| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 2/10/2007 3:59:08 PM | This is why masterbation is such a beautiful thing!You can use it as a tool to control your urges and stupid comments about sex on a first or second date. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/13/2007 3:58:01 AM | Too Soon?? When would it then be appropriate to introduce the topic of SEX into a conversation, if one is offended when sex is mentioned ...or hinted at too soon?
Of course, there are many gentlemen and gentle men out here. But, why is it so wrong, so repulsive to talk about SEX or allege that it is a pleasure enjoyed?
Even gentlemen and ladies find sex an intimate pleasure worthy of submerging into, and it can often be a topic of many interesting conversations. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/15/2007 9:46:47 PM | What happens if the guy, never, ever mentions the topic of sex, even when
his date is practically undressing in front of him?
Well, write me and I'll tell you what happens! | |
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Shedet
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Joined: 4/21/2006
Msg: 55 | |
| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/15/2007 10:10:57 PM | | This seems to be a very good question being it comes up way too much. Its really a turn off for me to have men just start talking to me and have them bring up sex right away. This shows me that they arent wanting to get to know the real me and what makes me tick and all the good quilitys thats i have inside to offer in a relationship. Then i also have to wonder just how many other women they are talking like this making me nothing special in their lives and if they would do this to me without knowing me are they worth my wanting to even attempt just a date or would i be expected to put out just for the honor of going out with them. Now dont get me wrong in what im saying i love sex for my age and know my sexuality and am not afriad to use it one bit,but not with just anyone do i want to decuss soemthing so dear to me . Thanks for letting me voice myself about one of my pet pevees . Sheila | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon - is there such a thing?
Posted: 4/15/2007 10:43:31 PM | i'm hoping that most go with the old adage: it's not what you say, but how you say it.
if i'm going to hang out with someone at all, i want to be comfortable discussing anything that pops into my head. Keeping certain subjects taboo? No thanks. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/16/2007 6:00:18 PM | | You too huh? well it is really bad when they say "want to see something?"like NO!!!!!I have change my profile an they still IM and in the first three lines want to ask for it or talk about sex....Do men not know how to read...I even got one who said" Well why else would you be here" like I said not for sex.I can have that if I want but I was looking for a man who would like to talk .Why are men only on here for sex? Well thats whole nother forum I guess...but ladies don't give up you just have to do some weeding ....haha | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/16/2007 6:09:35 PM | | It depends on what you've come here for ya know? If all a guy is looking for is a booty call then yeah, why beat around the bush? Would you rather have a guy be honest with you or would you rather he lie? | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/16/2007 6:15:50 PM | Well I try to mention it  or bring it up in conversation one way or the other by the third date but i am patient and if i think it will happen i can wait but if i think that it is a cdead end then i move on in ahurry without a doubt | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/16/2007 6:28:25 PM |
How do other women out there feel about the guys who mention sex in one way or another in thier profiles as a goal? Or start sending you dirty jokes & alluding to sex in the very first few e-mails?? I find it a total TURN-OFF!! Aren't there any gentlemen out there?
....I could ask if guys do this, but I know the stereo-type.
Fact is, we exist. Hell, my last ex never heard such things mentioned... she had to bring anything up the first time in such regards.... and she wasnt exactly eager enough to push... rather, that we just be us....
Personally, I dont believe in it till you are ready to make a VERY serious commitment to the lady you are with. Never did, and I never will. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon=stupid
Posted: 4/17/2007 5:19:23 AM | I got an email tonight from a guy that blathered on about lipstick, sexuality, smoking and described a fantasy right off the bat, no introduction just inviting himself to where I live to enjoy his idea of bliss.
I was turned right off, what a jerk!!! A guy that is so beyond having a clue about getting to know a woman is a huge red flag...
I guess some men just dont get it that we are nothing like them. Some men do what would work for them, (totally self absorbed) without considering what a woman would feel. Women do it too, they think men like little notes, presents, attention and compliments because that is what works for them... Some day.... they will all realize it is not just about them, that just because they like it, doesnt mean the opposite sex is going to respond in a positive way....
BL | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/17/2007 5:24:16 AM | To not speak about what you want seems sad. If women don't want sex what do they need guys for? Oh, I get it. Some girls want gay guys to go out with. Most girls want sex. And great sex.
Oh, the tricks those gals play. Now they want boys to lie. Boys, don't ask for what you want. If you don't ask how can you separate the prudish girls from the rest. Who wants Ms Manners. We're not in church. We're online seeking sex. Why the stall?
"Hmm well i think that the first date is WAY too soon. The second date you should be getting some vibes as to whether she is interested in you or not...... so this should be maybe a week!
I do think that a few mentions on the third date will give you an indication as to whether she is open or not to the subject. In MY case I like a women to be open and sensual so to go into a relationship with the feeling that she is cool. I think honesty is the best policy and sex is the best between two people who have connected . | |
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ddream
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Joined: 8/24/2006
Msg: 63 | |
| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/17/2007 5:25:46 AM | I totally agree.. Sex talk can wait and comes later after you know the person.. don't get me wrong I've not always waited, but when that happened i'm not the one that initiated the sex talk..... 
