| | athletic people dating non athleticPage 2 of 2 (1, 2) | | There is an increased quality of life I believe that comes from being active and living a healthy lifestyle. A healthy lifestyle and bodyweight is the most important thing. I don't smoke and eat healthy and love a run/walk on the beach in the morning someone would have to at least support that lifestyle. Being active also helps you to manage stress and stay positive and motivated in my opinion so that would be an issue as well. | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 11:30:53 AM | I have dated someone who was not athletic and it won't happen again. I spend alot of time in the gym and working out is like "medication" for me. I want my mate to work out too so we can do it together! Now most of the time I would rather be with my mate than at the gym those "several" times a week. The fact that we work out together gets rid of that problem. We also egg each other on. I'm also interested in learning new ways to stay in shape.
It can cause problems if the people are those who like to be with their mate more often than not. There are some couples who hardly ever see each other and that works for them. It does not work for me. People are different and have different levels of "how often they want to see/be with their mate".
I have been working out for more than a decade and am really interested in meeting someone similar.
Now, I don't work out everyday but I am there several times a week. But if it's a beautiful day out and someone suggests drinks on the patio? Well patio it is! I'm not extremely disciplined, but I'm not out of shape either.
I seldom get messages from the type of man I am looking for. Intelligent, articulate, fit men are hard to find. Most fit men I've met on here lack the brain power I'm looking for or they presume I'm only good for a good time or they are not serious about meeting people. That said, I have seen some men who are athletic and intelligent on here, but I was not attracted to them. So, the myth of the fit people always getting the girl/guy is crap.
As I've been saying in other threads "I can expect what I can offer". | |
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Posted: 3/29/2008 10:21:41 PM | | I think as long as the athletic person wasn't a snob about it. Some athletic gym crazy people tend to assume that just because someone is overweight that they are lazy, inactive, and "don't take care of themselves." I am overweight, but I like to bike and hike, and walk. In the past, I have taken up running, badminton, swimming, and canoeing. And I don't think I'm lazy and inactive, and I take good care of myself (better care than someone with an eating disorder who is starving themselves and is constantly unhappy, or someone who beats themself up emotionally about being overweight, etc.). I am not that turned on by muscles and toned bodies, but I don't mind it, and I can understand someone spending a lot time in the gym without me - it's just like any other hobby that is important to someone. I have dated athletic types. It's fine. I like guys with brains, so if they are intelligent and sweet, then I don't mind them being "too athletic." And I like a lot of alone time these days, so if we had different physical activities, that's fine. I probably would never be attracted to anyone who was really into body building though - the extreme looks disgust me. If they were so health conscious that they could never enjoy a really good indulgent meal, then that would bother me a lot. Or if they were totally not fun to eat with because of some weird relationship with food. That is definitely a deal breaker. Or if they were no fun to eat with because they were always critical of my food choices. Bleah, who needs that. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 5:01:04 AM | | VeryGreenEyez wins the thread, if I do say so myself. You've grasped exactly what it is that makes a relationship endure -- deeply-held values and interests common to both parties. Now of course only those who have grasped this rare truth will ever agree with you, and the rest will keep on fighting their way through disagreement after disagreement and calling it bliss, while preying on the rest of us for advice. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 6:34:03 AM | I'm with you dumpling on the food thing.
I'm a foodie and enjoy going to some fine restos. I think EVERYONE should try some heavenly food at least once in their life (and more and more) - absolutely scrumptious :D
People being critical of someone's food choices can be annoying. If someone is that different or critical, I could not date them.
I'm with you on the extreme look too - I like fit and toned, but not the "hulk" lol. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 10:54:48 AM | I tried to get an ex to join a gym. She smoked and drunk and at the time I drunk very occasionally, so our lifestyles weren't completely similar as I tried to eat healthily as well. I thought of the phrase 'couples that do things together stay together', so I thought that we could join a gym.
When we went to the gym for a look round which was like a normal gym not a hardcore one, I looked at her face and it was like taking a vegetarian to a slaughterhouse! I guess you can't force someone to join a gym or to adopt a healthy lifestyle. Nowadays, I probably won't date someone who isn't quite healthy or at least understands my healthy lifestyle. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 11:00:29 AM | I am a gym rat also. It is my cocaine. I have been told by others that as soon as I find a good man I will quit my time in the gym. I hope I will find a good amn at the gym
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Posted: 3/30/2008 11:20:58 AM | | I have pondered this myself because the only reason I don't run, hike, bike and dance anymore is due to the pain it causes. I think it would come down to whether or not the individual continues to take care of themselves in other ways such as watching what they eat and exercising in small ways. I would imagine that there is a greater chasm between people who eat healthy and those who live on a diet of fast food - at least I hope so since I am in that boat. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 3:01:01 PM | | No, you will drive each other nuts. I once dated an aerobics instructor and it was exercise all the time with her. I'm active but not to that degree. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 3:57:51 PM | I think it would cause a lot of problems since working out take times and there is only so much of that in the day.
I know i could never date a guy who told me not to work out or go to karate class. Either join me or dont b it ch about me going because i will still go.
Also it would limit what you could do on the weekends- lets go for a hike nope can't walk that far would be a let down, lets go swimming nope too hard, lets go canoeing nope too much work etc etc etc. It would get old very fast. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 5:19:02 PM | I don't think dating someone non athletic would work for me. I had a short relationship with one. His lack of muscle tone was a bit of a turn off.
But there are retired guys in my club that are long time married, and the wives aren't athletic at all, but they are the sweetest couples! They wisely let their men go cycle to their hearts content. I hear the husbands are much easier to live with, as long as they get their time on the bike. | |
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Posted: 3/30/2008 5:34:05 PM | | It's usually not an equal relationship. The athletic partner will dominate the relationship, and may humiliate or belittle the non-athletic partner. I've rarely seen relationships work where the two partners have markedly different health and fitness levels. | |
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