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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/3/2007 10:05:31 AM | A physically beautiful person can become to appear visually 'ugly' if a rotten personality is found to live inside;
Whereas, an average-to-less physically attractive person can actually become more beautiful to the eye if a good person lives inside - and is discovered.
I've always thought of it this way.... the magnificent stallion galloping across the field may be breathtaking to watch... but what good is he - if you can't catch him, touch him, or ride him?
Best to stick to the gentle geldings... lol
shallowness = loneliness. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/3/2007 11:16:47 AM |
Absolutely there some people that nobody is attracted to. Especially thanks to the use of Depleted Uranium ammunition by the United States in Iraq. Of course few, if any, on this site cares about how the United States cause deformities of Iraqi children. After all they are Iraqis and that is all most Americans need to know to hate.
Go to http://www.xs4all.nl/~stgvisie/VISIE/extremedeformities.html and scroll down to see some of the photos. If any of these children survive to be adults, will they be acceptable to anyone?
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/3/2007 11:51:47 AM | | There are many many people who to this day still ask me what I was thinking when I got together with my ex. I was with him for almost nine years and he was considered very low on the looks scale to everyone around me. I loved him for his personality though. He could make me laugh in a way that few ever could......too bad he couldn't keep his d:ck in his pants!!! LOL the jokes on him because now, four years later, he is still on his own and hasn't had anyone since me. Thats a case of someone who was ugly outside and turned ugly inside too. I do not find looks is a driving force for me, and I have the proof to back it up lol, I do however have a firm sense of beauty inside and will fast turn my back on anyone who has a nasty disposition | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/3/2007 10:54:36 PM | | It's not that nobody is attracted to them; it's that after spending time getting to know them, no one is willing to put up with them. My mother had a saying for this situation: Some dogs are strays for a reason. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/4/2007 12:03:51 AM | I am beginning to think that I am one of those one in six billion. I have been on the dating scene now for over seven years with no luck whatsoever. (This isn't a feel sorry for me post).
People who know me cannot understand why i am still single, I'm not bad looking, have a good sense of fun. Ok, my weight has yoyo'd a bit between size 12 and size 16 but there's been no interest for a slim me or a more cuddly me. I have a good job so am not out for materialistic gains. My daughter is an young adult so there are no ties there. I just never get beyond a first date.
(off to find a bag to put over my head) | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/4/2007 12:44:03 AM |
It's not that nobody is attracted to them; it's that after spending time getting to know them, no one is willing to put up with them.
this makes no sense because when your this ugly no-one will even take the time to get to know you seriously now | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/4/2007 4:46:14 AM | You know what makes you a helluva lot more attractive... When you actually stop giving a click what other people think of you. Sing every song like you wrote it, walk into every room like you own it, and treat people with the exact same respect you demand of them.
Stop worrying about what people think, and what they expect. Just live your life...
Look at Mutt Lang, he's married to Shania Twain. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/4/2007 9:03:55 AM | | I see some very attractive people percieved as eye candy or someone's trophy. I feel there is something lost in individuality when they're physically attractive (as most people want them for their looks); almost like they're society's zombie. Then the other side of the coin, those that might consider themselves as nobody is attracted to as people make fun of them, and live as a mere existence. Either way, there is a lot of common ground between the two that often leads to depression. Takes good people to see through either persons and find the inner qualities that make them attractive. Maybe that's why Shania Twain married Lang. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/21/2007 7:12:49 PM | Take a look at my pic(s), I`m not exactly gorgeous, and yet I have very little problems finding a date. But people are drawn to me because of my charm, intelligence and sense of humor-- basically, I guess you can say, I`m just comfortable being me.
I have known few people who NOBODY is attracted to. Many end up in mental hospitals or a correctional institute because they didn`t tap those social skills to compensate what they didnt have physically. It`s sad because they could have have lived normal lives with proper intervention, -- REMEMBER beauty is all in the head.. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/21/2007 9:23:45 PM | Call me a romantic and I would have to diagree with you, but I do believe that there is someone out there for everyone, no matter what they look like or what their quirks are.
