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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/22/2007 9:44:04 PM |
I'll use this opportunity to say that the person I'm least attracted to here is TheDancingQueen. Notice what she put in her post as well as my reply. God that is just damaged goods right before she even started...
Dude.. you have to take these thing with a grain of salt, and a bit of reality.
She gave you some pretty valuable advice...take it for what its worth. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/23/2007 1:27:25 AM | There is no reason on earth, why someone in this day and age should be ugly. Grooming, bathing, a nice hair style, clean and proper clothes, a trip to the dentist, and frequent excersise is nothing out of this world nor is it out of reach. The UGLY people whose pictures I have seen online, just need a bath, shave, hairstyle, clothes, and teeth. Grooming is not a big deal, its a NORMAL thing we should do DAILY! | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/23/2007 2:31:12 AM | | well everybody finds diferent people attractive, personaly and i dnt wish to offend, i wud go for looks, and i cud never date anyone who is a lot shorter than me, a lot older, nor wud i date anyone who is fat, bald, buck teeth, not much hair, a smoker tatooes, peirceings etc thats just me and i not shallow, i have to be attracted to them and i wouldnt be to those types or and facial hair too big turn off. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/23/2007 5:15:19 AM | | personally I like to think, there is someone out there for everyone, and when the time is right you'll meet them, some may consider this niave, but I personally find some comfort in it | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/23/2007 6:18:28 AM |
well everybody finds diferent people attractive, personaly and i dnt wish to offend, i wud go for looks, and i cud never date anyone who is a lot shorter than me, a lot older, nor wud i date anyone who is fat, bald, buck teeth, not much hair, a smoker tatooes, peirceings etc thats just me and i not shallow, i have to be attracted to them and i wouldnt be to those types or and facial hair too big turn off
Just a word of advice from a short, smoker with tats and piercings and a beard...
The biggest thing that turns ME off is a lack of comprehension of your native language, the inability to communicate with the written word, and of course, someone who spends so much time with their nose in the air that they miss out on the fact that they are 36 and single probably due to their laundry list of requirements.
So i guess we're just not meant for each other. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/23/2007 7:10:09 AM |
I would choose personality, communication, and intellect over how someone looks any day!
people who say things like that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
and most do in public forums like this...........
are full of crap........
there is not a single person out there I know that would say "I am not at all attracted to you, but you are nice, let's get married"
doesn't happen..........
there HAS to be SOME kind of physical attraction.........
and know what?
there is nothing wrong with admiting that! | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/23/2007 7:28:54 AM | | No ,I think there's someone out there for everyone, we all perceive beauty and attraction differently ,and in someone else's eye's what we think is homely or unattractive someone else may not..I don't think God would be so cruel as to have created someone so ugly as to never being able to experienced being physically loved or touched by another, because of their looks. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/23/2007 9:46:13 AM | This speaks very poorly of us.
Sometimes I wonder how much better off the world would be if we were all born blind? If we all had to judge people not by how they look, or how we think we WANT them to look in order to be with them.
