| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/12/2005 12:57:21 PM | @Vandelai,
What a typical man. You're just using women for sex!!! You disgust me! Stick around???? ...  ... what a hambone!!! | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/12/2005 1:06:10 PM | Well, I guess the bottom line is this....
There are no REAL answers to be had from this, because "he's" the only one that has them, and he's given me the cold shoulder.
The bad part is that I am having a hard time finding a good looking guy (that I can get chemistry with) that I connect with about common interests AND be able to trust. Somehow, I thought he would be different. Ya it was short lived, all the way around, but I can't even articulate how comfortable I felt with this guy, it was UNREAL!
Oh well, the unfortunate side effect is that I will be left with a greater mistrust. I am more closed off. Now I know I have to be, if I can be duped so unknowingly, then I am going to have to look harder and deeper before stretching myself out there.
I just wish you good guys would smack the others upside the head for making it harder on you. Maybe start a bit more of a trend.
If I can keep this experience down to ONE TIME AROUND, than I guess I am lucky. | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/12/2005 1:11:11 PM | Phoenyx?
I have found that many people would rather be sneaky and "take you" for a bag of silver then have you "give" them a castle full of gold.
I know, it's sick, but hey. (welcome to humanity)
SOme people, unfortunately, will never feel gratified unless someone loses; unless someone goes down for the other to go up.
sucks hu.
*raises middle finger with hand on bicep*
Fu*k ya forever dirtbag. | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/12/2005 1:16:19 PM | HERE'S THE REAL MESSAGE FOR MEN:
1- STAY AWAY FROM WOMEN THAT HAVE BEEN [B]RAPED[/B] IN THE PAST. THIS IS BECAUSE WHATEVER YOU DO, THEY WILL COMPARE YOUR ACTIONS TO THEIR PAST RAPE EXPERIENCE.
2- DONT DATE ANY [B]SINGLE MOTHERS[/B], AS THEY ARE LOOKING FOR A MEAL TICKET TO TAKE CARE OF THEIR CHILDREN. | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/12/2005 1:38:02 PM | Damn! That's harsh.
1.)There have been a great number of men in my past that me being raped was NEVER an issue, brought up, or referrenced.
2.) I have my own house, I work on my own car, and I repair my own plumbing, have my own power tools and still look great in a size 5 dress and heels
You apparently never took the time to read my profile did you tyhigs?
Sounds more to me like the voice of ignorance, and personal experience of poor interaction with women that put a bad taste in your mouth ( I have found that to come from one that doesn't respect women enough, thus causing the former issue to resurface) You might want to think more carefully about challenging and confrontation. It might make you look worse than the one you are challenging. | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/12/2005 1:39:43 PM | Thanks Frosty,
You sound like a real sweety, and intelligent too.
I think it shouldn't be long before you find exactly what you are looking for! | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/12/2005 1:59:48 PM | Actually, as you said Pheonix,...the one with the answers is the same one that's NOT talking!!!
Did you do something wrong? Well only you yourself know what little "cues" you may have chosen to overlook because the majority of what you were looking for was present...It's human to "gloss over" some "minor" details when we have our sights set on what we want...As I said earlier...time is always the "Great Revealer"....and that whole LOAD about "holding out"! If you're doing so as some kind of manipulation of a person in order to elicit the kind of behavior that you want from them...then SHAME ON YOU!!!
But, ultimately, only you and you alone can determine when it is "right" for you to take that step and sleep with someone...Dee | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/12/2005 2:11:46 PM | OH NO! I never use sex as a manipulative tool. I put that kind of tool belt on the shelf years ago, and it's still collecting dust.
I know how to look appealing and catch a guys interest, but I am not about to flaunt it, unless I intend on using it. Know what I mean?
Ultimately, I am a very pasionate person. I am sexual and can be into my experiences, so I try not to engage in something until I have a better feel of the turn out. I don't want to put my best foot forward into anything, if I feel that it will be a waste of my time.
