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NYinNM
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Joined: 5/30/2008
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| artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 6/11/2008 4:48:39 PM | I am a creative person ,(drawing/painting) and also mechanically inclined (automotive design and fabrication). I have been with creative people and non creative ones too.
While I never seek out creative women I do think they have a slightly better understanding of what the creative process is like. For example, jumping up in the middle of the night when an idea strikes. But it can also be a double edge sword. She thinks you should do this or that and you think otherwise. All in all I think my relationship came out about even. When I was with a non-creative woman who was very supportive of me and my "artistic side" the relationship was just fine.
Artistic/creative people tend to be high strung, meaning when they agree it's all good but if they disagree with each other, all hell may break loose. That was a very thought provoking question, good one. | |
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| Dating artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:47:19 PM | Generally speaking of course, hardcore "artisitic' are with people who ACCEPT them and who they find interesting.
My experience has been that they can be sensitive, a tad narcissistic, enjoy being alone and with people also.....they are busy. They are also very accepting of others oddities.....
Works for me. | |
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| Dating artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 6/11/2008 5:56:17 PM | | I'm a photographer so that falls under the "creative" category. I like my alone time to work on my photography and I also enjoy people, all kinds of people. I'm attracted to men who are creative in their thinking, imaginative and enjoy music, art, nature, etc., but they don't necessarily have to be "artists". I do value a man who appreciates what I'm trying to do. I think it's great when a man and woman can encourage each other's creativity, whatever form that might take. | |
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Posted: 8/24/2008 11:51:17 AM | I have always wanted to date a creative man. However it is a constant challenge for many reasons.
Most of them want a muse to be with, some etherial woman who does not exist.
I am also a person who does not do drugs or drink and there is an ongoing myth that to be creative you have to kill your brains with these things.
There is also the issue of the kind or artistic guy too. Let's just say I am looking for more like John Lydon and less like John Tesch. It's difficult to find someone with an edge that isn't always falling off of it.
Creativity and drama, dysfunction and psychosis seem to all be in the same boat together and I don't want a stressful broken life. | |
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| Dating artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 8/24/2008 2:42:07 PM | | I'm a professional singer, photographer, etc. so yes, I'm very very creative, rather gregarious and sometimes over the top. My husband? Not so much. He isn't a big people person - I am. He keeps me balanced though. However, a gentleman that I've been talking with lately is similar to my husband .... not so creative but SO FUNNY and I love how he makes me laugh. By his own admission, he's not creative either but I'm crazy about him just the same. | |
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| Dating artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 8/24/2008 3:04:26 PM | I am a writer and I am more attracted to other creative people. It doesn’t matter if they are a traditional type of creative person, like a painter or musician, it only matters if they are creative. I saw a guy on here who was working on alternative fuels in a lab in his own house. What a turn on.
For me it’s not that they are creative. Despite what you think, we all are, what I find attractive about it is they were passionate enough about something to work on it. When I first started writing, I couldn’t write a letter or even begin a short story, but I knew that writing was my thing. I worked on it for 15 years before I produced my first really good full-length novel. It’s the passion behind the drive that motivated the person to learn the art, no matter what it is, that is attractive. Whether it’s a car that runs without gas, a garden that blooms in a certain way so that there is always flowers or a beautiful poem, it doesn’t matter to me. It’s the passion behind believing in yourself and working towards your dreams. Even if the car doesn’t run, the flowers wither and your painting looks like stick men! | |
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| artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 8/24/2008 3:19:37 PM | I am poet, as well as I write a lot of short stories.
I have never had a desire to seek out an other creative person. But, for someone to understand my levels of privacy when it comes to my writing note book. I will share with you what I want too, and that's how it goes.
I have never dated or been with another writer, painter or any one *creative* in those sorts. | |
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| Dating artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 8/24/2008 7:58:40 PM | I've been in a creative profession my entire career. I thrive on trying new things, finding new ways for old things and generally stretching my boundaries. I once dated a co-worker who is most certainly the "female me"...and we were explosively good together.
I don't necessarily seek out a creative, but I most definitely find them more attractive than someone meek and timid.
And let's be honest; 2 creative people make for some killer-great sex!
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| Dating artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 8/24/2008 8:10:40 PM | | I don't necessarily seek to date artists per se, I think we all have something creative or artistic in us even people who think they might have no talent at all. Even if only in the appreciation of arts, I never met anybody who doesn't have at least an appreciation for music, or visual arts or anything creative. It is part of human nature. | |
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| Dating artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 8/24/2008 9:01:19 PM | I am artistic, and in the past, I hadn't at that time met anyone like me, so, I didn't.
Now that things have changed, I very much would like to be with someone with whom I would be able to do joint ventures with in art. Somehow create together.
