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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 7/23/2007 6:38:40 AM | Sorry, mate, but life doesn't work that way. Every guy I've met has found someone attractive that everyone else thought was unattractive. Heck, when I was in university, everyone I lived with really fancied this girl we all knew, but she did nothing for me.
Most people follow other people as to attraction. If one person is attracted to someone, then someone else notices, and thinks she MUST be attractive, because he likes her. Then, someone else follows suit, and pretty soon, all the men like the same girl.
But if one guy is staunch in his opinion that a woman is NOT attractive, everyone else follows suit.
I know loads of women who most guys did not even glance at, and they are ALL married, and their husbands love them dearly, and really fancy them too.
But scientists find it easier to use rules to get ideas and then publish papers on them, to make money.
Try finding a scientist who made no money or acclaim off of his theories. That is the scientist to listen to. He's only saying it because he believes in his idea.
Check the forums on small men. Most of the tall men are saying that short people should just get used to it, when a few women post they love to date smaller men.
Check the forums on BBW. There are plenty of men & women saying that these women should just lose weight, when several men post they love to date BBWs.
I find this very amusing, because I have found that nearly all people who support one political party, tend to be the people who will gain the most benefit from them. I knew rich people who used to say they would emigrate if labour got into power in the UK. Now these same people cannot tolerate hearing one criticism about New Labour.
So, lots of people try and support their own world view, so that they can get others to believe in it too, and therefore get more dates.
Check out the bars. I've seen the same person dress in unflattering clothing and get no dates, and later on dress in very sexy clothing and get loads of dates.
So, no, there are NO rules to physical attraction, only rules of psychology, or mob rule, or following the herd, and people who want to try and pigeonhole other people.
Just my experiences. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 1/10/2008 5:46:27 AM | There sure is physically, but then you have to work on that inner you, otherwise you will live a very lonely life.
Again, if you look at my pictures, I am far from gorgeous. Not tall, my face is just "average", but people consider me an attractive person. And I never had problems securing a date.
Always take note, physical beauty is only skin deep and can change over time. But its the true beauty that eminates from the heart that remains constant. Its who you are ultimately on the inside that will draw people to or from you. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 1/10/2008 6:58:13 AM | | Change the package as it is done all the time to sell products cars, etc etc so why not change yourself . No such thing now a days as an ugly person ,,,and that leads to the question who are yu really getting? as the scars of the fat ugly one is still inside the soul? Buyer Beware? | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 1/10/2008 7:02:26 AM | | I will take someone average, over someone who's handsome, and has a great physique. All that stuff certainly draws you to someone initially, but it's importance fades very quickly if they are a jerk. I have to be really honest here.......I've rarely met a man with those attributes that wasn't a jerk. | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 7/2/2008 12:31:03 PM |
No this has nothing to do with myself, so please don't check the self pity as I'm curious what people honestly think on this.
I've seen now on several threads about people considering dating people that they aren't particularly attracted to physically but like mentally being advised that they should forget it and find someone that they like in both ways. One of the reasons given is that they deserves someone who finds them beautiful/handsome etc or at the very least is physically attracted.
A lot of studies have shown attraction to be pretty universal, as in symetrical faces, broad shoulders for men, small waists for women etc. Some people are just not gifted in the looks department, and while people might be willing to date them it is pretty unlikely anyone will find them attractive... ie missing teeth, bad acne etc. (as strange as the internet is I highly doubt there are fetish sites for this kind of stuff.)
I'm not one to pull the shallow card, if someone really can't date someone based on looks alone, hey most people are like that, no big deal. But if a person is willing to see past that because they like the personality enough, why not give it a try? In some cases it is unlikely anyone else will.
I'm not saying to be Mother Theresa when dating, but I think everyone having a person in the world that will find them amazingly physically attractive is fairy tale bs. Thoughts?
To answer the topic title, yes there are people that nobody is attracted to, I'm one of them! | |
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| Aren't there some people that nobody is attracted to?
Posted: 7/2/2008 12:42:03 PM | I have donr the "settle for second best" thing and it didnt work out seriously.
When out I was laways looking at otehr women looking for the right one rather than just anyone.
At the end of the day we have to make the best of what we have got.
Women have the advantage there because they can enhance themselves with make up, clothes and nice hair. | |
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