| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 10/2/2007 7:21:01 PM |
Possible, very possible. The problem's our society and the rules that placed us in a state of one-on-one mind. See, what you have to do is let go of the idea sex is sacred, clothes make you, and start actually listening to other people.
I agree with 1Kam here that a person's whole mindset from the foundation up has to change. They have to develop a new understanding about human relationships.
I would suggest that everyone read Anatomy of Love by the noted anthropologist Helen E. Fischer.
I would love to be in a polyamorous relationship. I would prefer a polyprimary type of relationship, but I do believe that I could be happy in a polyandrous relationship.
You see, polyandry and polygyny are not the most favorable mating paterns for humans. This has or does occur in some countries where the economic conditions were favorable for many women to rather share a wealthy husband, rather than have one poor husband, or vice versa, multiple males share one wealthy or powerful wife.
Polyandry occurs in matriachal societies. These are societies where women own the land or other valuable resources, and it is passed down from one genration to the next.
Aside from that, the only problem I see is another guys jizz in your hole. That's icky NOT every male thinks that this is "icky". Some males such as myself find the idea of sloppy seconds or creampies to be extremely erotic. Finding a creampie when you did not know that she was recently with the other male is also exciting too!
Yes, I'm seeking polyamory. | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 10/4/2007 8:26:09 PM | Lets put it this way. If several men want to love me and be with me, that would be ok, but I am far too jealous to let that situation be reversed. It doesn't seem fair to me that the man should be ok with me being with other people, when I'm not ok with him being with other women. Call it insecurity or brainwashing or whatever, I'm honest enough with myself to know this.
As to the Christian society comment, I'm just saying that there is still a major part of our country that would have a very large problem with accepting polyandry. Personally, I don't think it should be an issue. It may not be right for me, but there are already several people here who have given us examples of it working for them. I | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 3/31/2008 9:00:08 PM | | I know of few people who would say it's objectively wrong to feel that monogamy is your personal preference. Some would say it's unhealthy, but people say that about your diet too (and that's true whatever your diet may be). From what you say, you seem to have a pretty good grasp of the difference between what's right for you and what's arbitrarily right or legitimate -- I wish there were more like you. | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 4/7/2008 11:46:29 AM | Anything that doesn't hurt anyone, or involve children is ok, there are plenty of momogomus relationships that have tones of abuse
personally I feel what other people need is none of anybodies business | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 4/7/2008 1:10:24 PM | | I know I am old fashioned...but my answer is all about greed. I don't want to be with a man who isn't possessive over me.... He just wouldn't have enough passion.... and there is no way I would share... | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/4/2009 7:21:11 AM | Unless you have a stable of "Sub males" at your beck and call, it wouldn't work the same as having multiple wives.Ever notice how CONTROLLED Mormon wives seem to be? Most men couldn't handle a woman in CONTROL.
I wouldn't mind "owning" a few men to serve different purposes,but supporting them all,cleaning up after them all,cooking for them all,blowing them all,nagging them all to follow thru with what's expected of them,keeping them from beating the crap outta eachother out of jealousy,cleaning all thier clothes and perpetually telling them all the PUT THE DAMN TOILET SEAT DOWN wouldn't work for me....not to mention....
I didn't enjoy marriage to one man...let alone multiple men vying for my attention and affection and pvssy.I'd rather be one of many WIVES....at least then I'd have others to share chores with and when I wasn't in the mood....I wouldn't mind sharing that either.
I think it sounds 'good' on paper....but living it....no thanks.
I think I would simply become a sperm depository for WAY too little in return. | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/4/2009 8:02:11 AM | While I'm a firm believer in "to each their own" there may be evolutionary/biological reasons why polygyny is more prevalent than polyandry. Humans invest a great deal of energy into post partum child care. While a woman can be absolutely sure what children are hers regardless of matchup, the same cannot be said of men. In order to prevent "wasting" energy on rearing a child with no genetic ties, there may be an increased drive to be the sole male in the relationship.
Another, more socially driven explanation would be the greater prevalence of bisexual women. All contemporary stable polygamous relationships I know of involve bisexual partners. sexual attraction between all parties would of course stabalize the bonds and the relationship. Given the larger population of bisexual women (or at least openly so) stable arrangements would be more likely to include multiple women.
This is all speculation on my part though so I could be completely wrong. | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/4/2009 12:20:37 PM |
Unless you have a stable of "Sub males" at your beck and call, it wouldn't work the same as having multiple wives.Ever notice how CONTROLLED Mormon wives seem to be? Most men couldn't handle a woman in CONTROL.