A lot of artistically swayed people are so much more open- minded as well, and have a lot more appreciation for women, and actually many things in general.
Also, they understand being "different", and are usually sympathetic, understanding and generally endearing, as well as a hell of a lot of fun, and non- judgemental. They like the real you, not just the pretty wrapper. Actually sometimes a pretty wrapper can be disturbing to an artist. I mean beautifully wrapped crap, is still crap. Although maybe to some crap is beautiful.... who knows.
*sorry, went off on a tangent* | |
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| Dating artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 8/25/2008 10:28:33 AM | I write. And no, I'm not just some schmuck who thinks he can string some cool words together and swear black and blue he's Hemingway--I have my MFA, I publish frequently (non-fiction and fiction), and I'm working on a novel (which already won some awards, mind you). As far back as I can remember, I've had this knack for language and storytelling.
I'm also a musician--more as a hobby. But we've played some high-profile gigs, have had band members from renowned touring acts, and have been recorded/produced by leading industry people. I have this strange (yet, cool) ability to learn new instruments in no time. Like how I added banjo to my repertoire in a day. So yeah, I guess you can say that's legit, too.
Painting, drawing, sculpting... somehow that comes easy to me as well, though not like writing and music.
Artists are born with their abilities. We consider ourselves conduits chosen for some higher thing that wishes to express itself through us. This isn't something we WANT to do. It is something we MUST do.
That is the key to having a romantic relationship with an artist--understanding that they will be compelled to spend hours at length, alone, with their medium. Even when they're around their partners, they may sometimes be elsewhere, caught up in their ideas. Their partners must understand they need this solitude, that they are not being selfish... they are simply being themselves.
Personally, I'd prefer a woman who was artistic like me because she's already part of my world. She'll get me right off the bat. Communication will be easier because we'll have the same vocabulary, the same notions floating in our heads. She can easily glance into my psyche through my work. But the downside is that now we are TWO people who need lots of quiet time--when will we have time for each other? And, most artists I know are extremely opinionated and possessive of their work--there's sure to be some disagreements in the art that will carry over into the relationship, especially if one is more successful than the other.
I have been in a serious relationship with a woman who wasn't artistic. Sure, there were moments where we clashed because she wanted me to spend more time with her, moments where she couldn't understand what I was saying or feeling, moments where I'd get frustrated because she couldn't appreciate what I was working on--plenty of fights came out of these. But gradually, these got resolved: she recognized when I needed quiet time (she used to call it "spacing out"), she acknowledged that there were things she just won't be able to comprehend, and to not take it personally. She asked questions instead of offering her [uninformed] opinions. In the end, instead of her becoming the albatross around my neck, she became the anchor that held me in reality, an escape out of my own world. And she was there, always available, which was good.
It all depends, I guess, on the other person, on the situation. The key is in understanding the artist(s). I hope I was able to help. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 12:14:19 PM | I think everyone is artistic in some shape form or fashion. Wether it be in the mindset of the person to where they view the world in a certain way.. or if it be an artist or musician. It does not matter. Because I feel everyone has something that they are good at. Even conversation is an art form. Wether or not anyone else thinks so.. it is.
I myself am a singer/songwriter.. I used to paint and sculpt to. To me.. if a person can look at the world.. and see how it really is.. a person who can look at a flower and see a whole universe... that in itself takes an creative mind.
yes I have been with so called unartistic people. And yes.. there is some diffrence until I pointed out they had abilities that made them creative. Everyone needs mental stimulus. without it the mind grows soft.. And so everyone finds something that attracts their attentions. No matter what it is. | |
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Posted: 8/25/2008 12:24:31 PM | | I am a writer and I need passion! That means someone who is invested in living fully. Creative types actually work well with workaholics! I never minded if my man was not around, because I had so much to do with my work. I am a loner too and cannot stand being with someone 24/7. | |
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| Dating artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 8/25/2008 9:11:42 PM | post 304:
I have always wanted to date a creative man. That's interesting. I've always wanted to date a creative woman.
For some reason, I consider women who are creative, or artisically talented, to be fascinating. Yet I am certainly not an artistic, or creative, person myself.
I usually suspect that an artistically talented women would find nothing about me to be interesting to her. | |
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| Dating artistic/creative people and relationships
Posted: 8/26/2008 12:58:42 AM | | Nice post. One date in 30 years actually gave a hoot that I perform/write/produce music. I guess I'm over it, but it just seems sad, since it's such a huge part of who I am. Many times a song I've written and/or performed has come on the radio or TV while I've been out with women, and they barely react when I make them aware of it. I'll get royalties long after I expire, and the thought of someone that doesn't care about the music cashing the checks it generates turns my stomach. I find that there's a correlation with artistic/creative ability and cooking as well. | |
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