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Posted: 2/7/2007 6:44:09 PM | things get bad. he has cheated 6 times,lied to her,broken up with her twice, pulled her hair, yells at her, and they fight like every other week.
Are you serious? In what way can you imagine moving in making things better.
Seriously Pink , why are you asking this question?
as for Bubbles...OMG!!!   | |
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Posted: 2/7/2007 7:26:35 PM | Let's get realistic here.
Do you think an 18 year old is going to look into a women's shelter?
Ofcourse there are other solutions, absolutely.
Again, let's look at this whole picture.
The mother kicked her out because she saw this guy. and I'm sure he was the topic of many many many arguements between her and the mother.
So, what is the daughters first reaction... To stay with him. That is the mentality of an 18 year old. So young. Not enough life experiance to know better.
Again, we don't know both sides of the story here. Maybe her mom is crazy? Maybe her mom got burnt out about trying to teach her right from wrong.? Maybe the mother decided to kick her out as a lesson. Who knows? Maybe her parenting skills are lacking?
The daughter needs some serious help.But, not as much as her mom needs for the reason of kicking her 18 year old daughter out of the house. end of story. | |
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Posted: 3/5/2007 11:32:27 PM | cross posted to the following threads:
Thread: A bad relationship gets better after living together?
Posted: 3/5/2007 9 50 PM
Thread: moving in with the boyfriend...
Posted: 2/6/2007 12 19 PM
Thread: How do I make her see she is in denial?
Posted: 1/25/2007 8 29 AM
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When I was in my late teens / early 20s, my girl friend's best friend got caught up in this type of a relationship -- she moved in with him, and over the course of a few months she stopped communicating with my girlfriend, and eventually moved away (with him) and that was the last we heard of her for years. Tragic case of innocence lost, etc., but while she often complained of problems with drugs, infidelity, and so on, she *chose* to stay in the relationship.
Unfortunately, not much can be done until the victim -- your friend IS a victim -- wants help.
It's agonzing to watch from the outside, I know, but about all you can do is be available to support your friend when she comes looking for support. At times she will probably feel renewed resolve to sustain the relationship, and be inclined to defend her mate against attacks, and thus be non-communicative; other times she may feel that she is too ashamed to speak openly about what is going on in her life, and thus be non-communicative. This may explain her reluctance to discuss the issue with you.
I hope I'm wrong, but I doubt that much will change here until your friend really gets hurt -- physically and/or emotionally -- if even then.
Best of luck to you and your friend. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2007 5:02:13 AM | Definitely not because now he can abuse her in anyway shape or form he so desires!!!
Disasterous!!! I think her mother needs her head examined, she could end up dead for christ's sake!!! | |
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Posted: 3/6/2007 5:08:39 AM | Thats an abusive relationship. Moving in together is a very bad thing for her.It will give him more opportunities to abuse her privately, and get her stuck with his controlling A$$!!!!
Tell her to get out, get a restraining order, and move on with her life. | |
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Posted: 3/6/2007 5:14:41 AM | This question is pretty much a no brainer. Of course no one should move in with a lying, cheating, a-hole.
So you posed this question why? So you'd have a few pages of people saying, "Oh no, your friend shouldn't move in with a lying cheating a-hole", that you can show her?
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Posted: 3/6/2007 5:21:31 AM | Just thinking the same thing.... The most frightening thing here is that someone would even need to ask.
Aren't there easier ways to get yourself on an episode of Cops (tell her to be sure to wear her 'good' tank top)? | |
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Posted: 3/6/2007 5:39:29 AM | | I don't understand why it even has to be a question!!!! Pulled her hair, cheated..... the best idea would be to move on ... no doubt!!! | |
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Posted: 3/6/2007 5:58:33 AM |
what do you think of this? can moving in together so early make things better or worse? is moving in together a good idea?
I think the girl needs to think about what she wants out of life and do ANYTHING to get on track with that. Otherwise, she may wake up down the road and have a mountain of regret to climb over first. | |
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