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Posted: 11/11/2006 10:02:44 PM | | To futility undo your perfidious nature. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 10:30:13 PM | It means that instead of this: 
You add this to your questions:  | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 10:35:43 PM | Love is like an eternal flame.
Once it it lit, it will continue to burn for all time.  | |
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Posted: 11/11/2006 11:40:58 PM | Awww, it saddens me that so many do not know what love is. For what is life worth living without the experience? To not allow yourself to be in love at least once in a lifetime is depriving yourself of a great experience.
Love requires a lifetime of experiance to understand it. To love is to like someone else more than you like yourself.
Love is a mix of familiarity and all of the other emotions conceivable. This is why it is always different. Different people bring out different emotions in us. Usually by our mid to early twenties we figure out it is possible to hate someone that we love.
For most of us love is about sexual attraction, when in the end nothing can be further from the truth. For me the biggest part of love is about familiarity. To enjoy all of the small things about a person that most others do not see or know about. To accept someone regardless of what it is they have done. To be able to tell that person the worst and most horrible thing you have ever done, and for that thing to be okay, accepted and forgotten. And then for the best thing about love, for that person to be in our life making us want to be a better person. Not because they wish us to, but because we want to. The mere presence and the thought of them makes us want to strive to enhance the experience of life and all that it comes with. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2006 10:22:54 AM | YamIhere wrote:
Strive for the blissful ignorance and it will be achieved. Strive for the genuine article and live in frustration
Wrong, because you avoid the truth which is the third option, that is, living from an objective state, not based on feelings. You do not want to be F.A.T. or act out the sequence of Feel, Act, and then Think. It is necessary to Think, Act, and then Feel (T.A.F.).
For example a man living from the objective state will love what's right (God) more than his wife and not be swayed by the apparent benefits (sex) of giving in to her.
In the majority of cases, YamIhere, your cynicism is justified, because most men fail miserably with their wives and girlfriends, choosing to give up what little moral ground they stand on for the quick fix of pleasure. The women secretly despise them for this but she too is addicted to the power of making him fail. And so it seems hopeless. Life's a **** and then you die. Perfect!
Solution? Give up your resentment. Give up your resentment of your wife, your ex, your parents, the Church, etc., etc. Seek the truth, and stand firm on the ground which you hold. That, is love. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2006 11:20:19 AM | Msg3,
Love between a man and a woman must be reciprocated. A selfless love can be badly used and abused.
Cor 13: 4-8 are good verses to live by( if one is not abused),been there, done that and got out because my love was abused repetitively. Love fails with an inequal and unequal partner.
I came to the understanding that ONLY in a relationship with an EQUAL, then the journey of love would be worth travelling. | |
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Posted: 11/12/2006 12:48:08 PM | I'm a new member to this site and new to the single scene... I guess as a bit of a learning stage for me with this on-line cahtting , I read quite a few profiles and messages in the forums.... what struck me was the amount of chatting on both the "chemistry" and "love" issue !!!!!! certainly defined by one's experinces (good or bad) I supppose.... I like to think of it as a "gut" feeling you get when something's right, that awakening of the kid in you.. not sure if its excitement, happiness, or nervousness but it's all rolled up in one....
Chemistry, the scince chemistry is made up of many fields and it is likely that one person could not master them all... so its defined into small fields (trying not to sound academic here.. but it leads to a point)... the same can be said for the chemistry we reference in relationships... what's chemistry for some is not for others....
consider this, people come and go in our lives every day, yet there are certain ones that have made a lasting impression on us.. and not because of wht they have done or said, but because there was some connection, almost an unconscious one so that no matter how long or infrequent between meetings. the connection remains.. almost as if you could finish one's thoughts... start a sentence and the other finish it. and each of you may glow with that childish excitement when you meet but there is no sexuality to the encounter.. or any thought to it... Could this be a missed opportunity for lasting love or what some people refer to as a soul mate !!!! For me, I have a friend like that, funny thing is she can raise the hair on the back of my neck by just a touch,,, but there is absolutely no sexual attraction..... but this tells me something about chemistry, that it really is the simplest form of attraction and perhaps the seed for love.. and maybe its left to each other to grow that seed and build on that chemistry...
I'm a pretty simple (not stupid) guy, and I think soemtimes we look so high for things that maybe we are overlooking the obvious..... why are our standards for friends so different than our standards for lovers/partners, etc... yet friendships last the test of time, I'm not sure the other does unless a big part of it is friendship..
rambled a bit, but its my two cents... | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 7:32:49 PM |
Love: the condition in which the happiness of another becomes essential to your own.
