| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/4/2007 4:20:49 PM | | I totally agree with you on that one, i'd like to have two guys in bed. lol., but i do know quite a few guys that are willing to do that. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/4/2007 4:21:10 PM |
Oh yeah, being with two women is all about respect, lol...
LOL ~ never overlook the obvious...LOL You saved me having to type it!! 
~OT~ I'm extremely open-minded. But there are a few things better left to drunk college girls. 
I have a very few select women that I would trust with my man, my shoes and my checkbook. Other than those few women, there isn't a woman on the face of this planet that I would trust being naked with the man in my life, even with me in the same room. I have friends that live poly ~ it works for them. I have friends that are lesbians ~ it works for them. BUT, of all my friends that have experimented with threesomes, there have been long term trust issues and several affairs that are a direct result of an extra woman hanging around playing nakie-nakie with the male spouse. It's not something I would ever welcome into my life. To each their own. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/4/2007 4:29:11 PM | I agree.. It is stupid and if you expect or WANT a 3 some with 2 women you should be more then willing to give a woman a 3some with 2 dudes.. it is NOT gay if you guys do not touch each other.. But what is good for the goose is also good for the GANDER! Sex is not a one way street. Us women have a right to have fun too! | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/4/2007 4:57:55 PM | | But that goes against choice. Just because you want it, doesn't mean your partner wants it. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/4/2007 5:28:44 PM | Simple answer...
Guys fantasize about the woman on woman thing.....so do some women...
Guys never fantasize about more than one guy....
So based on simple math it has to be either male/female or MFF...
See if you only apply a little math (and a lot of thought...lol)... | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/4/2007 6:51:37 PM | | Had a few 3 somes, they are all different. Sometimes the girls are into each other and sometimes they are into me, sometimes more althletic sex than others. 3 somes can be ok, just depends who your doing it with. I only like 3 somes with gals. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/4/2007 6:58:06 PM | Threesomes are overrated...
But most women would rather get naked with another woman and a man, rather than with 2 men. 2 men would make me feel used and dirty.
Twosomes 4 life. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/4/2007 7:11:09 PM | | Well heres is my 2 cents worth, Most men wont amit it, but bottom line is a man cant keep up with one woman let alone two, if i was a woman i would never agree to a threesome because you will only get half of what you want ,and besides that i would think theres no respect there and for sure there is no true love , and just sounds dirty to me , or maybe i am just getting to damn old | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/4/2007 7:20:22 PM | | Having another guy on the team is fine by me, as long as he focuses on the woman and doesn't try any funny business with me. Otherwise, any threesome is a good threesome. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/4/2007 8:06:37 PM |
Just wondering why so many men/women think it is okay to have a threesome with two women and one man, but not vice versa!
Color me a square old fart. I'm not interested in 3-somes anyway anyhow whatsoever. First I have no desire to be in the same room with another man and see his erect penis. The thought of that is disturbing. Second I value monogamous 1-on-1 relationships, even if my partner wanted to introduce another woman into our romantic physical mix, it would make me feel uncomfortable about the relationship.
So I personally cannot answer the OP's question. It is kind of assumptive to assume it's every man's fantasy to have two women at once. That's like saying every guy wants to bone Pamela Anderson or Angelina Jolie. It's kind of assumptive to say women think kissing and fondling other women is acceptable somehow. Many women here dispelled that notion, and I'm sure most women don't want double penetration or two guys at once sexually in other ways.
What the OP is suggesting isn't acceptable to me no matter how you slice or dice it. Two's company, three's a crowd, I want the company of my partner, and shy away from crowds. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/5/2007 2:48:00 PM | Simple answer...
Guys fantasize about the woman on woman thing.....so do some women...
Guys never fantasize about more than one guy....
So based on simple math it has to be either male/female or MFF...
Ummm...I could reverse that WHOLE post and say this:
Girls fantasize about two guys.
