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TMRPR
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Joined: 7/5/2006
Msg: 26 | |
| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 3:55:29 PM | | Is there really that many guys out there that all they want to talk about is sex, c'mon guys your giving us all a bad name. Sex belongs in the bedroom and definetely not to be talked about with someone you just met 5 mins ago. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 5:37:10 PM | well guess I'm not any different than any other woman here...it's almost insulting to chat for a couple minutes with a guy and they start talking about sex...and of course ask if you have yahoo or MSn to chat...then when you go there they are wacking off talking to you live on cam...just grosses me out and makes me positive that I'll never go out with them.
Have some class guys...we all know if things work out it'll happen soon enough...but if you really want to have a girl fall for you...don't bring it up...just makes you look desperate for a lay...
p.s. this post is only for those guys who know they do this... | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 6:07:20 PM | | i never mention sex to a woman. i figure it will work out or it wont. i have seen times when is turned off because i never brought it up. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 8:14:15 PM | Ok, after a length of time, I'll ask certain questions ! Usually I wont hint until she hints about them first ! Adult questions,like what are her likes and dislikes ,and I'll tell her mine in round about way! To me thats talking about sex !
I dont need a guitar ,nor do i want or wish to play a Country Western Song *Backwards*!
thats my car,thats my dog, thats my house,theirs my kids in the back yard,who that kissing my ex wife,OMG ! Play a tune !
About these Posts,! You need to add more detailed information ! Mentioning sex ,what did he say ? Did he *ASK*you to have sex, ! If a guy outright asks for sex, you can delete him !Thats pretty childish anyway to outright ask a woman for Sex . Might not be a woman your talking too !
Simply asking adult questions,to each other is normal ! Wait till after afew emails to ask them thou ! I learned from my first 21 year mistake,!The next woman I have a relationship with will have to have similar interests as I. And sex is one of them, ! You Reap what you Sew, !
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 9:01:25 PM | Okay if I was dating a guy, and we talk about sex that's fine
But if we are just chatting, not dating or what not, then there is no real good time IMO to talk about sex. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/8/2007 10:07:42 PM | Augh. One of my pet peaves. It's been a while since I received a sexually charged email. I don't welcome them and I don't respond very nicely to them. I have put a couple of them on my profile (no user name, of course.) I do mention that I'd be happy to divulge the screenname if anyone is interested, send me an email and I'll send the info. Probably not my finest hours here on POF, but it made my point.
It takes me a long time to warm up to someone, the last thing I want to read is how hot he thinks I am and/or what he could do to me or what he would like me to do to him, what he'd do in front of me, or with me and two friends, blah blah blah. BLECH  The way I see this: like minds. Those guys should troll the women looking for intimate encounters ~ problem solved.  | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/9/2007 1:41:39 AM | Sex isn't something that should be talked about until the first question that needs to be asked. Do you have a condom. By then it should be perfectly natural. Keep your hormones in you pants, not your mouth guys. Not only will you have much better conversation but you'll meet much higher quality women. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/9/2007 3:49:15 AM | Well this is strange, not the fact guys mention sex early.....I believe that. 
What is strange to me, is that I think it is possible to have an intelligent convo about sex....I know, cause I have done so....often.
Timing is most of it....its just a topic like anything else.....just depends on where you are trying to go with it.
Most of the time, it's just a topic....nothing more. Then again, I can talk casually about anything. | |
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| when is it appropriate to discuss sex?
Posted: 2/9/2007 6:45:26 AM | I dont mind talking about sex but when your on IM and said hi to each other then they start going on about they find you so sexy then what they want to do with you, i just think here we go again, is there an ouce of intelligence here, do i get to know if i like them or not first, some just sound so desperate. Desperate is a deffinate turn off.
I did meet a really nice guy on another board, we talk about sex often, its ok, got to sort of know more about him first, i feel comfortable there. But omg when a total stranger starts going on about it i tend to think who the freakin hell do you think you are and have a bit of a giggle at them.
Some conversations iv had on here have been laughable, though sad and desperate, quite laughable sometimes.
Guys im fussy ok. | |
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| when is it appropriate to discuss sex?
