| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 7/15/2007 7:50:16 PM | | People are strange, I think if you can do FFM then it is only fair to MFM. Sex is about the giving and having fun with your mate. Personally I think women are built to enjoy threesome more than men,for men it's more visual than physical pleasure. Guys and women watch orn with both sexes having sex, doesn't mean they are gay. Everyone is different. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 7/20/2007 3:03:05 PM | | I wonder the same thing. As a guy, it took me a while to be comfortable with the thought of a MFM, but I'd be all for it now. Figure, if it's fair for me to want to be with two girls, it's fair for her to want two guys. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 7/20/2007 7:37:16 PM | | This may sound "unfair" to some people, but the truth is it doesn't matter if it's fair or not, this is how it is. Guys love the idea of FFM threesomes for two reasons. Seeing two girls together is visually stimulating, and the idea of having sex with two women at the same time is extremely arousing. On the other hand, having a threesome with another guy is in no way appealing. It's not homophobic to have no desire to be sexually involved with another man, that's called being straight. As well, why would I want to see another guy pounding my wife or girlfriend? The only guys who would jump on board for this are those who are at least a little bit gay, or are so desperate that they can't get sex any other way. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 8/4/2007 6:59:40 AM |
Just wondering why so many men/women think it is okay to have a threesome with two women and one man, but not vice versa! If you are open to one, you should be open to the other. The response I normally get from men is because 'I'm not gay!'...well when you are having a threesome with two women, they probably aren't gay either! Just going with it for the experience. I don't know...what is every one's opinion on this?
I totally agree.. won't get an argument for me on this one!! | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 1/1/2008 3:27:19 PM | | I'm not afraid of the other guys equipment its all about her pleasure. Being gentle, caring and sensual together to pleasure her could simply be an awsome experience. One I've always wanted to explore to give her a feeling of total satisfaction and to simply drive her wild. Of course this can only happen with trusting partners. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:25:20 PM | | Two women one man is more visually appealing. lol Thats the bare bones of my theory. I could go on, but Ive done it like 5 times already in these forums. I just dont have the energy. Hahaha, personally though I think any kind of threesome is bad. Dont like it at all. I tend to focus while having sex. I NEED to focus. I cant be worrying about two women at once. I found the whole experience distracting. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:28:12 PM | | insecurity and internalized homophobia are huge limiting factors when it comes to how receptive some men are to the idea of MMF threesome. likewise men who receive anal play, men who taste their own cum/snowball (as discussed in other threads) are often assumed to be indicators of being gay or bi...i say bullsh*t! men and women need to get over all these hangups already, be more open to experiences, and be less insecure about their (or their partner's) sexuality. trust me, people would enjoy sex a lot more if they didn't over-think everything so much. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:28:53 PM | | i kno exactly what u mean ...i think men are just insecure and dont wanna feel like they are competing with another man ..thats kinda it ..and they use the " i am not gay " excuse ..which is soo lame haha | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 1/5/2008 12:53:38 PM | I've done the FFM thing and it was fun. I haven't done the MFM thing yet but I'm eager to try with the right people. I would think it would be the one time in my life that I wasn't going back for more within an hour but then, I have a much higher than average sex drive.
I see the bias as mostly part silly homophobia and part cavemen ownership (my woman) issues and part insecurity. It's normally some combination of the two. I still don't understand why homophobia is so rampant among males. I promise guys, not ever (or even most) gay men want you and can't control themselves just like most lesbians aren't sitting around waiting for you to turn them straight. I've run into a lot of men that don't seem to grasp either of those things though. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 3/21/2008 7:00:58 PM | | I think most straight guys are brain-dead. And they like to control women by promoting a model of sexuality that is heavily biased towards the sleazy straight guy fantasy, such as two women together being OK but not two men. | |
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custis
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Joined: 3/16/2005
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 3/21/2008 9:00:11 PM | The reason for this is simple. For the most part it is a man's game, and most, but not all of course, women do it to make their man happy. The man gets to have another woman, but chances are, if his wife asks to have another man involved, he is going to say "Hell no!" I think this is sexist bs because what is good for one should be ok for the other too. In fact, I think that no woman should consent to a menage a' trois unless her man agrees that she can have an extra man too.