Don't get me wrong, I got Somenthing out of the experience, it was one of the best I had, but only on one basic level, the rest that fell short, left it being one of the worst. When all was said and done, I got very little out of it.
Hey, on the bright side, atleast I wasn't doing the traveling, that would really suck then huh? LOL | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/12/2005 2:42:06 PM | No kidding! LOL
Well, I am glad I put this thread out there. Semmed to really take off, 4 pages, more than I expected really.
Thanks ALL of you for your input, except maybe tyhigs. Those comments were a bit uncalled for. Seemed as if he lost his tongue on the matter later.
It really helped me sort through a lot of the feelings. I hope that a few others got a little something out of it too.
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/12/2005 4:08:25 PM | "The bad part is that I am having a hard time finding a good looking guy (that I can get chemistry with) that I connect with about common interests AND be able to trust."
Good looking, eh? The thing about "Good looking" guys, is that they have egos, and typically pull the one-night-stand.
Ever hear that song..."If ya wanna be happy the rest of you're life, you CAN'T make a pretty woman your wife...if you want my personal pt of view..youget an UGLY girl to marry you"
Though, in this case, " husband" :) | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/12/2005 6:52:34 PM | classic case of a man who's an emotional cripple.
shitty feeling. but, if it makes you feel any better, it wouldn't have mattered if you had waited 6 months. it would have ended the same way. | |
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| Too Fast and Furious - Guys are from Mars Women venus?
Posted: 4/12/2005 7:07:35 PM | I want to say something witty or perfect but I just want to know this guys technique...to get you..ahahah "did you ever think how lucky you were to have met someone that saying good bye to is so damned hard?"
I guess guys hook up and mate and keep it physical or are married and don't tell you or like the challenge...unfortunately for me...I'm not a sport ****er. (but if that guy has 10 girls I have oen for same amount of time)
Not sure. Testing shoes out/on? Something turned him off so he told you. He LOST HIMSELF so he then went back into his cave reevaluate before you guys got mortgage, minivan, fern, and doctor spock books - and he lost all fun and freedom? Not sure.
It was purely physical. Maybe you were perfect and that scared him. Success is scary. Maybe he lived 2 hours away and that woudl be tough on the car situation. Maybe he had to go on his salesman and airline pilot route and visit his 10 other families... NOTEsure but you're pretty and nice..best wishes for happy commitment love sex and romances and moneyu | |
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| women use sex for love and men use love for sex yikes!
Posted: 4/12/2005 7:11:21 PM | I guess the handsome philandeering ***holes have choices so many choices...
Just like beutiful women have so many choices choices choices..
WHY SHOULD WE COMMIT?
you're going to have to win his love! lol Right now I'm reading g.c. maxium stuff and elle redbook and marie claire and country home for ideas hahahahh
I just want cheap sex with someone I love for life and can hang with everyday without getting sick of her..once I'm whole and need nothing...once I get my weight down ... so I'm ALPHA MALE ***hole
sorry hon I make the rules and wear the pants....If youdon't love me im off to 300 other women hahahah | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/12/2005 7:12:55 PM | | dont pump moms in other room when they are young too just b/c were 5-10 doesn't mean we don't know whats going on -cheap sex...buy us toys were like beasts..expensive thoughtful toys too...we'll remember...(the **stard kids) | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/13/2005 12:24:19 AM | I'm back! I'm going to share something with you as open and honest as I can be without hurting anyone.
I have experienced what you have, being a male.......I'm intellectual with a sensitive side. This was some years back in my life's journey. There is no knowing unless I missed something, as I wasn't told why it was only once! Could be multitudes of answers....here's the kicker....it's the very thing that would leave me "thinking" about it! If I search every angle, there is No definite answer and it could leave my searching forever.
I am not to know as only a Higher source really knows. I have wanted answers in my life , for years , as I have been owning my past. ( prayed for answers)
How long does it take to know someone or do we ever really know everything about someone, if they don't know themselves?