Posted: 2/9/2007 7:36:40 AM | I agree wild with your response, there are times when I feel comfortable enough with the guy to discuss sex, but I don't want him to make it the object of discussion on the first "im". There is openings for when you can "test" the waters and sometimes you can be glad you did.
Basically I think it boils down to a "guys" response vs a "man's" response. A man will know when and where and make sure that he is respectful about it. A guy, well a guy is just looking to get laid or get off.
To me, its all about do I feel this man respects me, if he does he will get an honest answer, if I don't feel he respects me he will get the delete button. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/9/2007 9:41:45 AM | LOL. This is akin to that "guys who talk about their package don't have much of a package" myth.
Neither of the above myths has been my experience, and I've had sex once or twice.
I like bike_man's response. When *is* it appropriate to talk about sex? I mean, are you not going to have sex in your relationship? Ever? Ow.
It's ok to post whether or not the person wants children (FAR more personal, and a much bigger and more important discussion, imo), whether or not they have children, and so many other things that are going to be key factors in the relationship - but it's not ok to talk about sex?
Sorry, but sex is a key component in my relationships. If it wasn't, I'd get cats and read Oprah magazine.
So yeah, I want to know where a potential interest stands on it, I want to know what he likes and doesn't, and I want to know if he's going to be an uptight prude about whether or not we can have sex before the Catholic church has canonized me and decreed me a 'sex saint' with free recreational license.
I'm sure that makes me a skank, for some. Fair enough, I've been called worse by all manner of people. But having had sex once or twice, I know it can be a huge compatibility issue, and I am not going to pretend sex doesn't exist because I might have to hear a word I don't like or find out the guy I'm chatting with is hot for it (god forbid).
"Thank you, I'm flattered. I'm not really up for cyber, 'cause it's not my thing, but I'd love to keep chatting about stuff if you do" generally works fine, for me.
And, as Chataholic said, you always have the option of deleting or ignoring, not to mention closing the IM box and moving on. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/9/2007 11:17:00 AM | i was talking to a guy the other day, he sounded ok, we exchanged msn addy's and as soon as we did he was asking my bust size lol! Didnt want to know anything about me but that Deleted and blocked | |
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smyllz
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Joined: 11/1/2006
Msg: 40 | |
| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/9/2007 11:22:32 AM | | I think it depends. If they guy is talking about sex in general, I'm okay with it whenever it comes up. I'm sure I've brought it up "too soon" before too. If he's asking me overly-personal questions like ^^^my bust size or say, intimate details about my past experiences, then I would say it's crossing a line. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/9/2007 12:15:35 PM | I like to leave it until the 41st post. Anything before post 30 is jumping the gun.
SEX! | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/9/2007 12:27:26 PM | Isnt it maybe very much like in a bar, after the want a drink, ur gorgeous, what do you do chats things kinda lead on to flirting.,
Maybe us guys should try to figure how to flirt in words better so it doesnt seem like all we want to know is bust size and how many positions a lady can do in a night lol xx | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/9/2007 8:05:33 PM | | only if that is what they are looking for. men who are seeking relationships want more than just sex. they want a partner. men who are seeking only sex, are going to find women who are gonna want only sex. they're basically fishing, and waiting for someone to bite. and its not to say that the women who say yes are sluts, they know what they want and just cut to the chase. if a guy mentions sex early and often, then thats what he's looking for, if not, maybe he's someone looking for something more meaningful. or maybe, they just haven't had sex in such a long time, that they will screw anybody who would say yes. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/10/2007 1:31:12 AM | I recently started fishing again. The first "gentleman" (and I say that lightly) instructed me to go get a ruler. I in turn named him "Ruler M....." So... this leaves me wondering... does he have any more to offer than a ruler? Not sure... never answered another call from him...
But, I did share the pics with my girlfriends at happy hour.
Guys.... Please if you expect us to take you seriously, have some freaking dignity!
Peace. | |
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1Kam
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Joined: 1/15/2007
Msg: 45 | |
| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/10/2007 2:04:06 AM | Sex is like an inside joke between a couple, if some a$shole comes along and starts rambling about something that comes so obvious, then there's reason to dismiss him. On the other hand, questions such as that are to be expected sooner or later - human nature.