Girls don't fantasize about more than one girl...
So based on simple math, it has to be either male/female or FMM
Ridiculous all around! Girls don't sit there fantasizing about other females all day! And for the record, we don't have sleepovers and pillow fights in our underwear either! | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/5/2007 3:09:36 PM | For me it is a clear bias and as a Christian I would be labled a pervert and hypocrite as well I suppose, but here goes.
I can't stand the look of a man's body including my own, even when I am in shape. To me, the woman's body is a look of art and I also look at sex as a more feminine (done correctly anyway) act than a male one. Two women together are a thing of beauty to me (more feminine) Two men would be gross.
I also don't need any help in the bedroom and have women that can attest to that so I don't need any help. At least not until after three women anyway. lol
I can be friends with a gay man to an extent, but grossed out by thinking about doing a feminine act with a masculine object. A woman who is bi and could be happy with me, but bring a girlfriend home every now and then would be awesome whether I got to play with them both or not. She won't need another man and I couldn't look at one. Probably why I would never swing.
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/5/2007 3:22:14 PM | AngelAmbie:
There is no bias. A person who feels nothing or less towards making love to their own sex should not be involved in a threesome. Everyone needs to be a willing party. I have heard from a few friends who had a threesome with a mate and friend that it has ruined friendships because the girlfriend at first thought it would be cool to "invite her friend", but jealousy issues had hurt their relationship.
This is not a woman or male thing IMHO. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/5/2007 3:30:14 PM |
we don't have sleepovers and pillow fights in our underwear either!
WHAT? O my $%&#@#!
Someone lied to me. My life has no meaning now..
MFM, FMF...I have been the 'M' in both of those equations and the FMF is more gratifying to the fragile male ego. Providing of course you have two happy, tired..friends.. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/5/2007 11:35:46 PM | | You know you have asked the $64,000 question. Why do men and women accept women being Bi or even gay. And if a man is Bi or gay (in terms of a relationship with a woman) he is some kind of a monster not even worthy of talking to. It all comes down to the cave man. As males we are supposed to club women over the head drag them home and **** them like bruts. If we try to have a little romance or compassion. We are looked at as being weak. And a weak man is not capable of protecting his shoe much less his woman. Now I know every woman out there is going to go ape s--t over this comment. But if you have any amount of honesty and/or Humanity in you. You will be big enough to, at least some what, agree. this is not my opinion. This is based on life experiance. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/6/2007 2:34:14 PM | AngelAmbie (OP),
Girls fantasize about two guys.
Girls don't fantasize about more than one girl...
So based on simple math, it has to be either male/female or FMM
First, before I begin, just as a disclaimer for and by everyone, when we all say "guys do this" and "girls do that", we are NOT referring to EVERY guy and girl -- we're just comapring the general patterns of behaviors and likes/dislikes.
It's not that relatively straight girls sit there fantasizing about other women all day -- no. But in *comparison* to guys fantasizing about other guys, it's a totally different story. There are a surprising amount of women who are curious -- "not gay" -- but want to try out a new experience. Guys aren't like that.
Great example: Deaf community (yes I'm related to someone who's deaf). Deaf folks have a very manageable disability -- so much so, it's hard to call it a disability. However, it cuts them off from the social scene, especially when growing up. That's the real disability. You'll find that a massively huge portion of females going to deaf colleges are bisexual or lesbian, due to growing up in cut-off environment from the "hearing world". Try and find a significantly higher amount of gay guys there -- you won't. Men and women's sexuality in response to environment are very different!
Equal rights? Yes, of course. Equal likes? No.