Something else, I received an e-mail yesterday from someone whom I was only e-mailing with over the past 6 months, never met, was very open and trusting to and surprise!! It was a women hiding behind a totally false front, pic and all(for the entire 6 months) that I was briefly involved with 12 years ago.(My "Hit and Run") I'll keep this brief and honest.
I was divorced in 1990, I left, took on the "theraputic blonde", at the time, WOW! What a gal! Made two years avoiding the grief of my divorse, no real mind of what I was doing, and that ended......I couldn't commit, didn't know why at the time. Quit alcohol.
I quickly met the gal above(from e-mail) on her invite and tried to fill the empty feeling, for a few weeks(?) got sexual, (we worked in the same building and "Bang", I couldn't go on ..........no explanation from me as I will tell you, the grief of my divorse hit me so hard, I couldn't talk..hard time appearing at work .I was crying, I couldn't stop it, mainly over my sons......nothing mattered to me, I couldn't face this gal above and say anything to her....I felt horrible! It's the worst death I have ever felt(divorse), next to Alzheimer's Living death with my mother right now!
This gal from 12 years ago called me everything under the sun in this e-mail and even left me an annonamous book in my mailbox a few weeks ago called "the Man Who Won't Commit!" She said it was me from cover to cover......(That I am a sick S.O.B.!)....I haven't felt so low, it hurts! It took me right back to the pain.
I was going to lash out in anger..to defend my pain......I didn't!
I e-mailed her back and I appologized for hurting her so.... I agreed with her that I have been all those things and I told her why I left and couldn't speak..........at least now she knows the "Why!" I feel terrible for not speaking then.........this is the best I can do right now.....
...that's why I said, "How much Damage is there to the other person?" just like a hit and run, how wreckless I can be when I am Damaged! ** I chopped this down, hope it's can be understood**
I don't know if this helps, it's just my life for real.......this is the first time I'm telling anyone. | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/13/2005 1:16:12 AM | blah blah blah
bottom line is phoenix is forget about that guy...he is a dirtbag who didnt know a good woman when he seen it
as i said in an earlier post he had to be intimidated by you
a lot of men cant handle it if a woman can take care of herself and by all the things i have seen you write i can tell you are a very independant and self sufficient woman
he is the one who lost out and i promise you everything that happens, happens for a reason
watch and see he will come back around in a couple of weeks with that lame excuse that "he just wasnt ready yet"
kick his a*** to the curb  buh bye
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/13/2005 1:19:26 AM | Thanks Damon for your input, I found all of your postings to be quite insiteful actually.
UPDATE*>>>>>>>
He finally contacted me, he left me a few e-mails actually. One about as long, or longer as the one above. He made his apologies, and informed me that he has been trying to make contact with me, but he was having difficulty with his computer (looooonng story). I am giving the shorter version here.
In any case, he made his apologies, assured me that what I was thinking was oo not the case, that he would still like to see me if I haven't completely written him off.
I hated the feeling, and I still stand by how it made me feel. I hope others take note, As it stands, I am willing to open the door to conversation and see what happens, but as I expressed to him alike, I will be cautious in proceeding further should we be able to work passed this hiccup in communication.
The worst part is that I was REALLY starting to like this guy, I felt comfortable beyond anything I have known in years. I was really confused, I really thought that my barometer for assessing the situation was good. I tend to be a good judge of character. I guess I just needed to give more time, and have a more open mind?? Go figure. I hope we can get passed the hiccup, 'cause I think it had some real potential before all this happened. We'll see | |
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| Why do guys hit & run, WHAT happened?
Posted: 4/13/2005 1:22:10 AM | So for now, in all fairness, as the situation has returned to me having an active hand, in all fairness, I think I should keep further details to he and myself.
However, I firmly stand behind the principal of this thread. I will put my two cents in on the things that I see here to support it.
Thank you all. Seriously! | |
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