| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/10/2009 6:04:15 PM |
Before anyone says the men aren't having sex with each other, take into consideration that if a man has sex with 2 women, even if one of the women gets all the attention, he claims sex with two women. If you're in the room, even if you're just watching and jerking off, you are a participant. Does it make you a straight up flaming homosexual? No. Do you still have your straight card? That would be a full on "negatory", too. You're at least a little bit bi.
So if you are watching porn and jerking off does that mean you lost your straight card? I don't think so.
Not to be crass, but I do have a tongue AND a prick. I can't use both on one pu**y at the same time, but with two women, I can alternate.
A tongue is great for foreplay but that's not sex for me. That's just foreplay. And, try using both at the same time. Doesn't work so well. OTOH, I can use both mouth and **** at the same time fairly easily. I haven't, but I could.
As far as those men that can get up more than once qickly, it does happen but that leaves you in more of a chain type situation waiting your turn for the man to get to you. Doesn't sound interesting to me thanks.
How many women would like to come home to find their husband and the TV repair guy naked in the living-room masturbating to porn? They're not touching each other either... Right?
Damn, there goes my fanatsy or what happens when men sit around watching porn together. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/10/2009 6:44:28 PM |
As far as those men that can get up more than once qickly, it does happen but that leaves you in more of a chain type situation waiting your turn for the man to get to you. Doesn't sound interesting to me thanks.
In the eyes of the Law, all men are created equal. In the bedroom, not so much. (That goes for the ladies, too.) Quick recovery is nice, but staying power is king.
Threesomes aren't for me anyway. Too much headache afterward if there's an emotional bond between two of the participants. And casual isn't my thing. MFM or FMF, neither interest me. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/10/2009 6:47:02 PM | Personally I think the MMF is probably more common than the FFM one. I believe it's more to do with a woman's need for attention. The MMF version would be more appealing to a woman because now she has 2 men giving her attention in that way, wheras the opposite version she is almost competing with the other woman for the one mans sexual attention. The guy would have to be the greatest thing since sliced bread for two women to want to do so.
Add this to the fact that one woman could "accommodate" more than one man (maybe up to three even) while one man can really only "accommodate" one woman at a time.
But some posters are right. The one time I engaged in a MMF, I got a little freaked out in the middle of things and left them to each other. I couldn't do it again - not just because I no longer drink, but it was just too weird. I'm the type that prefers to also have all of her attention to myself. I suppose I'm selfish in that way.
Now, where do I sign-up for the MFF one? 
Mike | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/10/2009 7:03:40 PM | | It's not that big of a deal it's like watching a porno flick only you are the other guy in the porno flick. Unless of course you're both in the same region you're not going to touch each other. Usually when I (when I was in my 20's) participated I was at one end and the guy would be at the other end enjoying ourselves as she is enjoying herself. Actually if you have an open mind it's kind of stimulating as the girl is just going to town on the one guy orally while the other one is doing his thing if you know what I mean. Orgies are the same, usually you'll have an FFM situation and/or MMF at the same time depending on the number of people. One thing it does for a guy however is you have to pace yourself and it definitely sharpens your oral skills. You have to be able to multi-task...LOL! Heck, it's only sex... | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/10/2009 8:41:36 PM | | It's not bias; it's preference. Just because someone likes something sexually, they have to like doing it with both sexes? Oh, okay. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/10/2009 9:18:54 PM |
I've just read that women have less difficulty with attraction towards other women because they are genetically programmed to find both estrogen and testosterone influenced development attractive, on account of the fact that men have large amounts of both hormones, whereas women have comparatively much, much less testosterone. Men, who are not genetically predispositioned to find testosterone attractive, have difficulty finding other men attractive. There may be some relationship between this and the entire threesome issue.
This is interesting. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/10/2009 11:02:59 PM | I don't see the big deal wither really. In my life I've been in the MFM and FMF 3-somes...didn't have a fancy for either way actually. Found it all kinda boring. Having spoken to some of my esteemed colleagues on either side, there seems to be a lot of animosity towards the opposing parties however.
In the FFM scenario, it was explained that the two F's would actually discreetly resent each other, and one would inevitably fall into the "you like her more than me" mentality...and if it happens to be your current SO that says it, you're doomed.
In the MMF scenario, it was just a pissing contest. Of the men I spoke to, more than half said it was "too much sausage" involved. Others said and admitted that it would make them feel "gay" because I mean geezus the opposing party's junk is like RIGHT THERE. And almost all quietly admitted to a feeling of inferiority similar to the ladies reactions...like they would be just along for the ride while their SO used this as an excuse to get a new leg thrown on her.
Summed up - it's all an ego conflict in the end. This is why 3-somes may be appealing but more often than not they are the harbingers of DOOM to any relationship.
Just my observations. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/10/2009 11:17:37 PM |
Except that two women who aren't interacting with each other are unlikely to be fully satisfied by one man due to the limitations of the male equipment. One woman can normally fully satisfy two healthy males.
I can easily perform oral sex on one while having vaginal sex with the other - that is the exact equivalent of a female performing oral sex on a male while having vaginal sex with the other male. What's the question? | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/10/2009 11:20:32 PM |
A tongue is great for foreplay but that's not sex for me.