I have in posted in the past about friends of mine who are very good looking guys that only like women and yes married them and are married to this day who were very over weight and are not what most would call good looking at all, but, the guys I'm talking about would not trade them for the best looking models in New York, the same holds true for women, I have a great friend who is not a good looking guy and is not thin by any means and his wife looks like a Playboy playmate and she picked HIM, now that being said, the man and the women both are extremely nice and wonderful people, but their spouses happen to find their body types and looks very appealing to them, so yes no mater what you look like there is someone out there that will love you for you. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/21/2007 9:29:35 PM | This weigh in from someone whose mother had to tie a porkchop about the neck of just to get the dog to play with me......(don't mention that to Petunia please, it was another time in my life) But seldom do women ratchet their necks to have seconds as it were. (not having to do with their superior peripheral acuity either)
But I'm just fine with it..I've dated spectacular women and some rather plain ones. And my experience told me that there is no given trait of personality associated with any particular physical quality.
Age has much to do with the falling off of such distinct criteria....you come to realize (or remain home alone) that perhaps glam isn't what it's all about.
I actually do like this venue for getting to know folks though...I'm sort of torn as to whether photos are such a good idea or not truthfully.
I really enjoy learning how someone processes, then I need to hear their voice. Then I like to see the photo. But as always I'm a little bass akwards........ | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/21/2007 9:32:41 PM | My friend cracked me up when she told me " every pot has it's very own lid that is a perfect fit.. somewhere " after I told her I just didnt think Mr Right even existed.
Then she looks at me affectionately and says " but girl you are one warped pot ! " lmao
oO I took it as a compliment 
and I just KNOW the right person is out there for everyone. Go over to the BBW dating sites or to the fetish sites. Look at the ripped, handsome, really magnificent traditionally " desirable" males who are looking for what the rest of the world may consider " non placeable" because they dont fit into society's idea of "normal"
Hell yeah there's somebody for everybody.. you just gotta keep on  till you find her/him. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/21/2007 9:47:51 PM | | I've dated some real pretty girls in my past. The problem? Everyone else thought they were pretty too. A pretty lady always needs to be told she is pretty, if you forget or your not doing it enough in her eyes she will find someone else that will. If she gets bored she will use that as an excuse to dump you, even if you tell her she is pretty every day. She will either think your not telling her often enough or way to much. Yes the life of a pretty person is way to complex for me to handle. Give me bad teeth and a bad form, some fat will do nicely. It helps if you have bad social skills too. The less worried she is about being pretty the better off I am... | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/22/2007 3:20:20 AM |
A pretty lady always needs to be told she is pretty, if you forget or your not doing it enough in her eyes she will find someone else that will. If she gets bored she will use that as an excuse to dump you, even if you tell her she is pretty every day. She will either think your not telling her often enough or way to much./
I just ended a new relationship over this issue. And believe me, there are 2 sides to evey story. In my opinion he had a problem giving compliments. He said the were "sepcial" and should not be given out all the time. But in my opinion, how can it hurt to tell a girl she looks good or how you feel about her? Especially when he had no problem "teasing" me about my negatives. Why not also help build me up with positives?
I think if you like or love a girl, and she needs or wants compliments... why not give them to her? What does it cost you to despense this kindness? I mean... do you hear me saying that a blow job is only for "special occasions" and if I give too many then they are not as valuable?! If it makes my man feel better... why not!
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/22/2007 4:21:04 PM | You will get no arguement from me Noora, I have the type of personality that enjoys giving people compliments. What confuses me is the pretty girls that seem to take that the wrong way, like I am bowing down to them or puting them on a pedistal. (Which I'm not)
Those that "Tease" as you say, about the negatives, are just looking for control, they are easy to figure out and very uncomplicated. Its the ones that compliment for control that are harder to see where they are going with it, lol | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/22/2007 4:51:27 PM | ... but I think everyone having a person in the world that will find them amazingly physically attractive is fairy tale bs. Thoughts?
