| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/14/2007 9:28:09 AM | 452,
Sorry to disapoint you sweetie, but you are average, not a few extra pounds. We have threads all over the place on this and a couple of days ago (being an engineer) I blew up because too many people don't remember what the definition of average is! It has nothing to do with weight one way or the other it is a mathematical term and that's that. However, at 5'8" size 14 is average. At 6'3" and 188 pounds, I am boderline obese, at the high end of normal, I'm supposed to be around 174. If you really wonder where you should be at google BMI calculator.
I'm just glad that some countries are making models eat some damn food. If those sticks were in my house I'd spend all my time trying to feed them! | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/18/2007 7:18:26 AM | INSECURITY? LOW SELF ESTEEM?-----THE LIST COULD GO ON AND ON....................guess they (as do most of us) figure, it's a way to start communication with someone without actually having to put forth the time and effort to " make it to the outside world and market ourselves. Gads! The good 'ol days when you had to actually get dressed and drive someplace were torture, right? When you finally arrived at your destination, you were 'stuck'----had to mix with all kinds of undesireable people who certainly " weren't your type ". Drat!!!! All that work putting on makeup, picking out an outfit, and using gas......what a waste!!!!! A total waste of an evening, you say??? True BUT at least you know the people at 'That Place' were there for the very same reason as yourself. (at least the majority of them); they PAID the admission fee in hopes of meeting someone..............Ahhhhhhhhhhhh, the good 'ol days when people had to actually SPEAK to people face to face (no hiding behind a puter screen with a posted pic from 1970!)
Gee, we've really come a long way, haven't we??? Now, instead of dealing with some loser who's trying to make polite conversation (and would gladly buy you a drink in hopes of you spending some time with him) we can now " communicate " with all kinds of people; liars, pervs, cheaters, good time charlies, the perpetual loser, losers who THINK they're winners, illiterates with 'college degrees', "educated " losers, and the regular guy who is sincerely looking for his soulmate (or someone he thinks runs a second to his now deceased spouse).
You figure it out.
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/18/2007 12:15:35 PM | People do what peole do it's the way the world is. My photo is recent I admit I been through aton and having a failed marriage isnt something to be proud of I dont hide anything. You want to know ask.. The only thing I do know I love my children and they love me.
There is some honest people out there just have to find them. They are few but are there.
The hard part is sorting them out. But it can be done.
Isecurity from having failed relationships doesnt help the fact so people will spruce up their photos profiles and more to make them appealing. If you get to know someone and really like them who cares if the photo is old. Love is love man if you wanted totall physical attration by a mag. | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/18/2007 12:15:44 PM | People do what peole do it's the way the world is. My photo is recent I admit I been through aton and having a failed marriage isnt something to be proud of I dont hide anything. You want to know ask.. The only thing I do know I love my children and they love me.
There is some honest people out there just have to find them. They are few but are there.
The hard part is sorting them out. But it can be done.
Isecurity from having failed relationships doesnt help the fact so people will spruce up their photos profiles and more to make them appealing. If you get to know someone and really like them who cares if the photo is old. Love is love man if you wanted totall physical attration buy a mag. | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/18/2007 12:34:21 PM | My perception is that it is an extension of our culture where advertising is king. How many ads and commercials do we see that are candid in their representation of the product or service. They are filled with superlatives, misrepresentations and distortions and yet the public still buys away. Are those who post profiles acting any differently?
Along the same lines, must people insert value judgments about themselves in their ads (e. g. beautiful, handsome, look younger than my years, (one of my favorites as it is so often misspelled) intelligent and, my absolute favorite, classy (since any individual who is truly classy would never describe him or herself in those terms, but earn the designation by actions)? But isn't it fun to observe these anomalies and try to separate the wheat from the chaff? | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:52:28 PM | I'd guess there are many more insecure individuals who think their potential dating partner can't handle the truth. And what's really sad is much of it seems to be polygamous, so there is a certain amount of untruth being told by people who don't want you to know they have other partners. Finding someone who is honest who doesn't have multiple partners is becoming harder and harder these days. Think there should be another two part field on these dating sites:
Interested in monogomist or polygomist relationship
And hopefully we won't feel like they are being dishonest.
Without knowing that right off the bat, it is awkward to ask that question until they wish to volunteer that information. Here's to wishing it was easier to find the true monogamists in this world. | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/18/2007 1:58:01 PM | omg!
my very first meeting with a man i have been emailing and he so misrepresented himself..i don't even think the pic he has on the website is him..how sad..i told he him needed to put a more recent pic up and he shrugged his shoulders and said nah... | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/18/2007 2:06:29 PM | It has been my experience that the majority of people misrepresent themselves in one way or another. It seems absolutely insane to lie about your physical presence, unless of course you never have any intention of meeting the person in 3D!! If you DO plan on meeting someone and you lie about that, you are setting everybody up for disappointment.