However, we shouldn't over-generalize. Many women don't have side-thoughts/curiosities about meshing with another woman. However, many do, and many grow to find it interesting coming close to it all (ie 2F1M 3Some). It's just a comparison issue when generalizing. Very few guys have such openness and thoughts about the same sex, compared to the overwhelming majority of men who don't. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/6/2007 4:12:16 PM | | Women are curvey, soft, they smell good and are beautiful... To see two of them in a threesome adds to the asthetic. Men look like tree trunks - with worm sticking out. Not too pleasing to look at. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/6/2007 5:06:40 PM | | azureorb...that post was in respose to a different one. It was more a remark on the generalization THAT post had made, and not my true feelings, as made evident at the bottom of my previous post! I would guess that as many women as men have thoughts about being with the opposite sex, just women speaking about it is more common than men vocalizing it. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/6/2007 5:36:36 PM | | AngelAmble...you missed out on a lot. I have even referreed pillow fights in nighties...lol. It was a long time ago but fun! Sexy parties....loser and winner kiss at the end so no hurt feelings! | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/6/2007 6:25:05 PM | Had a mfm once quite unexpectedly after drinking (of course)...nothing weird about it... it didn't last that long...no biggy....the guy was like a porn star or something and the girl was a black subordinate to both of us....she was a real horny chick......but no feelings of homophobia or inadequacy as someone noted.....would I try it again...probably not if I thought about it
Need to qulify something before I get blasted....that happened awhile ago in younger and dumber years | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/6/2007 11:54:22 PM | SELFISHNESS no men part is the main factor for this
self gratification and the ME ME syndrome
i have 2 men 1 women and it was beyond expectation
to see how much STRESS a women body can take
it was great it was better then a movie it was LIFE
it all about what u give and share the energy
it all in the most people head | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 2/7/2007 5:05:07 PM | AngelAmbie,
I know you didn't necessarily think that way, but I was responding to your overall impression (see quote below)
I would guess that as many women as men have thoughts about being with the opposite sex, just women speaking about it is more common than men vocalizing it.
I disagree, but it's hard to explain. So I gave the topic a lot of thought (I have no idea why)... and here's my opinion, which I'm sure many folks would agree with:
Having a threesome (2M or 2F) doesn't mean that the two people of the same sex do anything with each other. However, comfort being around someone physically is at least required. Putting sex aside for a moment -- Guys aren't as comfortable being physically close with another guy in comparison to how girls are with other girls. I think that's pretty inarguable. I think for your quote above to be truly accurate, both guys and girls would have to have equal comfort & levels of relationships with the same sex -- and that is not true.
So my theory breaks things up in 3 stages:
(1) Comfort in being very close to your friend of the same sex -- even on a physical level. (ex: trying on clothes together in a fitting room, playfully smacking each other's asses in underwear among friends for fun, sitting close together on a couch & sharing a blanket)
(2) Kissing & Making out -- not just a quick little kiss on the lips to get a free drink, but actual open-mouth kissing. Whether you believe it or not, this means you are curious about the same sex (unless there was some million dollar prize for doing so). This *could* extend into 3some play to make it more fun for everyone.
(3) Sex -- you know the drill.
With those 3 stages in mind, guys and girls are different. Many women are comfortable with #1. It doesn't mean you're gay or bi, or anything along those lines at all. Just comfort from a physical standpoint. Us guys are NOT that way. It exemplifies the standard difference between guys and girls. It's just the way things tend to be.
Many women are not into kissing & making out with another girl (#2). But many are! Many of them are curious about it or like it/don't mind it in certain moods/drunken-phases -- even though they won't have sex or anything.
For a standard straight guy to have a 2M-1F threesome, he would have to be comfortable with #1. It's the same type of comfort level. We aren't naturally into that, but we can get used to it. There's nothing gay or bi about high-fiving your friend over a woman's back while you both drill 'er....
... but it's a lot like a woman doing #2! Not in terms of being sexually involved -- but you'll find the same AMOUNT of men vs women.
So in essence, the same amount of women who can be okay with or be into making out with another woman on certain occasions (#2) -- you will find that many men who would be willing to do a 2M1F threesome (#1 comfort zone, which comes more naturally to women). | |
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