Obviously a guy could make the same claim and now your argument is still faulty. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/11/2009 12:26:59 AM | | Personally I would never have a 3 some; it never helps a relationship and people are only fooling themselves; I know sleazy is the very in and cool thing to be but for me I would never do a 3 some. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/11/2009 12:53:55 AM | | Threesomes? No bias here, just no interest. There are some things I'm not willing to share. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/11/2009 1:50:58 AM | Some fantasies should remain inside one brain. Some people see sex as a recreational sport. Its the whole 'do your own thing' attitude that has grown from the 60's. And look at the ramifications the do your own thing, if it feels good attitude has brought society.
Almost feel like crying, thinking of how humiliated my late husband would have been had I done a threesome. Seems those who look at sexual intimacy so casually are the ones who cannot find a loving stable relationship. Maybe getting ones head out of the make believe world of pornography is a start.
~Beth~
PS:mthomjmark, was going to email you to tell you what a classy man you are. The same age as my son and a lot like him. Your parents did good! | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/11/2009 8:10:59 AM |
Some fantasies should remain inside one brain.
I'm not sure why. I have only one life to live. When I'm on my death bed, I want to know that I experienced as much as I could possibly experience in my lifetime so that I know that time wasn't wasted. Living inside your head is not living. I've done a lot of things that would shock people and are things most people would never want to experience, and in many cases would not have consciously chosen to do voluntarily, but I regret none of them. Living out your fantasies is why you have a body to go with your brain. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/11/2009 8:42:33 AM | Personally I would have a 3 some; it can help or at least not harm a relationship (and be fun for all) and people who insist otherwise are only fooling themselves; I know sleazy judgmental condemnation is the very in and cool thing to do but for me I would be offended by such narrow-mindedness.  | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/11/2009 9:58:11 AM | | It's not a big deal to me but there is a double standard...as with many things. I've done the threesome thing (with another girl) and while it was ok at the time, it made me realize that I prefer one on one sex. Adding more folks to the group actually starts to make it feel less intimate then more. That was my personal experience anyway. I've had fantasies about being pleasured by two guys, but I think some things are better left staying fantasies. I can only handle one person at a time these days. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/11/2009 6:43:07 PM | Tom.. and what makes a real man? Please infomr us all because you seem to be an expert at this.  | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/11/2009 7:12:11 PM | Getting back to the topic, threesomes aren't bad. Being greedy in a relationship is.
Also: I've read through many of the posts, and many people are assuming that its the guy who benefits the most, but if my memory serves me correctly, I think there can be situations in which the two women benefit the most. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/12/2009 5:27:44 AM | Wow i'm posting in reply to your forum post.
Well i like threesomes, they can be very liberating- but only done correctly.
I've done MFF and am seeking MMF-
Yes i agree if people arent soo open then really they shouldn't be doing threesoms or group sex at all.
Personally I like bimen soo yay me
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/12/2009 9:22:11 AM |
it can help or at least not harm a relationship (and be fun for all) and people who insist otherwise are only fooling themselves;
how do you know you aren't fooling yourself... what if the other person(s) was harmed by it? Just because you might be ok doesn't mean another person would be, so your relationship might be harmed...
You can't un fcuk people if it doesn't work out... and it can be the wedge that breaks up a relationship.... | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/12/2009 9:46:09 AM | | I suppose it's possible to fool yourself, but it's also possible to be fully aware and have really good communication with your partner. If the fear of a problem prevents you from living, then that's not much of a life, IMO. If you have a solid relationship and good communication, and have discussed the potential problems in advance, then problems tend not to arise, or become manageable if they do. Introspection, self-knowledge, and good communication can prevent and overcome virtually any issue, and can even improve a relationship when you work through issues together. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/12/2009 11:37:48 AM | | One bull to a heard,you never see two bulls in the same feild,thats one way of looking at it,another women are good teachers to see exactly what they like,moving pictures are worth 10000 words,to see first hand as each explores each other with me, is simply a major turn on for me,been there, like to do it more often!plus there only so many times two can do it ,it gets boring need to take it up a notch!Maybe even 3 or 4 women Hummmm! | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/12/2009 2:24:03 PM |
Summed up - it's all an ego conflict in the end. This is why 3-somes may be appealing but more often than not they are the harbingers of DOOM to any relationship.
I agree with BigDaddyJinx. Not too many are secure enough in themself, much less their relationships to risk another person in their bed be it male or female. It might be able to pulled off, but why risk it. It would leave a mark in the relationship, be it good or bad and there are other less risky kinky fun things to do as a couple that would better solidify the relationship. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/12/2009 5:54:53 PM | I think some men are just close minded, meanwhile the same way men love FMF 3some, I'm dawm sure some women love having MFM 3some.
I don't see anything wrong with it both ways, & there nooo such thing as a little bit "BI" you either by...or you not.
after all sometimes there is competition in a MFM, some men like to compare themselves, the same way there is competition in a FMF 3some, because some woman want to see who's the hottest, or better @ it. | |
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| Threesomes...why the bias?
Posted: 4/12/2009 6:10:45 PM | but why risk it.
Hmmm. Your posts always seem to make good sense, and I've never done this 3-trick, although I have discussed with one lover (her idea). I told her I would only do participate if (1) I had no doubt, none, zilch, about our relationship, or (2) I didn't care, at all, about her.
But I wonder. Do people do threesomes to give their relationship the ultimate test? As if that which doesn't kill it only makes it stronger? I dunno. More likely it's just horniness looking for a new gate. Lol. Sure, I'm curious, and I might try it, but it'd have to be with two others who transmit/receive on the same frequency as I, and I'm having enough trouble finding one other who is. 
Would be a fascinating discussion to have with prospects, though. | |
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