People often misrepresent what they do as well... again it will bite you eventually... but the number one thing that is really starting to toast my cupcakes is the )(@*#$^&@ married guys!! misrepresenting themselves!! Gah!!!!
... rant done ~ as you were...
~ S | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/18/2007 2:25:22 PM | onesimpleneed said
"... you are average, not a few extra pounds. However, at 5'8" size 14 is average. At 6'3" and 188 pounds, I am boderline obese, at the high end of normal, I'm supposed to be around 174. "
The average American is overweight! I am tall and would definitely be "a few extra pounds" if I wore a size 14  I would have to weight about 30 pounds more than I weigh to wear that size. Why is it that a woman in a size 14 is considered average, but a tall man of 6'3" who weighs 188 is borderline obese?  | |
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lgc44
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/18/2007 2:26:10 PM | the thing with it is that the whole situation starts out with an outright lie..if they lie about that what else have they lied about..do these people realize that u can't start a new relationship out with a lie | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/18/2007 2:35:51 PM | Hey Tony (Moundpuppy),
Thanks for the tips. I have done that myself and got some compliments, but I am so
used to not applying the makeup and going ol' natural....here in Fl. It is so hot most of the time that I just sweat it off it seems when I do wear it. lol, or wipe my eyes with out thinking and smear the eye stuff. Then I tend to look like the raccoon that has had a bad day.  anyway...when u r in a relationship, unless u wear your makeup to bed and etc. your partner sees you natural anyway. Seven woman on 1 date huh...most guys would be so jealous.... just teasing here, Have a great life, happy fishing..seriously I will try that when I go out with someone and see how they react with and with out the makeup,
Thanks for sharing with me,
Jude  | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/18/2007 5:00:33 PM | It's a good question... and I've wondered that myself. Perhaps, sometimes, people think that there is something about themselves that will turn people away... and if they misrepresent it, people may take the time to get to know them and then whatever "it" is won't be such an issue.
This, IMHO, is not doing anyone any favours! I'm a BBW (hate that term, btw) and openly say so on my profile. My pictures are current/recent and I tell the truth about who I am and what I want. If someone reads my profile/looks at my photos and decides I'm not for them... then so be it! For those that read it and decide they want to e-mail me or IM me to get to know me a bit better... I know that there is not something that I'm "hiding" that may just turn them off a bit later.
IMHO, being "real" is the only way to go... if you're actually looking for something "real" on this site! Just my thoughts... for what they're worth! | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/18/2007 9:40:07 PM | | I often wonder why people would bother misrepresent themselves. Makes no sense. Do we really do this when we meet someone??? My profile i think describes a teeny bit of me fairly accurately and i can tell you that each of my pics are from the last year, and most of them are actually from the last four months. | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/19/2007 5:54:56 AM | I guess most of us have had experiences where someone on these sites has deceived us. I have gone on dates where the guy looked NOTHING like his picture. Honestly, did he think that I would overlook the fact he had gained 50 pounds, lost his hair and was very possibly not even the same guy from the picture he posted. Great way to start a relationship, huh? If you are dishonest from the very beginning, well don't even bother contacting me. You have to wonder what else he is hiding. With the diseases out there these days, i guess honesty is relative. We really have to be careful. I guess my point is, if a person on this site is willing to deceive you about what he looks like to get a date, what else is he or she willing to lie about.
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/19/2007 8:00:11 AM | | Of course we (both men and women) have to be careful about everything these days. Not just about relationships and dates (on or off line based). There are risks and benefits involved in everything we do, that's part of life. As per VD, the solution is clear: profylactics (aka condoms) at all times, no exceptions! | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/19/2007 11:49:23 AM | | I personally think it's because alot of ppl are affraid to be themselves right off the bat. They put up a wall and try to be whatever the other person wants them to be for fear of not being liked. No one likes to go on a bad date right? i Don't know, i think to a point, we are all just affraid of being judged for who we are. | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/19/2007 6:15:33 PM | The way I look at it. Let the world be fake as it wants to be. I am me I do not hide behind no mask. My profile proves it, if there is more ask I'll do tell. If you dont like the reall me then I am sorry. I will not surgar coat or be fake. All I ask if you are trying to get to know me please be honest and upfront. I am forgiving but I dont forget.
True people do not want to be judged so they beat around the bush some severly some just padded lightly. To severly go way into left feild with the truth , you have serious issues and never wanted a real relationship to begin with. Cause when it catches up it may end horribly. | |
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| Why do so many misrepresent themselves on dating sites?
Posted: 2/19/2007 7:57:30 PM | We climb in and out of reality
living life full of maybes
Why is it so hard
to except or purpose
What is it that pulls us away
from who we really are
When we look into a mirror
do we see ourselves
Or do we see
who we want to be
We were all made
with love purpose and passion
Don't cast these off
like yesterdays fashion
What are you waring
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