feel intimidated by.
I'd appreciate a man's perspective on this."
I like a strong woman who's confident. Picky is good, don't settle for less. Hang in there, you'll to find what you're looking for. | |
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| Strong woman
Posted: 2/4/2007 6:20:04 PM | I am a strong independent woman. One glance at my profile and you get that although I never use those words. And I will tell you that I get angry letters from men, about 2 a week, critisizing me for my profile. They say I am too old to be so picky, that men don't like a woman who is so vocal about what she wants, that I not skinny myself, so how dare I prefer a man with no fat belly.
And guess what? I delete these without a second thought. And you know what else? I get about 10 a day from men that meet the criteria and are very interested in an independent woman like me. I date on the regular and love every minute of it! | |
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fame28
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Joined: 1/25/2007
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/4/2007 6:42:17 PM | Thanks to everyone for your input on the subject. I really got to understand different people's points of view.
To people who said that having kids plays a big role in guy's not wanting to participate in a relationship. Well.. that's wrong.. From what I have encountered, most guys don't mind getting into a relationship with someone who has kids..especially men my age or older..
It's all about what kind of personality and qualities of character that I present.
As far as myself being independent...I don't expect a guy to pay for shit nor open doors for me..Now if that's something he prefers doing then keep it up..That's what i mean about people being real. If you present yourself a certain way on first couple of dates, you give me an impression of yourself.. and if later down the road you change the way you act and all the things you said and did are no longer there..then everything's a lie..
I be myself..never fake..dont lie.. no drama..The things i do at the beginning of a relationship I will continue doing..as long as I feel like the person on the other end would do the same for me.. | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/4/2007 8:02:31 PM | fame28 (OP),
90% of the time, it's not you being intimidating. Being too picky? Likely... and the pickiness itself could indirectly cause you to come off in a way that rubs a guy the wrong way. It happens a lot with certain types of women who are... "independent". | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/4/2007 9:13:27 PM | Fame, honey, let it go... YES, a lot of men are turned off by strong, independent women... I know, I am one of those women, but that is not the question you should be asking... You should be asking WHY? Why are strong , independent, beautiful, hard-working women being passed over for the drama queens... Because we won't take their sh*t, plain and simple... It takes a strong-minded man, to feel secure next to a strong-minded woman... and that is the issue... When you show that you can stand on your own two feet, that you don't NEED a man to rescue you, then you become less desirable to those that do NEED to justify their manliness... Now that being said, there are tons of hot sexy confident men just waiting to find a woman that can stand on her own two feet, you just need to find them, be patient, they will come... | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/4/2007 9:22:32 PM | I've never known a strong, independent man who was intimidated by a strong, independent woman. Match made in heaven, in my opinion.
But - and this is once again the BIG "but" of all these threads - everyone's definition of "strong" and "independent" is different. I'm strong and independent by MY definition. By some other person's, I might be a powder-puff. | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/5/2007 7:20:50 PM | I think a certain number of men are intimidated by strong, independent, assertive women who know themselves and a firm sense of what they want. To that extent, many men want women to fit some kind of servile role model that they got from their families, or TV, or the crass stereotypes they bandy about with each other. It seems the American male's obsession with foreign women speaks of their attempt to find this submissive partner. American women are being stereotyped in this regard, and that's unfortunate.
To me, an independent woman is very appealing. She's smart, decisive, self-assured, confident, certainly not controlling or lacking sweetness. An independent woman can be just as sensitive, emotionally accessible, and delightfully feminine as other women. They just like men who appreciate them for what they are. They're great partners if they feel loved and appreciated! | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/5/2007 7:33:04 PM | As tigee was saying. Being strong and self-sufficient does NOT mean rude and nasty.
It doesnt even mean being constantly challenging. It means she is able to do for hereselfand is a complete person and if you haev someone like that it is a privelge to be the chosen one. | |
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| Do guys feel intimidated by a strong, independent woman?
Posted: 2/8/2007 11:14:30 AM | | You are right! about the foreign women obsession and about the north american woman (in general) being stereotyped. I get it all the time. I also get a lot of men who just want to come and meet at my house.. or have me go to theirs..now to me that speaks of purely their need to have sex. or see how submissive you are. I am not into it. Meeting that way. If a man is interested then he should also have consideration and respect and know that a woman who is truly looking for a partner on here isn't going to want to do that. Usually these men are between the age of 36, 38 to 45 or there abouts. I find that if a man is looking for a woman who is submissive or fitting a servile role.. then he is an insecure man who feels he has to control everything including people in his life. This is not a man I would be interested in. For sure!. | |
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