What a world it would be if merit alone was the criteria for our mate. Bet the divorce rate would be less than 56% .. what do ya'll think ? | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/23/2007 9:50:56 AM | lol I know my profile is lame but I cant even get someone to send me an email. I have a job , Im good looking, not fat, and No I dont send first emails out to ladies I prefer for them to email me. I'm hoping thats the only real problem ahaha | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/23/2007 1:07:09 PM | As for physical attraction, yeah I believe that is why I am still "single" and still a virgin. Then the other reasons which are over the edge for most. Like having no self esteem, no confidence, I don't feel worthy enough for anyone. Do I dare say how lonely and miserable I feel without sounding like I am whining? There are too many things holding me back from finding a partner that is even remotely attractive, and the ladies that are attractive are being competed for on a daily bases, I don't stand a chance, so I am going to have to settle for anyone who wants me. I did finally go on my very first date in my life last weekend with a awesome lady that is my age, the only bad thing is she lives 1300 miles from me, and it didn't go any further than a hug and a kiss on the cheek... The whole time I didn't feel like I deserved her, and her biggest complaint about me was that I had no confidence. I don't know how to be confident. I am a victim of child abuse, and from what I learned from therapy and all the shrinks that I still have PTSD and I have not worked through that part yet. Am I meant to be alone for eternity? It sure feels like it... | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/23/2007 2:51:52 PM | Life is choices buddy... make a concious effort to CHOOSE to be positive and you WILL be positive. It may not happen overnight, but eventually it will. It's not something that's "easier said than done" either. It's easy. Make the choice. Instead of focusing on all the things that are wrong with you... focus on the things that are RIGHT with you. Even if just one at a time. The sooner you start the sooner you will build confidence, the more confidence you build the easier it will come. Keep in mind too, everybody... and I mean EVERYBODY has issues... and a past. You are not the first to survive a bad childhood and you certainly won't be the last. You ARE the one choosing to be stuck in it though.... choose to move forward instead. Good luck to you  | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/23/2007 3:15:38 PM | Attraction does not appear to be the only part of the equation. I get plenty of voted 7+ on my photo, and yet no e-mails from women who are seriously looking who are local to my area. Money isn't either. Happiness isn't either. It seems part has to do with the amount of fear people have of jumping right into a relationship. Part of it is people who think that all friendships end up in relationships if you aren't careful (they don't). Part of it is not knowing what are the right questions to ask if you find someone you are attracted to, but tells you they prefer to spend time with someone else. Being sensitive to other's feelings, can be a tricky proposition. It seems there is not enough willingness to commit in a world of instant gratification. It seems there is the belief that every need must be met by a partner if it is to be a successful relationship. Those who aren't willing to see friends out enough to get the whole picture of who they are won't find themselves anywhere steady. Few people are willing to take someone who is good enough, but not perfect, and stick with them for the rest of their lives. If more were willing, we'd see less divorces. At least that's my belief. Attraction as much as it exists, only lasts till a certain age usually on the outside, unless one is willing to see age as a sign of wisdom and experience, and something attractive in of itself. I've been willing ever since I was a kid and had a crush on my 8th grade teacher who had wonderful black and white strands of hair. Alas that wasn't the proper time for our culture so I never really pursued it.
Stop putting emphasis on attraction, and start putting emphasis on who people are on their inside. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/23/2007 3:23:39 PM | Well some people attract like magnets and other people repel like cow dung. Most people have some attractive features that would appeal to someone
Yes attractive looks are a massive bonus but true attraction is a state of mind. Have you ever seen 'average looking people in clubs n bars relaxing with a drink attracting the opposite sex like there's no tomorrow and so called 'beauty queens' sat alone.
Attraction is far far more than a pretty face and a fit body. I think everyone can attract equally with the right state of mind, especially if they can emphazise their stronger attributes
In my opinion there's hope for everyone | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 3/24/2007 1:54:39 PM | Ugh Singleguy.. that one is pretty bad, but even still.. to say absolutely that NOBODY would be attracted to him also rules out small females that may suffer from the same syndrome he has. It's highly doubtful that ANY disease has only one person suffering from it.
Throw in sex offender and wheel chair bound in some nursing home and it does get stretched realllllly thin tho !
Still, I dont believe in absolutes in life, one way or another. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 7/22/2007 10:37:49 PM | I understand New. I am a recycled virgin myself. Never been on a 'real date' in my life.
I met some seeemingly respectable guys for coffee or a quick appetiser but could not go thru with an entire regular date. I just can't seem to stand anybody I meet, so what's the point of going on a date with them? It is hard to be so picky.
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The one in a million guy that I liked, I was lucky once to meet him years ago and he liked me back so we were together 15 years, but that is history now. Then I met another one in a million guy, but he rejected me.
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So I put myself out into this internet meat market and saw a third one in a million guy that I liked and I got rejected by him also. Sigh.
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New, I found if you love God, Gods love in return will be sufficient for you when human love fails.
All we can do is try. And maybe if it is Gods will, we will both meet someone we can stand who can stand us. More truely, we will both fall in love again and be loved in return.
It is worth it to keep trying no matter what. Only the brave struggle to love.
Have hope. I call the Hope Diamond, the Hopeless Diamond, lol.
Yet still, I keep hope and faith, chairity too, as charity is love.
And so should you, keep hope, faith and charity.
Best Wishes
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 7/22/2007 11:22:49 PM | I think that Jabberwocker said it very well.