Back in the eighties the ex and I used to have foursomes with other couples and a few times we even had sixsomes. Except for a couple of women who were bi, the events were totally heterosexual and very democratic. You might look up from your buddy's wife (whom you are vigorously skrogging) and notice with a shock that your wife is being ridden hard by some guy, and liking it, but then you remember that you are riding his wife too, and she is liking it, so it is ok. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 3/22/2008 6:24:49 AM |
women are sexy men are not
Silly me, and to think, I've wasted all these years being attracted to men. LOL | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 3/22/2008 11:12:21 AM | Think about your own experience in just trying to get a mate for yourself. Doesn't it make sense that it would be even more difficult to find two people that are compatible with you at the same time? Then there is the mood factor. At times, people are all revved up for this wild side stuff and other times not at all. It’s been my experience that finding women that want to be that third wheel is not all that easy. Women are even pickier about women’s looks then men are. Men, on the other hand, being the horny devils that they are, tend to be much easier to involve in such activities. However, the vast majority of women are just curious about an MFM and after a taste of it, they get that “been there, done that” attitude and they do not have a serious appetite for 3-somes to replace good old one-on-one sex.
An important factor to understand is that there are many more MFM experiences going on each year than FMF experiences. So, if you go by what is actually happening out in the real world, the bias is towards MFM's. The bias when men talk about it is only towards FMF's because they are much harder to put together than MFM's. There is also the homophobic discomfort by some that other posters have talked about too. Most men are lucky if they get a handful of FMF experience in a life time.
Add to that the jealously factor of people getting upset over their mate getting excited by another of the opposite sex and emotions can get in the way too. Those that do the best at it either have total trust in each other OR they really don't give a damn about their mate at all. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 3/22/2008 11:17:01 AM | Well it is about the fear of .... what ever, LOL Most men dont like it for the reasons of not measuring up and so on and the fear that maybe the other guy may be bi (gay)
I my self have done it a few times and have enjoyed it and most of all it turned the woman on to watch him and I do things. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:45:24 AM | | i would say if a guy freaks out and says "i'm not gay" he's being two-faced, cause i'm sure he jokes with his buds at work at getting in on some gang bang action if he could. guys talk up a lot of stuff, but in real life they back down sometimes. if i was in good sexual relationship but we hadn't said the "i love yous" yet, yes 3some either way would be fine, as long as the other guy was hetereo as well. it's good to hear women are as much pervs as men and want it too.....lol | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:50:13 AM | Personally when I'm getting it on with another female I'd rather not see another dude's wang in my vicinity. And in any rate, I am not into 3-ways anyhow.
If it floats someone else's boat, good for them, just not for me thanks. | |
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l3unzz
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Joined: 3/2/2008
Msg: 121 | |
| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 3/23/2008 9:24:31 AM | | Not all men would object. I would love to be having sex with my wife doggy style as she was sucking off another guy. She is the one with no interest. Just because I want to see her sucking a**** doesn't mean I want to...I have no interest in men. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 6/18/2008 6:28:20 AM | | I've just read that women have less difficulty with attraction towards other women because they are genetically programmed to find both estrogen and testosterone influenced development attractive, on account of the fact that men have large amounts of both hormones, whereas women have comparatively much, much less testosterone. Men, who are not genetically predispositioned to find testosterone attractive, have difficulty finding other men attractive. There may be some relationship between this and the entire threesome issue. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 6/18/2008 6:44:23 AM | Chataholic, very well put and my perspective exactly. Bravo to you!  If a guy suggests an FFM I tell him he'd better be prepared for an MMF. Guys will then change their mind about an FFM  It's funny how men think it's okay for them to pork another chick in a threesome but god forbid their woman porks another guy in an MMF. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:10:32 AM | | The answer is simple. There are probably more men who are interested in two women than woman who are interested in two men. There are fewer men willing to do a threesome with another guy than women willing to do a threesome with another woman. Like anything else, if women demanded it, most men would probably do it. | |
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gang13
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Joined: 9/19/2005
Msg: 125 | |
| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 6/18/2008 7:35:50 AM | | 1 missblueeyes what if your man agrees to what you asked. What would be your next move. Have to watch what you say because some one might take you up on it some time. | |
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