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| Would you date a pregnant woman??
Posted: 2/8/2007 7:20:01 PM | Your little baby will be the whole world to you, enjoy every moment of your pregnancy and welcome that most precious gift that is given to you for a reason. My little girl was only just over 2 years old when her father, my husband passed away. And her and I are building a wonderful relationship and enjoy every new day.It is not that we don't miss man's role as a father and a partner in the life. But we don't cry over what we don't have, we honestly make the best of what we have and we are truly happy.
Whoever else is meant to be a part of your life, will be, just believe it. If Jon is that person than welcome him into your world, but slowly, if he is worth of you and your baby he will be patient.
I wish you the best from all of my heart.
I want also to reverse the question; would a pregnant women date? | |
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| Would you date a pregnant woman??
Posted: 2/8/2007 7:27:42 PM |
I dated a man for 2 years, let's call him Bob.
Geez, how do I get into these situations....LOL. Seriously though, I have and would certainly date a pregnant woman again. As long as there are no serious issues left unresolved with the father that might make dating her difficult I can see no problems dating a pregnant woman. I also married a woman with a child and raised his as my own. | |
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| Would you date a pregnant woman??
Posted: 2/8/2007 9:43:16 PM | | I would date a pregnant woman and have once before.My advice to you would be to be honest with Jon.Only let Jon get involved if you really have feelings for him and not just to have a father figure for your child.Actions speak louder than words and in time if Jon really wants to be with you i think he will show you by his actions.Your baby is an extention of you and if cares about you enough he will be there for you both.If Jon is the right man for you then not only could he look past the situation but maybe he will embrace it.Whatever happens i wish you the best of luck. | |
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| Would you date a pregnant woman??
Posted: 2/9/2007 6:41:13 PM | well, OP, that's quite a situation. i happen to agree with everything tort2 has suggested.
and i want to add something.
i think it is a misnomer to automatically assume "my child needs a father" and then to pressure yourself into making choices.
my children were raised by me and even when they "had" a father, well, they didn't have a father. and even after the divorce when he was supposed to be with them he wasn't. a child needs good loving stable parents, whether those parents be one mother, one father, a biological mom and dad, adoptive parents, two mommies, two daddies, a biological parent with an adoptive parent, a kibbutz in israel -- whatever...
what kids need is love support stability and guidance. they do not need "a" "father", they need good parenting. if it happens that you find the right person, then great. if it doesn't, don't sweat it.
just be the good mom you already know you will be.
and best of luck with that baby!    | |
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| Would you date a pregnant woman??
Posted: 2/9/2007 7:27:28 PM | Take this from a person who has been in your shoes, just the opposite way. I wont go into details about my situation, but needless to say I was scared of the similarites of your situation to mine. I have been the Jon, the guy who picked up the pieces after a wonderful girl got pregnant to a arrogant ***hole that "all women love" and can tell you that your'e probably best off NOT dating but keep your friendship with Jon and let things evolve. Myself in a very similar situation tried too much to be a "surrogate" dad because I believe in chivalry... But 7 months into the pregnancy this ***hole that made this wonderful woman feel like shit acctually managed to charm his way into her life again, because SHE wanted a DAD for her kid.
My suggestion to you, stay single and keep Jon as a friend until you get your own emotions settled and make up your mind.
Doug | |
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