As for gentlemen, or even using that word, you're kidding me right?
When does a qestion become a plea? Want some gentleman, go downtown and find a nice pink sign denoting "gay bar". That's as gentle as society gets. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/10/2007 1:12:27 PM | Ok, I'm a father of 4 lovely daughters,, and I'm am overly protective! I also was,(am) Mr.Mom to two of my girls !
Anyway, I had along talk with my,29 yr old about POF guys(all dating sights)guys and their email ! OMG , I know now, why she's scared too Dead,to introduce any of her Dates to me ! She didnt hold anthing back ,she told me word for word what some of these ,so,so guys,say ! What kind of guy would ask a Woman if she likes it *Up the Rear *! That they all say ,ask this to her ,all of them !They have Foul mouths ,putting it mildly , if they dont get their way, they treat her like dirt ,hang up ! , And all this is said on ,first email and the first phone conversation ?
Hmm, wtf is wrong here boys ?
Daughter said *DAD ,I'd never have a boy friend,or get married .If I told you what the guys say too me !Dad, every guy I dated, you end up running them off,, gee I wonder why!
I look forward to meeting my daughters next boy friend, pray he's not a foul mouth ! *Guys* if you like it ,Up the Rear ,so much ! I wear size 12 Boot is nice and tight ! Be nice to give chase ,down the street . And periodically insert boot, wheir the Sun dont Shine !
Again, I have to look at every man as a potential enemy ! I know the pickup lines,I know all the moves ! I also can tell on threads when a guy is just full of ,sh-t ! Just looking to get in some panties, *gentleman *?
I'm honest,being honest sometimes has its drawbacks ! When it comes to other males I have always used my gut instinct .Never liked what i felt about them,wonder,guys ,I Dont play well with other's !
I posted the Song *The Reason*, to applogize too all the woman for what the , scum males have said to them. But,I personally have never asked a women ,nor will i ever ask ,Questions,like they ask . And I listed acouple things they ask my daughter ,my God !
I consider myself a ,Dominate Male,dominate over other males,nothing they say to me means a thing. But i do understand what woman go thought now ,the sick foul mouth everyday talk that they have to put up with . Its hard to believe this, my daughter said they ( All ) not one or two guys , all of them talk like that !
Thankyou Daughter,for explained to me in detail what *mentioning sex,really means ! | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/10/2007 1:31:15 PM | | I make no attempt to hide that i am very sexual with women i talk to, hell im 21 not that hard to figure out lol, but agreed that talking about cams and such too soon is bad. but I have also been known to use it to test women i like. ok so here is another question what lev of sex talk is ok? | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/10/2007 3:06:25 PM |
I like bike_man's response. When *is* it appropriate to talk about sex? I mean, are you not going to have sex in your relationship? Ever? Ow.
Thanks Daaygirl!  You read countless threads here that just spout negativity without encouraging positive insightful responses. Let's get back to the OP:
How do other women out there feel about the guys who mention sex in one way or another in thier profiles as a goal? Or start sending you dirty jokes & alluding to sex in the very first few e-mails?? I find it a total TURN-OFF!! Aren't there any gentlemen out there? Doesn't anyone just sense the negativity that reeks from this post?
Look it's obvious there are lots of sex-crazed or just plain clueless guys on here with little or no common sense. Ladies, please try to clue these guys in on what you want in initial correspondences. Men need feeback. You might be pleasantly surprised if you just state what your boundaries are if they are crossed.
Of course if the dude continues to be tactless, BLOCK/DELETE. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/10/2007 3:12:57 PM | Yeah, this is becoming a huge problem.
Some men use this as a gauge to see if you are in fact sexual because they are afraid of getting together with a woman who doesn't like sex.
What they don't realize is that they are sending out the message that this is the only thing on their mind, thus self-eliminating.
This is 2007 guys. Its pretty safe to say that most women are into sex as opposed to the women of the 50s.
Don't rush this. Don't rush the discussion or the need to actually get physical. You'll find that this sends women running. | |
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