Why wouldn't it? You're thinking about it from a monogamous woman's point of view as opposed to a poly point of view.
I wouldn't mind "owning" a few men to serve different purposes,but supporting them all,cleaning up after them all,cooking for them all,blowing them all,nagging them all to follow thru with what's expected of them,keeping them from beating the crap outta eachother out of jealousy,cleaning all thier clothes and perpetually telling them all the PUT THE DAMN TOILET SEAT DOWN wouldn't work for me....not to mention....
I didn't enjoy marriage to one man...let alone multiple men vying for my attention and affection and pvssy.I'd rather be one of many WIVES....at least then I'd have others to share chores with and when I wasn't in the mood....I wouldn't mind sharing that either.
I think it sounds 'good' on paper....but living it....no thanks.
Again.. thinking from a monogamous background I think.
I think I would simply become a sperm depository for WAY too little in return.
Only if you allow it.. as in any other relationship situation.
I have limited experience with this.. but spent about 3.5 wks in the company of 2 males... in a somewhat poly set up.. granted it was a brief period of time and technically one of them wasn't living here at the time.. but there was an easy division of labour among all of us. Everyone pitched in. Everyone picked up after themselves. Everyone did their own laundry. I was fortunate that at meal times (I was home during the day at that point) I would cook for them, and they cleaned up the kitchen afterwards. I kind of miss that.. hehe.. | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/4/2009 1:55:10 PM | You're almost right....lol......I'm thinking of it based on a marriage to ONE man who couldn't fulfill MOST of my needs....just call me 'YE of little FAITH in men'.
So yeah.....maybe it would work if I was dealing with say...3 mature,evolved,sexually intense,loving,character/conscience bound men who all loved ME...the center of thier Universe...who wouldn't want that?
Damn now that's a serious Narcissistic Fantasy!
Problem being....I can't seem to find more than one at a time with any substance or depth let alone enlightened enough to go that route...but then again...I'm in the BIBLE BELT !
When I first got divorced I thought....I want a STABLE of men to fulfull my needs.
One doesn't seem to cut it.Familiarity breeding contempt doesn't help either.
I went about meeting men,but not having sex with them or living with them and getting to know them.Not one of them could have handled sharing me with another man.
Oh wait one could have....but his wife cheated on him in thier open marriage...she went ALONE when the deal was..he would WATCH her with other men.So he was scarred for life thanks to that....but he was COOL....
THAT would be the biggest hurdle.Where do you FIND these men Baby!
But HELL YEAH.....I would LOVE to have a few who could handle it,and take care of THEMSELVES...and me.
Shoot....I'm taking applications. Inquire WITHIN.
Oh yeah....I have to ask my primary man first....
He said NO WAY IN HELL! He's slightly possessive and unevolved though.
Funny thing...if I asked him about another WOMAN joining us...he'd be all for it.
Seems to me though, one of the PERKS is that you never have to CHEAT and you get to have sex with different men and they all focus on YOU!.....hehehehe
And do me a favor...spare me the details Baby. | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/4/2009 2:08:13 PM | | I am of the polyamorous mindset myself. I don't have patience for jealousy in myself or in others and I don't deal with it. I have seen sucessful relationships with multiple parties. It can work but it takes a unique mindset and it isn't for everyone. It's important to know if you can do it or want to do it or not. If not, then don't try it. | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/4/2009 3:23:09 PM | "One to do the dishes
One to do the laundry
One to clean the bathroom
One to clean the kitty litter box
One to keep the house tidy
One to mow the lawn
One to take care of the kids
One to massage my feet when I get home from work
One to massage my shoulders when I get home from work
One to draw me a bubble bath when I get home from work
and one to make sure supper is on the table when I get home from work "
Any man should do these things for his woman if he's been sastisfied himself...care to guess what that takes most of the time? Most women have it engrave in their skulls...**** about it most of their lives and say men think about nothing else...but yet half of all relationships fail and most of the other half have selltled for what they have rather then what they wanted...Just an example of how things are with two people, once you start adding to the mix it of course makes its success more difficult. Although those that make the conscious effort and are better suited can always make a go of anything!Then again changing the conscious mind is the key to everything. It's why people with life insurance live longer!LOL | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/4/2009 3:29:26 PM | tacitta "Lets put it this way. If several men want to love me and be with me, that would be ok, but I am far too jealous to let that situation be reversed."