For me it's not a question of 'seeing past' how someone looks. In my experience, the nature of attraction is such that the way I feel about someone literally changes the way I see them. In other words, I find that someone gets better looking the more I like them. It's a tender thing, that feeling, and difficult to explain, but I'll give it a try: Sometimes I look at the people I love and I notice the thinning hair, the ears that stick out at odd angles, the thin chicken legs, the roll across the tummy, the weird mole, the beginings of a small stoop, the too-big nose, and I feel a burn in my throat. Something about all those little imperfections enhances their dignity. I have this spontaneous urge to to hold them close and say, "I love you."
For some, attraction is not an "at first sight" thing -- it happens after weeks and weeks of intense, deep conversations in which there is no expectation for anything, but simply the sharing of thoughts and ideas. After time, you associate the admiration for the man inside with his dear face and it will become the most handsome face in the world to you, even if you know, objectively that he'd never be on the cover of a magazine. Each relationship has been this way for me. As appreciation of the person grows, they become beautiful and this is not something imposed by force or reason, but that grows naturally and becomes undeniable, you are struck by it unexpectedly when you look at them. I think every human being is loveable and will become beautiful to those who love them deeply. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 7/23/2007 1:55:45 AM | I agree that attraction towards someone can grow after a while. Thats how i ended up marrying my ex-husband. He was by no means a looker. However, this is rarely the case. These days I look for some kind of physical attraction within the first few dates.
I also wondered, if its chemistry we're looking for, are some people incapable of creating it? | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 7/23/2007 2:46:16 AM | your question is pointless.yes i agree that in todays world it seems most people all are attracted to the same thing.for example womens for bad boys who act tough.men for blondes with skinny perfect bodies and e.c.t... but just cause there is a norm that u see a lot doesnt mean that there are also lots of people who dont nesseceraly think the exact same either.it might be harder for people who are not bless with looks to date or find someone but thats just cause like i said there is a huge percentage of shallow f$%#kers.
but not evryone is that same.there is exeptions and thats where theses people find hapiness i guess.a lot of times beauty is in the eye of the beholder.what isnt pretty to one person can be to someone else.it could be a smile,eyes anything....,most people have something unique that makes them appealing to some people somewhere so who are u to think that just cause theyre not attractive to u that they wont be to someoen else? u need to take a look back and think more about what your asking buddy.
its like your projecting what u think or are attracted to as the supreme truth.
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 7/23/2007 2:59:48 AM | mannn i just re-read your profile just to make sure that with my first posting i wasnt to harsh on u.but nope lol
very shallow and insensitive outlook indeed.
 keep it up just more the type of people we need on this planet.NOT! | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 7/23/2007 6:38:40 AM | Sorry, mate, but life doesn't work that way. Every guy I've met has found someone attractive that everyone else thought was unattractive. Heck, when I was in university, everyone I lived with really fancied this girl we all knew, but she did nothing for me.
Most people follow other people as to attraction. If one person is attracted to someone, then someone else notices, and thinks she MUST be attractive, because he likes her. Then, someone else follows suit, and pretty soon, all the men like the same girl.
But if one guy is staunch in his opinion that a woman is NOT attractive, everyone else follows suit.
I know loads of women who most guys did not even glance at, and they are ALL married, and their husbands love them dearly, and really fancy them too.
But scientists find it easier to use rules to get ideas and then publish papers on them, to make money.
Try finding a scientist who made no money or acclaim off of his theories. That is the scientist to listen to. He's only saying it because he believes in his idea.
Check the forums on small men. Most of the tall men are saying that short people should just get used to it, when a few women post they love to date smaller men.
Check the forums on BBW. There are plenty of men & women saying that these women should just lose weight, when several men post they love to date BBWs.
I find this very amusing, because I have found that nearly all people who support one political party, tend to be the people who will gain the most benefit from them. I knew rich people who used to say they would emigrate if labour got into power in the UK. Now these same people cannot tolerate hearing one criticism about New Labour.
So, lots of people try and support their own world view, so that they can get others to believe in it too, and therefore get more dates.
Check out the bars. I've seen the same person dress in unflattering clothing and get no dates, and later on dress in very sexy clothing and get loads of dates.
So, no, there are NO rules to physical attraction, only rules of psychology, or mob rule, or following the herd, and people who want to try and pigeonhole other people.
Just my experiences. | |
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