Not precisely the phraseology I would have used, probably because the author is better with words than I, but nonetheless it sums up my understanding of what love should mean. | |
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Posted: 6/12/2007 7:36:19 PM | Sharing that last piece of pie with you.
C~ | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 11:30:03 PM | I agree with knight rider. If we could all just step back and watch and learn from a child, how wonderful it would be! Thanks for the post! | |
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Posted: 8/2/2007 11:37:19 PM |
what is the meaning of LOVE?????
If you sleep with someone just once, perhaps it's just lust. If you sleep with her multiple times, then it's love.
Love is not being "good friends first", or thrifting or shopping for shoes. Those are friendships. One can tell the difference between friendship and love in two primary ways. 1. Love is generally done with clothes off, 2. love frequently leads to orgasm.
It's actually all very simple. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 12:25:30 AM | Learn,
Overcome,
Value,
Evolve.
you learn about them in every way,
you overcome obstacles in your paths,
you value them and their opinions, ideas, desires etc,
you evolve together.
that's how i see it. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 7:20:49 AM | love is everything wrapped in one large package! for being in love is a natural feeling between two people. friendship, compatibility, comfort, trusting, honesy, fullfillment of time, lust, companionship, knowledge of ones partner and much more.
the feeling of tingles or butterflies, the feeling of missing them during the day and rushing home just to see them, to make dinner or just needing them to put a smile on your face(and a massage-LOL). having their picture on your cell phone and wanting to call them every chance you get, but knowing that their- there for you when you get home, to hold you, cuddle you and comfort your day.
To be in love with the one you find irresistable is to have found a friend that you can talk to about anything to ask for advise and know that you'll have someone by your side if you fall down. To love is the greatest gift of all to find the one you connect with, the one, you cling to for times of laughter, pain and sorrow, the one to hold when times get rough, the one to call when your car breaks down and your stranded in the rain, the one to help with dinner and sharing in the chores, the one who surprises you for no special holiday-but because he loves you and appreciates you and wants you to feel that all the time, the one who makes up mystery dates to keep the inspiration of love exciting, the one who accepts you for all you have or dont have, the one who will fullfill your dreams and goals , the one who you will laugh and cry with through joyous occasions, and the one who you will talk to when problems arise, theres much more you can say and everyone has a different version of there perfect love. so all the answers are right . so if you see a man with all these qualities wrapped in a large package take it and open it and savour it for life --love grows within you the longer you are together so to all that are here seeking love dont settle find the true love that we all yearn for in life even if it is the second time around-love never goes away you just have to find new avenues to walk | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 8:52:33 AM | Well it depends on what kind of love you can love a person a car or a place. To be In love now thats different. I love my kids and my parents but its a different kind of love than when your in love with a significant other. So it depends on what kind of love.
I think being in love is acceptance patience and complete understanding in the other. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 9:08:55 AM | Love to me is accepting someone even their faults. For always being there when things are good and bad. To want to be there with them and comfort them and make them laugh. To enjoy the time that is spent between the two of you unconditionally. To talk and be able to laugh with them. To accept everything about them.
Im still searching or should I say waiting for my true love but I am confident that person is out there - somewhere. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 9:23:42 AM | The biblical definition sums it up best...
Cor 13:4-8 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (NIV)
But love isn't easy and it isn't for the weak - it takes a strong person to love selflessly, it takes a moral person to love while still not accepting unmoral behavior from the person they love (criminal acts, violence, abuse, etc.), it takes a great deal of tears to understand just how fragil and precious love is, it takes endless communication and compassion to keep love in the forefront of a relationship.
To love means stepping outside our comfort zone to allow another person into our lives in a way that makes us vunerable. It is a risk we take, but the rewards go beyond any other experience mankind can ever know - which is why so many people seek it and refuse to live in a dead marriage without it. Love makes us more than what we can ever be individually. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 12:22:53 PM | | this is the most beautiful thing I have ever read and it will relates to an experience that I had one time | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 12:36:17 PM | A lot of people have no real concept of what love is.
I think if you have never experienced great love, you don't know what you are capable of or willing to do for love, for the one you love.
In another post I wrote about a date that lasted 3 weeks and turned into a full blown relationship and he ultimately died.
For this man, that I was completely in love with, I would have given my last breath, my soul, anything to keep him alive.
I slept by his hospital bed many nights, I paid his bills, when he couldn't work, I was on call 24/7 when he needed me even if it meant leaving work. I loved everything about him, his mind, heart, soul, body. I loved, respected and admired him. A part of me will love him until the day that I die. Now, in my books, that is love.
No small love, no mere attraction could ever compare to the lightning that flows through your body and soul when you meet the right person. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 2:41:28 PM | | Sex, a meal on the table and some good company. | |
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