I prefer a clean talk and the sex thing comes in at a later stage when you know the person better and best of all when you've met that person.. I prefer to do the actual act than talking about it.. Not that i'm shy on the subject, but I just don't think it's proper to talk about when you haven't really met that person yet..... Unless it's initiated by the other party .... But only when we have talked for a while already... | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/17/2007 6:34:11 AM | | yeah i show that i can be intrested in something other than sex but the truth is and I've had this confirmed by woman its a Tabo topic that needs to be broken when meeting someone. Respectfully of course but your and adult. Stop being so sensitive. I think that the Biggest Gap between a man and a woman. Sensitivity. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/17/2007 6:36:33 AM | | It happens all the time, they IM you , you start having a normal conversation and about 2 minutes in to it , they are asking all sorts of sexual stuff. Sometimes I play along with it...most of the time it is a total turnoff. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon=stupid = ?
Posted: 4/17/2007 6:44:30 AM |
guess some men just dont get it that we are nothing like them
c'mon betterlate, we're all in the same boat.
but one thing's for sure, no one's in this world to live up to someone else's standards. all ya gotta do is find what you like and leave the rest alone.
but maybe what you like is complaining about what you don't like?
and maybe what I like is complaining about you complaining about what you don't like :)
tangled web,
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/17/2007 8:57:06 AM | | I agree that "having sex with me" after the first 5 minutes of chatting is a big turn off to women. I may mention the word "sex" usually in a joking context later on in getting to know each other once comfort level has been reached. Actual discussion of sex issues should be talked about if it seems to be leading in that direction. I would never bring up any sex chat right off the bat that should warrant a kick in the butt! | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/17/2007 9:38:32 AM | I’m very quiet about the sex topic till I really get to know someone. I actually try to get to know her better first but sometimes getting them to open up can be difficult. Usually she ends up coming around to the more intimate conversation topics.
I’ve dated a girl that wanted to take it very slow and we did for about 3 months. She had no problems talking about sex related topics but wanted to make sure we had more in common than just sex. After awhile I wanted more but she just wasn’t ready for a full time more “complicated” relationship and was still recovering emotionally from her previous relationship. We called it quits and she’s continuing to focus on herself, her kids and her family.
I’ve also been on the other end where I just meet someone online and they are right into the sex, fantasies, and dirty talk. I personally like to get to know someone before getting graphic in my conversations… but I’m able to adapt… lol. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon=stupid
Posted: 4/17/2007 8:43:20 PM |
I guess some men just dont get it that we are nothing like them. Some men do what would work for them, (totally self absorbed) without considering what a woman would feel. Women do it too, they think men like little notes, presents, attention and compliments because that is what works for them.
I think you will find a few out there that dont fit these stereo types iether.... I'm one of them... and no, gifts dont do it, but what they represent does.... cut all of it... just show me Im needed and Im happy. Doesnt have to be sex... doesnt even have to be big things... just let me know... to be corny, "let me feel like Im really home."
that's all I need.
And Im sure Im not alone on that. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/17/2007 8:46:07 PM | I've noticed that guys who make the best sexual partners never have to mention sex.
DITTO!
It comes naturally if it's mean to happen, IMO.
And the best sexual partners, know how to interpret your signals without being pushy about it. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/17/2007 10:44:02 PM | | It all depends on the mode of the conversation but, one shoud not ignore the desires of those who do not wish to participate in such topics. One should remember that we are not all at the same comfort level on all subject matters. By being understanding and showing some respect ...those virtues and more would be likewise reciprocated. | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/17/2007 10:46:34 PM | | Just because a guy hasn't mentioned some dirty physical act right away doesn't mean he hasn't been thinking about it. Fantasizing. Does that make him a gentleman? Just because he can keep his mouth shut (or fingers... whatever) longer? | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/17/2007 11:54:39 PM | tell them you won't have sex with them until 4 months after being together and if he realli truly shows he can wait, then u can up the deadline hehe.
jus test them to see how much they respect your boundaries.
oh an yes. girls can with hold longer then guys | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/18/2007 1:28:34 AM | oh an yes. girls can with hold longer then guys
you think you can be the master of your domain?
see: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Contest | |
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| Guys mentioning sex too soon
Posted: 4/18/2007 6:32:04 AM | | As a guy totally into sex and everything about it I hope i dont create enmies on my gender side but my thoughts on the issue are pretty simple ladies. If a man jumps to the sex card then you know he is into you. if all of a sudden one day whether the first or 10th date you find yourself absolutely enjoying a conversation that is talking sex and turning you on then what you have found is a man who is into you above himself and if he is this way in his conversation he will also be in the bedroom. | |
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