I try to be practical about my situation. I'm not much to look at and borderline ugly. Regardless, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and there's bound to be some female who finds me reasonably tolerable to look at. However, I have "Ferrari tastes" and I'm trapped inside a Rambler body. I also require whatever woman I might end up with to hunt with me. There is no exception for this and I'll gladly die alone versus be with some dame who doesn't share my passions in life. With being practical, I have to look at the mathematics of the whole thing. There is NO "promise," Biblical or otherwise, that I have even so much as ONE "match" in the entire world. However, statistically speaking, there are bound to be maybe 10, give or take, women on the planet who would actually ENJOY the heck out of me and with whom I would have reciprocal feelings. This said, the odds of ever actually meeting ANY of these 10 women is incredibly remote at best... which is why a lot of people in my situation (i.e., undesirable to the majority of the opposite gender) "settle" for whomever will show them a modicum of kindness.
And a fair question would be, how do I "know" I'm unattractive? This is, I feel, easily answered by the types of women I attract... old women who are desperate, young women in Russia who are desperate, and black women in Ghana who are desperate. I never attract even "modestly appealing" women who are NOT desperate. So, from this empirical evidence, I've concluded that I'm ugly as sin to look at... and I can live with this because, as "Dirty Harry" said, "A man's GOT to know his limitations." The best I figure I can offer is a fair number of good qualities and morals. However, it's also been my observation that very, very few women are deeply interested in such things, and often prefer guys with good looks and/or big wallets and/or hair and/or tattoos... qualities I either can't attain or flat out refuse to.
So... the best I can hope for, I figure, is to be coupled to death between two railroad cars in a fairly quick and expeditious manner. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/22/2007 5:03:08 PM |
Fortunately for me, I dont have that problem. My girl turns me on like no other
Then why the hell are you on here? if you are so full of yourself that you dont ever have to worry about dating an "ugly" girl, then why are you wasting your time on a dating site? Is your life that boring that you have to make the rest of us feel bad for not having a great body or for having found someone to make us happy? If you are that happy with your relationship then get the crap out of th threads and leave room for people who want to read actual advice you pompus prick.
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/22/2007 5:18:00 PM | Certainly.
Generally, they aren't the ugly people.
They are the people with severe personality disorders and/or mentally ill.
If you look around, you'll see plenty of married/dating ugly people.
So, I'm still single, so I wonder if that means I have some disorder I don't know about?
Hm.
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/22/2007 5:48:13 PM | We see beautiful couples everywhere but one of the most poignant moments in my life was when I was in the grocery aisle... alone.... again... and the couple in front of me were both mentally and physically handicapped. Definitely NOT a "beautiful couple".... but watching them interact... seeing the love they had for each other... the laughter in their eyes when they looked at each other.... it almost made me cry with tears of joy. It also gave me hope... that if they could find each other surely there was hope for me. It's not the 'beautiful people' of this world I think of when I need a little reinforcement in this quest... it's that handicapped couple.  | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/22/2007 6:42:47 PM | i used to live across the street from a mexican guy. now, he stood about 5'5", weighed about 180, had bad skin, not a whole lot of hair and drove a banged-up ford pickup. his little daughters would spend weekends with him.
i also saw several beautiful women visiting with him...i mean really stunning women. i couldn't imagine what these women saw in him, but i could tell by the body language that they had some sort of 'dating' thing going on with him. i couldn't figure out for the life of me what they could possibly see in this short, dumpy mexican guy.
until one day at the community pool when he and his girls laid their blanket near mine. he started talking to me, and, i mean, he just had the most pleasant manner. he had interesting things to say. he acted like things i said mattered to him...just a great person to spend time with.
it kind of blew me away, just realizing the silent injustice i had done him in my head. i vowed never to mentally write anyone off again.
i fell certain that, given the correct set of circumstances, all people can attract the individuals they need in their lives. | |
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