If there's an jealousy on anyones part the thing is doomed from the beginning. There are many advantages to this type of lifestyle and many arrangements in the polygamous life but a person has to be prepared to communicate and compromise twice as much as in a monogamous relationship. | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/4/2009 5:38:23 PM | | This practice does not seem logical to us. Perhaps our knowledge of human biology is inadequate. Females can only produce offspring from one male at a time, this is true, is it not? If so we see no logic in a female with many mates. The natural method of reproduction would seem to be one male with 30-365 female mates. If you only allow the more intelligent and physically healthy males to breed ths ratio would work. | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/4/2009 6:42:58 PM | Basically this is what I have although I am only married to one man. I have a high libido and have always needed more than one man in my life. So when my husband suggested we add to our bedroom, I jumped at the chance. That was 11 years ago and I never looked back. We still have a great marriage, but have a wonderful FWB who spends w/es with either me alone or at our house. It is quite amuzing to see the two of them talking at the breakfast table acting like the best of friends. Always pick men that I know will have something in common. I know if the circumstances were right I would enjoy having them of my guys under the same roof for an extended period of time. | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/4/2009 9:18:24 PM |
Where do you FIND these men Baby!
That's just it C2U... finding men who can handle the idea of seeing their partner with another, and wanting nothing more than to have them happy... it's just a unicorn hunt. They are rare... but can be found if one takes the time to look. My guy found ME... and the other guy was someone I'd known for a couple of years.
Not sure that I would take it as far as having a legally binding marriage, after all.. can only be married to ONE at a time. The others would have to be committment ceremonies, but wouldn't be recognized legally.
I know my guy has his moments of jealousy, but since he is my #1, my primary if you will, he gets first dibs on me and my time. His biggest concerns are that I am safe and satisfied... when he knows those things have happened, then he doesn't feel the jealousy anymore. I think the trick to something like this is something I preach here often. Communication, communication, communication, respect, honesty, communication. If either one of us felt things were not right, then things would change. My life and my relationships are fluid and constantly changing and evolving and morphing into something new all the time. I just simply won't put up with the BS. I do not have time, nor do I have the energy or desire to have more stress and drama in my life. If I suspect there will be negatives, then the relationship stops.
Right now there isn't anyone else on a regular basis... too bad. Ultimately I wouldn't mind another one. | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/4/2009 10:22:14 PM | | I relish the idea. I would like to find a woman who would be interested in marrying me, yet if she desires she can have lovers and I would not be with other women. And the "arrangement" does work as I had a close friend who had such a relationship, only his was two women, his former wife and his new wife. The three were inseperable until his death last year from an illness. They were together for 18 years!!! | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/4/2009 11:18:02 PM | How about one woman and just several boyfriends. Bwahahahaha. Is there really a need to have to be married to them all. LOL Said the "M" word I shall go flog myself now!!
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/5/2009 12:29:03 AM | you mean having to please more than one dyck at a time?...good grief...lol
not for me...I am good for one man only and when I find him I certainly will be good to him. | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/5/2009 4:49:34 AM |
I relish the idea. I would like to find a woman who would be interested in marrying me, yet if she desires she can have lovers and I would not be with other women.
HEY...lookie HERE....a UNICORN!
What's good for the goose is good for the gander in my book.
I could only handle fairness when it came to sex.So an open relationship were both people had the freedom to be with others would suit me alot better.
Problem being I tend to enjoy being possessed.
I am just so conditioned to think in terms of monogamy,I have always limited myself to that mindset. Finish one thing before you start another has always been my motto.
But I can see how it could work having multiple men.Shoot,I'd be game with Bi men.In my fantasy, it's all about equality and reciprocity.I'm sure I could find a couple of men to do this with,but at the moment I am with a man whose x-wife cheated on him so broaching the subject is treading on some issues.
Some people see love as control and possession(me)while others see it as the opposite.
Who's more evolved? The man who can watch his woman get pleasured by another man or the man who restricts his woman from what she wants? | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/5/2009 12:25:49 PM | | closer me and my so both know that if we wanted someone else and told the other ..it would be ok ... for we have done it years ago ...but we both decided that we only wanted each other and affirm that regularly ... I am glad that she only wants me ...and I know I only want her ..therefore jealousy is not in the picture ..if that changes that to will be ok as long as cheating is not involved ...but that is one chapter we have read and dont think we need to revisit | |
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| There's something about polyandry..
Posted: 8/5/2009 12:32:43 PM | Not really thrilled about sticking my weener where others have been, but the idea of polYGAMY sounds intriguing, so, all's fair in love and...love, and, if I want my freedom, I have to give it too. PolyANDRY: Sure, why not!
But can't we be FWBs? Why do I have to KNOW your other "husbands"? | |
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